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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 12:39pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
pchukwudi: Sigh. Google child custody. https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://www.divorcelaws.co.za/unmarried-parents-and-the-law.html&ved=2ahUKEwiVx9zi25_hAhVCtHEKHSKZCioQFjALegQIBBAB&usg=AOvVaw0sXEUDmSlFNzCkaN3AB99G&cshid=1553600259882 |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by oyinda1599(f): 12:41pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
XhosaNostra:Emotional fragile indeed.... Ode 3 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Raxxye(m): 12:46pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
XhosaNostra:Why are you so mean and insensitive? The man doesn't want to support her through the trying period of pregnancy and you are in support of that? 3 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 12:50pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
Raxxye: I'm not going to rehash the whys again. The reasons should be obvious to anyone with more sense than a goose. |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Osuman(m): 1:01pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
CiciReally:U MUST KNOW THAT GOD HAS USED YOU TO CHANGE ONE LIFE AND HISTORY. JUST IMAGE IF YOU WERE IN THE MAN SHOES? PLS KEEP THE BABY STRONG, DON'T ALLOW YOUR PSYCHOLOGICAL EMOTION TO AFFECT THE PREGNANCY, AS LONG AS YOU CAN AFFORD THE HOSPITAL BILLS NO PROBLEM. MOSTLY THIS KIND OF BABY END UP AS A BOY? 1 Like |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by pchukwudi: 1:03pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
The link you sent is actually about an Act on Child Right (not paternal right). And even at that, the Act does not automatically confer any right to the child on an UNMARRIED biological father. Here's an excerpt from the link you sent:
In summary, the unmarried biological father does not get any right to the child just because he slept with the child's mother. Got it? There'd even be zero basis to compel the child or her mother to do a DNA test since the so called father was never married to the woman. His right as a father is NOT even what's under consideration in the said Act. What's being considered here is the welfare of the child. IT'S CLEAR YOU DID NOT READ THE ARTICLE BEFORE SENDING THE LINK. XhosaNostra: 3 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by GoldenJAT(m): 1:04pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
XhosaNostra:If you did see that! And focused only on that aspect... Then you didn't do justice to her ordeal by way of advice. Babe... U failed to address the issue generally!!! 3 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Omoge87(f): 1:06pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
XhosaNostra: Exactly... and he should also except the pooo that happens once baby is born as a consequence of his actions. Just like he has made his decisions, the lady is entitled to make hers. The man has every right to see his child ... not on his terms though...it will be on her terms, until they go to court. If she says that she doesn’t want him to be in the labour room- you think they will allow him enter? While she is in hospital post delivery if she says she does not want him to enter and see the baby - you think they will allow him? If he turns up at her door banging and banging and she calls the police - you think they won’t escort him off her property? In fact until they get to court he won’t see that child if the lady decides he can’t. He will just be begging and begging. At her mercy... She has a lot of power - especially with a newborn infant - no court will separate a newborn infant from the mother unless there is a sound reason. A sound reason has to be something as serious as child neglect or she is a serious danger to the child. Abeg OP you don’t have any problem. The problem you really have is wether you still want to marry this man after he has shown you what he and his family are capable off. That is your real delimma. 2 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 1:10pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
pchukwudi: You wanted a link & I provided one. You left out the part where it says a father can still apply through the courts for his parental rights under the guidelines provided by an advocate. I don't know which country she resides in, but there're similar laws in most countries, some more severe than the other. But the bottom line is, you cannot keep a child away from the other parent regardless of what happened between you two. |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Chuukwudi(m): 1:10pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
If I were you, I'd call him closer and tell him: "I understand that you are unable to father a child and I am pregnant for you now. I swear that I have never known any other man but you. If you are a bit skeptical, if you suspect me and all, I also understand that but, could you please render me all the assistance a woman who who is on her first pregnancy would need from her man? Please, do not leave me nor treat me badly. I do not have a problem with the DNA test. If eventually, the baby isn't yours, kill me, throw me out, do whatever you like, etc." by now, tears will naturally be flowing. After you have done this, whether he changes or not... Still forge ahead. You can leave his house if you have somewhere else you could easily go. 1 Like |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Nobody: 1:10pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
CunnyLinguist:gbam! ![]()
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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 1:15pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
GoldenJAT: Address it then & stop telling me how I should have addressed it because I still stand by what I said. |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 1:16pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
Omoge87: Too long, I didn't read ![]() |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by pchukwudi: 1:20pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
You are not getting the point. The man would have no say if the woman decides to deny that he's the father. In fact the Act you quoted has a provisions for anyone (including non-biological parents) to obtain the guardianship right. In this case, if the woman can prove that she has another man (most likely her own dad, close friend or relative) who can provide the needed male/father figure support for the child, the so called unmarried biological father would have no chance let alone right to the child. If you get such rights by merely sleeping with a woman then marriage would no longer be a legal necessity. XhosaNostra: |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by fabienjoe: 1:23pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
CunnyLinguist: 'He's probably not desperate for the baby' so what does he care if you deny him access? Truth is, if you feel so lonely and stressed going it alone in pregnancy, you would feel even more so bringing up a child alone. Common sense should prevail here. He has valid reasons to doubt the paternity of the baby. All he needs is reassurance. I see nothing wrong with a prenup. A prenup should usually take the baby into consideration. Only gold diggers are afraid of prenup. And that could explain your anxiety. The only weapon you seem to have in all these is the baby whom he may not be very keen on anyway. Talk things over with him and if he insists on DNA test, why not...unless there is something you don't want him to know. Stop the drama.. |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 1:25pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
pchukwudi: Does the bolded even make a ghost of a sense to you?
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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 1:34pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
pchukwudi: Here's another bone for you to chew on https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://www.legalmatch.com/law-library/article/child-custody-between-unmarried-parents.html&ved=2ahUKEwiTi4mt6J_hAhVKDWMBHcIwDREQFjABegQIDRAF&usg=AOvVaw3BfiR09HaDnzjxgapzT7oD |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Emary(f): 1:44pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
CiciReally: I am so sorry you feel this way. Please try to ignore the comments criticising you. The burden you bear is not easy right now and it must hurt very deeply for him not to stand by you now. However, you have to just look inward for the strength to go through this. No matter the outcome between both of you, you are about to be blessed with a wonderful bundle of joy. Somehow, all the pains will be worth it in the end. Your guy, like most men, is probably withdrawing because he is trying to figure things out. As you said, he probably has a lot of negative voices in his ear right now and he is feeling confused. His fear is having his hopes crushed when the baby comes. I wouldn't put too much thought to it. Once the baby comes, I am confident his attitude will change and he will start spoiling both of you. Just focus on staying calm and healthy until you have your baby. As for signing the prenup, the truth is that the baby shouldn't be the reason you get married. Only marry him if you are sure he truly loves you and not just the baby. If you do decide to marry him, PLEASE get your own lawyer to go over the prenup especially regarding the rights to your child. Just keep your head up. Our mothers have experienced similar situations and still had us and the cycle will continue till the end of time. 2 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Nobody: 1:45pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
Omoge87: Ooops white people are crazy, trust me. Their family/relationship decisions are really on the high. White men who can marry an active porn star while husband works in a Bank. She will come back from work & he would ask, how was your day. ![]() ![]() ![]() Anyway OP's boyfriend was a pure scam & the baby is his. He should man up & start paying child support. 1 Like |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Cmanforall: 1:47pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
Not being able to impregnate any girl, did he tell you the condition? Following surgery, genetics, or any other disorder? What's the condition of the pregnancy, well? Did anything change in your attitude or something else? This is a trying time, especially at this stage of pregnancy. Hope you are adequately covered for the health care services. I wish you well. CiciReally:Meanwhile, where are you in Germany? |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Omoge87(f): 1:52pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
pchukwudi: https://www.lawhelpmn.org/self-help-library/booklet/rights-and-responsibilities-unmarried-parents This is what happens where I live. Maybe where she lives the laws are different. No point going round in circles with the girl ... from everyone’s comments to her she is in the minority. She is only trying to worry the OP unnecessarily. OP pls rest well. You will be fine. https://m.dw.com/en/germanys-highest-court-strengthens-unmarried-fathers-rights/a-5862670 This above link - applies to German laws although it is old. |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Omoge87(f): 1:55pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
XhosaNostra: That’s fine sweetie- whether you read it or not does not negate what I wrote. It was not for you it was for the OP who presented the problem. Everything written on this thread is for her- not for yourself or myself. Remain blessed sweetie. � 2 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 1:56pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
Omoge87: ![]() |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by excessmon(m): 2:09pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
When will people learn to start reading in detalks so that they can answer properly... XhosaNostra: 2 Likes |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 2:11pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
excessmon: Did you read? You can start here https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://www.legalmatch.com/law-library/article/child-custody-between-unmarried-parents.html&ved=2ahUKEwiTi4mt6J_hAhVKDWMBHcIwDREQFjABegQIDRAF&usg=AOvVaw3BfiR09HaDnzjxgapzT7oD |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Amhappy(f): 2:13pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
lomprico: True |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Amhappy(f): 2:18pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
XhosaNostra: You quoted this but you said she has no right because they are not married. So you knew that aside marriage there's other partnership. Karma fall on you. |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by showafrica(m): 2:20pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
CiciReally: He was not ready for a baby after all just like you. So free the guy, this is the result of unprotected sex, live with it. Like the other guys said, you guys will be fine later but not now. He told you 90% infertile and you agreed what of the other 10%? Don't play the victim please, he did not lie to you or put you in the family way without your consent. He was trying his luck and you accepted thinking he had all the emotions to stand by. Every man passes through this stage unprepared pregnancy. Both of you will be fine later if you don't blow the fuses. 1 Like |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 2:22pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
Amhappy: What are you on about? When & where did I say she has no rights? So you people got your knickers in a tight wad up your asses because my opinion differs from your chorus? Tough shit! |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by KevinDein: 2:26pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
Fuckkking love this XhosaNostra girl. Very objective, devoid of emotions and sentiments and unwavering in her stance. Girl simply refused to be bullied hence all the attacks. 1 Like |
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 2:29pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Amhappy(f): 2:33pm On Mar 26, 2019 |
XhosaNostra: You said she has no rights because they are not married. That her right starts when she gives birth. So the baby in the womb is not a baby Abi. Baby in the womb doesn't eat, doesn't need medical checks,does need father but when he or she is born, he will suddenly become human Don't you know a baby in the womb can die if not taken care of? A baby may develop improperly without good nutrition,a baby can get sick, a baby start hearing voices in the womb. That was the most insensitive comment you made to a pregnant woman. And I so wish you the same. 2 Likes |
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