At the age of five, Thompson (not her real name) said she was sexually abused by a ‎young man who was among about a dozen people squatting under her parent’s roof (So Sad).

“We had a small room in the house where he stays,” says Ms. Thompson, now 23 and studying Political Science at the National Open University of Nigeria.

Ms. Thompson spoke Saturday at a one day seminar tagged ‘Guard Against Rape’ organized by CEE-HOPE Foundation in Lagos.

“He invited me to the room and said ‘Do you know you are a very beautiful girl?’ I said ‘Yes I am.’ He opened the biscuits for me and gave me and I was eating it,” she said.

“Then he started touching me and I was like ‘Uncle what are you doing?’ He pressed on and before you knew it the deed was done.

“I started crying and he was like I shouldn’t cry. He said I shouldn’t tell anybody because this biscuit you have eaten is like an oath. If you do tell mummy, you will die.”

Betty‎ Abah, the founder of CEE-HOPE, said the seminar was aimed at sensitizing young girls on the dangers of rape and how to handle rape situations, especially during the Valentine period.

According to her, if children are sensitized early enough, they would be able to prevent rape situations.

‎”We brought them together from different places, this is the first time they are coming together from all these places and we thought that this period of Valentine will be very appropriate to talk about rape,” said Mrs. Abah.

“When people talk about Valentine, in most people‎’s minds what occurs to them is sex and there’s a lot of indiscriminate sex which at the end doesn’t really augur well for many young people.

“We are using the period of the Valentine to tell them you could be potential rape victims, you have to prevent it. When you are armed with this information you are protected for life. So we are reaching them and we expect that when they go to their communities, as peer educators they’ll be able to sensitize especially their classmates and community people.‎”

A speaker at the seminar, Chinyere Anokwuru, urged the girls to be wary of men they meet on social media.

“The first thing in guarding against rape is to trust your instincts,” said Mrs. Anokwuru, a former Senior Special Assistant to the Lagos State government on Women and Girls.

“If you are perceiving something like it doesn’t feel right, then don’t do it.

“Learn to keep fit, so that when you sense danger, you take to your heels immediately.”

Mrs. Anokwuru also advised the girls to join self-defence classes to learn taekwando‎ and karate.

“If attacked, convert anything on you to a temporary weapon. And do not trust anyone easily, most cases of rape are not done by strangers.”

According to Ms. Thompson, after the initial sexual molestation when she was five, the practice continued for the next 15 years with perpetrators ranging from friends, uncles, strangers, and relatives.

“When I was six, there was this girl staying with us. She’s the only female I remember that molested me,” Ms. Thompson said.

“At seven, there was this old man that do visit, a close pal to my dad. He’s old enough to be my grandpa. Nobody ever thought that such a thing was going to happen between the both of us. He was always throwing his open, like he calls me ‘sweets’‎ and other endearing names.

“My father, especially, don’t take offense with that because he felt there was nothing to that. My father is a very hard man so I had this fear telling him. My mother was always travelling.”

Ms. Thompson said she still remembers about 12 people who had raped her before she clocked 20.

“I have ‎moved on. I’m 23 now,” she said.

“I will not allow that trauma to weigh me down. I will pretend like nothing ever happened.

“Left for me, I think rapists should be killed.”

Read More: http://www.knowefritin.com/2019/01/how-i-was-raped-for-15-years-sad-story.html

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hmmm them r@pe person for 15 years and e no talk, are you sure she was not enjoying it

Rape is an epidemic and instead of the victims to be counselled and supported, they are often blamed

KingOfAllIgbos:


Not everyone is like your mum & sisters.

Yinmu you wey no get mama wan dey yab another person mama
Its only an afonja that will do that

Forreellinc:

Yinmu you wey no get mama wan dey yab another person mama
Its only an afonja that will do that

Picture of ya mum

KingOfAllIgbos:


Picture of ya mum

Just talk say you wan see my mama pinshure so you go fit m@sturbate, oya take

Forreellinc:

Just talk say you wan see my mama pinshure so you go fit m@sturbate, oya take

Lies. I have seen this pix before.

That other picture is the real one

KingOfAllIgbos:


Lies. I have seen this pix before.

That other picture is the real one

shuo afonja you don w@nk finish now now?
Wetin una even dey useful for sef?

Forreellinc:
hmmm them r@pe person for 15 years and e no talk, are you sure she was not enjoying it

You are sick.

I always say this. Parents should remain very vigilant where their kids are concerned.

They could be molested by sexual predators right under your very nose.

Xisnin:

You are sick.

no I'm not

KingOfAllIgbos:


Not everyone is like your mum & sisters.

haba this was killing...........

ValCon888:

I always say this. Parents should remain very vigilant where their kids are concerned.

They could be molested by sexual predators right under your very nose.

Na only you get sense for Nairaland. Keep it up jare

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Forreellinc:
hmmm them r@pe person for 15 years and e no talk, are you sure she was not enjoying it

Nobody enjoys being raped. There are reasons why victims don't speak up. The lady in the article pointed out that her father was strict. Which could mean there was no open communication with her father.

Sometimes we tell parents to build relationships with their kids that make them open up and feel free to discuss anything with them. But most parents don't adhere. Some are busy forming disciplinarian and police officer in their home but are not policing the right things.

Aksah12:
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Nobody enjoys being raped. There are reasons why victims don't speak up. The lady in the article pointed out that her father was strict. Which could mean there was no open communication with her father.

Sometimes we tell parents to build relationships with their kids that make them open up and feel free to discuss anything with them. But most parents don't adhere. Some are busy forming disciplinarian and police officer in their home but are not policing the right things.

yinmu why na say na when the man don old and no sabi do again she come dey talk?