Ishilove:

I was genuinely baffled. See how the men here are saying rubbish about Nigerian women. If you look closely and investigate, you will discover that many of these diasporan men have their own issues too.

Fact is there are many well brought Nigerian women, both home based and abroad. Someone who will marry a diasporan man and goes over there to change already has the propensity to, not because she has been exposed to Western feminist ideologies. You need prayer and divine guidance to weed out the wolves in sheep clothing, both male and female.

All these unnecessary casting shows a high level of ignorance and bias against Nigerian women

After their rants, they will logout and call their NIGERIAN GIRLFRIENDS. When she breaks their heart, they will still login to rant about their NIGERIAN GIRLFRIENDS.

Last last, they will marry one NIGERIAN woman. That's all

AntiBrutus:


After their rants, they will logout and call their NIGERIAN GIRLFRIENDS. When she breaks their heart, they will still login to rant about their NIGERIAN GIRLFRIENDS.

Last last, they will marry one NIGERIAN woman. That's all

#truth

pansophist:
The kind of wife you are looking for will be hard to find in the US (and the west in general). South America, Eastern Europe, Africa and Asia are places you will find women who uphold traditional female qualities and won't expect domestic input from you. As a corollary, you will be required to fulfil traditional masculine duties, especially understanding that bringing home the bacon is solely your duty.

Furthermore, any country that has undergone mainstream feminism tends to withers traditional women of which you seek, as they are looked down upon as people suffering from internalized misogyny. Women in the west generally are into career building, placing it above family. I am not married (still in my 20's), albeit, my ex-employer, friends and many Dutch people I know (I live in the Netherlands) actually prefer women from the aforementioned countries, solely for the same reasons you espouse.

so wat of those american housewives in the suburbs who wash and clean and tend for the kids while the husband is outside hustling for d daily job. See guy if op is jardon or yankee based and he comes back home with the intention of looking for a homebased wife he go jus cast himself. The only way u can get a genuine homebased wife if u are based overseas is to have a serious genuine girl while u were in naija and if u happen to port over the other side and u now settled u can get married to her and move her over with u. Any other way na yahoo yahoo naija home based chick u go get.

rex444:
My Malaysian ex,( Punjabi) was something else tho we couldn't marry for racial reasons from her family. She was a manager in a radio station but will sweep, wash my clothes,clean toilets n bathroom but all she couldn't do was cook and I ended up teaching her how to cook African food

Kuku say you're looking for a house help. Why can't you wash your clothes yourself?

hmm

MissRaine69:

Anyone else I would engage with ...not you

ooh.....scared of spitting out of your rubbish

I think I should come in,

I am not the type that throws heritage away, and I’m sure gonna pass that to my kids.

I am the type that believes should take 100% financial care of my family, I don’t care if my wife is the General Manager of world bank, if she wishes to help, fine, else, fine too.

As for chores, I believe a man is still the head, I will still take care of my kids, help bathe them, I’m a good cook and can cook almost anything. I will surely help her, I just don’t want any woman giving me verbal agreement it’s a 50:50. A friend of mine is married and when he changes diapers for the whole day today, the wife takes over the next day, failure to do so results in problems, perhaps court. I’m not looking for a slave, for those who didn’t read between the lines.

Naija girls especially those from the village are quick to throw away their values, this is disturbing. Black Americans are the worst, don’t go near them. Whites are very loyal but a single mistake may mean divorce.

It’s really hard if you are putting your future kids in consideration, to find a woman who holds our value at high esteem...

Need I say more?

TaminaliaCatapa:
I think I should come in,

I am not the type that throws heritage away, and I’m sure gonna pass that to my kids.

I am the type that believes should take 100% financial care of my family, I don’t care if my wife is the General Manager of world bank, if she wishes to help, fine, else, fine too.

As for chores, I believe a man is still the head, I will still take care of my kids, help bathe them, I’m a good cook and can cook almost anything. I will surely help her, I just don’t want any woman giving me verbal agreement it’s a 50:50. A friend of mine is married and when he changes diapers for the whole day today, the wife takes over the next day, failure to do so results in problems, perhaps court. I’m not looking for a slave, for those who didn’t read between the lines.

Naija girls especially those from the village are quick to throw away their values, this is disturbing. Black Americans are the worst, don’t go near them. Whites are very loyal but a single mistake may mean divorce.

It’s really hard if you are putting your future kids in consideration, to find a woman who holds our value at high esteem...

Need I say more?

good stuff, preach joor, being submissive as a woman does not mean slavery

lefulefu:
. The only way u can get a genuine homebased wife if u are based overseas is to have a serious genuine girl while u were in naija and if u happen to port over the other side and u now settled u can get married to her and move her over with u. Any other way na yahoo yahoo naija home based chick u go get.

You are always saying this ,does that mean their are no exceptions ?

victorian:








Such kind of women are not hard to come by.

Treat her well with love and care , she will be loyal .
Be supportive and don't make her feel less of herself , she will do same .

Its not hard to locate . it depends on the kind of crowd around him.

they are hard to come by nowadays, do you know how many men have treated their gf or wives with love and care, even boost up her self esteem, at the end of the day, she still cheated on them

Ishilove:

Kuku say you're looking for a house help. Why can't you wash your clothes yourself?

my bro, after a hard day's job that would be the least on your mind....besides na washing machine na haba

lefulefu:
we always think our food is so difficult to cook but there are foreign women wey don sabi cook our food pass anything.

no be lie, I chop nkwobi, goat meat pepper soup, all those our African food wey special, Chinese gal cook all these and you won't believe how tasty it was

wetdick:


ooh.....scared of spitting out of your rubbish

You lack the ability to have a mature and impartial discussion Wetdick. Your response just proved my point.
That’s all I have to say to you.

MissRaine69:

You lack the ability to have a mature and impartial discussion Wetdick. Your response just proved my point.
That’s all I have to say to you.

interesting, you really have an inflated sense of self-importance MissRaine69. when you write it is mature and partial when i write to counter your opinion even when you are thinking in a strange way it is immature and impartial. wonderful. i dont know what game you are trying to play here but it has failed woefully.

That's all i have to say to you.

AntiBrutus:


After their rants, they will logout and call their NIGERIAN GIRLFRIENDS. When she breaks their heart, they will still login to rant about their NIGERIAN GIRLFRIENDS.

Last last, they will marry one NIGERIAN woman. That's all

Not all men.

Ishilove:

Marital success stories is not hot news. Imagine these stories back to back on Nairaland FP-

"Our love still going on strong after 3 years marriage"

And

"Man breaks wife's head on wedding anniversary"

Or

"My wife cheated on me after 3 years of marriage"

Be honest. Which one would you click on first?

Man breaks wife's head on wedding anniversary.

UyiIredia:


Man breaks wife's head on wedding anniversary.

Dia you are

TaminaliaCatapa:
This has been worrisome abeg, I don’t like the idea of bringing any gf from Naija come marry, they mess up real bad.

The Naija girls wey dem born abroad sef, they ain’t any way different from foreigners wey go dey tell you to start sharing house chores 50:50 with dem. There is nothing bad if I do those chores in my own volition, but making it a duty for me is a no-no.

Reason why I cant marry white is obvious, the very immediate point I just made up there, some won’t even let you take your kids back to naija coz it’s shîthole

Please, if you are a
1. Naija married man in a foreign land
2. Didn’t marry here in naija but abroad

How did you get married and what type of woman is she.


Please we wanna learn

This is going to be a tough search for you bro. From experience it will be difficult finding the kind of traditional woman in a western world reason being obvious.

Your best bet will be to marry someone who has been raised in Africa and moved to the west....if you are lucky she will still have good qualities. I was lucky to find one for myself and i put a ring as soon as I saw the attributes. But they are extremely scarce bro.
You must also be ready to bend sometimes.
All the best

Twoclans:


You are always saying this ,does that mean their are no exceptions ?

my dear i used to think there are exceptions but wat my eyes have seen and wat i have heard i now doubt if dere are exceptions. If exception dey at all e go go be like two out of 2000. I remember i said a story here someone told me about a family friend colleague based in yankee. D guy come wan marry homebased then im parents look around then arrange one girl for am. The bros marry d babe carry her over to yankee. After a time then one of the guy friend who is a medical doctor and nigerian as well see d girl come dey like and they started an affair behind d guy back. The lady later divorced d guy and married d doctor and both she and doctor then moved to canada.there been stories of yankee and jandon based guys carryin a girl from the village their parents arranged for him and d guy go train her for nursing school and after the lady go become a nurse she go divorce the man and take over the man house and collect the children plus invite a younger lover to be staying with her in d house. That go surely make d man commit suicide....though some jardonite and yankee guys aint sincere demselves though.

lefulefu:

I no lie oooo I don hear stories that touches

Sylverbox:


This is going to be a tough search for you bro. From experience it will be difficult finding the kind of traditional woman in a western world reason being obvious.

Your best bet will be to marry someone who has been raised in Africa and moved to the west....if you are lucky she will still have good qualities. I was lucky to find one for myself and i put a ring as soon as I saw the attributes. But they are extremely scarce bro.
You must also be ready to bend sometimes.
All the best

You are lucky bro, all the best!
Many here don’t understand the struggle, some don’t even know what marriage entails

Sylverbox:


This is going to be a tough search for you bro. From experience it will be difficult finding the kind of traditional woman in a western world reason being obvious.

Your best bet will be to marry someone who has been raised in Africa and moved to the west....if you are lucky she will still have good qualities. I was lucky to find one for myself and i put a ring as soon as I saw the attributes. But they are extremely scarce bro.
You must also be ready to bend sometimes.
All the best

all these ones u guys are saying ladies born and bred in nigeria are traditional my guy its not all dat are traditional. My neighbour here his wife is a born and bred bini lady. She does not cook or do any domestic stuff.its her husband who does the domestic stuff and they have a 12 yr old boy that helps the man. The lady no dey enter market as well. Some nigerian guys overseas who have never stepped their foot into africa and nigeria always have this fantasy dreams about african women. African ladies don wise up. Go to some naija homes and u will see dat na man dey cook inside d kitchen in some homes while d woman dey sitting or go dey polish her nails for balcony.

lefulefu:
all these ones u guys are saying ladies born and bred in nigeria are traditional my guy its not all dat are traditional. My neighbour here his wife is a born and bred bini lady. She does not cook or do any domestic stuff.its her husband who does the domestic stuff and they have a 12 yr old boy that helps the man. The lady no dey enter market as well. Some nigerian guys overseas who have never stepped their foot into africa and nigeria always have this fantasy dreams about african women. African ladies don wise up. Go to some naija homes and u will see dat na man dey cook inside d kitchen in some homes while d woman dey sitting or go dey polish her nails for balcony.

o boy na wa ooh, i read here on NL where a mother visited her married daughter and saw the husband cooking indomie in the kitchen as breakfast, she laugh and said that our generation has changed the meaning of marriage.

this woman you are talking about is the husband and wife the same age?

Charelsz:
I no lie oooo I don hear stories that touches

there is one story i read some yrs back for nairaland frontpage. There was this guy from anambra state based in atlanta and working in a security firm. The bros come dey look for a homebased nigerian wife and im family back home come arrange one village girl for am. The guy marry d guy then train her for nursing school. Omo na wen d lady graduate and come dey work as a nurse na im she jus change am for d guy. She start to dey cheat on d guy and anytime d guy confront am dem go argue and she go call police on d guy for domestic abuse. Eventually she divorce d guy then the court order the guy to vacate im house for the lady plus make the lady get full custody of the two kids plus half of wetin im don invest also goes to d lady. This im ex wife come dey invite one younger black american guy wey come dey smash her for d house. Na so one afternoon dis guy come snap then enter im ride then drive to im former house wey dis lady dey. Nobody was at home except d lady. D bross start to dey argue with the lady and durin d argue im pull out gun then shoot her then also turned the gun on himself.omo wen i read dat story i jus weak. D bros for prevent all these heartache from happenin to him by jus dating a girl in america and gettin married to dat one instead of travelling all the way to naija to get the elusive african maiden. Afterall good nigerian girls dey yankee.

Ishilove:

Dia you are

Where I dey before

wetdick:


o boy na wa ooh, i read here on NL where a mother visited her married daughter and saw the husband cooking indomie in the kitchen as breakfast, she laugh and said that our generation has changed the meaning of marriage.

this woman you are talking about is the husband and wife the same age?

its like they are the same age or the lady might be a little older than the man. The lady sef no even dey code tinzs. She go jus dey cast man. U can imagine in d evenings while she dey balcony she go dey shout at d top of her voice tellin d man dat time to prepare dinner don reach make d man no forget to prepare the dinner and ppl go dey hear her dey laugh at d poor man. Hmm i don see tinzs ehn.

Ire2:


See face. See breast. Tufiakwa! *spit* fucking ugly piece of trash.!!! People like you don't have any place here abeg
God. See face.cray fish

How about you contribute to the discourse and leave how I look alone? I ain't complaining.

lefulefu:
all these ones u guys are saying ladies born and bred in nigeria are traditional my guy its not all dat are traditional. My neighbour here his wife is a born and bred bini lady. She does not cook or do any domestic stuff.its her husband who does the domestic stuff and they have a 12 yr old boy that helps the man. The lady no dey enter market as well. Some nigerian guys overseas who have never stepped their foot into africa and nigeria always have this fantasy dreams about african women. African ladies don wise up. Go to some naija homes and u will see dat na man dey cook inside d kitchen in some homes while d woman dey sitting or go dey polish her nails for balcony.

At least the wife get work wey she dey do bring money ba.

lefulefu:
its like they are the same or the lady might be older than the man a little. The lady sef no even dey code tinzs. She go jus dey cast man. U can imagine in d evenings while she dey balcony she go dey shout at d top of her voice tellin d man dat time to prepare dinner don reach make d man no forget to prepare the dinner and ppl go dey hear her dey laugh at d poor man. Hmm i don see tinzs ehn.

i pity for the man, that man self esteem don die already, women take advantage of nice guys in marriages and relationships

i always tell guys if you are older marry young girls 18-25 girls, do background check on her and groom her to the woman you want, leave those ladies from 26 upward to divorcees and men that are older, believe me you do not want problem or leftover baggages.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
How about you contribute to the discourse and leave how I look alone? I ain't complaining.

na d first time be dis wey i dey notice ur headlamps. Na really asset i must say.see as dem set. My friend Randy91 no dey joke with watermelons dat year.

UyiIredia:


At least the wife get work wey she dey do bring money ba.

work ke..wich work? Guy if u interact with the woman u go know say d man dey really try.