NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Thanks

Toks2008:


I'm amazed to come across such intelligent submittion on nairaland...

You have dissected everything patapata.

Most ladies in the western world are not marriageable both by their own men who are equally citizens or even guys without papers but at the end these ladies quickly blame it on papers when a guy leaves them after getting resident status through them.

There was a lady I met in U.k that has a very domineering attitude...

If she says anything and I agree it is discussion but if I show any form of disagreement she will ask us to stop the discussion....to most of them...YOUR OPPINION DOES NOT COUNT.

You dare not interject when they are talking...if you do you will hear words like.."Don't talk when I'm talking"...they know it all.

I have heard a woman abuse her husband so much that I had to check again if It was not a movie scene I heard...

In the western world, in most cases, the man is the wife and you go fear if you hear the way a 13 year old girl speaks to her own biological father n you can imagine how she will talk to her husband.

8 out of 10 western divorced ladies are the cause of their marital fiasco...dem no tell me...i don see am first hand.

Ugosample:





This guy sef


Men and women built civilisations TOGETHER

Men had their role to play, and women had theirs too.

Men protected and defended their offspring and wives, while the women nutured and took care of the offspring AND the man.

If women did not play their own role, humanity would have been done for in two generations

A lot of men like to downplay that role women played (and still play ) in the stability and preservation of civilisation

And it's because of that, the world is in big shyte today

Let us do our part, and appreciate women for doing their own part, and see how the country will be.


But belittling their own contributions have made many of them leave theirs and drag our own with us.

That is why civilisations are in hot soup today

Naija4lifeYank:
This is more than apt.
This will be my only post on Nairaland. I'm only posting so no man goes through what I went through.
I live in the US.
My marriage crashed when I came home to marry a Naija-based angel. I never planned to come home to marry. I trusted my friend's report of good behavior from his family member not knowing he knew it was all a ruse. It was a planned job.
My father died from medical complications and having lost my mom much earlier, I came home to bury him. The Naija-based lady knew I was now an orphan used all her wiles to pretend to love me. Pretended to be helping to fill the void left by my parents and I finally agreed to marry her.
I was earning well over $180,000 a year and had luxury home and luxury car.
She arrived and within 1 month, I knew I had made the mistake of my life.
She demanded a luxury SUV since I had one and I told her it didn't make any sense to have two gas-guzzlers in the home. She immediately went into a tantrum. This was someone not contributing anything to the home financially. I got her a brand new Honda Accord. She wasn't very satisfied.
She started buying clothes. Every weekend it was a bill of $600 for clothes. I told her that's not how we spend money in America, she kept going. Always complaining. That she didn't have enough clothes. She is Igbo, so I paid for all the wedding in Nigeria. her family probably contributed only her wedding dress.
So I was starting to think who is this clown that I married.
She got pregnant and then started threatening me with potentially divorce & Child support if I don't do things that make her happy.
One day I got back from work (4 months after wedding) and she had been entertaining another man in the home that I paid all the mortgage on. I knew this because somebody had used the ipad at home to view his Instagram and Facebook and forgot to sign out.
I confronted her and she denied it. She started taking calls from all manner of men from Nigeria, sometimes going to the bathroom to talk to them
Fast forward, one day she told me her cousin from Nigeria was coming to our city in Maryland and could he stay in our home. I found out that the guy was not her cousin really and shut it down. She started saying by US law the home belonged to her and her kids. I told her I had a baseball bat and if she had 10 heads, she should bring the "cousin" to come visit.
By the time she had our son, she had become a full-fledged monster. Refusing to cook, etc. I did most of the house work and had a cleaner come clean the house.
I divorced her shortly after. I had to start paying her child support until God came to my rescue and the Judge decided I was the better parent and I won custody of my son.
It was the worst experience of my life and I lost so much. Her family was in on the whole thing. I assume they were so greedy to want my home
Before anyone asks, I never cheated on her. or hit her.
She did everything those women do: she called the cops to the house during an argument. I was so worried she was going to lie about physical abuse that never happened. I lived in FEAR in my own home. NEVER going to that state of things again. I'm free now.

For those who say the wife took a loan for school, so how did you send her through school, most times you co-sponsor the loan for the wife using your credit
I'll never be married again (I'm still in my thirties) and NEVER marry a woman from Nigeria again.

AngelicBeing:
Market is good, but Jubrin Alsudani from Khartoum has inflated the price of goods and services in Sudan aka Nigeria

Dblock89:
Some many misconceptions here but seriously speaking I think many people here speak from experience and what they have actually heard or seen from afar, let me say one thing that I have learned in my life so far I just graduated from the university and I am waiting for my service in few months then my masters abroad but back then in school I dated a girl whom I thought she was the best thing that has happen to me,We dated for almost two years but towards the last year I noticed she started nagging and bringing up silly excuses for any little issue and I was always trying to make her understand that we are not perfect but I’m gonna try to be the best man for her regardless of the situation so I go out of my way to provide everything including her light bills just make sure she doesn’t lack anything but I never knew that this was a sign for me to be watchful and expect the unexpected, few weeks down I got her with a friend whose she told me is her BROTHER and SMALL BOY for her to date pants down in her apartment I practically paid for the rent(meanwhile I am not rich but always hustling in sch to pay what I need for myself cos I’m an orphan so the only thing I get from my uncle is school fees nothing more).. The truth here is that Most woman don’t know what they want and they are still good women/men out there we shouldn’t give give up and this same thing apply to married as well because a cheat will always be a cheat both being single or married and a woman who is fighting her brother and her partner would always fight you in marriage no two ways about it

Bros Bros... Well-done, you sef start husband duties for school...

I am sorry for what happened

highcollide:
Your argument is weak. Comparing nation building, scientific discovery and innovations, war fighting etc, to cooking and home cleaning done by women is stupid. Men are 99% responsible for pushing society to this level. The house chores women complain of are what they use in testing the mental status of a person in a psychiatry. If they want to know if a mad person is recovering, they tell him to do some house chores.


Feminism is hypocrisy. You want equal rights and still want to maintain the benefits of being a woman.

That's greed!

Amberon11:
Here comes the biggest hypocrite in all of nairaland. Western kids wether male of female talk to their parents anyhow they like. I've seen little boys on Maury who actually beat their moms up. Never saw a female who hit their parents. So the male kids are even more guilty in that aspect.

Secondly, you are wrong on the divorce ration. Contrary to what you cited , 8 out 10 divorce cases are actually caused by the adultery on the part of the men and we all know that western women don't tolerate bullshittt.

Divay22:

Spill it

Ugosample:


look ar another one


so to you, a woman's role in civilization is linked to just house chores.

You black folks no get sense.


The first three years of a child's life is VERY CRUCIAL

And who takes care of, and nurtures those kids to ensure that they are taken care of?

Who is the principal person responsible for the upbringing of children?

What of the emotional support?

What of many other things that they do?

Men take care of outside, the woman takes care of the inside

All the so called "inventions" would mean nothing of civilization is on the brink

But black man, or in general conservative pricks don't see it.

A woman's role to civilization building IS JUST AS IMPORTANT AS THE MEN

And you are talking of inventions, Marie curie et all were key to life saving inventions that we have today, so women tried in their own way in that dept

The intangible things women do is invaluable and we as men have to stop downplaying it

highcollide:
Where did i say it's a woman's role to clean the house? Do you have problems with comprehension?


You talk like a man plays no role in a child's formative years. Who is likely in charge of finance?
How the phrase "dead-beat dad" come about?


If you cannot have a discuss without name-calling, I will leave you to yourself.

wetdick:


western women cheat like say tomorrow no dey thanks to birth control and feminism. Most cause of divorce are cheating by women and finance

DanDeeBoss:
Bros Bros... Well-done, you sef start husband duties for school...

I am sorry for what happened

Ugosample:


don't play smart

You just like many men likr to belittle women role in the society and civilization building

how can a man who claim to have common sense say men are responsible for 99% civilisation building? ??


judge yourself, is that sensible?

Dblock89:
Thanks bro I just wanted her to be comfortable and not worried anything but it doesn’t change who I am,I believe someday I will find the right one

Yeah You'll..

wetdick:


yes it is sensible. Take your village for example. Who the huts, the footpart, who is the one hurting, who is the one farming and harvesting the farm then compare to who is the one gossiping and cooking what the man brought. Compare which role is more important

Yuugen:
no, they don't. no, it isnt. ur comments r abt western women doing this n dat. U are in Nigeria n haven't met any western woman. Keep saying what u don't know

needful:
@Cococandy, I choosed to mention you because u vividly understood the concept. I live in Canada and the truth is 70% of naija men needs brain resetting. A man will immigrate to Canada with his family, pushed the wife to go and do RN against her wish, he still wants the RN with about 3children and 12hrs shift to come back and serve his hands and foot. Is this not insane?, i dont really understand the basis upon which marriage is constituted. marriage especially Nigeria men. What I see in most of this naija men are selfishness,. Alot of peaceful families are divorcing because the man wants the wife to work full time, pay half of the Bill's and still serve him and the children. The moment you men understand that women are humans created by God as God created you people, marital issues will disappear.
To all this ones shouting my property this and that, which property do u even own, is it the one u mortgaged to pay for 25 to 30yrs? Or another one. I trained my wife in school, with whose money. Can any of you even train somebody in school single handedly without Govt loan? Mtcheww, confused Hypocrites.
And for the this olosho poster looking for a woman to enslave, continue and am sure u will find one when u are 75yrs old. Nonsense

Ugosample:


in my village of old (it's now a town somewhere in imo btw)

Women go to farm, harvest crops, store them, do many other things and even bear and raise the children

#fact

The men go to farm, defend the base from raiders (fulani herders and all) and do other things as well.

so no one is sleeping, or not contributing significantly


We built our civilisation together, but judging by the trends, it's like we are about to tear it down

Amberon11:
Honestly Nigerian men in diaspora don't desert good women. You really need to witness the kind of lives they live.

DanDeeBoss:
Actually You're right.... It's an individual thing

The emoji was only reacting to "I don't open threads containing divorce and break ups"

importantperson:
I have a sister who is ready for marriage ooo. She is 21

....You're joking, right?

Kunlegzy:

I dont use and dump. Never did and I will never. Just that light begath light.

DanDeeBoss:
....You're joking, right?

Divay22:

I don't o
It's too toxic.
I only feed on positive and good things now.

wetdick:


Amazing. Typing like dating a western woman is a status symbol. Lol.

It seems western women are so special that they dont shit piss or smell. If they are so special why is their men not marrying them? Why is their men all going to asia and eastern europe for women. Why is MGTOW very popular in western society?

gforce5:
As much as I don't really dig Nigerian women too much as they have a lot of issues, i swear that a lot of men on this forum are confused as to what they want.

Today it's "team foreign women". Tomorrow it's "Nigerian girls are the best". The following day it's "majority of Nigerian women are prostitutes". Or "Akata/foreign born and raised Nigerian women are lost". Another one is "village girls are homely and still respect our traditions". Or the latest "Don't take a village girl with you abroad as they will tear eye and dump you after everything you have done for them". I mean, make up your minds for crying out loud! Nobody is perfect.

As for you lots that are based abroad, you have to understand that you are in a foreign environment. It's important to maintain your culture in order to pass it on to the next generation but you also have to bend the rules and be flexible.

A lot of you will be chasing the pretty and flashy ones who will not easy submit instead of the average/chubby ones who would be appreciative of the attention they are getting from you. Open your minds lads.

DanDeeBoss:
Good!!!

Your Travel Plans??