| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by pepigeorge(m): 7:01am On Dec 21, 2018 |
Tomorrow u will still come and complain on nairaland.. My wife is cheating on me..my wife does not respect me... Now u are seeing d handwriting on the wall, u still won put your coconut head..
is either u are very ugly, handicap or totally broke..guy move ahead.. Na she go come beg u wen menopause approaches. 1 Like |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by frozen70(f): 7:01am On Dec 21, 2018 |
Dogalmighty17:
I have dated this girl for three years. We fixed a date for the wedding for late this year. However, events seemingly out of my control necessitated that I shift the wedding to February next year. Initially, she was against the shift but I pleaded with her.
Sometime in August this year, we had a disagreement because I noticed she was being disrespectful towards me. She is hardworking, cooks well and is very business oriented. But her sense of independence makes her struggle with submission to her man. I told her how uncomfortable I was with it and she's promised to make amends. She has but from time to time, her old self comes out.
I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship. Her family then told her to call off the relationship. I got to know about this decision and I called her and she said she was going to obey the wishes of her family. Her mom also told me that since I keep complaining about her daughters lack of respect, I should leave her daughter alone. It took serious pleading from me before the family accepted the continuing of the relationship. They asked me that since the date I initially agreed for the wedding wasn't going to be convenient for me, when then do I think will be convenient? Since I didn't want to loose my woman, I mentioned February. The desperation on my path was much.
My mom on the other hand wants a wedding in April. She has said February is not convenient for her. All my pleas have fell on deaf ears. She has threatened not to bless the union and has even gone as far as threatening to curse me with her breasts if I wed in February.
My girl has refused to even entertain the thought of shifting the date again. She maintains that it is better that we outrightly call off the wedding, than shift it again. I understand her fears. She feels that I may just be wasting her time. I am not
This is my dilemma. Should I go with my woman who has spent three years of her life with me or do I go with my mom?
I must also mention that my mom was informed of the initial date of the wedding over a year ago. But she foot dragged in her support for months until much later in the year that I now had to take issues into my own hands. Hmmmm In the first place, are you satisfied with the conduct and behaviour of your woman Have your family and her family met over this issue and settle for a date Both families should have met and discuss the date of this wedding instead of all these shift in dates That she is your girlfriend of three years makes no be g deal to disobey your mother Besides I don't even think your mum ever supported this relationship Left for me cancel all dates, look deep into the relationship and ask your self are you ready for the challenges you are going to face Her parents was too blunt to ask you to leave their daughter, that means you brought yourself too low to them Your mum was harsh to tell you she will course you with her breast, that means she did not support it in any way Guy take a break and see if both families can come together to fix an agreed date and before then check if this marriage will work. |
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| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by gotogreat: 7:06am On Dec 21, 2018 |
The question is why are you changing the wedding date frequently. It seems to be a disregard to her and her family.
You should firstly think through a thing before you both reach a conclusion. From your analysis, it seems you are the one who dictates when things will happen, life does not work that way.
It's like having a contact with a person and you wake up one-day and say you've changed the terms without consulting those involved.
In the first announcement of the wedding date, maybe her families have spread the date to other family members, how would you want her family to begin to tell them again "please we've changed the wedding date". Doesn't it look childish? And you're considering to please your Mum to shift it again?
Please, before making any decisions, consult all who would be affected.
Court! This matter is adjourned ��� 1 Like |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by OLAJADON: 7:07am On Dec 21, 2018 |
Dogalmighty17:
I have dated this girl for three years. We fixed a date for the wedding for late this year. However, events seemingly out of my control necessitated that I shift the wedding to February next year. Initially, she was against the shift but I pleaded with her.
Sometime in August this year, we had a disagreement because I noticed she was being disrespectful towards me. She is hardworking, cooks well and is very business oriented. But her sense of independence makes her struggle with submission to her man. I told her how uncomfortable I was with it and she's promised to make amends. She has but from time to time, her old self comes out.
I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship. Her family then told her to call off the relationship. I got to know about this decision and I called her and she said she was going to obey the wishes of her family. Her mom also told me that since I keep complaining about her daughters lack of respect, I should leave her daughter alone. It took serious pleading from me before the family accepted the continuing of the relationship. They asked me that since the date I initially agreed for the wedding wasn't going to be convenient for me, when then do I think will be convenient? Since I didn't want to loose my woman, I mentioned February. The desperation on my path was much.
My mom on the other hand wants a wedding in April. She has said February is not convenient for her. All my pleas have fell on deaf ears. She has threatened not to bless the union and has even gone as far as threatening to curse me with her breasts if I wed in February.
My girl has refused to even entertain the thought of shifting the date again. She maintains that it is better that we outrightly call off the wedding, than shift it again. I understand her fears. She feels that I may just be wasting her time. I am not
This is my dilemma. Should I go with my woman who has spent three years of her life with me or do I go with my mom?
I must also mention that my mom was informed of the initial date of the wedding over a year ago. But she foot dragged in her support for months until much later in the year that I now had to take issues into my own hands. from what you wrote, I feel if you later marry this woman she will start having issues with your mom, the how will u handle that? I know you love her so much and I know how hard it feel when u love a woman and the relationship is not going well, please I will suggest you follow Ur mom advice no matter what is at stake, if a woman doesn't love u at this stage i don't think she will do better when she enters your house, forget about the pain and hard phase u will go through, it is worth it wallahi, NEVER SETTLE FOR A WOMAN THAT DOESNT RESPECT YOU. now that she is not in your house you have less to do with less pain than when she start to bear u kids, I understand the pain because I am going through such now but it is worth it. |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by LadyHeaven(f): 7:13am On Dec 21, 2018 |
Lol, very hypocritic forum, if it where to be the other way round that the lady keeps asking the dude to shift the wedding after 3 years of dating, i am pretty sure the whole forum would have brutally cussed out and demeaned the lady as not been ready and probably taking D from someone behind, the Op reasons for shifting the date isn't convincing no sane human being would be comfortable been treated that way, doubt would start tricking in, fears start building, is he waiting for someone else, am i really his choice, does he want to dump me and travel out secretly with someone else? why does he keep shifting the goal post everytime for flimsy reasons?
We are all human Op before we make decisions we should learn to flip the coin and put ourselves on the receiving position, ignore all this chop clean mouth guys on NL a lot of them are loners who cant even keep a pet or are in extremely loving relationships but choose to be online trolls, Love is rare to find if she is the one make it work, you are the man 2 Likes |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by toplinetrtrend: 7:16am On Dec 21, 2018 |
ityP:
my question is, how God wan take communicate wetin Him see to d guy If you don't know, I don't think I should waste my time enlightening you |
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| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by OLAJADON: 7:22am On Dec 21, 2018 |
Dogalmighty17:
Her family has been very accommodating. They have been open to see my mom. My mom however, keeps finding one excuse or another not to go. bro Ur mom is Ur mom, like I said before a woman that doesn't respect you at this stage would never do better when she start bearing kids, she might even have another guy disturbing her maybe that is why she is acting like this also you are suffering from low-self esteem, please work on that, no woman is irreplaceable especially in this generation where we have more of them, you will feel hurt that is true but last last you will find someone better, then she will come back begging. women like that, that is how their story ends. 1 Like |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by eunisam: 7:38am On Dec 21, 2018 |
Guy losing the girl is not losing your life. what will be will be. do what will please you not your mama. not ur GF. whenever you feel is convenience for you take it up others should follow. 1 Like |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by OLAJADON: 7:40am On Dec 21, 2018 |
Larryfest:
Ordinarily your momc should not have a problem with the date unless she is not telling you the real truth about what's going on, it's like she doesn't want you with the Lady probably she has noticed a thing or two about her attitude towards you that you yourself didn't know... follow momc talk wella and reason with her cos if you go against her wish and do it only for your wife and mother in-law to turn to something else after the wedding then you are on your own... exactly, I wonder how someone will let a disrespectful woman comes between him and his mom, it doesn't makes sense. like u said the mom has seen something about this woman that is why she is against the date the guy no come sharp, too dull for my liking |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by OLAJADON: 7:44am On Dec 21, 2018 |
PrimadonnaO:
@Dogalmighty17, I've been reading the comments on the first page and I feel they are all missing the point.
First of all, I hope your fiancèe's lack of submission is something you can live with forever, else I'd advise you to walk away for good. Don't nurse hopes of change because that may never happen.
About your fiancee and her mother's annoyance about the unsteady wedding date, I can understand it. Mind you, the consequences reflect more on the girl. It would seem to them and to others that you aren't serious... that you're yet to make up your mind on marrying her. Decide once and for all and quit shifting dates. I can see too that you aren't carrying your woman along in your plans else she'd have understood the reason for the shift.
About your mum...why's she being so difficult and dramatic? You mustn't have your wedding at her own preferred time.
Just carry everyone along..and stand by your woman. It's all going to be fine. he should stand by a disrespectful woman abi? it is best for him to end things now than when she start bearing kids. moreover the o.p is soft so I won't be surprised if he takes Ur advice |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by drealnamdy(m): 7:44am On Dec 21, 2018 |
I strongly wldnt blame the lady for having stayed or spent three years in relationship with this man...what was the man waiting for all these while...in his story..he admitted the lady is hardworking and cooks well and sometimes her old self creeps in...what do u expect?? As human, she has feelings too..she might be thinking after giving u all these respect and good cooking.. U re still sceptical about marrying her..probably because u re having cold feet..you shouldn't blame the lady for any reason... She's been patient all these while. Haba!! |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Remix10(m): 7:46am On Dec 21, 2018 |
Do you want to forever remain a puppet? What on heavens is the lady feeling like? Is she gold? Even the Bible said wives should submit to their husband! She is unsubmissive abeg, you want to enter a landmine that will explode very soon. You even went to beg her because of change of date  , kai, and she is doing shakara  Guy this will be a acid test to know her submissiveness, if she fails, ABORT MISSION! I REPEAT, ABORT MISSION! The Love should be mutual, it should be based on trust, if she can't trust you after 3 years, bros e go hard oh. Her type just want to quickly change from Miss to Mrs without knowing the condition..... SUBMISSION! 1 Like |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Dogalmighty17: 7:46am On Dec 21, 2018 |
BabaIbo:
Having a bad wife is better than having a bad in-law...
Your mum loves you more than the way your fiancee and her family do.
Is this how your mom used to act prior to this situation?
Can you cope with your fiancee in the future when the problem arise (increase since the problem is there already).
No lady or guy is perfect, they all have weakness but what matters is covering up for each other and not using it against themselves.
If truly your woman is disrespectful, my brother think twice before going into a relationship that your mom is against(especially when you don't know why she is against it and again your woman and family are aware that your mom is against it), if you do, with time you will realize why she is against it.
What about your dad, what is his take on the issue?
My dad is late. |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by heendrix(m): 7:47am On Dec 21, 2018 |
lawman88:
you mean your mother threatebed to curse you just because she is not comfortable with the wedding date? please go with your woman. A CURSELESS CURSE SHALL NOT STAND.... Lmao......I know i'll see one weird reply on here 
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| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by abusurv(m): 7:48am On Dec 21, 2018 |
Dogalmighty17:
I have dated this girl for three years. We fixed a date for the wedding for late this year. However, events seemingly out of my control necessitated that I shift the wedding to February next year. Initially, she was against the shift but I pleaded with her.
Sometime in August this year, we had a disagreement because I noticed she was being disrespectful towards me. She is hardworking, cooks well and is very business oriented. But her sense of independence makes her struggle with submission to her man. I told her how uncomfortable I was with it and she's promised to make amends. She has but from time to time, her old self comes out.
I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship. Her family then told her to call off the relationship. I got to know about this decision and I called her and she said she was going to obey the wishes of her family. Her mom also told me that since I keep complaining about her daughters lack of respect, I should leave her daughter alone. It took serious pleading from me before the family accepted the continuing of the relationship. They asked me that since the date I initially agreed for the wedding wasn't going to be convenient for me, when then do I think will be convenient? Since I didn't want to loose my woman, I mentioned February. The desperation on my path was much.
My mom on the other hand wants a wedding in April. She has said February is not convenient for her. All my pleas have fell on deaf ears. She has threatened not to bless the union and has even gone as far as threatening to curse me with her breasts if I wed in February.
My girl has refused to even entertain the thought of shifting the date again. She maintains that it is better that we outrightly call off the wedding, than shift it again. I understand her fears. She feels that I may just be wasting her time. I am not
This is my dilemma. Should I go with my woman who has spent three years of her life with me or do I go with my mom?
I must also mention that my mom was informed of the initial date of the wedding over a year ago. But she foot dragged in her support for months until much later in the year that I now had to take issues into my own hands. Try to go for the tranditional wedding and postponed the white wedding. Marriage is give and take |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 7:49am On Dec 21, 2018 |
Guy go with your mom,if she want to call it off let her go. Bro am married and i know what am facing,i pray you don't commit suicide when you eventually marry the lady.You are the man here,they can't be tossing you anyhow. Guy wise up "you fall in love before wedding,but after wedding guy you will stand up or rise in love cos the love sometimes fade away and its character that keeps the home,if she does not have good characters how does the home stand. |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 7:50am On Dec 21, 2018 |
Bros, any marriage plans wey don begin get K-Leg like this get as e be oo so better run. I had similar experience when I wanted to marry one Igbo babe like that. We had dated for three whole years and it was time to get married. Na wedding venue destroy our relationship oo. I'll advise you thread with caution at this stage. It may be a sign that you and the lady aren't meant to be together.
You should not go into marriage because of threats of calling off the marriage. That's not a good foundation to start a marriage. Take a decision and stand by it. If your woman and her family doesn't like it, so be it. But never ever bow to threats and blackmail. It's not a question of what your mother wants but what you think is best for you. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 7:52am On Dec 21, 2018 |
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| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by AlfaAce(m): 7:53am On Dec 21, 2018 |
SmilingMary:
Emotionally u r going to suffer if or when u marry that lady.... So many signs trying to tell u not to go ahead with the marriage... The man has low self esteem. If not,why will I be afraid of losing a woman who doesn't respect me in the first place? to the extent that even the family do not also respect me? They are treating him as if it's a favour to have him marry their daughter.If na me,even if it's 10years,there are some signs that when I see them finally,I can NEVER go ahead with that relationship, talkless of marriage.In less than a year of marriage he will come on nairaland to tell us stories that touch. |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by descartes400: 7:58am On Dec 21, 2018 |
jefdr001:
Your woman finds it hard to submit to you, so she may not be respecting your mumc, hence your mumc and your girl will never agree on anything at all, not even wedding dates. you sound like a man that tolerate disrespect from a woman but understand that your family never will and they mean well for you. Because they are not the ones in love they tend to see more clearly. Also it seems your fiance sees herself more as a blessing to you than you are to her. If this is true your relationship is one sided and this is not good. Be a man and let your fiance respect your momc. Prove to her that she is just a total stranger you are learning to relate with. That is called giving her her seat. Never spite your family without a good reason and this obviously is not one. Let your woman learn or you move. No matter how painful. Seconded! |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by grandstar(m): 7:58am On Dec 21, 2018 |
Dogalmighty17:
I have dated this girl for three years. We fixed a date for the wedding for late this year. However, events seemingly out of my control necessitated that I shift the wedding to February next year. Initially, she was against the shift but I pleaded with her.
Sometime in August this year, we had a disagreement because I noticed she was being disrespectful towards me. She is hardworking, cooks well and is very business oriented. But her sense of independence makes her struggle with submission to her man. I told her how uncomfortable I was with it and she's promised to make amends. She has but from time to time, her old self comes out.
I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship. Her family then told her to call off the relationship. I got to know about this decision and I called her and she said she was going to obey the wishes of her family. Her mom also told me that since I keep complaining about her daughters lack of respect, I should leave her daughter alone. It took serious pleading from me before the family accepted the continuing of the relationship. They asked me that since the date I initially agreed for the wedding wasn't going to be convenient for me, when then do I think will be convenient? Since I didn't want to loose my woman, I mentioned February. The desperation on my path was much.
My mom on the other hand wants a wedding in April. She has said February is not convenient for her. All my pleas have fell on deaf ears. She has threatened not to bless the union and has even gone as far as threatening to curse me with her breasts if I wed in February.
My girl has refused to even entertain the thought of shifting the date again. She maintains that it is better that we outrightly call off the wedding, than shift it again. I understand her fears. She feels that I may just be wasting her time. I am not
This is my dilemma. Should I go with my woman who has spent three years of her life with me or do I go with my mom?
I must also mention that my mom was informed of the initial date of the wedding over a year ago. But she foot dragged in her support for months until much later in the year that I now had to take issues into my own hands. Run and run very fast. Your mum doesn't like the girl and her pussyfooting from the start and her new date are a coded war to frustrate a wedding. Your girl seems arrogant and unsubmissive and worse have her parents consent. They seem full of themselves and don't seem eager in losing their daughter anytime soon. You are yet to enter the water and the frogs are croaking loudly, what will happen when you now enter the pond? The prognosis my brother aren't good. Submissive of your wife is paramount by Bible's standard an if it isn't there now, its rather to late. Its not easy changing an adult |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by BabaIbo: 7:59am On Dec 21, 2018 |
Dogalmighty17:
My dad is late. Sorry for bringing up the memory. May His Soul Rest In Peace. I pray GOD give you the wisdom, knowledge and understanding to take the right and proper decision concerning this issue 1 Like |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Daeylar(f): 7:59am On Dec 21, 2018 |
Nairalanders can be very biased and very against women, it is seriously nasty and I'm more than tired of it at this point. I wonder what this submission is about. What do you mean by she isn't being submissive to you? That aside, all the clowns attacking attacking this lady and saying she is bringing her family into the relationship, I hope you blind bats could read that it was op who reported her to her family first. Dogalmighty17:
I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. Her family then gave judgement and she followed it. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship. Her family then told her to call off the relationship That's what op wanted, For the family to talk to their daughter and they have, So why the funny comments towards the fiancee and her mother? All op's fiancee's mother said was that since op doesn't feel like her daughter is respectful enough for him and now he has started with shifting the wedding date then he should leave her daughter for her, and some of you are saying rubbish. I wonder if you guys are angry that they didn't lie on the ground begging op to marry their daughter? That they consider their daughter and her happiness before any marriage? Is that what is making some of you say rubbish about the fiancée, her mother and her family?They asked me that since the date I initially agreed for the wedding wasn't going to be convenient for me, when then do I think will be convenient? Since I didn't want to loose my woman, I mentioned February. The desperation on my path was much This just shows op wanted to shift wedding date without any idea of when he would want the new date to be. No wonder the fiancée wasn't happy, So OP, if her family didn't ask you when the new date would be, you don't even have a date in mind? My mom on the other hand wants a wedding in April. She has said February is not convenient for her. All my pleas have fell on deaf ears. She has threatened not to bless the union and has even gone as far as threatening to curse me with her breasts if I wed in February.
My girl has refused to even entertain the thought of shifting the date again. She maintains that it is better that we outrightly call off the wedding, than shift it again. I understand her fears. She feels that I may just be wasting her time. I am not After understanding her fears, instead of op to try to assuage her fears and find a way to fix or resolve the situation amicably between all parties, Op decided to turn it into fiancee vs mother issue. This is my dilemma. Should I go with my woman who has spent three years of her life with me or do I go with my mom? Op what date do you want? You are the one who shifted the wedding date because it was no longer convenient for you, what date will be convenient for you? Don't hide behind the skirt of your mother or fiancee abeg. All your fiancée wants is for you to choose a date you will follow through on and she will be OK, so Choose a date and the same way you took issues into your hands to get your mum to agree to the first wedding date is the same way you should get her to agree to this one, You are the one who caused this problem, fix it. I must also mention that my mom was informed of the initial date of the wedding over a year ago. But she foot dragged in her support for months until much later in the year that I now had to take issues into my own hands. So your mom dragging her feet because of wedding date is not a new issue, but some nairalanders won't consider why op's fiancée's family is very wary of op and his wedding plans. |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 8:00am On Dec 21, 2018 |
ominous dark clouds gathering overhead,oga ,open ur eyes.ye masun! |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by capitalzero: 8:02am On Dec 21, 2018 |
Dogalmighty17:
I have dated this girl for three years. We fixed a date for the wedding for late this year. However, events seemingly out of my control necessitated that I shift the wedding to February next year. Initially, she was against the shift but I pleaded with her.
Sometime in August this year, we had a disagreement because I noticed she was being disrespectful towards me. She is hardworking, cooks well and is very business oriented. But her sense of independence makes her struggle with submission to her man. I told her how uncomfortable I was with it and she's promised to make amends. She has but from time to time, her old self comes out.
I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship. Her family then told her to call off the relationship. I got to know about this decision and I called her and she said she was going to obey the wishes of her family. Her mom also told me that since I keep complaining about her daughters lack of respect, I should leave her daughter alone. It took serious pleading from me before the family accepted the continuing of the relationship. They asked me that since the date I initially agreed for the wedding wasn't going to be convenient for me, when then do I think will be convenient? Since I didn't want to loose my woman, I mentioned February. The desperation on my path was much.
My mom on the other hand wants a wedding in April. She has said February is not convenient for her. All my pleas have fell on deaf ears. She has threatened not to bless the union and has even gone as far as threatening to curse me with her breasts if I wed in February.
My girl has refused to even entertain the thought of shifting the date again. She maintains that it is better that we outrightly call off the wedding, than shift it again. I understand her fears. She feels that I may just be wasting her time. I am not
This is my dilemma. Should I go with my woman who has spent three years of her life with me or do I go with my mom?
I must also mention that my mom was informed of the initial date of the wedding over a year ago. But she foot dragged in her support for months until much later in the year that I now had to take issues into my own hands. both of you are kids. your families will destroy your marriage if you eventually marry. couple should learn to make decisions together. then, you are not ready for marriage,i think. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by jaxxy(m): 8:03am On Dec 21, 2018 |
Dogalmighty17:
I have dated this girl for three years. We fixed a date for the wedding for late this year. However, events seemingly out of my control necessitated that I shift the wedding to February next year. Initially, she was against the shift but I pleaded with her.
Sometime in August this year, we had a disagreement because I noticed she was being disrespectful towards me. She is hardworking, cooks well and is very business oriented. But her sense of independence makes her struggle with submission to her man. I told her how uncomfortable I was with it and she's promised to make amends. She has but from time to time, her old self comes out.
I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship. Her family then told her to call off the relationship. I got to know about this decision and I called her and she said she was going to obey the wishes of her family. Her mom also told me that since I keep complaining about her daughters lack of respect, I should leave her daughter alone. It took serious pleading from me before the family accepted the continuing of the relationship. They asked me that since the date I initially agreed for the wedding wasn't going to be convenient for me, when then do I think will be convenient? Since I didn't want to loose my woman, I mentioned February. The desperation on my path was much.
My mom on the other hand wants a wedding in April. She has said February is not convenient for her. All my pleas have fell on deaf ears. She has threatened not to bless the union and has even gone as far as threatening to curse me with her breasts if I wed in February.
My girl has refused to even entertain the thought of shifting the date again. She maintains that it is better that we outrightly call off the wedding, than shift it again. I understand her fears. She feels that I may just be wasting her time. I am not
This is my dilemma. Should I go with my woman who has spent three years of her life with me or do I go with my mom?
I must also mention that my mom was informed of the initial date of the wedding over a year ago. But she foot dragged in her support for months until much later in the year that I now had to take issues into my own hands. This sounds ridiculous and I will advise u to quite that damn relationship. What’s with all these threats each time and u begging them. Are u sure this gal and her Mum don’t have ur mumu switch? U even considering disregarding ur Mum for these bunch of strangers who have no iota of respect or concern for u? They are not even treating u Fairly and ur in a hurry to enslave urself to them? Question: why has ur mum been dragging her feet on this relationship/wedding? Cud there be smtn ahe sees that Ure not? How is ur fiancée’s relationship with ur own family not just ur mum? If u see warning signs in ur fiancées attitude and can’t control it are u willing to live with it even if it may get worse? I don’t know ur fiancée bt the impression I’m getting based on all u said isn’t good and her family isn’t helping. I think they are holding u by balls and u will most certainly loose ur manhood if certain things are not checked and u follow through with this wedding especially against the wishes of ur mum because I think she’s the only sane person in this story. If ur fiancée’s family are reasonable they will know u can’t go into the marriage without ur own parents backing just like she has her family’s backing. Ur mum says the wedding shud wait till April then let’s all agree. A wedding date is set by the TWO families not one. Don’t marry a gal just because u dated her for 3years Marry cos she’s the right one. Unless u don’t think u can find anybody else in this planet. Which is a fallacy |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by BabaIbo: 8:05am On Dec 21, 2018 |
mogbojaiye:
Bro I will support u and also go against u
Non of them is good bad wife / bad in law
And will now supports u ; there is something the mother is seeing dat the guy is not because lve done cloud e eye already, the mother can't walk to him and say don't marry dis girl, because do u kw why, e day back fire mostly when d son is very stubborn, he will foolishly go and tell d wife ( may b he don go hid marry her) say his mother said he shouldn't marry her that time, by then PART 2 wahala don start again, ,,,,,,,,you hardly see parents tell there children not to marry a particular person instead they will fight it to make sure the occasion does not hold
I know none of them is good, I'm only saying should incase the guy is in already. When the in law are good and the wife has a bad character, the in law will always criticize the wife when she misbehave and support the husband, that action always go a long way to correct the wife. Unlike bad in laws that will always support their daughter even when she did something bad |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by OkorobiaOwerre(m): 8:05am On Dec 21, 2018 |
WHY DOES THIS SOUND LIKE AN AFONJA AFFAIR??!!!!! YEYE DEY SMELL.
ANYWAY, YOU WILL NOT DIE IF YOU DON'T MARRY HER. BOTH FAMILIES ARE NOT SUPPORTIVE FOR A GOOD REASON. FLEE NOW BEFORE YOU END UP IN ETERNAL FRUSTRATION.
MY TWO CENTS |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 8:06am On Dec 21, 2018 |
1StopRudeness:
na the guy born himself abi? something you yourself cannot do, you are telling another person to do it.
can you just chose date and tell your own parents that's final without carrying your mum and dad along with their own arrangements. You think a wedding ceremony is only about two of you alone. he should kuku ma marry like some whites folks that dont even invite their parents since he doesnt want to be a mummy's boy.
na your kind woman no dey wan see mother in-law or her advice for her matrimonial home. Lwkmd. I love your comments Man. It's the simply truth. Our parents normaly takes our success and failure as their's . You might be the one getting married but your mother sees it as her wedding aswel because of the happiness of seeing her son getting married. If anything goes wrong your mother will always remain by your side. Your mother knows the February is not convinient for you and as such she choose April. She doesn't like the fact that your woman and her family shape Ur life. Whatever will be will be. She mentioned cursing you so you can know how important her advice for u is. She wouldn't really curse you. |
| Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by CAPSLOCKED: 8:08am On Dec 21, 2018 |
Dogalmighty17:
I have dated this girl for three years. We fixed a date for the wedding for late this year. However, events seemingly out of my control necessitated that I shift the wedding to February next year. Initially, she was against the shift but I pleaded with her.
Sometime in August this year, we had a disagreement because I noticed she was being disrespectful towards me. She is hardworking, cooks well and is very business oriented. But her sense of independence makes her struggle with submission to her man. I told her how uncomfortable I was with it and she's promised to make amends. She has but from time to time, her old self comes out.
I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship. Her family then told her to call off the relationship. I got to know about this decision and I called her and she said she was going to obey the wishes of her family. Her mom also told me that since I keep complaining about her daughters lack of respect, I should leave her daughter alone. It took serious pleading from me before the family accepted the continuing of the relationship. They asked me that since the date I initially agreed for the wedding wasn't going to be convenient for me, when then do I think will be convenient? Since I didn't want to loose my woman, I mentioned February. The desperation on my path was much.
My mom on the other hand wants a wedding in April. She has said February is not convenient for her. All my pleas have fell on deaf ears. She has threatened not to bless the union and has even gone as far as threatening to curse me with her breasts if I wed in February.
My girl has refused to even entertain the thought of shifting the date again. She maintains that it is better that we outrightly call off the wedding, than shift it again. I understand her fears. She feels that I may just be wasting her time. I am not
This is my dilemma. Should I go with my woman who has spent three years of her life with me or do I go with my mom?
I must also mention that my mom was informed of the initial date of the wedding over a year ago. But she foot dragged in her support for months until much later in the year that I now had to take issues into my own hands. SEEMS YOU'RE READY TO KEEP BEGGING THIS WOMAN AND HER FAMILY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.
BY THE WAY, WHAT KIND OF MOTHER THREATENS TO CURSE HER OWN CHILD BECAUSE OF WEDDING DATE?
SOMEONE LIKE ME WILL CUT OFF THE DISRESPECTFUL GIRL AND HER BOSSY FAMILY, AND ALSO THE SORCERESS THREATENING TO CURSE HER OWN SON OVER THIS MEANINGLESS ISSUE. 1 Like |
