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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by elonize(m): 6:14am On Mar 14, 2019 |
If Benin girl n.a. d person God choose for u,ntin go stop d marriage victorian: |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by elonize(m): 6:33am On Mar 14, 2019 |
BaaleOko:if u have watched this movie disguised, don't ever tell dem u r from Yankee,tell dem u stay in a shabby place,u no get dat much, u go c how e b...if she cm dey snub u nyhow...just video chat her n wen she c wer u dey,...N.a. cry she go dey cry,lol anoda option, a Christian black or white bae is Der also,....but if u want a last long marriage, d last bus stop NATO put to God to connect u to ur eve... God's network too strong 11 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by elonize(m): 6:41am On Mar 14, 2019 |
chymevicks:if u c say she get head,marry her,not all white girls are coco pray to God o 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by khiaa(f): 9:36am On Mar 14, 2019 |
BlackSaints: Save your money, you don't have to pay black American women to stay away from you because it's ingrained in our DNA. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by khiaa(f): 9:46am On Mar 14, 2019 |
elonize: Chymevicks, don't listen to this poster. You don't need to marry that Swedish girl, be patient and marry a Nigerian/African girl, you deserve the best for you. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by hartson: 6:15pm On Mar 14, 2019 |
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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Excuzeme: 12:54am On Mar 15, 2019 |
pansophist: My opinion on this aspect pf our discussion is to TAKE PITY on men, generally. Most men do these foolish things, subconsciously and blissfully because to them, it is the right thing to do. Only a very few number of men (the blessed) are able to see beyond the veil and know that women are taking full advantage of them, in all manners possible! But then, imagine: A man that was inside a woman's Tummy, for the first nine months of its existence..... everything it knows, feels, smell, hears and consume IS FEMALE! His first life was a "female world". Even after birth, he is again tightly controlled and bonded to a woman (his Mother), through bossom suckling, feeding and warmth (by way of cuddling and carrying on the back)! Not that a baby does not feel the Dad, but we all know it is nothing compared to what it feels of the Mother! Most babies can smell their mother from afar off. Even lower animals are no-different. Dont forget that Women of today also try as much as possible, to ensure that the father does not have any "early influence" on his son, if any at all, through the Baby-mama syndrome, just as they demonize the father through the 'hate speech' they indoctrinate the children with. After those infant years, the male child is further brain-washed in school where he is told that "girls can hit you" but "boys cannot hit a girl back" yet he is immersed in confusion when told that Boys and girls are the same and interchangeable! My own son once posed the question to me in the past: if we are equal, how come she can hit me and l cant hit her back, is it not because she is weaker than me? i looked at him and just told him never to hit a girl FIRST but if a girl slaps you, please slap her harder ......and tell the teacher your Dad said you have a right to defend yourself from being attacked by anyone, boy or girl. So, Men/boys are under a very "strong influence" of the female gender, to the point of "natural hypnotism". Every Male/man, in his natural state, will naturally "defend a female/Woman" first....and that is the way it has always been, since Adam thus, it is surprising when you hear these feminist and male-haters claiming "Women are being abused or marginalized". Its a well-planned scam! But a few men (very few indeed) have been able to sit-back and examine the whole "female story" and have been able to unravel the SCAM going-on. Now, we are in an age where women (generally speaking but not all women) are in over-drive to destroy the male gender or at least, emasculate them. First they used phrases like "weaker sex", then they upgraded it to "Equality" when that did not achieve the desired result, they included "Domestic Violence" (like Men also dont suffer domestic violence?) and if you notice, they always morph that term with "Abuse of the Girl Child" and l always wonder if the"Boy Child" does not suffer abuse as well?, why single out the girl child? Now, they have cranked it to another level by wrapping it with "HISTORICAL" R@pe/sexual assault! Rape in itself or any form of sexual assault is unacceptable but it becomes dangerous in the hands of feminnist who use it as a weapon, so much so that anyone can claim they have been raped or sexually assaulted some 50yrs ago..... and the accused person suddenly becomes guilty "as charged" without any evidence to support such claim! I use to ask: Why did you not report the rape to the authorities back then, why did yo not get a Doctors report to certify the rape and collect DNA samples (BTW, DNA samples have been in collection as far back as 1950's in the Western world and as late as the 70's (50yrs ago!) in backward shit-holes like Nigeria! Why wait till your victim is rich and a VIP? Why wait ten, twenty, thirty years to make the claim? So, how come there was no evidence to prove this rapes, other than the "CLAIM" of the person making the allegation? It is even so bad that husbands who legally married their wife, (two consenting adults who know and agree that sex is part of marriage) are being charged to court for rape because the same wife says it is rape when her husband have sex with her based on her consent initially but that she "withdrew the consent mid-way"! Crazy, right? Even "ordinary contracts", when agreed to and signed, cannot be revoked at will, by one of the parties involved, without a court intervention but women have packaged that as well, into their "war on men" arsenal. When it comes to women's claim, the man is guilty except he can prove he is innocent! That is not how the law (should) works and women should not be given special preference. Its gonna take time, most mean would have to "learn by bitter experiences" and then they would realize that the war is real. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Excuzeme: 1:35am On Mar 15, 2019 |
Ohidata: You got great points but please allow me to x-ray an area of interest in your post (I am not criticizing your post, just giving an opinion). - When you call a wife, a slave machine? How do you mean? Are you defining that as a wife that the husband have sex with, say three, four times a week, every week, for how many years? I know that most men have been brainwashed by women to think that when they have sex, it is the man that is having the sex and enjoying it and the woman is doing him a favor! ABSOLUTELY WRONG! Sex is between two people, both of them derive satisfaction from it and both are satisfying the other person. When you have sex, the woman enjoys it and gets satisfaction from it. So, a man cannot make a woman a sex-machine because at the worst case scenario, they are BOTH sex machine. Infact, we all know that men tire more from sex activity (judging by the number of sex-act deaths recorded by men, as against women) and they are actually the ones that should be said to being used as a sex machine but as usual, women have a way of making men feel guilty, even after slapping them. It is also a fact that "men die earlier than women" because they are overworked by their family, especially the wife, while at the same time not giving him credit for it and claiming she is overworked with house work. Dont me do housework as well or what do you call all those DIY that men do, after a hard days work at the office (Vehicles, things not working within the house, e.t.c) or why do you think that majority of women, when it is their own birthday, they ask for Perfumes, Jewelry, Clothings or Phones but when it is their husband's birthday, they gift him with DIY Tools? Is that a fancy toy or for work and more work? Another issue you raised in that statement wherein you said : Never, ever beat a woman, no matter the provocation - walk away and cool off. Tell her with love later on and if she's a good woman, she'll be remorseful and apologize Dont know if you are married, how long or even if you have any experience with women because it is such people that say this word and mean it! In as much as l detest violence, l also believe in "Peace resulting from Justice". The problem in your statement is the "never-ever", no matter what". Yes, there are situations when you have the right to beat a woman and l have seen quite a few. Examples are women who are serially violent, such women tale delight in humiliating a man because they know their are men like you who have it wired into their brain that no matter how much a woman assault them, they should just wimp and "be the man". -Again, whether male or female, we are first humans. Even in law, "provocation" is a valid defense for murder! Yes, murder, how much more fisticuffs! I am sure some of us have seen a situation where the husband, reeling under extreme provocation, tries to escape from the house to "cool-off" as you suggested, and the woman either blocks his way or wrangle his shirt around his neck to prevent such escape or just locks him inside and dares him to touch her (You will kill me today)! What does the man do under such circumstance? Fall asleep or just faint, just to prove a nice guy? - Another scenario is say there was a collusion of vehicles on a public road, driven by a male and a female. The lady driver alights and before the other male driver could say a word, lands a heavy slap on his face! I bet you would still say "never-ever beat a woman"? Or you will probably fall into the category of men who will jump out of their car and start fighting the man immediately, without considering that fact that the woman assaulted him publicly , first" Look, it is nonsense to take that position, it may make you a 'ladies-man; (ofcourse, women love wussy men who cant see beyond the veil of their femininity which they take advantage of). It is better to start letting women know that you must not assault a man, if you dont want reprisals. It is the idea of this "never-ever beat a woman" that makes women to keep getting more brazen in assaulting men, even in open public. I have warned my wife never-ever to hit a man first, especially in public otherwise, she will have to face the consequence alone but if a man dares hit her first, then he wold realize that he has swallowed a cockroach. It seems it is we men that are the cause of most of the problems we complain about, from women. Men need to start setting the record straight and stop falling for or acting like "superman", in the face of women claiming equality. If women want to be EQUAL, they better be ready to be treated as EQUALS but if they want to be cut "slacks" due to their inherent weaknesses, then they should be ready to accept their place and role in the ecosystem of humans..... a "supportive role". 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by BlackSaints: 3:51am On Mar 15, 2019 |
khiaa:Ok |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 3:55am On Mar 15, 2019 |
elonize:some of them are racist |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 3:58am On Mar 15, 2019 |
I am home |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by elonize(m): 7:43am On Mar 15, 2019 |
Allen02:u nogo meet d racist once |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by khiaa(f): 8:39am On Mar 15, 2019 |
bejeria101: You know what's really funny, they actually take me seriously. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by bejeria101(m): 1:16pm On Mar 15, 2019 |
khiaa:They really do lol. How are you doing? |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by khiaa(f): 1:23pm On Mar 15, 2019 |
bejeria101: I'm good, cold tho. |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by DanDeeBoss(m): 1:27pm On Mar 15, 2019 |
khiaa:You seem to be an "advocate" for African/Black ladies... I prefer dem East African and South African ladies 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by khiaa(f): 1:33pm On Mar 15, 2019 |
DanDeeBoss: Why wouldn't I be an advocate for black girls, I'm black. East and South African girls are black as well soooo. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by DanDeeBoss(m): 1:38pm On Mar 15, 2019 |
khiaa:Alright Just Saying |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by bejeria101(m): 9:29pm On Mar 15, 2019 |
khiaa:Cold? The weather or are you ill? |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 10:19pm On Mar 15, 2019 |
Naija4lifeYank:this ur type of story always happen to diasporan men who are always hell bent on marrying a home based lady. I just hope other men should learn from this ur story. If u living in a western country and u want to marry a home based girl its much safer u reconnect with an ex or lost love than just telling a friend to arrangr for a girl for u. Omo its not in this buhari era dat someone should be doing such cos a lot of we nigerians in nigeria are now becoming decietful. Ur so called friend could even hook u up with one of his ex and together they will rip u off. Who dey trust friend anywayz. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by khiaa(f): 11:19pm On Mar 15, 2019 |
[quote author=bejeria101 post=76691770] Cold? The weather or are you ill?[/quote) It's the weather, it's cold and windy. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by ePrive(m): 5:03pm On Mar 17, 2019 |
LordAdam16: This should expatiate. https://twitter.com/drsue2014/status/1106162698209972224 2 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by 2buffagain(m): 3:13am On Mar 18, 2019 |
pansophist: So much this 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by LordAdam16: 7:54am On Mar 18, 2019 |
ePrive: Well, I've found a lot of folks who pursue these feminist causes are stuck in a bubble where they are unable and unwilling to entertain anything that doesn't toe their line of victim hood. -Lord 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Favor99(m): 3:13am On Mar 19, 2019 |
Angela777:I thought a woman can only get half of what the man owns when there’s divorce. I didn’t know the woman gets everything the man has 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 7:19am On Mar 19, 2019 |
Favor99:Technically half but mostly all or almost all and they get away with it in America. |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by 2buffagain(m): 8:15pm On Mar 19, 2019 |
cococandy: But are you helping him pay it though? If you later decide to Bleep him up, and the courts give you the house (which, lets face it, they will, even if you were caught cheating)...won't they also still force him to be paying for it while he goes and lives in a basement somewhere contemplating suicide? There is far too much divorce rape going on out here that a man would have to be putting his balls in her hands to marry a woman without a prenup. Even if all that prenup says is "No matter what (children, lifestyle maintenance, etc), the maximum split is 50/50 of current assets with no alimony. If divorce is based on cheating, the offending spouse will suffer a penalty of XXXX"...It is STILL a much better thing to have than not having a prenup that specifically states that. There is a man giving 65+% of past, current and future earnings to his exwife like slavery...ON TOP the fact that she actually cheated on him. She is probably legally fucking some other guy in his house tonight while he is living in some basement because he can only pay for the big house but cannot live in it. Only women have anything to gain from what they currently call marriage in these western countries...so naturally the onus is on y'all to support the concept of this marriage with emotional arguments and not factual logical ones. Abi who wants to give away their privileges? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by cococandy(f): 8:33pm On Mar 19, 2019 |
Your whole post is based on the assumption that the woman doesn’t bring money or contribute anything to the family. A post based on false assumptions is already null to begin with. So no need addressing the rest of it. Also, I can’t reply your DM. I don’t have access to that email. Say what you have to say on here. 2buffagain: |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by 2buffagain(m): 8:35pm On Mar 19, 2019 |
cococandy: So why should she get the house? Add to that that she was the one that committed adultery....Answer logically and quit deviating. |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by cococandy(f): 8:41pm On Mar 19, 2019 |
Who said she had to get the house? And who said she must have been the one to commit adultery? Also why are you in my inbox? And why are you reviving a dead topic? So many questions. Don’t bother answering . 2buffagain: |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Ishilove: 8:45pm On Mar 19, 2019 |
Naija4lifeYank:How traumatising. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by 2buffagain(m): 8:49pm On Mar 19, 2019 |
cococandy: Yup. Typical female. Not a single logical brain cell. How does "Who said she had to get the house?" correlate to the fact that I just said she got the house, yet she cheated, and me asking WHY you think she got the house. This is a real life example. I know you are not stupid so you acting stupid to avoid answering a simple question is....well, I guess...typically female. Keep deviating. We already know how your ilk reason. As to why I DM'd you, it was simply to give you small props as per Benz posing. Aunty is it yours? |
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