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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by Ranchhoddas: 12:03am On Jan 11, 2019
Florblu:
You only engaged her,you didn't cage her.

Deal with your insecurity
See this one self. Una dey abandon una brain before una log in?

If you were engaged to a man and he was calling random women at odd hours, will you not have a problem with it?

@OP you are just an alternative to that woman, she is still weighing her options. She would jump ship if she gets a better offer.
You are more invested in the relationship than she is. Take heart.

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by nedubest(m): 3:28am On Jan 11, 2019
jaapaa

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by Newboss(m): 3:34am On Jan 11, 2019
Dude, you're insecure, go get fixed, or just go look for your type grin You're simply with the wrong person (which is usually the fate of insecure people) grin

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by Newboss(m): 3:42am On Jan 11, 2019
Lordbellish:



the one that got me mad was that she came over for the weekend and her phone rang when we wanted to eat, she was answering call and the food was getting cold, I called her baby this food with get cold Oooo... let's eat na. she said I should be eating that she will join Later....

Now she reply the person on phone that it was nothing, just a minor distraction

You're insecure. This, here, is the proof grin. That girl is my type, not your type. Leave her and go look for your type grin

If she doesn't gist you about those guys, she definitely doesn't trust you or just doesn't feel you grin. It's not a character flaw, but her kind of person grin. That kind is the best to be with if she feels you (that is if she don fall for you) grin

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by passionate87(m): 4:01am On Jan 11, 2019
bro,u are not wrong being uncomfortable with her receiving calls at odd hours,my gf who I later married use to do same though not at odd hours sha,but I sat her down and stamped my authority as a man and she changed,I guess you are more invested in the relationship and the lady seems not to care if the relationship breaks,bro this is a disaster waiting to happen,if you have talked to her several times and she fail to listen simply call off the engagement and let everybody go their separate ways.
from the look of things she still wanna palli around but bro don't settle for less,look for a serious minded gal instead my opinion though

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by passionate87(m): 4:09am On Jan 11, 2019
this issues is not borne on insecurity because no man would want his wife to be receiving calls at odd hours,I even threatened to call off my relationship at the time and I was dead serious about it.on my end she got a lot to loss cos a have a lot of options which she was aware of,this issue would have being sorted out right from the moment the relationship started.I call the shots not my gf and I dictate the pace of the relationship.
bro don't be hindered because u think,u love her.a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage, if she can't stop now she won't stop after her marriage mark my words.

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by passionate87(m): 4:14am On Jan 11, 2019
before I finally got married bro,I called off many relationships not because I'm a player but they didn't meet my requirement,so don't stay in a relationship that make you loss ur sleep and give u undue stress.they are many serious minded unmarried ladies who would jump mount Kilimanjaro for this opportunity,you are doing them a favour by marrying them.

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by joshboo(m): 4:43am On Jan 11, 2019
Bro pls I beg you in God's name just open the wine and drink it yourself (if you've) bought it though cos you not the only one carrying wine to her house

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by srclark: 4:56am On Jan 11, 2019
Lordbellish:



I'm just playing nice guy honestly..

no body has the monopoly of misbehaving, me I can too just that that not part of my agenda now
when did engaging a girl and marrying her become the samething it is a norm now for guys to engage a girl all in the name to tie her down you can be claiming you are serious and in the real sense you are not serious ,no right thinking girl would make herself available to other men if your intentions of marrying her are shown and known in this harsh buhari weather oga your story is incomplete my own opinion though
Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by srclark: 5:01am On Jan 11, 2019
joshboo:
Bro pls I beg you in God's name just open the wine and drink it yourself (if you've) bought it though cos you not the only one carrying wine to her house
bros we should be asking the op when did he engage her ? When is he planning to do the wedding proper ? Op you better buckle up or be ready for heartbreak any moment from now ,a lady behaves this way if she sees no signs of the wedding anytime soon and she knows too well the financial status of the op is far from one that can sponsor a wedding op if you are truely in love with this woman and don't want to lose her better get your acts right and stop forming boss cause.of mere engagement MAKE E NO GO BE. LIKE FILM FOR YOUR EYE

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by NarnieSnyper(m): 5:08am On Jan 11, 2019
Bro, you remind me of Tom DuBois of Boondocks. Like my Pímp Slickback character would say, you are suffering from bítch dependency.

Mehn, get off your lazy-ass and put that woman in line. She's seen the weakling in you and is taking serious advantage of it.

Establish some rules like a man should and if she doesn't wanna comply kick her skanky-ass to the curb. Looks like you are the one who is putting in all the effort here
and she's making it look like she's doing you a favour by accepting to marry you.
WTF,brah

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by ojuu4u(m): 5:39am On Jan 11, 2019
Lordbellish:



the one that got me mad was that she came over for the weekend and her phone rang when we wanted to eat, she was answering call and the food was getting cold, I called her baby this food with get cold Oooo... let's eat na. she said I should be eating that she will join Later....

Now she reply the person on phone that it was nothing, just a minor distraction


I pity u and I pray you won't die of heart attack, end up with broken marriage or having kids which are not yours,
Do not force/presurise any girl into relationship, it's dangerous to marry lady who doesnt *love or regard* you.
Perhaps, you have little cash and you think you can use that to hoodwink her. With what is happening it's obvious that the lady's heart, love & spirit are not for you. Am very sure she would be struggling to have sex with you

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by pocohantas(f): 5:49am On Jan 11, 2019
DMerciful:
I don't know why girls support themselves in foolishness! Look at the preposterous comments above!

I think we should ask what she does first.

I don't know how this giving number works, but I remembered a thread where guys were complaining we form just to give number and I asked them..."If your gf is the one giving numbers, will you like it?"

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by luizpippo(m): 6:40am On Jan 11, 2019
When I met my gf, she was taking calls at 11pm and I told her in clear terms, you are not allowed to take calls from guys from 9pm upwards, she was trying to be strong headed, but she took my warning serious afterwards.
I gave her my terms and conditions, left for her to accept or not

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by SaucyBenks(m): 6:44am On Jan 11, 2019
Lordbellish:



the one that got me mad was that she came over for the weekend and her phone rang when we wanted to eat, she was answering call and the food was getting cold, I called her baby this food with get cold Oooo... let's eat na. she said I should be eating that she will join Later....

Now she reply the person on phone that it was nothing, just a minor distraction
oyo is almost already your case... there's fire ahead for you if you don't act now honestly!

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by CyberWolf: 6:45am On Jan 11, 2019
Lordbellish:
Hello Nairalanders, please I'm in serious Situation right now... There's this girl (my girl friend) that I proposed to, she accepted that we will spend the rest of our lives together..
But there's this thing I noticed about her, strange numbers(men) do call her and they call in odd times (late nights and early morning)...

I have asked her, why will she give out her number to any random man that demands for her number and she will boldly answer the call... I'm just so tired of this calling of a thing.

what should I do

I love her and I want to marry her. we have even fixed date for wine carrying.

I have sat her down countless time telling her that I'm not comfortable with that call stuff but she but just won't stop
That girl is definitely cheating on you. I know you won’t believe it but that’s the truth and the earlier you start knocking sense into her, the better for you.

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by CyberWolf: 6:47am On Jan 11, 2019
SaucyBenks:
oyo is almost already your case... there's fire ahead for you if you don't act now honestly!
As in eeh shocked A lady I’ve proposed to will tell a random guy on phone in my presence that I’m a minor distraction? I will slap that phone out of her ear, what nonesene sad

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by SaucyBenks(m): 6:58am On Jan 11, 2019
CyberWolf:
As in eeh shocked A lady I’ve proposed to will tell a random guy on phone in my presence that I’m a minor distraction? I will slap that phone out of her ear, what nonesene sad
she dey craze nah... The guy's weak and looks like he's grown so attached to her already and now it's kinda hard to let go and I'm sure the hoe n cutlass has noticed this and is doing her thing without any fear.... Improper Thunder fire that her mouth!

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by Nobody: 7:00am On Jan 11, 2019
Common sense isn't common after all.

It is a known fact that opposite sex relates more on phone then people of same sex. A brief scroll through your contact is a proof of this. As a guy how many guys' number do you have on your phone compared to the ladies? Same thing applies to the ladies.

Op, that you are engaged to her doesn't mean she has to cut others off, as long as she's faithful and has regards for you, there is no problem. As for the odd calls, seat her down and talk about it together like adults. Communication is the key.


To the foolish ones ranting, may God help your foolishness! I'm out!

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by Nobody: 7:05am On Jan 11, 2019
DanDeeBoss:
Because of your comment angryangry Are you supporting that the Op's girlfriend should keep giving her number to "random" guys??
What's your definition of 'random' ?
Are you saying she's only permitted to give her number to relatives and colleagues only? So because she's engaged she shouldn't have a social life or perhaps she should have hidden it all from op.

Dan, aside the calls at odd hours which can be corrected if they both sit down and talk I see no issue here. Op is just worrying too much. smiley

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by CyberWolf: 7:11am On Jan 11, 2019
SaucyBenks:
she dey craze nah... The guy's weak and looks like he's grown so attached to her already and now it's kinda hard to let go and I'm sure the hoe n cutlass has noticed this and is doing her thing without any fear.... Improper Thunder fire that her mouth!
grin I pity the guy. When you tell them to read ubunja threads and learn how to change from from being a dummy nice guy to “active nice guy” aka bad guy, they will refuse, what OP is passing through is usually the outcome. Once you’re nice and soft with these ladies, they will take you for a ride.

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by DanDeeBoss(m): 7:11am On Jan 11, 2019
MariaLavina:
What's your definition of 'random' ?
Are you saying she's only permitted to give her number to relatives and colleagues only? So because she's engaged she shouldn't have a social life or perhaps she should have hidden it all from op.

Dan, aside the calls at odd hours which can be corrected if they both sit down and talk I see no issue here. Op is just worrying too much. smiley
Goodmorningsmileysmiley He said he's done that all to no avail.... What do you think he should do aside "sitting and talking"...?? Oya MariaLavina takegringringrin

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by DMerciful(m): 7:16am On Jan 11, 2019
Irrespective of her work she should not be answering calls from men your fiance does not know late in the night. When a relationship has graduated from bf/gf, then both parties starts taking concrete steps to reduce interference from admirers. I know sometimes these attentions might be thrilling but what may be more thrilling for the intruders is the fact that you're almost taken so they want to get as much as possible
pocohantas:


I think we should ask what she does first.

I don't know how this giving number works, but I remembered a thread where guys were complaining we form just to give number and I asked them..."If your gf is the one giving numbers, will you like it?"

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by Rickjordan(m): 7:25am On Jan 11, 2019
bro you need to thank God for exposing her at this very hour....if u ask me what I think
...Just Fu*kin leave her Alone or else u gone full Nl with ur marriage issues....

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by Shawnnn01: 7:35am On Jan 11, 2019
Lordbellish:



the one that got me mad was that she came over for the weekend and her phone rang when we wanted to eat, she was answering call and the food was getting cold, I called her baby this food with get cold Oooo... let's eat na. she said I should be eating that she will join Later....

Now she reply the person on phone that it was nothing, just a minor distraction
Na 2040 you go get sense, you don miss am this year.

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by Shawnnn01: 7:37am On Jan 11, 2019
MariaLavina:
Common sense isn't common after all.

It is a known fact that opposite sex relates more on phone then people of same sex. A brief scroll through your contact is a proof of this. As a guy how many guys' number do you have on your phone compared to the ladies? Same thing applies to the ladies.

Op, that you are engaged to her doesn't mean she has to cut others off, as long as she's faithful and has regards for you, there is no problem. As for the odd calls, seat her down and talk about it together like adults. Communication is the key.


To the foolish ones ranting, may God help your foolishness! I'm out!
Potential olosho talking like someone with a brain

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by Ashnoor(m): 8:02am On Jan 11, 2019
Sorry bro, i felt ur pain. Take heart, and threaten to quit if she cant bear it with you. Its a favour u'r doin her.
Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by ferdybillion(m): 8:11am On Jan 11, 2019
Op, see don't just waste your time. Forget about dates and wine carrying. Just let go to prevent future heartache. If she accepted your engagement and she loves you she will never accept any calls at odd times out of respect for you. The earlier the better bro. The best relationship is when bot parties have respect for eachother and are game together
Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by Nobody: 8:18am On Jan 11, 2019
Lordbellish:
Hello Nairalanders, please I'm in serious Situation right now... There's this girl (my girl friend) that I proposed to, she accepted that we will spend the rest of our lives together..
But there's this thing I noticed about her, strange numbers(men) do call her and they call in odd times (late nights and early morning)...

I have asked her, why will she give out her number to any random man that demands for her number and she will boldly answer the call... I'm just so tired of this calling of a thing.

what should I do

I love her and I want to marry her. we have even fixed date for wine carrying.

I have sat her down countless time telling her that I'm not comfortable with that call stuff but she but just won't stop

there's only one question to ask yourself, can I tolerate this behavior after marriage for many years?

if yes, go right ahead and marry her. if no, do the needful.

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by Lordbellish: 8:39am On Jan 11, 2019
ojuu4u:



I pity u and I pray you won't die of heart attack, end up with broken marriage or having kids which are not urs,
Do not force/presurise any girl into relationship, it's dangerous to marry lady who doesnt *love or regard* you. Perhaps, u may have little cash and you think you can use that to hoodwink her. With what is happening it's obvious that the lady heart, love & spirit are not for you.Am very sure she would be struggling to have sex with you


she always telling me she dry, baby can't u see am dry and me being dry means I'm not in the mood...

or if she concepts to making love, once she cums, she pushes me away... and now do a hand job on me b4 I cum... (sorry I'm spelling everything out like this) I'm seriously hurting

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Re: A Girl I Am Engaged To Still Gives Men Her Phone Number by Lordbellish: 8:47am On Jan 11, 2019
srclark:
when did engaging a girl and marrying her become the samething it is a norm now for guys to engage a girl all in the name to tie her down you can be claiming you are serious and in the real sense you are not serious ,no right thinking girl would make herself available to other men if your intentions of marrying her are shown and known in this harsh buhari weather oga your story is incomplete my own opinion though


Now this is the full story, I'm saving up funds to further my studies by September fall abroad...

Me and my family agreed I should finalize everything about marriage so that when I by year end, I will be going down the alter by 4th January 2020 ....

So me and my patents with some elders went to her village with Palm wine 2 jars according to tradition and we collected full list and gave them Easter as our return date... check my previous post, I made mention of getting list from her family against my coming by Easter...

maybe she's misbehaving cuz I don't spend like I used to before but she should understand that I'm entering into a huge project that will better the lives of our unborn babies

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