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Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by cococandy(f): 2:23pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
OP the thing you could have done to avoid conflict is to let them make the big decisions since they have been taking care of her since she was born. You don’t have to have your way. Since you didn’t want to marry the lady, you should have realized you won’t have a great deal of access to her life. Go along with their plans and support as much as you can. 3 Likes |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Nobody: 2:24pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Melian: How exactly is he stupid? Did he force her into sex? |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Melian(f): 2:25pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Earthbound: I'm not sure I got you right. Did you say you won't use a protection with your S.O? |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Nobody: 2:26pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
ednut1: Off course you don’t know the amount he sent earlier . If it was huge , his thoughts would’ve been how can such amount be used within 2days? Don’t turn anybody into a cash cow. |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by nijabazaar: 2:26pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
faithfull18: Today x Sunday, with ample time on my arms. Dont run away, i have a cartload of expletives for ya. You're still a dumb as fvck imbe.cile with that your hopeless comment on the fellow's comment. Dont run away Dumbo... Dumb as a fvcktard. |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Evercurious(f): 2:27pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Kidaholic: Pls let's take it easy. Everything isn't war. Moreover two wrongs don't make a right. Op, i ll advise you go with the proposal from @ifyalways and let's pray and hope for the best before talking of court case. |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by RobinHood147: 2:28pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
You’re wrong, any child that’s above 6 years old will be placed in the father’s custody provided he can carter for her needs. faithfull18: |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by faithfull18(f): 2:28pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
tzoracle:You are really dumber than I thought. At the bolded, you just told the world the family you are from, dumb kid with nothing upstairs. At least you have learnt a lesson or two, which is to come into a thread, attack the issues being raised, state your views and take your leave. It's that simple. Nobody has a monopoly on insults, once a while I give your kind the attention you are desperately searching for , I am that kind. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Melian(f): 2:29pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Elder0001: I didn't make reference to the Op in that context. I meant women who don't use protection during sex have taken leave of their senses. 1 Like |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Mariangeles(f): 2:30pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
faithfull18:A million likes to this comment ![]() ...and I thought I was the only one against pre marital intercourse 5 Likes |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by faithfull18(f): 2:31pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
RobinHood147:Alright , noted. |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by sacx: 2:32pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Too many immature comments here. OP there is nothing much you can do. You may tow the line of Child Welfare as someone earlier suggested, but you won't win if you go to court. Just make sure you document every effort you are making to be a part of your child's life that was rebuffed. This will serve as evidence to your daughter in the future. Then sit back and watch how things unfold. You will be needed. And finally, get a life! Don't put another woman through this mess again. Make sure you get married properly before you have kids. If this one comes around then, it's a bonus. You are simply lonely. 5 Likes |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Nobody: 2:32pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Melian:I'm not sure I know what S.O means but I mean my girlfriend, fiance, (or anyone I'm fùcking that I wouldn't mind being the mother of my child). You feel me? I've had FWBs that I go in raw with and those that I would never. If I'm fùcking you raw, best believe I'm cool with you carrying my child. |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by jaxxy(m): 2:33pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Melian: Nigeria is close to a jungle society bt not totally one. We still have a fairly working justice system and Sm sane and civilized people here. |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by IAMBlesssed(f): 2:37pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
keepingmum: Best comment ever. Bitter truth. Oga OP your problem is ego. But you meet your match.. 4 Likes |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by proffc: 2:37pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Your answers are objective and to the point! ![]() ifyalways: |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Absoj(m): 2:39pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Did u at any point in time promise to marry her? -Did u deliberately got her pregnant( ignoring protection)? - Do u love ur child? - Would u go any length other than the windy legal way to have access to ur child? - Are u in good terms with her dad? Meet him if u do. ......All these would make u ignore her bitterness and go the calm way to make things work. In sum, I suggest u approach her close friend, one with much influence on her. As well as the pastor of her church... I believe it will work. 2 Likes |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Nobody: 2:39pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
OP, your fluent style of writing is 10/10. I can't remember the last time I read such lengthy epistle from begining to end and with a desire to read again. That being stated, i kind of understand the frustration of your baby mama. You have wronged her big time so try to make amends. No lady desires to be baby mama for any man. Even you, you wouldn't want your said daughter to be a baby mama for a man in the future. You seem exposed but you weren't smart when you made the decision to make love without condom thus putting yourself in this plight. You are a simple definition of " men think with their dick instead of their brain" in some situations. Keep your pride aside and make amends with your baby mama and if you don't succeed initially, keep trying. Act the fool in some situations, stoop to conquer. This is all the advise I have for you. I also have my own issues- although different and not as serious as yours but again - issues are issues ![]() Good luck. 3 Likes
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Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Larryslim(m): 2:41pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
ifyalways:And you think you made any sense with what you wrote?? Smh |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by sacx: 2:42pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
faithfull18: You are being judgemental here. He didn't have premarital sex with himself, did he? No, they both did. The deed has been done already. Now advise OP how to give his daughter fatherly love that she deserves even though he doesn't want to get married to her mum. And for the records, I don't support premarital sex either. |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Melian(f): 2:42pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Earthbound: I get it now. Alright, s.o means significant other. That said, I do respect the way you handle your women, it's your choice but I wouldn't advise it. What if something happens along the way, she got pregnant and you couldn't marry her? Remember that relationships do not necessarily have to end in marriage but if pregnancy sets in, you would have no choice than to commit to her and you may be doing yourself a disservice by marrying her. Or what if the said lady uses pregnancy to trap you and you really don't want to marry her? What about STIs? There are a million and one reasons to not have sex without protection. It favours both sexes. 2 Likes |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Nobody: 2:42pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Saffi, would you do me the honors and let me rent your womb for 10 months? ![]() Shebi you are seeing all these weird Nairalanders? |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Nobody: 2:47pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Melian:You're right about the STI part. Also it is not compulsory to marry the mother of your child immediately. If she proves to be a good partner and even a better mother, I'd knock her up for the second time and marry her after childbirth. |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Born2Breed(f): 2:48pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
iloputaife: You mean you didn't contribute towards the hospital bill after the birth of your daughter? 3 Likes |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by tzoracle: 2:52pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
faithfull18: Quit contradicting yourself so as to sound smart and grown up What is paining you is that he didn't marry her hence your stupid generalization ![]() I will still say it, you are dumb, shallow and lack comprehension Keep living the illusion that all adults are intelligent, those like you are just senile |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by philsbaba: 2:53pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
ogawisdom:your name should be ogafoolish. For your mind you don talk better thing. Now shove your stupid comment up your ass ![]() |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Melian(f): 2:56pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Tochukwu1099: You're still speculating? Me I'm certain op is a mad man. Only a mad man will impregnate a lady and dump her like a piece of furniture. "I don't want to marry her but I want access to my daughter". He's mad o. Is this how his mother brought him up? Without a father? If op is from a broken home, perhaps I'll empathise with him. Otherwise, he doesn't deserve to use his eyes see pussy ever again, let alone touch it. You don't impregnate a woman and dump her. It's evil. Single mothers face stigmatisation. If you know she isn't worthy, don't Bleep it. If you must Bleep it use a condom. 7 Likes |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Melian(f): 3:02pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Earthbound: Hilarious. You've been dating women with low sense of self worth all your life. Time you stepped up your game. No woman with a good sense of self will let you bed her, impregnate her the second time before marriage. 2 Likes |
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