don't move any step further till you find her attractive.

attraction is very important n any relationship. tolerance and forgiveness works with attraction in marriage.

Yea it's true you can't have it all but also think about Adams oshiomole when he was a baby, or bola tinubu as a baby, if you will be proud to show em off as your kids then you are on the right track but Sha, consider other qualities

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TwWVolXwChk

rex444:
Yea it's true you can't have it all but also think about Adams oshiomole when he was a baby, or bola tinubu as a baby, if you will be proud to show em off as your kids then you are on the right track but Sha, consider other qualities

you will not make heaven for this savagery but on a serious note their mothers tried ooo

Op, be patient.

You get what u want later on

Follow your heart, I take God beg you.

Cause if u marry a woman who doesn't appeal to your senses facially and u are the type u like fine faces, You will get tired and frustrated. Or most times cheat in her.

don't worry you will meet your spec but u have to be patient.
I have seen angelic looking fine faced Muslim girls with OK character. Just be patient. I was in your shoes last week, I felt so sad within me cos the guy is such a nice guy but unfortunately doesn't appeal to me sexually. In fact have been in your shoes so many times but I ain't giving up. I can't marry a man who doesnt appeal to me. It's suicidal. The day I wanted to accept and my spirit was so down, I felt so sad and withdrawn just thinking about accepting him and he was planning on helping me with one of my health issues. I spoke to my pastor about how I feel. My Pastor said Vicky if your mind is not at peace with marrying this man, don't go for it. Be patient. Marriage is lifetime happiness not lifetime endurance.

Immediately pastor spoke to me, I felt as if a huge weight has been lifted off my chest. I felt so happy and my bubbly self again. Mehn I even prayed for Pastor that God will keep blessing him always for this advice. Mehn, I was so and still relieved till today. U can't even imagine.
My health issue he wants to help me with, God is now assisting me with it. My drugs are working on it and I can see changes in it as well.
So no need for me to be indebted to him and say because of his help I will marry him.


I'm not marrying him Biko. I can't be miserable all my life.
So please be patient

boma4success:
I've been praying to Allah all these while to provide me a beautiful and practicing religious sister for marriage, Alhamdulilah I met one sister recently and we became best of friends and from friendship it grew into a relationship.
But each time I'm alone, I use to ask my self, do you really love this sister and do you believe your marriage with her will last if you eventually marry her??
The truth is that this sister is quite good in all ramifications except "facial beauty" (to me).
As you read my message, you or any other reasonable human being might be wondering if "facial beauty" is enough as a yardstick to determine who one gets married to but to me it is...
And the question that keeps running on my mind is that if my love for such a decent young lady is questionable just because of "facial beauty", how then can we grow in love after marriage while she is getting old? when it is obvious that the more one gets old the more ones beauty fades away. Please enlighten me on what to do, I really don't know how to answer the questions coming from my thoughts... No badmouth plsss!
Thanks

Seek only righteousness and peity.
That's what should matter most to you. Beauty is vanity it's mostly never skin deep. If she will complete your Deen please I beg you don't let her go. As you grow old it's not her beauty that will make you love her more than yesterday, it's her character, her steadfastness to prayers, her poise, how she had brought up your children, how she constantly makes attempt to thread the path of God even when situations are bad. My brother if you see in her someone that will always have your back spiritually and emotionally don't let her go. But if you choose to let her go then let it not be because of her facial beauty.

my honest advice for u is dat

don't be deceived by facial appearance

Texman21:
you will not make heaven for this savagery but on a serious note their mothers tried ooo

hehehehehe am just stating the obvious

my honest advice for u is dat
if truly you are a Muslim and u want a true Muslim as a wife you won't go for beauty

rosululahi (SAW) teaches us what to look for in a woman before marriage number one and the most paramount thing to look for in a woman is the fear of God and good character

my bro beauty is not permanent especially in female it diminishes with age but good character and fear f God will always sustain a marriage. a world is enough for d wise

lastly every woman is beautiful, it depends on how well she is been taken cared of , when she receives good care that beauty in her will come out...

Picture or

Let her go.

Post her picture here let's see if she is truly not beautiful.

Eberechi24:
don't move any step further till you find her attractive.

attraction is very important n any relationship. tolerance and forgiveness works with attraction in marriage.

If that's your picture on your profile, I'm sorry to say U are not attractive. I wont look at you twice

Spits

boma4success:
I've been praying to Allah all these while to provide me a beautiful and practicing religious sister for marriage, Alhamdulilah I met one sister recently and we became best of friends and from friendship it grew into a relationship.
But each time I'm alone, I use to ask my self, do you really love this sister and do you believe your marriage with her will last if you eventually marry her??
The truth is that this sister is quite good in all ramifications except "facial beauty" (to me).
As you read my message, you or any other reasonable human being might be wondering if "facial beauty" is enough as a yardstick to determine who one gets married to but to me it is...
And the question that keeps running on my mind is that if my love for such a decent young lady is questionable just because of "facial beauty", how then can we grow in love after marriage while she is getting old? when it is obvious that the more one gets old the more ones beauty fades away. Please enlighten me on what to do, I really don't know how to answer the questions coming from my thoughts... No badmouth plsss!
Thanks

For the fact u are attracted to her even with out facial beauty the heart knows what it wants i dont think there is any woman that money can not make very beautiful , when i mean money i good food and favourable environment ,

Don’t marry her please!

You already have a misgiving in heart when it comes to her. You don’t go to the market and settle for what you don’t like with the hope that, you will grow to like it one day.

Release her and let her go, someone else across the street love her just the way she is, let that person have her; while you keep searching for your heart desires and I pray that you find her.

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victorian:
Op, be patient.

You get what u want later on

Follow your heart, I take God beg you.

Cause if u marry a woman who doesn't appeal to your senses facially and u are the type u like fine faces, You will get tired and frustrated. Or most times cheat in her.

don't worry you will meet your spec but u have to be patient.
I have seen angelic looking fine faced Muslim girls with OK character. Just be patient. I was in your shoes last week, I felt so sad within me cos the guy is such a nice guy but unfortunately doesn't appeal to me sexually. In fact have been in your shoes so many times but I ain't giving up. I can't marry a man who doesnt appeal to me. It's suicidal. The day I wanted to accept and my spirit was so down, I felt so sad and withdrawn just thinking about accepting him and he was planning on helping me with one of my health issues. I spoke to my pastor about how I feel. My Pastor said Vicky if your mind is not at peace with marrying this man, don't go for it. Be patient. Marriage is lifetime happiness not lifetime endurance.

Immediately pastor spoke to me, I felt as if a huge weight has been lifted off my chest. I felt so happy and my bubbly self again. Mehn I even prayed for Pastor that God will keep blessing him always for this advice. Mehn, I was so and still relieved till today. U can't even imagine.
My health issue he wants to help me with, God is now assisting me with it. My drugs are working on it and I can see changes in it as well.
So no need for me to be indebted to him and say because of his help I will marry him.


I'm not marrying him Biko. I can't be miserable all my life.
So please be patient

Victorian, I'd like to talk but I'm currenty busy. Was it not few months ago you posted on here that You have met on e fine pastor who came to preach for you in your house, and that you've fallen for him since all that you want in a man is just an handsome face. It doesnt realy matter if he's jobless, has bad character or even a rogue.He should just have a fine face. But now yu are claiming to be searching for another fine man

Is it that you're using them for rituals or what/

And seriously, when I checked ur pics, You are substandard and in fact unattractive. Dont you know an handsome man will prefer to marry a beautiful girl too. Thats why you've not married at 37

Note that this is not my advice for you.I'll post my advice for you when I reach home as I'm currently driving

alert01:




Victorian, I'd like to talk but I'm currenty busy. Was it not few months ago you posted on here that You have met on e fine pastor who came to preach for you in your house, and that you've fallen for him since all that you want in a man is just an handsome face. It doesnt realy matter if he's jobless, has bad character or even a rogue.He should just have a fine face. But now yu are claiming to be searching for another fine man

Is it that you're using them for rituals or what/

And seriously, when I checked ur pics, You are substandard and in fact unattractive. Dont you know an handsome man will prefer to marry a beautiful girl too. Thats why you've not married at 37

Note that this is not my advice for you.I'll post my advice for you when I reach home as I'm currently driving

Is that all u can come up with ?

Yawns , driving indeed. Men with cars don't even mention they are behind the wheels when they drop comments on nairaland.

Keep dreaming with your imaginary car! Ode!

I have been driving for the past 10years, till date and have never said online, Pls am driving I will reply later. Really?

And Mr radio without battery , jobless thwart! Whatever happens in my love life is none of your business and I owe no one no explanation.

And las las I can decide to be selective, it's my choice. Not yours!

Take this! Asinwin Oshi!

victorian:









Is that all u can come up with ?

Yawns , driving indeed. Men with cars don't even mention they are behind the wheels when they drop comments on nairaland.

Keep dreaming with your imaginary car! Ode!

And Mr radio without battery , jobless thwart! Whatever happens in my love life is none of your business and I owe no one no explanation.

I can decide to be selective, it's my choice. Not yours!

Take this! Asinwin Oshi!

Can you now see how you're nothing but one ugly duckling with over-hyped standard

Your rotten-ed pussy has no abode than to later marry one old man with three wives at home, and you'll be the 4th wife fighting to take the lead over the others

alert01:




Can you now see how you're nothing but one ugly duckling with over-hyped standard

Your rotten-ed pussy has no abode than to later marry one old man with three wives at home, and you'll be the 4th wife fighting to take the lead over the others

Keep dreaming it's allowed.

You are purely useless!

Listen to me,the answer is right before,from all u have said,it means u don't really love her,because for most men beauty is one of the requirement for a successful relationship,so my friend to avoid cheating later in future,follow what u really want in your heart.
Note:
Since u love good looks,I suggest u go for beautiful women.

Is Boma a Muslim name? U had better change it,u can't bear Boma n still be a Muslim

Element04:



You sound like a religious person. If so goto YouTube...search for sheikh Karim Abu zaid's short story clip on "true love". You will enjoy the short clip and perhaps bit will help u in making your decison.

[
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j40NXRNTva0] [A True Love Story ᴴᴰ ┇ Thought Provoking ┇ By Sh. Karim Abu Zaid ┇ TDR ┇ - YouTube] is good,have a look at it!

boma4success:
I've been praying to Allah all these while to provide me a beautiful and practicing religious sister for marriage, Alhamdulilah I met one sister recently and we became best of friends and from friendship it grew into a relationship.
But each time I'm alone, I use to ask my self, do you really love this sister and do you believe your marriage with her will last if you eventually marry her??
The truth is that this sister is quite good in all ramifications except "facial beauty" (to me).
As you read my message, you or any other reasonable human being might be wondering if "facial beauty" is enough as a yardstick to determine who one gets married to but to me it is...
And the question that keeps running on my mind is that if my love for such a decent young lady is questionable just because of "facial beauty", how then can we grow in love after marriage while she is getting old? when it is obvious that the more one gets old the more ones beauty fades away. Please enlighten me on what to do, I really don't know how to answer the questions coming from my thoughts... No badmouth plsss!
Thanks

I will advice you back out from the relationship since you ain't contented

Op if a beautiful face na ur spec i suggest u go for ur spec

Saffi:
You men like to go after beauty as if you can eat it.
Then later complain slay queens are too High maintenance and shallow. Well my dear friend, if you can’t bear to look at her face in the morning then do yourself a favour and let her go.

You don’t want a girl who is this and that, the number of requirements you look for in a babe constantly increases, yet your bank account numbers are constantly decreasing. Shiorrr

there are beautiful ladies who are down to earth and they dont slay and by the way who said its all instagram slayqueens dat are beautiful. Someone like Roman Goddess can u call dat one beautiful?

XhosaNostra:


Is that how you are?

I think you're just unable to think outside of yourself. It's really not that rare to find attractive women who aren't full of themselves. From observation, it's usually the not-so-attractive ones who think they're the shit, because a few desperados gassed them up to the point of believing the sun rises & sets at their command.

ahhha! U know it too. Its mostly the very ugly girls who act full of themselves while the attractive ones are down to earth but on social media ppl always castigate attractive ladies.

alert01:


If that's your picture on your profile, I'm sorry to say U are not attractive. I wont look at you twice

Spits

Do you have to say that?


I hope you are not this senseless offline too?

Saffi:
You men like to go after beauty as if you can eat it.
Then later complain slay queens are too High maintenance and shallow. Well my dear friend, if you can’t bear to look at her face in the morning then do yourself a favour and let her go.

You don’t want a girl who is this and that, the number of requirements you look for in a babe constantly increases, yet your bank account numbers are constantly decreasing. Shiorrr

So he should marry an unattractive woman ?