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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Nobody: 2:12pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
Be it a relationship or even in marriage, once it gets so toxic and you ain't feeling it no more, just GTFO. Value your happiness, it's in your hands, cherish it above all else. The moment you can't get through to that SO no more, walk away. Never stick around; not for love or how good you both look together, not for the kids, not for family or your finances, not for nothing. If with time you both realize your mistakes and want to get back together, FINE. But when sh*t hits the fan again, mehn rinse n repeat. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by CuddleBunnys(f): 2:17pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
Ykol:welcome |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Beety26(f): 2:58pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
Martinez39: Bless you abeg. I believe this thread is for matured minds. And we shouldn't be shy in expressing ourselves. People are here to learn from others mistakes, we shouldn't be shy. Come to think of it, we make mistakes sometimes and it's never a crime if we learn/advice others so that they won't fall into the same hole. It's helps a lot if we talk about our pains/ challenges. Me, I dey my husband house... it's never rosy but we try our best. We have our moments but our one goal is to " make it work" . Marriage is an empty box, you get whatever you put into it. If you want a loving home, both parties needs to put in more love. Marriage is not 50/50, it's 100/100 of both parties efforts. Abeg we need more of matured minds here not small small people with small sense 9 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Beety26(f): 3:14pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
2extremes: It's good you stated the red flag you noticed in your relationship. I would advice you control it now cos if you marry her like that, sorry to say but your MIL will be the one running your home. My husband had the same issue with the lady he wanted to marry. The girl's mum was even rude and disrespectful to her own husband. My husband said he saw all those things and imagined how the girl's mum's influence may have on this family if he eventually marries the girl, so he had to end the relationship. So my dear, don't let love cover your eyes to the realities of life. Tackle it Weller! Wish you the best. 5 Likes |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Martinez39(m): 3:34pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
Beety26:Great contribution. Don't mind those children on this thread. They think life is a bed or roses and marriage is like they see it on telenovela. Marriage is not easy and anyone can have a failed marriage. No one is a mind reader and has no authority over their spouse's behaviour and actions. It's a good thing that those who have made mistakes gather and make sure that the younger generation don't repeat such. Once again, thanks for your contribution. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Nobody: 3:38pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
GREATESTPIANIST: You are nt what you think bro. You are wat you do. Pray but also play your part to keep d home intact. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by canalily(m): 3:49pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
hello, uya, UyaiIncomparabl: |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by GREATESTPIANIST: 4:43pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
Kemizee:it comes from ur projected positive thoughts first......and definitely it's big work, one wouldn't fold his arms........so you are what you think### don't misquote me 2 Likes |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by realtalk19: 5:09pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
Martinez39: what went wrong: He became aggressive and violent after I got pregnant and wasn't responsible to the kids welfare. he refused getting a job and I ended up being the bread winner of the family on debts. he was proud, nassicist and impatient. he curses at every opportunity he relayed solely on his mum's advice always and keeps secrets. how did it end: After he locked I and the kids out. my family stepped in to save me and the kids. our rent was due and despite working he still expected me to pay the rent which I refused cos I was fed up, exhausted and frustrated. whose fault? it was entirely his fault because even when I endured the responsibility and violence ,it got worse, and he felt he owns me and can do anytin he like without being questioned. he had a dyfunctional upbringing which made him belive torturing a woman Wil make her worship him. any regrets? my regrets were setbacks, trauma and ending up with the wrong partner. red flags on spouse? lying, violent,anger,malice, impatient in the sense that he wanted fast money he didn't need to work hard for whereby making him addicted to football betting and online hook up. what I would have done differently? taken my time to study him and avoid sentimental discision. never dated a short guy. lol . anger issues and inferiority complex where by he make me feel less of myself and made me loose my self esteem by talking down and condemning every good thing I ever did be more patient : cos of my age then (27years) I felt the clock was ticking and I wuldnt want to get married late. moved on: when I got pregnant I had an opportunity to move on after the violent actions but I didn't because I felt I had no chance if I end up as a single mum. I am very relaxed and more peaceful now. it's been 2 years of success, progress and hope with my kids alone and am so happy I made that discision to leave for good alive. Despite the traumatic experience, am still hopeful and believe in a happy and successful marriage especially with the right spouse . 42 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Winter4: 5:14pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
realtalk19: Chai... Keep on keeping your head up.. Great Courage it took to leave. Marriage fears just tripled! 7 Likes |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by kelvic1(m): 6:21pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
fetthu:Nice write-up 3 Likes |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by jashar(f): 7:06pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
Johnny1013: That's sad. It's fanatism... |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Johnny1013(m): 8:10pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
jashar:serious fanatism...I actually was after her beauty but God saved me and he knows the best for me 1 Like |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Ishilove: 8:25pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
dhensity:How sad 1 Like |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Ishilove: 8:36pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
Isn't rather odd that majority, if not all the posters are the 'victims'? The other party was the cause of the break up. Says quite a lot. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by oyetpel(m): 8:53pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
Ishilove: That's why i am a conspiracy theorist. People will always favour themselves. They are perfect but there partner was this and that. Like the long one we just read above, see as she labeled her partner as a devil, while she didn't do anything wrong. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by MacMkboy(m): 8:54pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
husbandsnatcha:The One Way U Give Me Abi? |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by MacMkboy(m): 9:03pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
[quote author=realtalk19 post=75631081] what went wrong: He became aggressive and violent after I got pregnant and wasn't responsible to the kids welfare. he refused getting a job and I ended up being the bread winner of the family on debts. he was proud, nassicist and impatient. he curses at every opportunity he relayed solely on his mum's advice always and keeps secrets. how did it end: After he locked I and the kids out. my family stepped in to save me and the kids. our rent was due and despite working he still expected me to pay the rent which I refused cos I was fed up, exhausted and frustrated. whose fault? it was entirely his fault because even when I endured the responsibility and violence ,it got worse, and he felt he owns me and can do anytin he like without being questioned. he had a dyfunctional upbringing which made him belive torturing a woman Wil make her worship him. any regrets? What Dya Mean By ``Never Dated A Short Guy''?? |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by realtalk19: 9:09pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
[quote author=MacMkboy post=75638064][/quote] some short guys are aggressive and controlling 3 Likes |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by MacMkboy(m): 9:18pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
1StopRudeness:Its Way Beyond Forgiveness Alone. Its Also A Case Of Aligned Goals, Discipline, Sacrifice, Responsibility And Duty. Then Finally Love. 2 Likes |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by jashar(f): 9:22pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
Johnny1013: Ahhh... Thank God you realised you had the wrong motives |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by MacMkboy(m): 9:23pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
realtalk19: Lol. I Guess Its A Personal Problem And Shouldn't Be Counted As Being Particular To Short Guys. |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Johnny1013(m): 9:36pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
jashar:yes |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Johnny1013(m): 9:39pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
realtalk19:you are really a strong woman.I advise people to walk out of abusive relationship.Madam well done..Keep hoping for the best ,the Lord is thy strength 1 Like |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Ishilove: 9:45pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
oyetpel:I always prefer to hear from both sides before passing judgement. What I'm seeing here is teaching me lessons on the human psyche 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by MacMkboy(m): 10:08pm On Feb 11, 2019 |
I Keep Wondering What Will Make A Couple Resort To Fighting. I Don't Think There Is Any Thing In Life Serious Enough To Make Me Wanna Fight With Anyone Let Alone A Woman. 3 Likes |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Quarterbac: 1:28am On Feb 12, 2019 |
tosyne2much: I understand you brother. |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Quarterbac: 1:29am On Feb 12, 2019 |
clumsydyna: Lol. I hope it happens soon tbh, and not later. |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Nobody: 1:37am On Feb 12, 2019 |
flyca: Why should I? The truth supersedes undeserved respect. |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by flyca: 1:56am On Feb 12, 2019 |
Elder0001:Stop rubbing it on her face. Your life is not perfect either. Bye 4 Likes |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by pussyAvenger: 2:42am On Feb 12, 2019 |
ozonechrome:you women always learn in the hindsight |
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by fastseo: 5:14am On Feb 12, 2019 |
GREATESTPIANIST:You have an almost unrealistic expectations, something like building a castle in the air even Abraham in the Bible had a turbulent marriage, he had the money and yet no child, temptation and trouble sets in he took another wife called Hagar. still yet God speaks to him one on one. No human is 100% perfect, even you check your self very well, do you possess all those stuff you just wrote there? This your theory have lead to the collapse of many homes where the lady thinks that in marriage there is no suffering, no pains, no sorrow, they all prepare their mind for heaven on earth, forgetting that this is earth filled with uncertainty and immediately their expectations are not forthcoming problems sets in and they keep asking themselves if they married the right man rather than being patient. As long as you are hopping for the best you must prepare for the worst scenario which is what we call plan B and that is why we must lean from all this point they outlined here. #YouAreWhatYouThink# I love this phrase but a pastor that always use this phrase while on podium his marriage crashed, this is a man of God that hears from God. Are you saying he is not thinking for a better marriage or his thought is not to get a working and happy home? Unless you are planning to marry an angel from heaven. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
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