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Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by bigpicture001: 3:20pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
....if ur white,den he is scamming you |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by Nobody: 3:24pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Dajazzyone: B1 visa is a temporary/non-immigrant US visa that permits visitors to enter the U.S. for business purposes. let you know, I showed what you wrote to three women, they said, it is a scam. they were, in fact, surprised that, you could talk to his mother on phone weekly and not his kids. ( a truthful person will be open) once he gets his permanent residency, he is gonna divorce you. you see the contradictory statement clearly, the excuses, ex-wife and sister are friends but you can't speak to the kids. does he call his ex-wife or chat with his ex-wife on FB. you are in fact trying to bring the mother and kids to the states, soon it will be the sister and his suppose ex-wife. delay the process and see his reaction. (if she blocks you on facebook, know they have been caught on their scam but they will try as much as possible to use another scam on you) act smart and with caution. from everything you wrote down, This is a pure scam. 3 Likes |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by Nobody: 3:25pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Dajazzyone: ![]() |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by Dajazzyone: 3:29pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
bigpicture001: Hi no I'm black American. I'm 33 he is 31 |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by bigpicture001: 3:31pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by BlackAdam55(m): 3:31pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
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Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by Dajazzyone: 3:33pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
thebosstrevor: His mother stays in the country side not near his kids. His kids are in Lagos with his sister. For Christmas he bought his mom a plane ticket to visit them in Lagos. |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by Dajazzyone: 3:34pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
bigpicture001: No we are planning a visit once his status is adjusted. He has not returned to Nigeria alone. He has been in the states for 2 years. |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by Nobody: 3:36pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Dajazzyone: This is straight from "Nollywood" this guy just played on your intelligence. He is the first born and he is entitled to the so-called imaginary land, since he was 6 months old when his father died, if the land was real, his uncles must have taken the land for themselves, this thing happens a lot, when a man died, the father's family can claim any property and give the woman problems, i know people that passed through this ordeal but when the uncle tell a 6-month baby that when he grows up he has to born a boy to claim the land, that is the most ridiculous lie ever, don't forget he has 2 kids, what is the gender of the first kid? 2 Likes |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by bigpicture001: 3:38pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Dajazzyone:. In.my most intense study of nigerians. I have to to notice that Nigerians abroad who are their and work with their education qualifications. Like high qualifying certificate. If your hubby falls within that bracket, then you are safe. Because those set of people believe that a lady is a lady no matter where they are located. And those that work there without any education tend to be more of money and green card chasers. N.B. This does not apply 100%. 4 Likes |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by Nobody: 3:40pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Dajazzyone: you are their stepmother and have the right to speak with them. no matter what, don't forget, they are going to stay with you when they come to the US. 2 Likes |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by bigpicture001: 3:42pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
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Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by Nobody: 3:46pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
bigpicture001: you are 100% correct. 99% of those without education are hustlers, once they come on strange categories of visas and then want to make their stay permanent just know they are looking for a nice female target to make their plan work. maybe along the line they might fall in love with their victims but those that have wives back home, allow come back to their wives during holidays |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by baiaon(m): 3:52pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Dajazzyone:Your written English is commendable and you are quite polite unlike many of your people i have come in contact with online and off 2 Likes |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by Nobody: 3:52pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Dajazzyone:hmm You are older than him ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by Dajazzyone: 3:53pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
thebosstrevor: His daughter is 6 and his son is 4. He claims he isn't communicating with the ex wife at all. I haven't found any Facebook or what's app communication between them. He post lots of pics of our son and I on his Facebook page. He just bought me a new 2018 truck as a Christmas gift. He doesn't hide me or my son from his family. I'm just concerned if the ex wife story is real. I will be careful like you told me 1 Like |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by Dajazzyone: 3:54pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
SilentListener: Yes we have a 4 month old son together |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by Dajazzyone: 3:56pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
thebosstrevor: He has his masters in Electrical Engineering. Since our marriage he has obtained a work permit and has a nice job. |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by Nobody: 3:59pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Dajazzyone:Me I don't know what to tell you, to be honest. 1 Like |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by Nobody: 4:12pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Dajazzyone: I will still go with caution.the story is now coming together. Seems he wants a better life for both of you. His kids and you inclusive. Most scammers won't invest in a relationship.he is public about it, i don't know how it works in the US but is the car in your name or his name) in nigeria, once a property is yours, your name will be written on the property), if he had marry you in Nigeria then that might be another red flag but i guess he married you in the states. it seems he loves you, that is what i can see, you dated for 1 year, married in the states, he has a child with you and bought you a car gift which he finances i guess. A bad man will fustrate you and make sure all process are speed up to get his pappers but this man gives you joy and he is working hard for both of you. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by QueenIamLove: 4:21pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe, dear. Stay positive and look with your heart not your eyes. You have a small child who needs you sending love not doubt and suspicion. You can win in this situation if you stay calm, peaceful and positive. Jealousy and negativity with no proof will cause stress. In time, you will all be a family. Nothing can stay hidden forever so don't worry about it. Even if he is married, you can have his heart and the man of your dreams in time, if you play your role and stay patient. It is not about his (phantom or real) marriage, it is about his heart and his intentions. To have a child, he is trying to build something real with you. Keep building unless he destroys those plans. Don't let your mind destroy it alone. Become irreplaceable and irresistible. Some people may not want to see a successful marriage between us Americans and our African Brothers and Sisters. Ignore them, as they ignore the fact that We are one. Our DNA speaks for itself. Dont let people or your own mind kill your joy. Focus on the positives and all the good that has come your way. Love with your heart, not your eyes or even your mind, if your mind is in a doubtful space. Your baby has a father so let's not mess up a good thing, if the father is good to the baby and you. Who cares about what happens back home. These people dont know your man's heart. We dont even know our own heart let alone another person's heart. The well being of the child is the main focus now. That child needs both parents. If he treats you like a queen (which kills some people to see because they can't see their own blessings) then let him treat you like a queen. If you love him, bring peace and respect him as a king. If you want to end it, bring doubt, suspicion, spying or detectives. Don't worry, sis. All will be revealed in time and regardless, it will all be for your benefit because you are pure in heart and have the best intentions. You will WIN in either situation if he get working papers and a good job. That good job will take the stress off and give you some green currency to work with for child support - if the marriage fails for any reason. Forget who is using who. You will be taken care of and your King will be revealed whether it is him or another African. You are in need of each other right now. Keep your sanity and keep your man. Your faith in God alone should suffice. Know that what we put out is what we get back. Nothing anyone does to you will go unpunished or unrewarded. If your faith in God alone doe not suffice, in the end, the law is on your side...but that is in the end....don't rush to the end, dear. I pray you enjoy building with your man and his family; avoid suspicion as it weakens your faith; nothing done against you can prevail for long so don't worry. I pray and advise you to keep praying for your marriage and that you both are in it forever and that you both have joy, peace and love and that your children excel and benefit the most. Ameen. 9 Likes |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by Lush100(m): 4:52pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Dear ma'am, I took time to read all u have posted. pls I would advice u not to conclude that u are being used unless u have a good evidence. I appreciate a lot of folks do such but here your husband gave u pre informed situation of his divorce. also he is a working class person. most scam related men are not working class. the truth of the matter is most Nigerian men who have stayed abroad and have divorce related issue usually have a lot on their plate handling their life especially family related and most o them do not want enemies. he is probably trying to protect u or just do not want to much relationship between u and his wife. I have a uncle in that brackets who had a lot of family/wife issue. I am not sure he properly divorced the woman here at home because the mother was the one who kind-of forced (or set-up) a lady in Nigeria on him. a nice lady though(had a son for him). my uncle mother is now dead though. his wife who in the UK didn't like all those stuff and gave him a hard time. he grew grey hair early. he stays in the UK.comes to Nigeria once in a year. My sibling stayed with him after schooling over there. (that's how I got to know) . uncle's much older now and he probably have got over it. what I am trying to say is be positive until u have undeniable evidence. I wish u well and pray the suspicion turns out false n u have a good family life. modified: take the advice of @QueenIamLove. u may still want to find out about the other side if u want. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by Tedpgrass: 5:22pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Hmm mm hmm mm Wonders neva end... See what Aproko causes.. The elders that say the hands of a woman produce the gentlest death.. have truly seen and heard... From the original op to different responses, including different men hoping to replace the husband and reap similar 'benefits' he's being accused of, to madam self-made detective looking to investigate the guys village.... I shake my head.. It appears the anonymity of social media has loosened the nuts of interpersonal relational discretion and caution... U go dey yarn all these to person wey u no know... When things start to fall apart... The center does not hold.. Na village people who are unaware, picking teeth after a nice meal, that will be blamed. Odi egwu... . 2 Likes |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by Dajazzyone: 7:14pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
QueenIamLove: You have me in tears. I appreciate every word you have written. I will save your response and refer back to it. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by QueenIamLove: 9:58pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Dajazzyone, I appreciate you too, as your kind replies inspired me to sign up for this site I have long read. I have been in your shoes and I was wrong and I missed out on a good thing – twice! One man was Egyptian and one was Nigerian. I turned them down for marriage because of the green card issue and both got green cards with other women… and both, years later, asked for a chance with me (ran into one on the train and one online, they no longer needed a green card, they needed a good woman who they clicked with) but I was married. Guessing by your replies alone, you are as sweet as they come, which is priceless! You can’t beat a sincere, honest person who looks into your heart before your wallet. Money will come, difficulties will come, too. But as long as you have eachother’s support and understanding, nothing really matters at all. All the best, beloved. 5 Likes |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by Artistree: 10:54pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Dajazzyone:He doesn't have a Nigerian account and you believe that shit? Lies men tell!!! 2 Likes |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by tony5(m): 1:12am On Jan 09, 2019 |
Op, I Don't Have Marital Experience, I Will Start By Saying Whatever Happens In A Marriage Depends On Man And Wife,baggages Like This In Marriages Are Difficult To Handle, during Your One Year Dating,did He Narrated This Story?Why Has The Wife Decided Not To Move On?How Come Your Husband Communicate With The Kids In Your Absence?Because I Know They Can't Make Excuses On His Request To Speak With Them. If He Buys You Luxuries And Cares About You. Atleast It Goes A Long Way On Your Feelings And Emotion For Him. Sacrifices Are Made For Success Materially And Emotionally,that Is,we Rob Other People Of Their Emotions To Please Ourselves. My Advise Is That Satisfy Your Conscience In An Orderly And Disciplined Pattern And Don't Over Do Things While Carrying Out Your Investigation, Lastly As You Continue,go Down On Your Knees And Fight Half Of Your Battles. 1 Like |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by Nobody: 3:31am On Jan 09, 2019 |
Reading ... the husband is hiding something and his family too, the American wife is suspicious (she feels and see her husband doesn't tell her all the truth about his ex, kids and family), the sister is the best friend with the mother of his kids, kids are there in Lagos probably with their mother. Divorce certificate? I think it's bogus. Now his mother is coming to US bringing his kids ... before them coming or right after will come the mother of the kids and the sister. Is his sister the real sister? Or is she his another wife? Did the American wife see kids birth certificates? Maybe those are 2 his women, 1 child of each one. Bringing his family to US, he wants to have his 1st wife or 2 Nigerian wives in America and him to live having the American family and the Nigerian family in America too. All the nice advice, close your eyes and listen to your heart, maybe are nice and the American wife wishes to believe but the fact is she is asking here questions means she knows, she feels it is NOT right. Girl, investigate 2 Likes |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by ghettochild4u(m): 6:33pm On Feb 06, 2019 |
Dajazzyone:Truth is... He will always make plans for her.. She is d mother of his kids.. Even if they end up to come live with both of u..... Traditionally she belongs to him and she is his responsibility. Nobody will tell u d truth because ur culture n background is different from ours.... Even if he's abandons her....at a time people Will always remind him.. That she's d mother of his children n shd assist her financially if not for d sake of the kids..... For posterity sake atleaar 1 Like |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by ghettochild4u(m): 6:37pm On Feb 06, 2019 |
Artistree:At this point I think u r stupid to think he doensnt have a bank acct... Even when people in diaspora can open new ACCTS... With d bvn and passport n filling form n mailing to d bank.. Sister I see u believe any crap this man tells u 2 Likes |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by Nobody: 6:51pm On Feb 06, 2019 |
QueenIamLove:and you still believe in those 2 using other women for a green card marriage? Oh they both love you so much that even when they married (for a green card) and you are married, they both want to come back to you ![]() |
Re: Is My Nigerian Husband And His Family Scamming Me!!! by Artistree: 7:03pm On Feb 06, 2019 |
ghettochild4u:Thunder fire you for insulting your head, not me, are you high on cheap substance? Did you read my comment? Your mother is the stupid one here for raising an ugly soul like you. OP said her husband told her he doesnt have a bank account and I simply asked if she believes that tale, then you foolishly jump on me here insulting your ancestors for my comment you obviously misunderstood. Are you mad or iliterate, which? Am I the OP, and even if I were, what calls for your useless tantrums? Foolish goat! |
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