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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by AntiWailer: 9:35am On Mar 26, 2019 |
Give birth to your baby. Prove the baby is his with DNA Just take child support from him. DO NOT SIGN A PRENUP in desperate attempt to be married to him. If u want to sign, get a neutral lawyer to review it for you. 2 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 9:35am On Mar 26, 2019 |
Mariangeles: I know. |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by King44(m): 9:35am On Mar 26, 2019 |
CiciReally:we are not perfect, his friends and family might be responsible for his change in attitude, just do the necessary things you need to do like parental test etc n if he doesn't change u know what to do already 1 Like |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Lexusgs430: 9:37am On Mar 26, 2019 |
CiciReally: Only because of Prenup, DNA & Emotional hurt?..... ![]() |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by blackslayer: 9:37am On Mar 26, 2019 |
CiciReally: |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Lexusgs430: 9:38am On Mar 26, 2019 |
AntiWailer: Prenup is not such a bad document.......... 1 Like |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by vankaid: 9:38am On Mar 26, 2019 |
XhosaNostra:You are just being a child. And I am sure you are a guy sef. In all your so called realism you never considered her emotions and things she can possibly do to get back at the jerk that impregnated her. And you made it look like court will just tie the three of them together for 18 years just because he supplied semen and ran off. Women have more power on this kind of things if you don't know. Some joint custody is fruitless for men. All that aside, no atom of pity or empathy from you and she specially asked for it. Too many kids on nairaland. 6 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by olaolaking: 9:39am On Mar 26, 2019 |
CiciReally:As humans that we are, every reasonable man will think like him since he only has 99% chance of impregnating you. So as it is now, he is only 10% sure the baby is his and 90% sure the baby is not his. You need to prove to him. Use every means to convince him that you are with him. |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 9:39am On Mar 26, 2019 |
Opiletool: And do I care about those that called me names? Nope. The thing you're missing out here is, no amount of dilly-dallying & pity partying is going to change the situation as it is. What happened, happened. What's more important now is how she goes about it going forward, not this boohoo, emotionally-laden response you're expecting. 1 Like |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 9:40am On Mar 26, 2019 |
kristosky: Okies. |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Elliot2(m): 9:40am On Mar 26, 2019 |
dingbang:lol. baba hwfa n |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Funkybabee(f): 9:41am On Mar 26, 2019 |
You don't want to accept your beating for refusing to give brith to that child before eh, as if you are not a human. Follow his instructions and take care of that damsel inside you because he ain't concern about both of your drama biko he need peace.. The world is sweet jare. |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 9:41am On Mar 26, 2019 |
vankaid: Ugh! Getting emotional solves zilch. 1 Like |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by PRINCEVICKEY: 9:44am On Mar 26, 2019 |
Babe...am a man, buh i will tell u the simple truth......when doctor tells u any medical disability, is very hard to believe it changes overnight,expecially WHITE PEOPLE who dont really believe in God work ...firstly dis guy might just wanna scare u wt that ailment,so that u will never come and tell him anyday that u r pregnant ,just wanna make a fvck mate ....how are u so sure he is not married in his country ...and it might be otherwise....however......the guy in question might think u really wanna deep in his money because is a white man ........ believing thats hw all black people do ... i wanna assure u that his sudden change in behaviour is actually been taught by Nigerians....u dont need to stress ursef... requesting for DNA is even much and prenup is even bad cos he have never mentioned that too u before ...if truly is the real father...been a German ..even a blind man will know...put ursef together and summon courage ... pray for safe delivery ...when u give birth he will be the one running after u and begging ,when he sees the child.ONLY IF IS THE FATHER ... u will thank me later. CiciReally: |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by sharpchap: 9:47am On Mar 26, 2019 |
I know you have emotions, but what are we doing with them? DNA yes, pre-nup maybe. |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by austyn0(m): 9:49am On Mar 26, 2019 |
XhosaNostra:I was about walking into a ditch with my thoughts before you drew me back with this. I am deeply impressed. Truly, she shouldn't allow that child grow up fatherless, she shouldn't bring that child into the bad mistakes they both made in life. It wasn't the child that requested she continue raw sex with the man despite knowing he is not 100% impotent. Whatever that happened between them should stay between them and allow the Innocent child know both his/her parents. Nice one dear 2 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Babaken(m): 9:49am On Mar 26, 2019 |
Don't blame the man too much cuz what is happening in the world now just be strong if you are very sure he is responsible for the pregnancy you will smile at the end. |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by eyinjuege: 9:49am On Mar 26, 2019 |
CiciReally: He didn't treat you well. However, that doesn't mean he will be a terrible father. the child is his according to you. A child needs a father who is responsible and will be there for him. As per him having doubts, I don't blame him. what are the chances of him impregnating a woman? He says he has an infertility condition (Or perhaps he had a vasectomy?) and he is more or less infertile and then someone comes with a pregnancy? He's human and just normal for him to have doubts about the paternity. DNA is a sensible approach in this case. Don't take offence. Do DNA after birth, let him pay his end of child support and let him have access to his child 2 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Opiletool(m): 9:52am On Mar 26, 2019 |
XhosaNostra: Let me tell you something, I also find it difficult to filter my words. As a matter of fact, most people know me for being so direct, regardless of the recipient's emotional state. But, there is a thin line between being firm and being insensitive. I got to realise that and started analysing the emotional state of a situation before giving my thought. Not because I don't want to be harsh, but because of the likely outcome which might be devastating for the victim. The advice you gave is not far from the truth, it is infact the outright reality. However, the way you gave it, is a bit too harsh for someone in such a delicate position. Just imagine every comment on this thread is like that, who knows if the op is suicidal? Considering the fact that people now find it easy to take their own lives. Please, look at the emotional state of a subject before dishing out your opinion, hence, the harshness might erode the reality you're trying to portray. 6 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by austyn0(m): 9:53am On Mar 26, 2019 |
CiciReally:Naturally, it may seem like it is not your fault that a man that seemed like an Angel suddenly turned devil, there is no how you would have seen it coming but it is your fault that you were dearth of the fact that PEOPLE CHANGE. You should have considered using birth preventive methods while you were with the knowledge he is not 100% infertile. 1 Like |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by imitateMe(m): 9:55am On Mar 26, 2019 |
dingbang:I don dey reason am sef |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 9:57am On Mar 26, 2019 |
austyn0: I'm glad someone else gets it. Others seem focused on playing the little violin for her, instead of focusing on the bigger picture. Because the moment she pops out that baby, the rules will change & it's up to her to play it smart by not letting her emotions get the best of her. He could use that to his advantage in the court system, where emotions count for fuckall. 2 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by bossrillboss: 9:58am On Mar 26, 2019 |
dingbang:..Walahi u b wereee
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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by princeFAD: 9:59am On Mar 26, 2019 |
@op. Your story is touching and I can't imagine the kind of hurt your heart is going through now. But pls, mind the kind of advice you will take on this forum. You are in Germany where the rules of law are to be abide with. Most of the people advising you to cut him completely and not to give him access to the baby when he/she arrives are advising based on Nigeria's mentality. Please be careful. As few have pointed to, the guy may not be sure that he is the one responsible for the pregnancy due to his infertility condition. Hence behaving the way he is now. My advice is for you to be patient pls. Endure the remaining months to delivery and after delivery let him do the DNA test and you can then evaluate his behaviour after the DNA confirmation. And if he decides not to be responsible, I can assure you that as a single mother, you will get the financial support you need from German government through their social service. 2 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by austyn0(m): 9:59am On Mar 26, 2019 |
Opiletool:Yeah.. Nice advice. |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Preshy561(f): 9:59am On Mar 26, 2019 |
XhosaNostra:Thought you used to have sense. You are very insensitive and irrational. Wicked thing. 3 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by lomprico(m): 9:59am On Mar 26, 2019 |
XhosaNostra: Because you are bitter. Jealousy is written all over your comment. 3 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Chuks9000: 10:00am On Mar 26, 2019 |
XhosaNostra:I don't know why you are beefing her. I feel her. She wanted a D&C, the boo said no and promised heaven and earth. The least he could do us to offset the medical bills. That was the oral agreement the court will be interested in. 2 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Omoge87(f): 10:00am On Mar 26, 2019 |
ghettochild4u: Exactly this. He cannot get full custody at all unless the mother is deemed totally unfit to care for the child and even that will be after a series of assessments by social services and mental health services. In the West children are not taking away from the mothers anyhow. This is the West not Nigeria. Mothers usually get sole custody without issues - at most they can apply for joint custody if it gets to that. I totally feel sorry for you. It’s annoying. Who knows if he even tricked you and lied about his so - called infertility. Did he tell you on what medical grounds he was infertile or was it just a means for him to be having unprotected sex with you? He claims he is 90% infertile so has he forgotten the other 10% that can father a child? Or has he suddenly become 100% infertile as the pregnancy progresses. It’s annoying because you didn’t even want to carry the pregnancy in the first place, but he begged you and now you are stuck with something you didn’t want to begin with, while the person who wanted it has now backed out. That itself is enough to anger you. It’s a pity - when the child is born and he is proven to be the father he will now start playing the role of dutiful father along with his family that have treated you like poo during the pregnancy. You don’t have to be with him - as he has shown you what type of human being he is. He does not trust you. However, the innocent child deserves both parents as they did not ask to be born. You can easily co-parent without marrying him. 3 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by austyn0(m): 10:02am On Mar 26, 2019 |
XhosaNostra:For a moment, after reading the Op's story. My thoughts were centered on how heartless some men can be and why he doesn't deserve to be a father to that child if what Op narrated was true but then you reminded me of the heart of the Innocent child. That aside, I just read your contribution over again, it was harsh towards the end. Just try and be more pitiful next time. 2 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by sojayy(m): 10:07am On Mar 26, 2019 |
dingbang: U badt ! |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by atakamus: 10:07am On Mar 26, 2019 |
Women and their fish brain. A guy told you he is 90%sure of not fathering a child. Your mind did not consider the 10% possibility of him getting you prego. You widened you leg for him to be hitting you day and night. Now your crying in Nairaland. Abeg commot for here. |
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