ceeroh:


As my personality isn't for everyone, so is my response. Go fvck yourself Mr. maturity.

NB: Lemme reply you because you're the OP. I wouldn't wanna get married because asides giving birth and cooking, the lady would virtually have nothing more to offer. So why the stress? Any fertile female can give birth, even mad women give birth .
I might even end up adopting Children and continue with my life.

For those tearing me apart, this is it:
Don't get me wrong. I know my view sounds somehow. But if you look carefully, that's what most women do these days. Even those that work don't wanna share responsibilities with their husbands... Is that not the same as just cooking and giving birth?
As for the women in my family, that's a topic for another day, I wasn't raised by one. Not a broken home, but passed away when I was very young. Pops didn't remarry, and I never really felt her absence, maybe because I don't know what it feels like to have one. There's no house chore too big for me to handle, I grew up doing all those, perfectly. So I ask myself, what do I need a woman for? Asides giving birth and cooking, most of them have nothing more to offer. That's the truth. Some are even dirty and very disorganized, I can't stand a dirty environment. Never! But if you're gonna be offering something else asides what I listed above, then let me see. But how many of them have tangible things to offer?
And as for companionship, fvck it! I'm a hardcore introvert.

Nicoddemus:

people might think am lying I've not seen an unhappy marriage out of my closest five. And im adding to the number

nairalee:



Do you want me to analyze this your comment? Or let's just smile over it and wish each other Goodluck in our pursuit of happyness?

ImaIma1:


Lol...I am in Nigeria. It was what we both wanted. We told the pastors in our church about our idea because we wanted the service at the reception venue.

NairaMaster1:


Prostitution and baby mamma pay. Good luck.

Evangkatsoulis:


Na only you dey answer your surname? Besides has your family done anything great or remarkable that you would want to uphold your surname?

cooluzi:
you are a lady and you dont wanna get married who are you fooling..... only if you can't attract a man

Dreew:


Haha I'm from that tribe but this is everything I ever wanted. Pulling it off is a goal. Lol. Are you saying you brought church service to the reception venue, that is, you were not joined in a typical Nigerian church and a Nigerian pastor agreed to that? This is awesomeness in all its glory!

NairaMaster1:


Have you seen an America, France, British, Russia president without a wife or husband.

Nigerians and foolishness.

It's only irresponsible people that claim marriage is evil.

Adultery in Nigeria is what is killing marriages. Love of money.

MissRaine69:

Just because I don’t subscribe to how you see life does not mean I have less then a life then you, that’s just absurd and archaic thinking. You and I are a different type of people. People like me exist in abundance. Why I would want to spend this one life I have trying to prentend to fit in, please others or conform and be unhappy is an utter waste of life in general.

ImaIma1:


You are funny. Yes the church service was in the reception venue and a pastor in my church was assigned for it alongside my marriage counselor.

When I requested if it could be done, the pastor I talked to said that as long as it doesn't go against the scriptures, then it can be done.

nairalee:
I ask myself this question every other day. If I get married today it'd be to satisfy my mother.

1) I'm perfectly happy in my current unmarried state
2) I do WHATEVER I want without explanation to ANYBODY
3) I don't worry about keeping late nights cos when I'm late I can just sleep over at a friend's place without wondering if my wife will suspect foul play
4) Having Variety Sex
5) No unnecessary affiliations (wife's parents, families, friends, neighbors, pastors, acquaintances) it's too cumbersome
6) Maybe it's just me but I noticed married people automatically look older?
7) Cost of marriage in Nigeria sef is enough to start a small scale business
It's more expensive keeping a married life than a single life
9) Problems of alimony, compensation etc when the marriage goes sour (case in point Jeff Bezos)
10) Too numerous to mention

Might sound childish but marriage makes no sense to me except for 1 reason

Why Marry?
1) To raise up a child in a conventional family home

I don't still know why society and family can't just let one be!

princfred:


What do you mean by write offs?

Step forward: What do you have to offer apart from you know......mmm

ceeroh:


As my personality isn't for everyone, so is my response. Go fvck yourself Mr. maturity.

NB: Lemme reply you because you're the OP. I wouldn't wanna get married because asides giving birth and cooking, the lady would virtually have nothing more to offer. So why the stress? Any fertile female can give birth, even mad women give birth .
I might even end up adopting Children and continue with my life.

For those tearing me apart, this is it:
Don't get me wrong. I know my view sounds somehow. But if you look carefully, that's what most women do these days. Even those that work don't wanna share responsibilities with their husbands... Is that not the same as just cooking and giving birth?
As for the women in my family, that's a topic for another day, I wasn't raised by one. Not a broken home, but passed away when I was very young. Pops didn't remarry, and I never really felt her absence, maybe because I don't know what it feels like to have one. There's no house chore too big for me to handle, I grew up doing all those, perfectly. So I ask myself, what do I need a woman for? Asides giving birth and cooking, most of them have nothing more to offer. That's the truth. Some are even dirty and very disorganized, I can't stand a dirty environment. Never! But if you're gonna be offering something else asides what I listed above, then let me see. But how many of them have tangible things to offer?
And as for companionship, fvck it! I'm a hardcore introvert.

Evangkatsoulis:

You are naive. Not everyone believes in this your god.

mhisbliss:
It all boils down to our societal values, norms and what people would think and say about you if you aren't married, especially if you're a girl, why pop out a baby or two or three for a man without him putting the ring on it and not expecting people to think you're a shameless baby factory who is just cohabiting with an unserious man who loves getting you pregnant?

So beneath all this "I don't care what people think about me" mantra everyone chants, is an insecure and timid person wishing he or she is really about that, lastly marriage gives you a kind of leverage, because in the face of society, you're legal and as a legal partner you kinda have a say when someone is in your turf, and you sometimes get compensation when it hit the rocks, example jeff bezos and his ex wife.

Daeylar:


Where?
In this modern age where many women work and share the cost of rent, food, clothing? This age where men keep screaming that they can't marry liabilities and they want independent women who work and have their own money? Or is it another time?
How many men foot all the bills in the home?




Let me remind you of some benefits to the man

-1)A live in maid for free. (after all. "I'm Male. Head of house. It's a woman's job to build and take care of her home. )
-2)Live in cook. For free. (Hot meals set and ready at all meal times. Woman's job.)
-3)Live in all time baby sitter for free. (It's a woman's job to care for the kids. )
-4)Live in housekeeper for free.( Once again woman's job)
-5) And after all that, Someone to split the rent and someone to split payment of bills with. (This is when they remember that it is modern times. Something you're conveniently ignoring.)

-6) For extremely lazy yet wicked and entitled men.
It gives them another person's salary that they can sequestrate and they feel entitled to, A salary they didn't earn.

Since we want to show bias.
You really tried it with your post.

ImaIma1:



True that! Marriage is a beautiful thing especially when you marry the perfect person for you.

You should totally do the midnight idea. It sounds cool. Mine was a dinner on a Sunday evening.

Not all women are money conscious

Regiinald:
I believe people (including me) should get married only because they want to have children officially.

I don't think getting married because you want to spend the rest of your life with the person is a valid reason because that is why you are dating such person in the first place and getting married doesn't change that decision.

Why Would You Want To Get Married?

surveyProf:



When did you become a female?? : transgender I guess ...

privaldo:

with their high rate of divorce, you think some people want to go through that emotional melt down let alone the kids that relationship produced

DMerciful:
So what will keep you together when the feelings weakens? It surely go down and goes up... but kids ensure the bonds are stronger

ceeroh:


And you are.... John Wayne Gacy

Michaelite:
I just have pity on those that will experience loneliness on the long run, they don't know what is family. These are the kind of people that will get married in their 40s and leave the kids with tears when they die. Train your kids, don't be selfish.

Buffalowings3:




So the reason you would want to get married is so that you can have monetary compensation in case of divorce from or death of the guy..
You're more dangerous than a viper..

Learn how to read.

DMerciful:
How is he intelligent? by making a sensationally absurd statement? If everybody thinks this way won't humans go extinct? A child that's not existing is expected to give opinions of whether he wants to be born or not! Werey!

MissRaine69:

This is you attempting to insult me? And somehow I am meant to be bothered?
Keep working at it, you have a long way to go.

gracile:
Reginald or whatever, tajbol4splend, ioswhite you guys can you stop shoving your opinions down people's throats? It's not only childish but irritating please.
Live and let live!