victorian:







Eeyah.

Sighs the bad ones have spoilt the good ones .

I know of one Benin girl, she's so homely , christian like dressing , very intelligent school wise , so innocent looking , i can vouch shes a virgin. She came out with first class and her dad bought a brand new Prado jeep for her . Even with the jeep shes so humble , you wouldnt know she driving such car , so respectful!!! Chai! and very dark pretty girl . mehn her type , have never seen! Her parents try in her upbringing.

First time I wanted to go against my dad wish and organize the girl for my brother to marry but my brother doesn't like dark girls , thats how we miss this girl.

So pretty and respectful .. Better girls dey o!

dwilliams:
oga Seer, Lord of the Visions,na you de see everything,
but this thread de make me fear, e get some naija girls wey I de package online and I de hope say I go com
marry dem by November then bring them over, I think I will have to thank properly, I de one of these Eastern Europe countries and blacks no de here let alone Nigerian girl, and I no like whitey girls, my thing no even de stand for them,and I no go fit de eat oyinbo food for the rest of my life if I marry dem, so na naija girl win am,right now I am so confused
quote author=lefulefu post=76538984] ehn na wetin me see i dey talk. Dere is another one outside my compound.this man is based in germany. Anytime im dey around na so im go jus dey shout at his wife dey call her ashawo.d woman no go utter one word. Na so d man go dey blow im generator 24 hrs if light no dey complain of heat. But i notice any time d man travel back to im base in germany na so d woman face go jus brighten up then she go start to dey wear all those ripped jeans and tights. Dis na woman wey dey wear wrapper oo wen im german based husband dey around. Omo some marriages dey dis life ehn.

lefulefu:

d time wey u dey naija u no get any babe at all?
i for suggest say if u be get or u even be get female friend then then and she"s still single try reconnect with any of them than just going for a total stranger.even at then risk fit still cos at that long absence she fit don get guy but she fit dey lie to u dat she"s still single so make u dey hope for relationship with her and in d process dey send her euros .but then its still better than asking ur family over in naija to search for a total stranger to marry.
lol@ lord of visions

dwilliams:
I no wan date any girl for naija for now cos de go open office for my head,I wan start relationship with them lie one month before I go enter naija but from the look of things e b like say I go sofri shoot my shot for this side besides some of my ex wey de very good to me still de alive but the spark no de again I.e that butterfly feeling, I go sofri find one eastern European the funniest thing be say majority of the Eurasian woman are far better than Nigerian women, the Turkish,Azerbaijani, Kazakhstan, Lithuanians etc

aswani:
Please sir, if you have established yourself (i.e good job, house and assets), I beg of you not to come to Naija to find a wife.
You are best of finding someone over there who knows how you have to struggle to achieve what you have.
A high proportion of women that go abroad, as a result of marraige, to an established environment are the worst behaved.
If you are not established, no wahala, take a wife and you can both struggle together to make it. If you are, your best bet is to find a woman without papers over there who will fully appreciate what she has come into having seen the other side of
things.
A word is enough for the wise, don't add yourself to the group of people that regularly tell their stories of regret.

pansophist:

No. I'm pansophist. You're welcome

wetdick:


i pity for the man, that man self esteem don die already, women take advantage of nice guys in marriages and relationships

i always tell guys if you are older marry young girls 18-25 girls, do background check on her and groom her to the woman you want, leave those ladies from 26 upward to divorcees and men that are older, believe me you do not want problem or leftover baggages.

victorian:







That's what most of the men always say .

If only u had a video camera hidden in their homes , you will definitely pity their wives and stone the men . some talk down on their wives even in public , all to destroy her self morale . While some in private , just to make her feel useless .

Some men are habitual liars . I don't believe all their stories .

Treat à good woman well, give her good sex , money , attention and care , then see if she will cheat on you. most married women are like tenants in their homes , while some loneliness wan kill them die . And the man will be wailing as if he is the best husband a woman can ever have .

I don't believe their lies .

Ugosample:



not in all cases tho

But a good number of women are suffering in their marriages in Naija especially

The truth is that naija men in general were not trained to respect WOMEN or see her needs as important

And guess who did that damage?



Their mothers

hence women are the problem of women, directly or indirectly

But that aside

things need to change

dwilliams:
is she still available, pity me I don de old

wetdick:


all these na story story, one guy i use to know when drunk one day told us a story of how he caught his wife fucking a guy on his bed, he said that he gave everything she wanted, love, money and attention but she still cheated on him, he was crying when saying it, the cry of this grown up man touched me, i have never seen a grownup man cryin my life until that day.

victorian:










You are right .

So true . Nigerian men don't appreciate women one bit , that's why women don't care anymore . but two wrongs can never make right .
But even if their mothers didn't train them well, as they grow up, don't they have compassion to treat another human being well?
I was brought up from a well off family , I was trained to see myself as very important and even the most important human being on earth . my mum pampered me like egg and I became proud and self centered , also I had fake friends around . But after my degree in the university , things happened and I retrained myself or would I say circumstances retrained me and I'm humble , selfless and very caring, all my fake friends have gone .I now have friends that are more than family to me . I can't trade them for anything in this world .

So if I retrain myself, why can't some men retrain themselves and be a better human being .

So don't entirely blame the mothers. Blame the heart of man that refuse to have compassion and reform . that's how I see it .

Ugosample:


I like your point of view

chisco82:
The truth of all these be say what goes around comes around, karma is real. Some of all these our brothers complaining here are there married either a foreign lady who gave him all the support he needed and gave him paper only for him to later divorce her to come home and marry a home breed/Nigerian woman.
They calll it smartness(nwanyi mjiiri nweta akwukwo)
After divorcing her with lame excuses of not being like African woman or not doing what african women does
You think you won’t pay for it especially when she truelly loves you and doing her best to make the marriage work, and you think God will be kind to you, oh! You forgot she’s from a different background and culture totally. So most men are really reaping what they sow.
Let know one start what he/she can not finish, marriage entered into with deception or with selfish mindset will surely crash, be ready give up somethings if you want you marriage to work out.

Ugosample:


panso how far?

Well different strokes for different folks.

In that same west, you can stilk get "feminine" women if that is what you seek

There are good and bad women everywhere.
But I will NEVER marry a woman from Nigeria sha

it's a risk I am not willing to take

pansophist:


OF course, I have always dated feminine women, women who are feminist in the truest and organic sense, not the ones men generally have a disdain for. They are also not hard to find though, one needs to know how to get them.

Unto naija women, well, many men are adopting the opinion you have, which is not a good thing. I left naija when I was a teenager, and didn't date any Nigerian women then, so I can't say. But with wetin I de see for this forum, men, if na true, then, I go avoid them as well. But in anything you do, never generalize, people come in different shapes and form, your unicorn may just be somewhere lost in the sea of your generalisations. Greetings Ugochukwu.

lefulefu:
so wat of those american housewives in the suburbs who wash and clean and tend for the kids while the husband is outside hustling for d daily job. See guy if op is jardon or yankee based and he comes back home with the intention of looking for a homebased wife he go jus cast himself. The only way u can get a genuine homebased wife if u are based overseas is to have a serious genuine girl while u were in naija and if u happen to port over the other side and u now settled u can get married to her and move her over with u. Any other way na yahoo yahoo naija home based chick u go get.

chisco82:
The truth of all these be say what goes around comes around, karma is real. Some of all these our brothers complaining here are there married either a foreign lady who gave him all the support he needed and gave him paper only for him to later divorce her to come home and marry a home breed/Nigerian woman.
They calll it smartness(nwanyi mjiiri nweta akwukwo)
After divorcing her with lame excuses of not being like African woman or not doing what african women does
You think you won’t pay for it especially when she truelly loves you and doing her best to make the marriage work, and you think God will be kind to you, oh! You forgot she’s from a different background and culture totally. So most men are really reaping what they sow.
Let know one start what he/she can not finish, marriage entered into with deception or with selfish mindset will surely crash, be ready give up somethings if you want you marriage to work out.

Ugosample:


greetings panso

remember I used the word "risk"

the risk of the women in Nigeria screwing you over is significant

And I don't blame them

the wicked society screwed them over.

dwilliams:
I no wan date any girl for naija for now cos de go open office for my head,I wan start relationship with them lie one month before I go enter naija but from the look of things e b like say I go sofri shoot my shot for this side besides some of my ex wey de very good to me still de alive but the spark no de again I.e that butterfly feeling, I go sofri find one eastern European the funniest thing be say majority of the Eurasian woman are far better than Nigerian women, the Turkish,Azerbaijani, Kazakhstan, Lithuanians etc

Ugosample:


ladies over 26 are left over baggage


are you sure you are ok?

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
What is this one feeling like? What exactly do you even have? Don't throw "Nigerian" women under d bus for your gratification. If you wanna get lost in Dem European ladies pls kindly do so and stop making it seem like only Nigerian women are the evil geniuses here.

victorian:









Lol


So u will use her , date her for years withoit marryig her then turn her into a shadow of herself abi? God forbid .

Nija man no sabi take care of woman .

Don't worry , her dad will matcmake her with one his family friends son. At least family friends can vouch for each other and for their kids .

That's why u see the rich marry the rich most times . Make their female children no suffer for man hand. And the male children no suffer for woman hand .

Marry the women around u, especially the ones UV used and dumped in the past .

victorian:











She's from which tribe ?

does tribe matter? he didnt say the tribe.

Talk true and let the devil be ashamed .

Ugosample:



not in all cases tho

But a good number of women are suffering in their marriages in Naija especially

The truth is that naija men in general were not trained to respect WOMEN or see her needs as important

And guess who did that damage?



Their mothers

hence women are the problem of women, directly or indirectly

But that aside

things need to change

wetdick:


i laugh when you write this, who train up most men, is it not their mothers, there is a reason mothers train up their boys like that sometimes, no woman will want another woman to mistreat and play with her son's heart, it is a protective mechanism.

do you know how many men are also suffering in their marriages but wont leave because of the kids or because of being brain washed by society that he should allow anything a woman does to him to slide.