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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Ishilove: 11:44am On Mar 10, 2019 |
bdchange:I was genuinely baffled. See how the men here are saying rubbish about Nigerian women. If you look closely and investigate, you will discover that many of these diasporan men have their own issues too. Fact is there are many well brought Nigerian women, both home based and abroad. Someone who will marry a diasporan man and goes over there to change already has the propensity to, not because she has been exposed to Western feminist ideologies. You need prayer and divine guidance to weed out the wolves in sheep clothing, both male and female. All these unnecessary casting shows a high level of ignorance and bias against Nigerian women 53 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by faithfull18(f): 12:32pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
Ishilove:Thank you, read through the thread and all I did was SMH. 9 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 1:05pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
Ishilove:That is it. It's the individuals not the location or being born or raised abroad. A marriage dat won't work won't work, nothing to do with location. D stories we hear on Nairaland abt abroad Naija women showing their partners hell are only a handful. There r many successful marriages wit good humble hardworking Naija abroad women but we don't hear abt these ones on Nairaland or social media. It's the bad ones bloggers post on social media to tarnish their image. By the way , to be fair it's not a woman thing. either d man or woman can show their partners hell in the home but like u said n like i agree it's an individual thing not an abroad thing. Look at d failed marriages in Nigeria we read abt on Nairaland or women splitting from their baby daddies to become baby mammas in Nigeria. Truth is a marriage dat won't work won't work. Key is to be prayerful in order to meet ur person 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by fancy4eve(f): 1:11pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
TaminaliaCatapa:my dear u need to change ur mind set, if love is about sharing nd caring, den wox d big deal in helping out, Well I won't blame any lady dat decides to take on such decision bcus men re not worth it. Just open ur heart nd let love leads. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Ishilove: 1:48pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
Yuugen:Marital success stories is not hot news. Imagine these stories back to back on Nairaland FP- "Our love still going on strong after 3 years marriage" And "Man breaks wife's head on wedding anniversary" Or "My wife cheated on me after 3 years of marriage" Be honest. Which one would you click on first? 23 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 1:56pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
Ishilove: Gbam, gbammer, gbammest. I'm doing school ind fall. When it's time for me to settle n am looking now, am going to look for a lady here. Better to find a lady i can study n know at my reach than go to Naija n marry one pretending girl who will now come here n change it for me Ishilove:lol 5 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Ishilove: 1:58pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
Yuugen:Not by your power, not by your might, but by the grace of God 9 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Originalsly: 3:01pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
Hmmm...interesting. You need to clear your mind of certain misconceptions or you will never find what you are hoping for. Where did you get it that Americsn women expect 50:50 house chores? You need to socialize with American women ...you will learn a lot. Nigerian women that have the same misconception as you are the ones likely to have that expectation if you marry them... the ones that are likely to change when abroad. If you find a woman that will do alllll the house chores.... as is traditional.... and you chip in when you feel like..... would you also be traditional and solely be the provider?....allowing her to remain at home and not work? Then what happens if for some reason you can no longer provide? .... and she looks outside the home fornsupport?.... will that bring you back to square one?...that Nigerian women cannot be trusted?...and get caught up? 11 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 4:20pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
Yuugen: so basically you are removing the fact that environment plays a big role in marriage, so how come, Nigerian women, once abroad will start talking low by saying words like Nigerian mentality, African mentality, they will infact tell african men to leave their african mentality in africa. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 4:23pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
Ishilove: no prayer and divine guidance can weed out wolves in sheep clothing, we are not in heaven rather on earth are you trying to take away the fact that environment can also have an influence in marriage, once a woman starts listening to feminists view like it is the gospel truth, so you think it will not influence her thinking? 27 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 4:44pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
pansophist: Intelligent. Are you acidosis? |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by pansophist(m): 5:01pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 5:08pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
Its not a must u must marry a nigerian girl. Just marry whatever girl that catches ur fancy on whatever foreign country u located in. 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by dingbang(m): 5:10pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
lefulefu:lol.. No try am.. Catches your fancy.. ![]() 8 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 5:12pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
pansophist: Okay. You both possess the same writing style. |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by MissRaine69(f): 5:18pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti:Those village girls learn quick ....soon they will be packing their bags and moving out. See it often enough. |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 5:21pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
MissRaine69:He could get the one that truly loves him. |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by MissRaine69(f): 5:29pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
TaminaliaCatapa:Ok allow me to explore a few things with you here. A lot of things that are the norm in Nigeria will not apply in the west. If you both work long hours surely, you don’t expect her to do everything and what do you mean do chores “ on your own volition” how often will that manifest itself? You have to be a bit open minded here or you will forever be disappointed. Regardless of that women’s race and ethnic origin she will tire of that approach that you are seeking. It might start well, but she will interact with others and enlightenment will ensue and then you will have problems. Maybe you need to readjust a few things, be prepared to work towards some middle ground instead of “it’s a no no” there is hope for you yet. 19 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by MissRaine69(f): 5:30pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti:So it has nothing to do with the fact that he is looking for a subordinate then? 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 5:35pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
MissRaine69:No. I think he wants respect and loyalty 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by MissRaine69(f): 5:36pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
pansophist:He seeks a woman whom he does not see as a threat Even in the continents that you mention his disposition also matters. She might be “tradional” but that does not mean she has to be subservient. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by MissRaine69(f): 5:36pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti:Not from that post 5 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 5:48pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
MissRaine69: so what is wrong with seeking a woman that is not a threat, i dont know why you trying hard to change the narrative that he is looking for a slave. a woman is not a threat if she fulfills her traditional role of what it means to be feminine and a woman, no man wants a masculine woman around him 30 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 5:48pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
Still observing |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 5:49pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
Ishilove:tank uu 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 5:49pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
MissRaine69: that is what he wants and stop changing the story he wants a woman who is respectful and loyal and that is everyman dream 13 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by MissRaine69(f): 6:09pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
wetdick:Anyone else I would engage with ...not you 4 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by victorian(f): 6:21pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
wetdick: Such kind of women are not hard to come by. Treat her well with love and care , she will be loyal . Be supportive and don't make her feel less of herself , she will do same . Its not hard to locate . it depends on the kind of crowd around him. 6 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 6:29pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by rex444(m): 6:33pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
My Malaysian ex,( Punjabi) was something else tho we couldn't marry for racial reasons from her family. She was a manager in a radio station but will sweep, wash my clothes,clean toilets n bathroom but all she couldn't do was cook and I ended up teaching her how to cook African food 29 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 6:45pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
dingbang:u go do ur investigation nau ![]() ![]() |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 6:47pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
rex444:we always think our food is so difficult to cook ![]() ![]() 8 Likes |
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