khiaa:
Are you Nigerian?

omoharry:
There is something wrong somewhere with that.It not normal.

Ugosample:


some of the Muslims confirm BY CHOICE

But a culture that promotes honour killings and the subjugation and commoditization of women is not a culture worth praising or emulating

I respect cultures that ALLOW women to be feminine and "traditional" by choice, not coercion

At a family friends town in Canada, a Pakistani man (muzzie btw) killed his two daughters for coming over and partying and living the life that youths their age were living

So I will NEVER support or give kudos to such

But just likr we have in parts of northern NIGERIA
some of them are well educated have good careers and still are "traditional"
e.g. Moghalu VP candidate

That's more like it.

Jirair:

I'd like to jump in on this. Western women are also not marrying western men. It is not as if the decision is solely for the man to make. Some of us only want to get married once in our lifetime, hence it is imperative to have a hand in that choice. We are not cattles. More women are choosing to remain single because we want to wait for our person/take our time to find him. I have been single for most of my life and will continue to be until I find my person. If someone asks me to marry him and I feel he is not genuine, we are incompatible, he has questionable character, doesn't treat me well, I will thank him but decline.

tunjilana:
One once tols me she cant cook, clean or do any domestic work, that any man who marries her must get a maid...when I asked if she was willing to hustle like the man and share bills with him...she said lailai...A man must take care of his woman and bla bla bla...This crave for equality without acceptance of tge reaponsibility that comes with it, is the reason most ladies are single and lot of unions are collapsing...

Joromi12:
lol. If u want peace then u hv no business with wat he does with manhood

sharpwriter:


Yes baby

highcollide:
Your argument is weak. Comparing nation building, scientific discovery and innovations, war fighting etc, to cooking and home cleaning done by women is stupid. Men are 99% responsible for pushing society to this level. The house chores women complain of are what they use in testing the mental status of a person in a psychiatry. If they want to know if a mad person is recovering, they tell him to do some house chores.


Feminism is hypocrisy. You want equal rights and still want to maintain the benefits of being a woman.

That's greed!

cococandy:
You only know what you’ve been told. Do some research this is 2019.
Women contributed greatly to the advancement of the society. Scientifically and economically and in all spheres.

But the men tell the stories and as we know, they usually don’t regard women’s contributions.

uuzba:
Nigeria is a country with very watery values.

Boss13:


Let’s not discuss about religion here because Christianity has done far worse and still doing more damage to society. I can give you examples for you to go research. Catholic priest and young boys - does it ring a bell. That’s contemporary issue for you to go research.

I am not a Muslim but I have seen these women understanding and appreciating their feminist roles and avoiding western interference. They understand who they are and love who they are. Feminine role is also specified in the Bible if you are unaware.

What I see with western women and now young Nigeria women is they do not really know who they are. They are being deceived by Institutions, controlled by men, claiming to champion feminism.

victorian:








She's engaged ,wedding come up by June this year

Dblock89:
Some many misconceptions here but seriously speaking I think many people here speak from experience and what they have actually heard or seen from afar, let me say one thing that I have learned in my life so far I just graduated from the university and I am waiting for my service in few months then my masters abroad but back then in school I dated a girl whom I thought she was the best thing that has happen to me,We dated for almost two years but towards the last year I noticed she started nagging and bringing up silly excuses for any little issue and I was always trying to make her understand that we are not perfect but I’m gonna try to be the best man for her regardless of the situation so I go out of my way to provide everything including her light bills just make sure she doesn’t lack anything but I never knew that this was a sign for me to be watchful and expect the unexpected, few weeks down I got her with a friend whose she told me is her BROTHER and SMALL BOY for her to date pants down in her apartment I practically paid for the rent(meanwhile I am not rich but always hustling in sch to pay what I need for myself cos I’m an orphan so the only thing I get from my uncle is school fees nothing more)... The truth here is that Most woman don’t know what they want and they are still good women/men out there we shouldn’t give give up and this same thing apply to married as well because a cheat will always be a cheat both being single or married and a woman who is fighting her brother and her partner would always fight you in marriage no two ways about it

Boss13:


You are going to have problems in your marriage if you think this way

Toks2008:


And how does the word "hypocrite" correlate with my view?

Se ko re e?

victorian:














Can u imagine ?

wetdick:


western women cheat like say tomorrow no dey thanks to birth control and feminism. Most cause of divorce are cheating by women and finance

Prestigewins:



That the secret people fail to understand, any principle that is not founded on Jesus Christ will certainly fail,it becomes a game of luck n chance, a practical Christian will always behave well. Thank God for your marriage and I tape into these testimony.

wetdick:


dose of which medicine, you are talking like it is men that forms all the rules guiding women, most of the rules guiding women are made by other women not men.

lefulefu:
watery value is even manageable. We dont have any value again.

Amberon11:
You're a hypocrite because you're a misorgynist who always sides men even when they're wrong and never speak the truth.

Meliaen:


Your own marriage will not last if you think the other way.

Ugosample:


Countries developing or not have ZERO links to patriarchy

Like I said, there are patriarchal rich and poor countries
developed and underdeveloped etc

It's so many things rolled in one.

And women played A BIG ROLE too in civilizations that are stable and surviving
And here is the catch

Women are just as capable of destroying civilisations

And funny enough, the world is STILL patriarchal
even westen Europe

All the rebellion and feminism and all these is because largely, we as men failed to manage things


if there was no basis, all these movements would have died and had no base

But it's because men of the past were highly misogynist and dealt badly with women, that these movements happen.

In societies that are less misogynist

feminism lacks appeal there

in societies that women role are not belittled or commonised the way you see it here, feminism lacks appeal too.

I did volunteer work in a far flung village somewhere in Africa, feminism can NEVER sell there because they don't need it.
the womentake pride in their role as nurturers and custodian of family while the men do their bit (tho polygamy is the small minus they have)


why will they want to leave that role, and be dragging men's role with them

Mariangeles:
Speak for yourself ! I know my self worth.

Who knows the kind of women you've been rolling with... They've messed you up so bad.
This is how you know a man that has been around the estate... They have TRUST ISSUES!
THAT IS THEIR PUNISHMENT !

Chiiamaka:
I would love to get married to a Caucasian.. Tired of Y’all Nigerian men. �

It's all about choice.....No one can stop you though..

BTW I understand what you did

Ugosample:



"western influence? "
I hope you know that conservatism is still well rooted in the western world too.
You live here so you should know
that is why some states fought tooth and nail against homo marriages and all that

And yes, Muzzies will kill or deal badly with there women OF they step out of what the men have defined as "the lines"
You know it, and I know it

However, appreciating your feminity as a woman is the best
Trust me

And feminine roles are not just based on the "bible" even tho I am a Christian

even cultures that don't believe in the bible STILL hold the same values, so this is not about the bible, but nature and our inclinations


We as men have a lot of work to do with our daughters and women in our lives . We need to teach them the essence of being women, and also love them and create an atmosphere for them to thrive

treating them as second class citizens and chattel over the centuries led us to this dangerous juncture that we are tifst, and as men, we have refused to admit it.

If American men of the past were not screwing eondn over with divorce and sending them out and replacing them with younger wives, would they have been a need or basis to revise the divorce laws, which today has now caused societal upheavals? The honest answer is NO!

If women's rights were taken seriously FROM THE BEGINNING, would we be in this quagmire? NO


We caused it, now we have to leave with it.

Igbo custom is amongst the most misogynist in this country

And now the women are revolting and screwing men over (in their eyes, they are paying men back in their own coin )

That's just how it is.

We better retrace our steps

or we will be in serious trouble in the coming decades.

Chiiamaka:
I would love to get married to a Caucasian.. Tired of Y’all Nigerian men. �

Chiiamaka:
I would love to get married to a Caucasian.. Tired of Y’all Nigerian men. �

LordAdam16:


You clearly did not read or assimilate anything I typed. So it is irrelevant to respond to much of this.

That said, your last statement epitomizes the contradiction you're blind to but enthusiastically spout. Women in that rural community "take pride in their role as nurturers and custodian of family" because they can't perform the roles of men in that society. The second that village advances to a level where there are no more earthly dangers or men no longer have to exclusively perform roles critical for their survival, those women would subscribe to feminism.

That village is a patriarchy. And if they were to advance by their own means, it'd be due to that same patriarchy. It'd be men taking the political and societal decisions, allocating resources, and defending the fidelity of their social fabric.

Then when that village advances thanks to the patriarchy, the female descendants of these same women who apparently "take pride in their role as nurturers and custodians of family" would say their mothers and female ancestors had been "historically marginalized and oppressed" by the patriarchy.

And if you read my post, you'd note that, as well as where I stated that most matriarchal societies in Asia do not even make men do domestic chores. The matriarch like any patriarch also delegate women to perform these nurturing and custodial tasks.

Knowing this, I can not for the life of me understand your logic that patriarchy has ZERO links to advancement of societies. That's saying all of the decisions taken for the past 300,000 years by the overwhelming majority of homo sapien societies comprising patriarchies had NOTHING to do with our advancement from stone-wielding troglodytes to the modern day smartphone-wielding sophisticates. That is PREPOSTEROUS!

I'm not even going to waste anymore time explaining the patriarchy and introductory economics to you.

Men did not fail to manage anything. If men failed, you wouldn't be existing today. Mankind would be extinct. They did their best to the best of their ability. The females are rebelling now because they see an opening to wrestle power. If WW3 were to start today, feminism will die a natural death. There'd be no feminist asking for the number of soldiers in the war front to be 50:50. They'd stop calling nurturing unpaid labor.

Feminism is opportunism.

-Lord

Mrbigman1:


konji and age sets in Dey will be begging men for prick and marriage as if it’s 10 naira

lefulefu:
lebanese men boku for lagos nau.