If you are a Corp member (male or female), and your parents trained you through school, deep down in their hearts they are wishing you do not come back from service.


And even if they do want you to return, and are genuinely happy to have you back
After a short while, they will want nothing more than for you to pack your load, leave, and stop being a bother to them


You probably think I am talking thrash at this point... I might even have gotten you annoyed, or made you feel I have insulted your family


But you just keep reading. What I have told you is the plain truth, and the reason might not be that shocking afterall


On October 2018, a young man walked into the office of the youth pastor of his church. He just completed his NYSC July the same year. And just like most promising ex kopas, he was still searching for a job while still staying with his parents


But the past two months had been the most depressing and hectic in his life. In addition to his jobless state, the small money he had managed to save during NYSC had finished. And to crown it all, his once caring and understanding parents were nagging the hell out of him


That was what he came to discuss with his youth pastor that Sunday afternoon. The issue of his parents


***** THE COMPLAIN *****

He started narrating the story of how they had suddenly become more bossy, and how they find faults in him at the slightest provocation, at times for ridiculous reasons


For example, if he washed plates and there was any trace of food debris still on them, his mother will use the opportunity to lecture him he might as well learn how to wash plates now since he was still living with them


If he watches TV late into the night, any of his parent might use the opportunity to remind him that if he were working, he will be too tired to stay up and be watching TV by 10PM .


If he mistakenly goes out and returns even 5 mins late , his father will use the opportunity to remind him with a stern voice he is still under his roof, when he moves to his own place, he can be coming back anytime he likes


Worst of all, he has to take care lest he be seen pressing phone 'unnecessarily', if not he will be reminded of his mates trekking from office to office dropping their CVs, not withstanding the fact that he might be submitting job applications online with his phone


He also talked about how the constant nagging is getting to him, and how he is losing his self control, and how he might be forced one day to react rudely to his parents


After narrating all these, he was expecting at least some sympathy from the pastor. But what he heard was not what he expected


***** UNEXPECTED OUTBURST *****

"Young man, I feel like knocking you." Those were the pastor's first words


He continued. "You are talking about losing your self-control and reacting rudely. your parents this, your parents that. Not once have you talked about the frustration you are causing them


You think they are obligated to give you peace and respect and treat you well. You are wrong.
When they trained you through Pri & sec school and university that was when all their obligations to you ended. Whatever you want now, you must earn.


They are still feeding you and housing you at this point in your life.
Haven't they tried?


And you are here talking of loosening self control and rude reaction.
Do you know how much sacrifice it takes to train children through university as a low or middle income earner in this country?


Do you know how times your dad has been without a kobo in his pocket?


I am quite sure you do not know many times your mum has had to swallow her pride and collect beans on credit from that gossipy provision shop seller after she and your papa have struggled to pay your school fees, and your siblings' school fees, and bought you guys books


When was the last time they bought new clothes or shoes for themselves that is not okrika or low grade ready made?


Or what percentage of their salary goes towards their personal enjoyment?


Your siblings, don't you know they also have to be trained just like you were. And at this point you're are not supposed to be a burden but a relief


Young man, I guess you don't understand all this. If you did, you will not be here talking about losing self control and rude reaction


See, nobody owes you anything in this life right from the day you stepped out of university. Not your papa, not your uncle, not your elder sibling. Not even the government.


If you understood all these, you wouldn't be here. You wouldn't have wasted your 11 months of NYSC on balling or forming over-serious kopa in your ppa
(did his pastor just say balling and over-serious kopa?)


When you came back from service, what were you expecting? To be comfortably treated like a King abi? till you find that job, right?


The signs are there my boy. Your parents want you independent. They want you paying your bills. They want you out of their house being useful to yourself and your family as soon as possible


Young man, I know you have sense. Now, use that sense in your head and start mapping out strategies on how you can at least be a man of your own in the nearest future.


I will talk to some brethren and see if they have something you can start doing. But expect nothing. They too have priorities and family members to help. By the way you even came here empty handed. Where's your CV?


The whining ex-kopa was not expecting the outburst he received that day.
But he saw the sense in what his youth pastor was saying.
And man, was he glad he went to that office?


*********


Truth of the matter is, most parents are not like the ex Kopa's


But every parent will equally be as frustrated if after all the resources they have spent on their child's training for several years, all he/she has to show after service are certificates.
And one day, the frustration of such a parent will start showing one way or the other


Think about it. If you were a parent, won't you be too?


For the kopas. Nobody plans to be dependent after service


But the reality is more 80 percent than are on track to being dependent ex-kopas.


Why? When they start service, inspite of their best intentions and earlier goals...


They get too comfortable in their PPA, forgetting the rest of their lives is there to live after service

They play too safe because they don't want to risk losing their savings, or want anybody's wahala. Not the LI's, not the principal's, and definitely not the indigenes’

They wait too long to start anything. They still be feeling like new kopas five months after starting to serve

They hope and trust too much... On the promises of that uncle or overseas aunty

They over-flex, to the detriment of their future and present bank balance

They stay indoors too much. From PPA to fellowship. Fellowship to bed

They give up too soon. They feel where their location is too un-lucrative to do anything profitable


End result.
Few months to end of service, they realize they are on track to returning back to where they started. Their papa's house.


Worst of all, they will be returning jobless and business-less, with a few tens of thousands saved during the service year. Back to a state of dependence. And they can't think of much they can do to stop the rot


*****WAY OUT*****

No more long talk

Nigeria's No 1 eCom entrepreneur did an online training some months ago

In that training he explains how he gets over 5X return on his investments. While the amounts he calls might sound big. With some thinking on your part, you can scale to your financial capabilities

I know because my formerly broke Lead City University friend, let's call him AK, accidentally saw the training on my PC.


He applied the principles and put in the required work. With 33k he made over 90k in less than 4 weeks. The guy motivates me. He's a ruthless action taker


The training is FREE. Yep. FREE. You can get it now via the link on my signature


But a word of warning. It's not a get rich quick scheme, but you can get some fast consistent cash flow if you scale according to your pocket, put in the required work, and you apply what you learn there


Enjoy the training. You're just one click away. The link's on my signature


Hope it helps. Cheers!

Wow!
This is heart-touching and motivational

fernandooleku:
Wow!
This is heart-touching and motivational

Been there before. I know where the shoe pinches

In spite of my best intentions, and NYSC cucumber farm, Still found my self in my Pop's house after service...

That's in the past though. Things are different now.

Learnt that if one is to be sure of independence after service, he/she must be independent of allawee before service is over.

EJOgba:
If you are a Corp member (male or female), and your parents trained you through school, deep down in their hearts they are wishing you do not come back from service.


And even if they do want you to return, and are genuinely happy to have you back
After a short while, they will want nothing more than for you to pack your load, leave, and stop being a bother to them


You probably think I am talking thrash at this point... I might even have gotten you annoyed, or made you feel I have insulted your family


But you just keep reading. What I have told you is the plain truth, and the reason might not be that shocking afterall


On October 2018, a young man walked into the office of the youth pastor of his church. He just completed his NYSC July the same year. And just like most promising ex kopas, he was still searching for a job while still staying with his parents


But the past two months had been the most depressing and hectic in his life. In addition to his jobless state, the small money he had managed to save during NYSC had finished. And to crown it all, his once caring and understanding parents were nagging the hell out of him


That was what he came to discuss with his youth pastor that Sunday afternoon. The issue of his parents


***** THE COMPLAIN *****

He started narrating the story of how they had suddenly become more bossy, and how they find faults in him at the slightest provocation, at times for ridiculous reasons


For example, if he washed plates and there was any trace of food debris still on them, his mother will use the opportunity to lecture him he might as well learn how to wash plates now since he was still living with them


If he watches TV late into the night, any of his parent might use the opportunity to remind him that if he were working, he will be too tired to stay up and be watching TV by 10PM .


If he mistakenly goes out and returns even 5 mins late , his father will use the opportunity to remind him with a stern voice he is still under his roof, when he moves to his own place, he can be coming back anytime he likes


Worst of all, he has to take care lest he be seen pressing phone 'unnecessarily', if not he will be reminded of his mates trekking from office to office dropping their CVs, not withstanding the fact that he might be submitting job applications online with his phone


He also talked about how the constant nagging is getting to him, and how he is losing his self control, and how he might be forced one day to react rudely to his parents


After narrating all these, he was expecting at least some sympathy from the pastor. But what he heard was not what he expected


***** UNEXPECTED OUTBURST *****

"Young man, I feel like knocking you." Those were the pastor's first words


He continued. "You are talking about losing your self-control and reacting rudely. your parents this, your parents that. Not once have you talked about the frustration you are causing them


You think they are obligated to give you peace and respect and treat you well. You are wrong.
When they trained you through Pri & sec school and university that was when all their obligations to you ended. Whatever you want now, you must earn.


They are still feeding you and housing you at this point in your life.
Haven't they tried?


And you are here talking of loosening self control and rude reaction.
Do you know how much sacrifice it takes to train children through university as a low or middle income earner in this country?


Do you know how times your dad has been without a kobo in his pocket?


I am quite sure you do not know many times your mum has had to swallow her pride and collect beans on credit from that gossipy provision shop seller after she and your papa have struggled to pay your school fees, and your siblings' school fees, and bought you guys books


When was the last time they bought new clothes or shoes for themselves that is not okrika or low grade ready made?


Or what percentage of their salary goes towards their personal enjoyment?


Your siblings, don't you know they also have to be trained just like you were. And at this point you're are not supposed to be a burden but a relief


Young man, I guess you don't understand all this. If you did, you will not be here talking about losing self control and rude reaction


See, nobody owes you anything in this life right from the day you stepped out of university. Not your papa, not your uncle, not your elder sibling. Not even the government.


If you understood all these, you wouldn't be here. You wouldn't have wasted your 11 months of NYSC on balling or forming over-serious kopa in your ppa
(did his pastor just say balling and over-serious kopa?)


When you came back from service, what were you expecting? To be comfortably treated like a King abi? till you find that job, right?


The signs are there my boy. Your parents want you independent. They want you paying your bills. They want you out of their house being useful to yourself and your family as soon as possible


Young man, I know you have sense. Now, use that sense in your head and start mapping out strategies on how you can at least be a man of your own in the nearest future.


I will talk to some brethren and see if they have something you can start doing. But expect nothing. They too have priorities and family members to help. By the way you even came here empty handed. Where's your CV?


The whining ex-kopa was not expecting the outburst he received that day.
But he saw the sense in what his youth pastor was saying.
And man, was he glad he went to that office?


*********


Truth of the matter is, most parents are not like the ex Kopa's


But every parent will equally be as frustrated if after all the resources they have spent on their child's training for several years, all he/she has to show after service are certificates.
And one day, the frustration of such a parent will start showing one way or the other


Think about it. If you were a parent, won't you be too?


For the kopas. Nobody plans to be dependent after service


But the reality is more 80 percent than are on track to being dependent ex-kopas.


Why? When they start service, inspite of their best intentions and earlier goals...


They get too comfortable in their PPA, forgetting the rest of their lives is there to live after service

They play too safe because they don't want to risk losing their savings, or want anybody's wahala. Not the LI's, not the principal's, and definitely not the indigenes’

They wait too long to start anything. They still be feeling like new kopas five months after starting to serve

They hope and trust too much... On the promises of that uncle or overseas aunty

They over-flex, to the detriment of their future and present bank balance

They stay indoors too much. From PPA to fellowship. Fellowship to bed

They give up too soon. They feel where their location is too un-lucrative to do anything profitable


End result.
Few months to end of service, they realize they are on track to returning back to where they started. Their papa's house.


Worst of all, they will be returning jobless and business-less, with a few tens of thousands saved during the service year. Back to a state of dependence. And they can't think of much they can do to stop the rot


*****WAY OUT*****

No more long talk

Nigeria's No 1 eCom entrepreneur did an online training some months ago

In that training he explains how he gets over 5X return on his investments. While the amounts he calls might sound big. With some thinking on your part, you can scale to your financial capabilities

I know because my formerly broke Lead City University friend, let's call him AK, accidentally saw the training on my PC.


He applied the principles and put in the required work. With 33k he made over 90k in less than 4 weeks. The guy motivates me. He's a ruthless action taker


The training is FREE. Yep. FREE. You can get it now via the link on my signature


But a word of warning. It's not a get rich quick scheme, but you can get some fast consistent cash flow if you scale according to your pocket, put in the required work, and you apply what you learn there


Enjoy the training. You're just one click away. The link's on my signature


Hope it helps. Cheers!

This is rubbish

I dislike this post for many reasons!!!!! There is nothing like man up in the Nigerian society of today..your parents had job opportunities back then cause there were lot of vacancies and the cert wasn't that useful.i know of some persons who were employed as tea staffs in shell and today they are living large as senior staffs. What really killed us in Africa was that we were not given a chance to do what we loved to cause of the school trend... We never forced our parents to send us to school, they sent us to school cause that was the trend . School is just like a church ,not everyone that comes get delivered...,nowadays pol venture into entertainment , handy skills and football but our parents never loved any of these back then... If I have a child in future by Gods grace imma plan his /her life before 20 years. The whites do not wait before you graduate to set u up with something doing,as soon as you are born they keep money aside for college upkeep and a car used in college. The so called parents in question:would they love it if their son started doing Internet scam or something diabolical.... Sound rude and act rude to your parents if your life would change but respect them....I wish our parents were born during this century to know that moving from office to office will prove futile if u got no connect or online jobs are scams ....if u are reading this and you got a child , please plan for that child.....

Raalsalghul:
This is rubbish

Old, wise Raalsalghul, can you at least explain why this rubbish?

Or is this a case of you shutting down an opinion because you don't like or understand it?

ebuka10box:
I dislike this post for many reasons!!!!! There is nothing like man up in the Nigerian society of today..your parents had job opportunities back then cause there were lot of vacancies and the cert wasn't that useful.i know of some persons who were employed as tea staffs in shell and today they are living large as senior staffs. What really killed us in Africa was that we were not given a chance to do what we loved to cause of the school trend... We never forced our parents to send us to school, they sent us to school cause that was the trend . School is just like a church ,not everyone that comes get delivered...,nowadays pol venture into entertainment , handy skills and football but our parents never loved any of these back then... If I have a child in future by Gods grace imma plan his /her life before 20 years. The whites do not wait before you graduate to set u up with something doing,as soon as you are born they keep money aside for college upkeep and a car used in college. The so called parents in question:would they love it if their son started doing Internet scam or something diabolical.... Sound rude and act rude to your parents if your life would change but respect them....I wish our parents were born during this century to know that moving from office to office will prove futile if u got no connect or online jobs are scams ....if u are reading this and you got a child , please plan for that child.....

You raised a lot of issues I'll just respond to a few

If parents train their children through school, Pri to university, they have set them up for life. Whether or not it is the kind of "set up" the child would have loved is inconsequential in this case

I think the idea that it is only when you give someone money to start a business that's when you have "set up" that person is wrong. Formal education is also "set up"

And if anyone wants to use the excuse
"going to school is trendy" because of that his parents still owe him.. The only thing I will say is
To every mallam his kettle

And, what is "Sound rude and act rude to your parents if your life would change but respect them..."?
Can you walk right and left at the same time?