Dajazzyone:


He came here on a B1 Visa. We have been married a year. We have interview to adjust his status coming soon. Yes my issue is the pictures. If he knew that his mom had mentioned the ex wife was coming for the holidays why not just tell me. I wouldn't be upset about her visiting the kids. Also he told me the ex wife stays hours away. When I talked with his sister she said her and the ex wife are best friends and the ex wife visits regularly to help her with errands etc. The sister had no idea that my husband told me the ex wife lived far away. The pictures are still online. I feel the sister will just block me from Facebook so I can't see her profile anymore.

Dajazzyone:


I'm black

bigpicture001:
....if ur white,den he is scamming you

Dajazzyone:


Hi no I'm black American. I'm 33 he is 31

thebosstrevor:


B1 visa is a temporary/non-immigrant US visa that permits visitors to enter the U.S. for business purposes.

let you know, I showed what you wrote to three women, they said, it is a scam. they were, in fact, surprised that, you could talk to his mother on phone weekly and not his kids. ( a truthful person will be open)

once he gets his permanent residency, he is gonna divorce you. you see the contradictory statement clearly, the excuses, ex-wife and sister are friends but you can't speak to the kids. does he call his ex-wife or chat with his ex-wife on FB.

you are in fact trying to bring the mother and kids to the states, soon it will be the sister and his suppose ex-wife. delay the process and see his reaction.

(if she blocks you on facebook, know they have been caught on their scam but they will try as much as possible to use another scam on you)

act smart and with caution. from everything you wrote down, This is a pure scam.

bigpicture001:
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Have you returned to Nigeria with him.b4...?

Dajazzyone:


Yes he mentioned black market. As far as the land, his dad died when he was 6 months old. He said his uncles took the properties and he wasn't able to inherit the land until he born a son. I ask these questions because although it's not the American norm it could be for Nigerians. Thanks for explaining

Dajazzyone:


Hi no I'm black American. I'm 33 he is 31

Dajazzyone:



His mother stays in the country side not near his kids. His kids are in Lagos with his sister. For Christmas he bought his mom a plane ticket to visit them in Lagos.

bigpicture001:
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In my most intense study of nigerians. I have come to the realisation that Nigerians abroad who are there and work with their education qualifications are more likely to permanently marry their foreign spouse.

Like high qualifying certificate. If your hubby falls within that bracket, then you are safe. Because those set of people believe that a lady is a lady no matter where they are located.

And those that work there without any education tend to be more of money and green card chasers.

N.B. This does not apply 100%.

bigpicture001:
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In.my most intense study of nigerians. I have to to notice that Nigerians abroad who are their and work with their education qualifications. Like high qualifying certificate. If your hubby falls within that bracket, then you are safe. Because those set of people believe that a lady is a lady no matter where they are located.

And those that work there without any education tend to be more of money and green card chasers.

N.B. This does not apply 100%.

Dajazzyone:


I'm black

Dajazzyone:


Hi no I'm black American. I'm 33 he is 31

thebosstrevor:


This is straight from "Nollywood" this guy just played on your intelligence.

He is the first born and he is entitled to the so-called imaginary land, since he was 6 months old when his father died, if the land was real, his uncles must have taken the land for themselves, this thing happens a lot, when a man died, the father's family can claim any property and give the woman problems, i know people that passed through this ordeal

but when the uncle tell a 6-month baby that when he grows up he has to born a boy to claim the land, that is the most ridiculous lie ever, don't forget he has 2 kids, what is the gender of the first kid?

SilentListener:
hmm You are older than him

thebosstrevor:


you are 100% correct. 99% of those without education are hustlers, once they come on strange categories of visas and then want to make their stay permanent just know they are looking for a nice female target to make their plan work. maybe along the line they might fall in love with their victims but those that have wives back home, allow come back to their wives during holidays

Dajazzyone:


Yes we have a 4 month old son together

Dajazzyone:


His daughter is 6 and his son is 4. He claims he isn't communicating with the ex wife at all. I haven't found any Facebook or what's app communication between them. He post lots of pics of our son and I on his Facebook page. He just bought me a new 2018 truck as a Christmas gift. He doesn't hide me or my son from his family. I'm just concerned if the ex wife story is real. I will be careful like you told me

QueenIamLove:
Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe, dear. Stay positive and look with your heart not your eyes. You have a small child who needs you sending love not doubt and suspicion. You can win in this situation if you stay calm, peaceful and positive. Jealousy and negativity with no proof will cause stress. In time, you will all be a family. Nothing can stay hidden forever so don't worry about it. Even if he is married, you can have his heart and the man of your dreams in time, if you play your role and stay patient. It is not about his (phantom or real) marriage, it is about his heart and his intentions. To have a child, he is trying to build something real with you. Keep building unless he destroys those plans. Don't let your mind destroy it alone. Become irreplaceable and irresistible. Some people may not want to see a successful marriage between us Americans and our African Brothers and Sisters. Ignore them, as they ignore the fact that We are one. Our DNA speaks for itself. Dont let people or your own mind kill your joy. Focus on the positives and all the good that has come your way. Love with your heart, not your eyes or even your mind, if your mind is in a doubtful space. Your baby has a father so let's not mess up a good thing, if the father is good to the baby and you. Who cares about what happens back home. These people dont know your man's heart. We dont even know our own heart let alone another person's heart. The well being of the child is the main focus now. That child needs both parents. If he treats you like a queen (which kills some people to see because they can't see their own blessings) then let him treat you like a queen. If you love him, bring peace and respect him as a king. If you want to end it, bring doubt, suspicion, spying or detectives. Don't worry, sis. All will be revealed in time and regardless, it will all be for your benefit because you are pure in heart and have the best intentions. You will WIN in either situation if he get working papers and a good job. That good job will take the stress off and give you some green currency to work with for child support - if the marriage fails for any reason. Forget who is using who. You will be taken care of and your King will be revealed whether it is him or another African. You are in need of each other right now. Keep your sanity and keep your man. Your faith in God alone should suffice. Know that what we put out is what we get back. Nothing anyone does to you will go unpunished or unrewarded. If your faith in God alone doe not suffice, in the end, the law is on your side...but that is in the end....don't rush to the end, dear. I pray you enjoy building with your man and his family; avoid suspicion as it weakens your faith; nothing done against you can prevail for long so don't worry. I pray and advise you to keep praying for your marriage and that you both are in it forever and that you both have joy, peace and love and that your children excel and benefit the most. Ameen.

Dajazzyone:
Headless chicken , I talk to his mom weekly so does that mean she is in on the scam too? She was in the pictures with the ex wife. When I ask him to show me proof that he is sending the money to his mom.He claims his uncle sends money to his mom for him because he doesnt have a bank in Nigeria and would lose money when converting from US dollars. We do have American men but they can be immature at times.

Dajazzyone:


I've tried so many times asking for him to be honest. He told me he will not tell me a lie. I've told him I don't want to waste my years building a marriage with him and he has another wife. Apart from this we have no issues. He treats me great. We both are hard workers. He wants his kids to come over to stay and I agree because they need their father.. I'm just afraid if he has plans for the "ex wife" to come then I'm being made a fool of.

Artistree:

He doesn't have a Nigerian account and you believe that shit?
Lies men tell!!!

QueenIamLove:
Dajazzyone, I appreciate you too, as your kind replies inspired me to sign up for this site I have long read. I have been in your shoes and I was wrong and I missed out on a good thing – twice! One man was Egyptian and one was Nigerian. I turned them down for marriage because of the green card issue and both got green cards with other women… and both, years later, asked for a chance with me (ran into one on the train and one online, they no longer needed a green card, they needed a good woman who they clicked with) but I was married. Guessing by your replies alone, you are as sweet as they come, which is priceless! You can’t beat a sincere, honest person who looks into your heart before your wallet. Money will come, difficulties will come, too. But as long as you have eachother’s support and understanding, nothing really matters at all. All the best, beloved.

ghettochild4u:

At this point I think u r stupid to think he doensnt have a bank acct...
Even when people in diaspora can open new ACCTS... With d bvn and passport n filling form n mailing to d bank..
Sister I see u believe any crap this man tells u