It is common on social media - Facebook, WhatsApp, Twitter, Instagram etc - for people who are allegedly friends to use the word, dear, for one another.

The use of this word makes people's partners, wives, husbands, fiancees, fiances, etc, to feel uneasy and threatened. "Why would a man refer to my wife as dear?", some men would reason.

And while some people believe that people who complain that their partners are referred to as dear are insecure, others believe they are only protecting their territory.

It is a truth that too many people use the word dear recklessly. That word is a big word with a lot of importance and should not be used recklessly. Imagine calling someone's wife dear on social media for the whole world to see. Is it to prove the friendship between you are and someone else's wife is so casual and without restrictions/limitations?

Every little thing you say to someone else's wife or husband must be accompanied with dear.

"Don't forget to tell me that thing, dear".

Dear Dominique, what do you think about this?

Op I thought you were going to give us the definition of "dear" ,You disgust me

Jcole1985:
Op I thought you were going to give us the definition of "dear" ,You disgust me

Then you must be unintelligent!

Any man or woman that thinks or goes to the extent of acting negative simply because their partner was tagged "dear" is immature.

For crying out loud, what's so strong with the word "dear"? You no even talk " honey" or "darling".

austyn0:
Any man or woman that thinks or goes to the extent of acting negative simply because their partner was tagged "dear" is immature.

For crying out loud, what's so strong with the word "dear"? You no even talk " honey" or "darling".

Your opinion this is and it may not be a general consensus.

Come to SA. Women will even call you "My Love" lool.

It's just a word fogoasake

ubunja:
Come to SA. Women will even call you "My Love" lool.

It's just a word fogoasake

Not only in South Africa. It happens everywhere.

Yoruba people will say "I lor you dere"



Check my signature

Buy something for your "dere"

sholarr12:

Not only in South Africa. It happens everywhere.

I can only speak for where I am

ubunja:
I can only speak for where I am

This happens in Nigeria, too. And now, I'm speaking for where I am too.

U are only giving examples and instances. I tot U will explain better.

Actually I see it differently.

I see it as a patronizing word. It is a word to subtly make people fall under your control.

Try this...

If you have a difficult person around you, start abusing them with the word DEAR when relating with them. If they did not rebuke you, great.

In just a week, they will soften towards you and you can then manipulate and control them as you wish.

Ladies use it the most!

Most endearing words are used to make people conform to a set behavior.

Sometimes, all you need to get a woman is just to "HONEY" her to your "slaughter house".

Not many people will understand my postulations but it is cool.

Perspectives are different but do not ever "DEAR" me!

PS: Family, Husband and Wife are exemption to this theory of mine, they can "DEAR" you for eternity.

From any other person, there is an underlying message or motive especially when used repeatedly!

Cheers.

sholarr12:

This happens in Nigeria, too. And now, I'm speaking for where I am too.

okay

Prec1ous:
Actually I see it differently.

I see it as a patronizing word. It is a word to subtly make people fall under your control.

Try this...

If you have a difficult person around you, start abusing them with the word DEAR when relating with them. If they did not rebuke you, great.

In just a week, they will soften towards you and you can then manipulate and control them as you wish.

Ladies use it the most!

Most endearing words are used to make people conform to a set behavior.

Sometimes, all you need to get a woman is just to "HONEY" her to your "slaughter house".

Not many people will understand my postulations but it is cool.

Perspectives are different but do not ever "DEAR" me!

PS: Family, Husband and Wife are exemption to this theory of mine, they can "DEAR" you for eternity.

From any other person, there is an underlying message or motive especially when used repeatedly!

Cheers.

I perfectly understand this.

I usually cringe when I'm addressed with that expression especially from a stranger.

I'll be so upset if called 'dear' by a grown ass man! Damn!!

People just throw words around carelessly. I'm not your dear for fvck's sake. Jeezzz!

BLUEJAYY:
I usually cringe when I'm addressed with that word, especially from a stranger.

I'll be so upset if called 'dear' by a grown ass man! Damn!!

People just throw words around carelessly. I'm not your dear for fvck's sake. Jeezzz!

Thank you very much for this. This is exactly my point. People, these days, use certain words carelessly. What they stand to gain, I don't know.

And if one complains, one is termed "insecure".

sholarr12:

Thank you very much for this. This is exactly my point. People, these days, use certain words carelessly. What they stand to gain, I don't know.

And if one complains, one is termed "insecure".

To hell with insecure. I've always known that you use the word 'dear' to show AFFECTION for someone you are close to, like your lover, a close family member etc.

Watering down the expression and using it carelessly to address strangers(social media and real life) or in FORMAL situations like at work or with office colleagues is cringy and manipulative. Damn!

Girls do this sh1t mostly and if a guy does this too....Lord have mercy!

I thought you have something meaningful to say. To me there is nothing wrong with it.