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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Nobody: 11:14am On Mar 26, 2019 |
Op, the reason why you are going through all these is because your relationship with him was never clearly defined. And now, it has dawned on you that the person you have been having sex with is an irresponsible person. Infact, even you were irresponsible at some point to be sleeping with an irresponsible person without taking precautions having in mind the 10% of his fertility. Then you wanted to abort the innocent child on top of that. Even in doubt, for the sake of humanity and the history you both had, he would have just decided to at least be there for you and the unborn child till you put to birth. If after birthing the child, a DNA test is conducted and the child is not his, he can back off and no one would fault him. But instead, he is talking about prenup, DNA all at once on a proposed marriage with an already faulty foundation. How will that work? He is not even supportive in any way. My advice to you is to birth your baby peacefully with without any of all these drama. Have a DNA after birthing to satisfy his curiosity. You would have a stronger case in court because no one would give sole custody to any man that could not own up to his responsibility as the father of an unborn child. Highest he can get are visitation rights if a miracle happens. But the court will ensure he provides for the child. Good luck. 2 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 11:15am On Mar 26, 2019 |
Kagd10: Hahaha. Here comes Dr Dre PhD, your in-house armchair psychologist ![]() |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Kagd10: 11:18am On Mar 26, 2019 |
XhosaNostra: You know it's the truth. You're a miserable sadist. The old witch in the "sugar girl" story. |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by mabliss(f): 11:18am On Mar 26, 2019 |
XhosaNostra: U r annoying...am sure ur a guy, dts y ur talking lyk dt... 2 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 11:20am On Mar 26, 2019 |
Kagd10: OK. Now what? |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 11:21am On Mar 26, 2019 |
mabliss: And your opinion of me should matter to me because? 1 Like |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Kagd10: 11:21am On Mar 26, 2019 |
XhosaNostra: At least you know. Go help your miserable life and stop projecting it to others. Yeye dey smell. 2 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 11:23am On Mar 26, 2019 |
Kagd10: Nope. |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by mabliss(f): 11:23am On Mar 26, 2019 |
placeofallure: wow...dis is a reasonable comment, unlike some pple...I love ur advise jare and I second wot u sed... 1 Like |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Kagd10: 11:24am On Mar 26, 2019 |
XhosaNostra: I have given your miserable life the exciting attention it craves, now run back to your cave. Sadist. |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 11:26am On Mar 26, 2019 |
Kagd10: Nope. Not gonna happen. 1 Like |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Nobody: 11:30am On Mar 26, 2019 |
XhosaNostra:Can you just shut it?! You sound like a sociopath. You'd better put that your lousy mouth on a leash. 2 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by alphaNomega: 11:32am On Mar 26, 2019 |
CiciReally: You see, his behaviour shows he is a right thinking man. Asking for pre-nup and DNA test is the right thing to do. It will only butress your claim to the fact that the child is his. You feel bad because you don't think he trusts you. Do not worry, your man has done fertility tests and knows it is highly unlikely (not impossible) for him to father a child naturally. He only wants to believe what you tell him and is not ready to take your word for it. Even if he trusts you, he has to be very sure. Trust is a strong word. Trust, but verify. 1 Like |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 11:32am On Mar 26, 2019 |
gensteejay: No. |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Nobody: 11:37am On Mar 26, 2019 |
XhosaNostra:You can see that a number of commenters here have railed against your insensitive and jarring submissions on this issue. It's time you considered a change of attitude and treated this sort of problems humanely. 1 Like |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by mabliss(f): 11:41am On Mar 26, 2019 |
XhosaNostra: oh my God, is dis fellow a human being, I sincerely doubt it...na wa o...weda dey r married or nt, as far as d pregnancy is his, a responsible man should take care of d woman because he put d tin there... 2 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 11:41am On Mar 26, 2019 |
gensteejay: No, that may be what the majority of the commenters are here for, but that doesn't mean I should change my view of things to fit public opinion. That's not how I roll. You don't like my input, tough. There's the scroll button, use it! 2 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by pillarmaria(m): 11:41am On Mar 26, 2019 |
CiciReally: So he attended a church and God answered his prayers to fornicate and impregnate you? where is our religious moral? back to your topic, I will advice you lie low for now and don't deny your child the privilege of accessing his dad's care and love. Remain calm with the said boyfriend until the DNA is confirmed. Emotional pain isn't a bad result for the Sin of Formication. 1 Like |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 11:42am On Mar 26, 2019 |
mabliss: He's doubtful, so there's also that or did you miss that part? |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by mabliss(f): 11:48am On Mar 26, 2019 |
austyn0: obongos...birds of d same feather |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Omoge87(f): 11:55am On Mar 26, 2019 |
XhosaNostra: The problem is why did he become doubtful when she got to the 7th month of pregnancy. She told him the news he was excited. Month 1 went by, month 2 went by, month 3, month 4, month 5, month 6 and then got to month 7 and now he is expressing doubts. Why did he not express those doubts from the moment she told him of the pregnancy? She would have gotten rid of it had he done that, rather than convince her, only to back out later. What all of a sudden triggered his doubts? With just 2 months left to go before the baby is born. He was happy and supportive prior. (Please note I am not an advocate of abortion) From her story... I feel this is one of the things angering her the most. I don’t want to say he did 419 on her- she should also shoulder responsibility in this. Just like he doubts her now. She too should have doubted his infertility and used contraception. I am a Qualified Midwife- if you know how many women lie to men that they can’t have children or that they are on contraception when they are not - it’s shockingly shocking. If women can do it. Then men can do it too. He must have hoped there was a slight chance he would get this lady pregnant, hence going for deliverance up and down and the unprotected sex. And now she is... 7 months down the line he just remembered he is 90% infertile. Also everyone is assuming this man is white. I do not know many white men that go for deliverance up and down. A White man would go the medical route before going on his knees to the altar. This man may be a Nigerian man- who is simply a German citizen. White men look after children that are not theirs all the time ... Nigerian men don’t. I may be wrong ooo and OP if I am please correct me. 2 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Nobody: 11:58am On Mar 26, 2019 |
CunnyLinguist: @CunnyLinguist thanks much dear |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 11:59am On Mar 26, 2019 |
Omoge87: Shit happens. Oh well. |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by pchukwudi: 12:17pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
That's nonsense. He has ZERO right to the child of a woman he was NOT legally married to. In fact, in my place, some families won't accept the bride price if they discover that their daughter is pregnant. And if the man chooses to pay the dowry after the woman's child birth, he'd be reminded that though he's allowed custody of the child (through his wife), the baby belongs to his father in-law - not him. Though some people may not want to enforce this tradition after the bride price is paid, you cannot claim the fatherhood of your woman's baby without paying her dowry. There's a reason why marriage is called a legal contract. XhosaNostra: |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 12:18pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
pchukwudi: That's not how the law works. He has every right to be in his child's life. 1 Like |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by BlackPantherCri: 12:20pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
CiciReally: 90% chance cannot father a child. What happened to the other 10%. All it takes is One sperm. No need to act wicked. Just have the baby, do the DNA and continue your life together if any. If not raise your bundle of joy alone. There is no shame or crime. God will reward you 1 Like |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by pchukwudi: 12:21pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
Which law are you referring to? Can you cite some examples of laws that recognize paternal rights to a child outside a validly constituted or legally dissolved marriage contract? XhosaNostra: |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Omoge87(f): 12:24pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
pchukwudi: In fact in the UK - if a man and woman are not married - and they want to register the baby’s birth for the birth certificate- the father has to accompany the mother for his name to be put on the birth certificate ooo. If the mother does not agree his name won’t be on that birth certificate. If they are married only one has to go and register the child - providing they have their marriage certificate as proof of their union. If single both have to go. It also protects the rights of the man -because once a name is on the birth certificate he is liable for any child support payments. 2 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 12:24pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
pchukwudi: Western law or whatever you wanna call it. She's in his territory, so she better abide by the rules of the country in which she's living & not some customary laws from her village. 2 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by atakamus: 12:27pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
Fish brain women. Go and seat down. You widened your leg for a German. Was he not ejaculating? You dey crase? |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by pchukwudi: 12:27pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
It's a basic stuff based on common sense. Don't mind the kids who flood Nairaland to issue "professional" advice after watching too many fairy tale movies. Omoge87: |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by pchukwudi: 12:28pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
Can you post a link to that "western law" you talk about? XhosaNostra: |
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