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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by waleyp(m): 3:23pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Thats The Spirit Bro, Money First, If She Comes In Now, You Will Have To Cater For The Two Of You, Just Find A Way To Make Her Understand. If She Loves You And De ReasonABLe Then Thats COOL |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by bamisepeters(m): 3:23pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Whitewolf8:Wait, you trust the food she cooks and you are happy she id helping you with chores. Why not just tell her not to do all those for you if you ain't committed. There is something you are hiding, how did you guys started and what have you done together outside cooking and washing, or let me say what have you spoken about as regards relationship? Whitewolf8: Dropping your key with her shouldn't be a problem if you could trust her food. If you have not talked about relationship then she shouldn't have entered your kitchen or do chores for you as those things works with our emotion, and relationship can easily develop through that. You never even mention that you have someone you are dating, so share more light please Please answer all the questions i asked as there is more to the situation than what you have said up there. 22 Likes |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Kira290(m): 3:35pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by MissRaine69(f): 3:51pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Heck No! One month old relationship and she wants keys? You need boundaries in a relationship it should be a case of her place, and your place until such a time you feel that maybe your situation could lead to something permanent. Trust is earned and not demanded. When you feel ready perhaps discuss it as it’s your space not hers. Maybe a bit of space is needed at the moment to see if the fire you feel for her is indeed a genuine one or a paper fire which will soon burn out. Finally ask yourself this why are you letting her feel so comfortable when you are not even sure where this is going? Establish the perimeters of what your situation is first as it feels one person is a bit more invested in this than the other. 12 Likes |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Memberclub(m): 3:53pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Whitewolf8:what's her age? |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Whitewolf8: 4:49pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
bamisepeters: we haven't done anything extraordinary that's worth mentioning...what I said in the post is just the summary of our day to day lives . |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Whitewolf8: 4:49pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Memberclub: 23+ |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Whitewolf8: 4:50pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
MissRaine69: thanks a lot 1 Like |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Whitewolf8: 4:52pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
bamisepeters: the thing is that most times we do cook together and we end up eating the same food together ...so I've not really given a thought to trusting her food or being scared to eat it cos we both do. |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by bamisepeters(m): 4:53pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Whitewolf8:Are you guys in a relationship? As in, how did it all started? If no relationship it will be easier as you can just tell her you can't give her the keys as you do not want people to start thinking otherwise which may affect you one way or the other. You can also tell her your woman (even if you don't have one) wouldn't take it lightly if she comes and meet just her in the house, it will give wrong impression. |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by bamisepeters(m): 4:56pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Whitewolf8:ok. |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Whitewolf8: 4:57pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
bamisepeters: technically.. yes!! but me I'm still trying to see if I can do it. 1 Like |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Kobicove(m): 4:58pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Whitewolf8: Then don't give her keys to your apartment. You also need to define the relationship so she knows where she stands otherwise she would accuse you of wasting her time and causing her to loose other potential suitors ![]() 10 Likes |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by bamisepeters(m): 5:11pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Whitewolf8:There we go, now this makes it hard... Possibly you have told her so many things that made her believe so much in your words, you have to deal with this with all senses at alert. If you have made love with her you really need to be smart about rejecting her request as she will change it for you. And if you are in a relationship and you have made her believe she is the only one, then it is no big deal for her to ask for your key, she is trying to be protective, she want to dominate which is the right thing. I will advice you just tell her you still need to watch more before you can give her the key, she will not object it. But please define the relationship. I told my wife my plans for her immediately we started the relationship, no harm in telling her your intentions, if it didn't work at the long run no issues as it is just intentions. Make sure your mind is settled with her before you hand the key to her because if anything happens in the future, the key might become weapon against you. But i will also advice, if you have not made love, if your mind isn't settled about her, as you are pondering if to give her your key also ponder if it is right to make love with her. 9 Likes |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Ximenez(m): 5:15pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Whitewolf8:Then tell her this, not us. In this life most people think introverts are fools. She might be a good person and she might also just be playing nice because of what she wants. Don't give any lady free access to your place unless it's the lady you want to marry and both of you have gone far. Just remember this too "in love as well as in war, women are more barbaric than men. Tell her you have it but you are not comfortable giving it to her for now. If you want to be truthful and straightforward OR tell her you've misplaced it so she can no longer have it, if you don't want to be straightforward. 13 Likes |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Memberclub(m): 6:38pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Whitewolf8:give her the key. |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Teibaba(m): 7:38pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Guy call her, tell her you are not comfortable with the idea and you think things r moving faster than u expected . Be blunt. She will respect you. 2 Likes |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Nobody: 7:41pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Follow ur intuition |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Fvcknames: 8:22pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
If she thinks you just have like 2 keys, you can give her one then tell her after some weeks that you've lost yours.Kinda risky though |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Jayslicky: 8:38pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Romance section threads are no longer making front page, if it is buhari and atiku threads it would be on front page by now. Cc. Rocktation, farano, Dominique, lalasticlala 2 Likes |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by CuntMiner(m): 8:39pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Whitewolf8:but guy, u are fuckinggg d girl na, so wetin be introvert for Dis, u can give her, I do give my girl too 2 Likes |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Fidelismaria: 8:55pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
MissRaine69: MissRaine69 I do enjoy ur comments 3 Likes |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Randy100: 9:02pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Don't you ever do that. |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Lipslikecandy11(m): 9:13pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Whitewolf8:. Please don't try it... Expect ure 101% sure she's wifing you... Talking from experience cause this same thing ruin my relationship... Forgot to change my lock after we broke up... U don't wanna know wat she did ... 2 Likes |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Whitewolf8: 9:20pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
blissgregory: its not telling me anything...that's why I'm sharing it |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Whitewolf8: 9:22pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Fvcknames: and she's kinda temperamental.... although not to me yet. |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Whitewolf8: 9:23pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Jayslicky: I've gotten all the advice I needed, but I wish it would make FP so others in my shoes can read and learn too. |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Whitewolf8: 9:26pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
CuntMiner: I don't Bleep her..we have sex, which is mutual,we both enjoy it. I don't joke with my space at all, else I will lose my mind. 4 Likes |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Areaboyfriend(m): 10:28pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Bro never you give what you cannot collect back, unless it is an offering.. ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by srclark: 10:36pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Whitewolf8:make her understand you don't want to rush things cause you want the relationship to work ,the relationship is too early for her to have the spare key let things progress gradually |
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by royalair(m): 11:09pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Op run run run I repeat again run run. My ex did the same thing. First she dropped her bra, next she dropped her clothes she recovered from the dry cleaners, na so she begin d drop small small things before I knew it she invited her cousin over without telling me. before I knew it I turned to a family man without knowing. Run run run run 23 Likes
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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Simplecity(m): 11:24pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
Whitewolf8:bros no try am ooo.....a word is enough for the wise.....why would yo give her key to your apartment?? is she you wife or are you her brother?...berra stop deceiving yoursef with love and wake up |
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