victorian:







Eeyah.

Sighs the bad ones have spoilt the good ones .

I know of one Benin girl, she's so homely , christian like dressing , very intelligent school wise , so innocent looking , i can vouch shes a virgin. She came out with first class and her dad bought a brand new Prado jeep for her . Even with the jeep shes so humble , you wouldnt know she driving such car , so respectful!!! Chai! and very dark pretty girl . mehn her type , have never seen! Her parents try in her upbringing.

First time I wanted to go against my dad wish and organize the girl for my brother to marry but my brother doesn't like dark girls , thats how we miss this girl.

So pretty and respectful .. Better girls dey o!

BaaleOko:
The dilemma I'm facing now, I dey based in Yankee and I have pretty much achieved everything a young man can have for an ideal American dream... e remain to find wife but good women dey scarce these days( maybe the good ones are hiding, or I'm not just looking hard enough). Mumsy dey tell me make I go Naija find wife, been communicating with lots of beautiful and amazing (at least online) Naija girls back home, each time I bring up the idea of marriage and I tell them I'm in Yankee...they always seem too excited than necessary, as coded guy wey I be, I already know reasons why. I'm just too scared to take any chances cause marriage ain't no joke... I guess I'm better off just finding a Nigerian girl based here in yankee.

chymevicks:
I dey here for Sveriges, I am ripe for Marriage. I get this babe Wey I for like marry for Naija, but the urge to stabilize here dey tempt me to Marry my Oyinbo babe Wey be Swedish. What do you think?
NB:
I dey do my M.Sc for here sept (2018-september 2020) and I have till 2020 September to consolidate my stay

BlackSaints:
i will gladly pay black American woman to stay dafvck away from me your sisters are crazy they are only good at acting ghetto gaggers porn and being strippers. apart from that,nothing is in their thick head of theirs.

elonize:
if u c say she get head,marry her,not all white girls are coco
pray to God o

pansophist:


You dont convince, you cant convince someone out of his reality. He has to experience it, live it, and breathe it like air. Sadly, those men are collateral damage of how feminized society have become. They are the end result of decades of emasculation, demonising men, and the epitome of what society wants men to be, sadly, the same women who agitate for such men also do not want them either.

For this reason, it is of an absolute necessity for boys to be groomed and transformed into men. A man is made, a woman is born. Fathers, school systems, society must have systems in place to guard and lead boys through the path of masculinity. This is also a reason why ancient societies e.g the Roman empire, as mentioned earlier by lordadam16, push young boys to war, and make them undergo stuff that makes them real men, the kind of men society and women will die to have. They seems to understand this basic truth, something modern societies have tossed away. It is unheard of for men to be mgtow and incels, these men are result of society and parenting that have lost their duties to boys and grooming them into men. If dwarf men like aki and pawpaw are respected and have tall attractive wives, I see no reason why young handsome men will be mgtow and incels.

Ohidata:
....................

Another thing is the men, if you think you want to marry a woman who will be like a slave and not bate an eyelash even when you hurt/wrong her while using her as a slave, then you don't know what's coming your way - women are wiser and more empowered now. Those are the same kinda men that would want to tear to pieces men that do similar to their sisters, nieces, cousins, etc. You must love yourself as a man and in doing so, love your wife. In this love don't do things that you know would hurt her. For instance don't cheat on her no matter what - we all know women have their issues, so do men. Correct your wife with love and not with harsh words. What you wouldn't accept in marriage, make it clear during your courtship. Study a woman well before marrying her. If you genuinely love your wife you would naturally want to help her out with stuff she's doing around the house - this makes you more a man and not less like most men believe. Never, ever beat a woman, no matter the provocation - walk away and cool off. Tell her with love later on and if she's a good woman, she'll be remorseful and apologise. Don't force yourself on her sexually, she's not a machine. Women need love, care and attention. From my understanding childbirth and homemaking usually takes a heavy toll on women, so show them appreciation - they are usually tired after all the chores and just want to rest. Imagine a full time "sex machine", mother, cook, nanny, daughter-in-law, daughter and wife all in one female. Try playing all these roles as a man and you'll know that "khakhi no be leather". Compliment her; teach her if she's a bad cook and don't make fun of her (at least you knew she couldn't cook before marrying her); don't yell at her, especially in public; confide in her; gist with her; do things together and make effort to enjoy her company and allow her enjoy yours. Remember those dates that matter to her - anniversaries, birthdays, etc. Show that her opinion is important to you.............

Never, ever beat a woman, no matter the provocation - walk away and cool off. Tell her with love later on and if she's a good woman, she'll be remorseful and apologize

khiaa:



Save your money, you don't have to pay black American women to stay away from you because it's ingrained in our DNA.

elonize:
if u c say she get head,marry her,not all white girls are coco
pray to God o

Allen02:
some of them are racist

bejeria101:


Geez! Hehehe my ribs be cracking lol

khiaa:

You know what's really funny, they actually take me seriously.

bejeria101:


They really do lol. How are you doing?

khiaa:



Chymevicks, don't listen to this poster. You don't need to marry that Swedish girl, be patient and marry a Nigerian/African girl, you deserve the best for you.

You seem to be an "advocate" for African/Black ladies... I prefer dem East African and South African ladies

DanDeeBoss:
You seem to be an "advocate" for African/Black ladies... I prefer dem East African and South African ladies

khiaa:


Why wouldn't I be an advocate for black girls, I'm black. East and South African girls are black as well soooo.

Alright Just Saying

khiaa:

I'm good, cold tho.

Naija4lifeYank:
This is more than apt.
This will be my only post on Nairaland. I'm only posting so no man goes through what I went through.
I live in the US.
My marriage crashed when I came home to marry a Naija-based angel. I never planned to come home to marry. I trusted my friend's report of good behavior from his family member not knowing he knew it was all a ruse. It was a planned job.
My father died from medical complications and having lost my mom much earlier, I came home to bury him. The Naija-based lady knew I was now an orphan used all her wiles to pretend to love me. Pretended to be helping to fill the void left by my parents and I finally agreed to marry her.
I was earning well over $180,000 a year and had luxury home and luxury car.
She arrived and within 1 month, I knew I had made the mistake of my life.
She demanded a luxury SUV since I had one and I told her it didn't make any sense to have two gas-guzzlers in the home. She immediately went into a tantrum. This was someone not contributing anything to the home financially. I got her a brand new Honda Accord. She wasn't very satisfied.
She started buying clothes. Every weekend it was a bill of $600 for clothes. I told her that's not how we spend money in America, she kept going. Always complaining. That she didn't have enough clothes. She is Igbo, so I paid for all the wedding in Nigeria. her family probably contributed only her wedding dress.
So I was starting to think who is this clown that I married.
She got pregnant and then started threatening me with potentially divorce & Child support if I don't do things that make her happy.
One day I got back from work (4 months after wedding) and she had been entertaining another man in the home that I paid all the mortgage on. I knew this because somebody had used the ipad at home to view his Instagram and Facebook and forgot to sign out.
I confronted her and she denied it. She started taking calls from all manner of men from Nigeria, sometimes going to the bathroom to talk to them
Fast forward, one day she told me her cousin from Nigeria was coming to our city in Maryland and could he stay in our home. I found out that the guy was not her cousin really and shut it down. She started saying by US law the home belonged to her and her kids. I told her I had a baseball bat and if she had 10 heads, she should bring the "cousin" to come visit.
By the time she had our son, she had become a full-fledged monster. Refusing to cook, etc. I did most of the house work and had a cleaner come clean the house.
I divorced her shortly after. I had to start paying her child support until God came to my rescue and the Judge decided I was the better parent and I won custody of my son.
It was the worst experience of my life and I lost so much. Her family was in on the whole thing. I assume they were so greedy to want my home
Before anyone asks, I never cheated on her. or hit her.
She did everything those women do: she called the cops to the house during an argument. I was so worried she was going to lie about physical abuse that never happened. I lived in FEAR in my own home. NEVER going to that state of things again. I'm free now.

For those who say the wife took a loan for school, so how did you send her through school, most times you co-sponsor the loan for the wife using your credit
I'll never be married again (I'm still in my thirties) and NEVER marry a woman from Nigeria again.

LordAdam16:


It's okay to disagree.

The issue is that I don't see the basis for the disagreement because I'm not expressly saying the contributions of women to the advancement of modern society is unimportant (which is what belittling means) or negligible. I'm only saying the contributions of men are more critical.

Which I have to reiterate since you believe the patriarchy had NOTHING to do with the advancement of human society.

By no stretch of the imagination is that true.

As at when homo sapiens speciated 350+k years, a man living out of a cave with his immediate family did not go out to hunt, fend off predator, and duel and as a result get to make all the major decisions because he wanted to oppress his mate, sisters, and daughters. It was for survival and in his mind to protect them.

And men went to war throughout the ages for their land, for women, and for their children; knowing losing a war meant immediate doom for their immediate community. That's why they held all the cards. It was a responsibility only men could have handled and as is the case in much of the animal kingdom, the fittest take the spoils. That's it.

Now that men have built a global order with relative peace where people don't have to look over their shoulders all the time, not fear unexpected raids, and not carry personal weapon everywhere they go; responsibility is now being shared. So the talk of historic marginalization or how men are the enemy or how men are to blame for female rebellion is just hot crap from opportunistic c*nts.

I will not blame men for doing what they had to do to guarantee survival of the species. If women think they can do a better job, they should go settle all the ongoing conflicts. Nigerian feminists can start with the herdsmen crisis. Because it's very easy to cast blame when you didn't have to deal with the sh*t men have had to deal with for millenia.

Think of it, women did not rebel 300,000 years ago; 250,000 years ago; 200k; 100k; 50k; 20k; 5k; 3k; 2k; 1000 years ago; or 500 years ago. The moment men invented machines to eliminate manual labor and wars became infrequent as well as small scale conflicts reduced drastically; that's when they realized they had rights and men had been oppressing them.

I'm pretty sure the early homo sapien would have liked them to rebel and ask to tag along to face an 11 foot, 2000 pound short-faced bear. Now that they have to face computer screens to get paid a living wage, they're screaming 'girl power,' and you expect me to stroke their ego. Why?

-Lord

pansophist:


I no talk say dem no dey, I talk say dem de hard to find. One just needs to find them.

Besides, the reason western men ain't marrying anymore is not that there are no good wife materials, but if she decides to take you to the dry cleaner (especially with the ''no fault'' divorce law in the US), the law, the court, and the system will help her rape you, using your blood as a lubricant. It is about the system, not the individual. For example, your wife can cheat and you, abuse you and do so many horrible things, she claims divorce (with merely two words like "irreconcilable difference", and boom, lawyers, court and the system supports her decision and split your property, and rewards her for it.

ePrive:


This should expatiate.

https://twitter.com/drsue2014/status/1106162698209972224

Angela777:

Totally true. And that's why in America men willing to marry outnumber women who are the marriage material. Many women in America are in drugs, alcohol and bad behavior, many don't want even date losers and are very careful to accept to be married, financial debts and financial cheating as well many crazy addicted men are a big turn off, yet there are more men desperate to marry a woman because men need women for live better and longer (very well known statistics), it's not Africa, women in America don't need a husband for to live well or even raise the children, some just date but not marry. That's why American men bring foreign women who have no clue once she is married, he hangs his thousands and thousands of his own debts on her or is abusing her. Historically in USA and Canada there are not enough women to marry for men, specially for poor or middle class men or so called losers. That's why new male immigrants have a hard time to find an American wife, yet Nigerians are so nice talking and so attractive, some manage well but based on lies and cheating, it doesn't stay long this kind of marriage either, western women we divorce fast not tolerating cheaters and lies. That's why Nigerian Americans look back at Nigeria saying oh, Nigerian babes are submissive, hardworking and she will not object him having many women or he can fool her too. And surprise, Nigerian babes are smart and learn fast, and abandon the cheater even faster than the American women or run to cheat on Nigerian men getting all he has, house, car, etc.

Favor99:

I thought a woman can only get half of what the man owns when there’s divorce. I didn’t know the woman gets everything the man has

cococandy:
Sign prenup on what?

On his house that the bank still owns?

Ignoramus

You Nairalanders are hilarious

2buffagain:


But are you helping him pay it though?
If you later decide to Bleep him up, and the courts give you the house (which, lets face it, they will)...will they also still force him to be paying for it while he goes and lives in a basement somewhere?

There is far too much divorce rape going on out here that a man would have to be putting his balls in her hands to marry a woman without a prenup. Even if all that prenup says is "No matter what (children, lifestyle maintenance, etc), the maximum split is 50/50 of current assets with no alimony. If divorce is based on cheating, the offending spouse will suffer a penalty of XXXX"...It is STILL a much better thing to have than not having a prenup that specifically states that. There are men out here giving 65+% of past, current and future earnings to their exwife like slavery...ON TOP the fact that she actually cheated on him.

Only women have anything to gain from marriage in the west...so naturally the onus is on y'all to support the concept of marriage with emotional arguments and not factual logical ones. Abi who wants to give away their privileges?

cococandy:

Your whole post is based on the assumption that the woman doesn’t bring money or contribute anything to the family. A post based on false assumptions is already null to begin with. So no need addressing the rest of it.

Also, I can’t reply your DM. I don’t have access to that email. Say what you have to say on here.

2buffagain:


So why should she get the house? Add to that that she was the one that committed adultery....Answer logically and quit deviating.

Naija4lifeYank:
This is more than apt.
This will be my only post on Nairaland. I'm only posting so no man goes through what I went through.
I live in the US.
My marriage crashed when I came home to marry a Naija-based angel. I never planned to come home to marry. I trusted my friend's report of good behavior from his family member not knowing he knew it was all a ruse. It was a planned job.
My father died from medical complications and having lost my mom much earlier, I came home to bury him. The Naija-based lady knew I was now an orphan used all her wiles to pretend to love me. Pretended to be helping to fill the void left by my parents and I finally agreed to marry her.
I was earning well over $180,000 a year and had luxury home and luxury car.
She arrived and within 1 month, I knew I had made the mistake of my life.
She demanded a luxury SUV since I had one and I told her it didn't make any sense to have two gas-guzzlers in the home. She immediately went into a tantrum. This was someone not contributing anything to the home financially. I got her a brand new Honda Accord. She wasn't very satisfied.
She started buying clothes. Every weekend it was a bill of $600 for clothes. I told her that's not how we spend money in America, she kept going. Always complaining. That she didn't have enough clothes. She is Igbo, so I paid for all the wedding in Nigeria. her family probably contributed only her wedding dress.
So I was starting to think who is this clown that I married.
She got pregnant and then started threatening me with potentially divorce & Child support if I don't do things that make her happy.
One day I got back from work (4 months after wedding) and she had been entertaining another man in the home that I paid all the mortgage on. I knew this because somebody had used the ipad at home to view his Instagram and Facebook and forgot to sign out.
I confronted her and she denied it. She started taking calls from all manner of men from Nigeria, sometimes going to the bathroom to talk to them
Fast forward, one day she told me her cousin from Nigeria was coming to our city in Maryland and could he stay in our home. I found out that the guy was not her cousin really and shut it down. She started saying by US law the home belonged to her and her kids. I told her I had a baseball bat and if she had 10 heads, she should bring the "cousin" to come visit.
By the time she had our son, she had become a full-fledged monster. Refusing to cook, etc. I did most of the house work and had a cleaner come clean the house.
I divorced her shortly after. I had to start paying her child support until God came to my rescue and the Judge decided I was the better parent and I won custody of my son.
It was the worst experience of my life and I lost so much. Her family was in on the whole thing. I assume they were so greedy to want my home
Before anyone asks, I never cheated on her. or hit her.
She did everything those women do: she called the cops to the house during an argument. I was so worried she was going to lie about physical abuse that never happened. I lived in FEAR in my own home. NEVER going to that state of things again. I'm free now.

For those who say the wife took a loan for school, so how did you send her through school, most times you co-sponsor the loan for the wife using your credit
I'll never be married again (I'm still in my thirties) and NEVER marry a woman from Nigeria again.

cococandy:

Who said she had to get the house?

And who said she must have been the one to commit adultery?

Also why are you in my inbox?

And why are you reviving a dead topic?

So many questions. Don’t bother answering .