Ishilove:

I was genuinely baffled. See how the men here are saying rubbish about Nigerian women. If you look closely and investigate, you will discover that many of these diasporan men have their own issues too.

Fact is there are many well brought Nigerian women, both home based and abroad. Someone who will marry a diasporan man and goes over there to change already has the propensity to, not because she has been exposed to Western feminist ideologies. You need prayer and divine guidance to weed out the wolves in sheep clothing, both male and female.

All these unnecessary casting shows a high level of ignorance and bias against Nigerian women

pansophist:
The kind of wife you are looking for will be hard to find in the US (and the west in general). South America, Eastern Europe, Africa and Asia are places you will find women who uphold traditional female qualities and won't expect domestic input from you. As a corollary, you will be required to fulfil traditional masculine duties, especially understanding that bringing home the bacon is solely your responsibility.

Furthermore, any country that has undergone mainstream feminism tends to withers traditional women of which you seek, as they are looked down upon as people suffering from internalized misogyny. Women in the west generally are into career building, placing it above family. I am not married (still in my 20's), albeit, my ex-employer, friends and many Dutch people I know (I live in the Netherlands) actually prefer women from the aforementioned countries, solely for the same reasons you espouse.

TaminaliaCatapa:
This has been worrisome abeg, I don’t like the idea of bringing any gf from Naija come marry, they mess up real bad.

The Naija girls wey dem born abroad sef, they ain’t any way different from foreigners wey go dey tell you to start sharing house chores 50:50 with dem. There is nothing bad if I do those chores in my own volition, but making it a duty for me is a no-no.

Reason why I cant marry white is obvious, the very immediate point I just made up there, some won’t even let you take your kids back to naija coz it’s shîthole

Please, if you are a
1. Naija married man in a foreign land
2. Didn’t marry here in naija but abroad

How did you get married and what type of woman is she.


Please we wanna learn

TaminaliaCatapa:
This has been worrisome abeg, I don’t like the idea of bringing any gf from Naija come marry, they mess up real bad.

The Naija girls wey dem born abroad sef, they ain’t any way different from foreigners wey go dey tell you to start sharing house chores 50:50 with dem. There is nothing bad if I do those chores in my own volition, but making it a duty for me is a no-no.

Reason why I cant marry white is obvious, the very immediate point I just made up there, some won’t even let you take your kids back to naija coz it’s shîthole

Please, if you are a
1. Naija married man in a foreign land
2. Didn’t marry here in naija but abroad

How did you get married and what type of woman is she.


Please we wanna learn

lefulefu:
its like they are the same age or the lady might be a little older than the man. The lady sef no even dey code tinzs. She go jus dey cast man. U can imagine in d evenings while she dey balcony she go dey shout at d top of her voice tellin d man dat time to prepare dinner don reach make d man no forget to prepare the dinner and ppl go dey hear her dey laugh at d poor man. Hmm i don see tinzs ehn.

Yuugen:
Plenty of gud abroad-born n abroad-raised based Nigerian women. A buddy of mine married one 30years old two years ago in Baltimore U.S, they're happily married with a baby girl now. He was turning 35 n wanted to settle down, no time for play. Raves about how a good wife she is. Am in the U.S n have met nice Naija ladies myself. My elder brother too married a Naija lady Accountant here, two kids now, lovely humble lady, calls me uncle everytime . He's in IT. Both have daily 9-5 jobs. She works longer shifts at times like during tax season. Everyone can't be bad, op, maybe u arethe problem or u better yet change ur circle to find who u looking for

wetdick:
Marry a young girl with strong nigerian traditional values that you can groom from nigeria. Submissiveness should be a top priority. You just need to search well and observe her behaviour well.

A second or third generation western born nigerian female is filled with feminist thoughts, they are very unattractive if you want a good and stable marriage

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
How about you contribute to the discourse and leave how I look alone? I ain't complaining.

BaaleOko:
The dilemma I'm facing now, I dey based in Yankee and I have pretty much achieved everything a young man can have for an ideal American dream... e remain to find wife but good women dey scarce these days( maybe the good ones are hiding, or I'm not just looking hard enough). Mumsy dey tell me make I go Naija find wife, been communicating with lots of beautiful and amazing (at least online) Naija girls back home, each time I bring up the idea of marriage and I tell them I'm in Yankee...they always seem too excited than necessary, as coded guy wey I be, I already know reasons why. I'm just too scared to take any chances cause marriage ain't no joke... I guess I'm better off just finding a Nigerian girl based here in yankee.

TaminaliaCatapa:
This has been worrisome abeg, I don’t like the idea of bringing any gf from Naija come marry, they mess up real bad.

The Naija girls wey dem born abroad sef, they ain’t any way different from foreigners wey go dey tell you to start sharing house chores 50:50 with dem. There is nothing bad if I do those chores in my own volition, but making it a duty for me is a no-no.

Reason why I cant marry white is obvious, the very immediate point I just made up there, some won’t even let you take your kids back to naija coz it’s shîthole

Please, if you are a
1. Naija married man in a foreign land
2. Didn’t marry here in naija but abroad

How did you get married and what type of woman is she.


Please we wanna learn

BaaleOko:
The dilemma I'm facing now, I dey based in Yankee and I have pretty much achieved everything a young man can have for an ideal American dream... e remain to find wife but good women dey scarce these days( maybe the good ones are hiding, or I'm not just looking hard enough). Mumsy dey tell me make I go Naija find wife, been communicating with lots of beautiful and amazing (at least online) Naija girls back home, each time I bring up the idea of marriage and I tell them I'm in Yankee...they always seem too excited than necessary, as coded guy wey I be, I already know reasons why. I'm just too scared to take any chances cause marriage ain't no joke... I guess I'm better off just finding a Nigerian girl based here in yankee.

TaminaliaCatapa:
This has been worrisome abeg, I don’t like the idea of bringing any gf from Naija come marry, they mess up real bad.

The Naija girls wey dem born abroad sef, they ain’t any way different from foreigners wey go dey tell you to start sharing house chores 50:50 with dem. There is nothing bad if I do those chores in my own volition, but making it a duty for me is a no-no.

Reason why I cant marry white is obvious, the very immediate point I just made up there, some won’t even let you take your kids back to naija coz it’s shîthole

Please, if you are a
1. Naija married man in a foreign land
2. Didn’t marry here in naija but abroad

How did you get married and what type of woman is she.


Please we wanna learn

lefulefu:
there is one story i read some yrs back for nairaland frontpage. There was this guy from anambra state based in atlanta and working in a security firm. The bros come dey look for a homebased nigerian wife and im family back home come arrange one village girl for am. The guy marry d guy then train her for nursing school. Omo na wen d lady graduate and come dey work as a nurse na im she jus change am for d guy. She start to dey cheat on d guy and anytime d guy confront am dem go argue and she go call police on d guy for domestic abuse. Eventually she divorce d guy then the court order the guy to vacate im house for the lady plus make the lady get full custody of the two kids plus half of wetin im don invest also goes to d lady. This im ex wife come dey invite one younger black american guy wey come dey smash her for d house. Na so one afternoon dis guy come snap then enter im ride then drive to im former house wey dis lady dey. Nobody was at home except d lady. D bross start to dey argue with the lady and durin d argue im pull out gun then shoot her then also turned the gun on himself.omo wen i read dat story i jus weak. D bros for prevent all these heartache from happenin to him by jus dating a girl in america and gettin married to dat one instead of travelling all the way to naija to get the elusive african maiden. Afterall good nigerian girls dey yankee.

bezimo:
If you must marry a 9ja girl and bring her over..make sure she sign a prenup..dont go and be unfortunate .

The trend of a larger percentage is that they marry..come to the abroad then discover the system over favours them and then take advantage of it..start misbehaving then divorce the man collect his property and children, leaving him with neither root nor branch..9ja girls are heavy pretenders..she will act all submissive and nice till she come there then you will see her true colours.

Even the 9ja born girls living in the abroad tend to be heavy assholess, very arrogant and proud..so they are not an option.When you look at the whole thing..you find out that black girls from other countries may just be the way forward to find level headed girls with traditional african values..

BaaleOko:
The dilemma I'm facing now, I dey based in Yankee and I have pretty much achieved everything a young man can have for an ideal American dream... e remain to find wife but good women dey scarce these days( maybe the good ones are hiding, or I'm not just looking hard enough). Mumsy dey tell me make I go Naija find wife, been communicating with lots of beautiful and amazing (at least online) Naija girls back home, each time I bring up the idea of marriage and I tell them I'm in Yankee...they always seem too excited than necessary, as coded guy wey I be, I already know reasons why. I'm just too scared to take any chances cause marriage ain't no joke... I guess I'm better off just finding a Nigerian girl based here in yankee.

chisco82:
The truth of all these be say what goes around comes around, karma is real. Some of all these our brothers complaining here are there married either a foreign lady who gave him all the support he needed and gave him paper only for him to later divorce her to come home and marry a home breed/Nigerian woman.
They calll it smartness(nwanyi mjiiri nweta akwukwo)
After divorcing her with lame excuses of not being like African woman or not doing what african women does
You think you won’t pay for it especially when she truelly loves you and doing her best to make the marriage work, and you think God will be kind to you, oh! You forgot she’s from a different background and culture totally. So most men are really reaping what they sow.
Let know one start what he/she can not finish, marriage entered into with deception or with selfish mindset will surely crash, be ready give up somethings if you want you marriage to work out.

cococandy:
Sign prenup on what?

On his house that the bank still owns?

Ignoramus

You Nairalanders are hilarious

lefulefu:
so wat of those american housewives in the suburbs who wash and clean and tend for the kids while the husband is outside hustling for d daily job. See guy if op is jardon or yankee based and he comes back home with the intention of looking for a homebased wife he go jus cast himself. The only way u can get a genuine homebased wife if u are based overseas is to have a serious genuine girl while u were in naija and if u happen to port over the other side and u now settled u can get married to her and move her over with u. Any other way na yahoo yahoo naija home based chick u go get.

dwilliams:
Black women no de where I de, just white women, help a brother please

cococandy:
Don’t You mean she took loans and went to school to better herself?

You always know the ignorant ones when they claim someone trained another adult in higher education in the USA. Especially someone who’s not earning above 6 figures.

Tuition in America is exorbitant. Most People use loans to go to school. When your naija uncle tells you he trained his wife in school, ask him to tell you the truth.

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cococandy:
Don’t You mean she took loans and went to school to better herself?

You always know the ignorant ones when they claim someone trained another adult in higher education in the USA. Especially someone who’s not earning above 6 figures.

Tuition in America is exorbitant. Most People use loans to go to school. When your naija uncle tells you he trained his wife in school, ask him to tell you the truth.

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rex444:
My Malaysian ex,( Punjabi) was something else tho we couldn't marry for racial reasons from her family. She was a manager in a radio station but will sweep, wash my clothes,clean toilets n bathroom but all she couldn't do was cook and I ended up teaching her how to cook African food