ANGELMARVE:
See bro, Nobody is useless in life.
Even if the woman failed to meet the standard, you can help her make the standard.

If someone is not educated, then the person should develop on his or her talent or have a handwork.

So did the successful man got to the top on his own?
Did people not help him got to the top?

what if people refused to help him when he was poor because he is low class?
would he be at the top today?

This generation has destroyed the concept of love with too many principles of westernization and people are too money, class and material conscious.

When you truly love a woman, it don't matter if she is this or that, You stick with her to the end.

jezuzboi:

Many people have gotten rich just by developing their talent. We are saying the same thing. I mentioned in the article that it's a GROWTH THING. The keyword is GROWTH.

ANGELMARVE:
Love is bigger than growth.
Growth of someone does not determine your love for the person.

ImaIma1:
Both parties need to develop themselves along the process. So that they would be on the same level of understanding and no one will feel left behind when they cannot match the standard.

No one would want to take someone who is below standard to important functions to avoid disgrace.

ANGELMARVE:
Absolute Nonsense.

A lady stuck by you when you were broke, now that you are Rich, you left the lady because in your words, "She has now become a liability"
So tell me why Goodluck Jonathan is still with patience Jonathan?

Are you more richer and educated than Goodluck Jonathan?

Yes!!! i know a woman must develop her own self, mentally, educationally or resourcefully but that do not mean that if she fails to meet the requirement guaranteed for your financial level, that you should dump her.

A real man will use his wealth to uplift his woman financially, educationally and transform her to your standard.

ImaIma1:
Both parties need to develop themselves along the process. So that they would be on the same level of understanding and no one will feel left behind when they cannot match the standard.

No one would want to take someone who is below standard to important functions to avoid disgrace.

jezuzboi:

I wouldn't say that Patience Johnathan is an unresourceful woman. At a point, she seemed more proactive than her husband. She could stand the heat of being Nigeria's first lady. She even cried on national TV to drive her point home. Lol.

In fact, left for her, Goodluck would probably not have lost to Buhari in 2015. That's one hell of a woman. I don't know about E-Money's wife though. Maybe we should ask Airforce1.

This write-up centers on women who don't work on boosting their intellectuality while playing Juliet. And yes, the cheating aspect you mentioned is another side to it.

lincsnuel:
OP it's also synonymous to the way ladies dump guys after training her in school!

#Shithappens

iRepNaija1:
I swear, any opportunity to blame a woman. If she stays with rich guy, she's a gold digger, she's an opportunist. If she stays loyal to a guy who comes into his own, she's a liability. Smh.

sweetilicious:
I quite agree with you op.Most of these ladies feel it's an entitlement.If you were dating him while he was poor, work on yourself as he works on himself too.You are supposed to partner with him to build castles.What if he didn't make it or something happened to him, won't be able to to survive still? Build castles together and stop looking for someone to drain.The blessings of God for a man is the same for a woman.He said he will bless the works of our hands.Women should learn how to grab the bag too!

essenceplus:
Where is lalaticlala this needs to hit FP not the porn that easily makes FP thesedays

jezuzboi:
Women who stick to struggling men until the men grow their financial IQs and become financially stable are usually praised and approved by almost everyone.

While that may be a testament to a woman's praiseworthy character, I am of the opinion that such women still fall short, in the sense that they only stick to a man while he grows his financial IQ, without them growing theirs too.

A poorly resourceful but endearing woman may mean the world to a struggling man. But the moment he mounts financial heights, his once endearing but financially uneducated partner may become a liability.

Mounting financial heights is a function of FINANCIAL EDUCATION, and financial education promotes ASSETS but frowns at LIABILITIES. As you know, assets put money in your pocket while liabilities take money out of your pocket.

A poorly resourceful woman may be an asset to a struggling man because she supplies his emotional needs despite his low financial state. But when he grows his IQ and gets rich, he'll most likely require more than emotional satisfaction from her.

If she had failed to grow her financial IQ along with him, she will depend on him to supply her financial/material needs just as she supplied and still supplies his emotional needs. At this point, the woman may become less attractive to the man.

Any woman can supply emotional needs. And when it comes to supplying emotional needs, it's a two-way traffic. But if she had grown her financial IQ along with him, she would easily flow in the same frequency with him, both emotionally and financially.

That way, their attraction to each other endures and their love blossoms. Between a financially educated partner and a financially uneducated partner, there will be arguments and fights over money, and most of the time, if not all the time, the root of the problem can be traced to the partner with low or no financial education.

That is why one partner eventually walks away. Even the Bible says; "Can two work together except they be agreed?" In most cases, the partner who walks away is the one with more financial education, which in the context of the write-up, is the man.

We may call him a monster, an ingrate, or Lucifer, as the case may be. But if you take a quick run through history, you'll find that many financially educated women had to dump their financially uneducated male partners when they could no longer agree on certain money-related matters. It is not a GENDER THING. It is a GROWTH THING.

The 21st century ladies have asserted that sticking to a struggling man is one of the most uncalculated risks to take because the man dumps them for another woman the moment he gets rich. But how many men of substance walk away from women of real WORTH and VALUE?

If you supply emotional needs alone, what happens when other needs arise? It takes more than the emotions of love to keep an affair going. And I am not in any way talking down on women who see beyond a man's pocket. As a matter of fact, I ADORE them.

That is why I am writing this piece: to give them heads up on how to keep the RICH VERSION of their partner glued to them, thereby making the years they spent with his POOR VERSION count. Don't just service his emotions while he grows his financial IQ. Grow yours too. That's one important thing that will earn you his affection and respect in the long run.

Emotion and finance have been the key focus of this piece. But they are not the only areas that require growth to keep you BALANCED. Others include spiritual, mental, academic, etc. Whatever the growth, the bottom line is: GROW ALONG WITH YOUR PARTNER TO AVOID STORIES THAT TOUCH.

Jezuzboi©

Martinez39:
If you feel disgraced about your spouse whom you claim to love then you are not the right person for your spouse since people's validation are more important to you than your spouse. Sincerely, this is a vain and childish thing to say. You must not act like everyone.

jezuzboi:

So what's this difference between the bolded and the point I made?

ImaIma1:


Easy tiger!

The point i am making is that one party should not be redundant while the other keeps getting upgraded. Whether you agree or not, they cannot relate effectively well as spouses. There will be a lot of leaving the spouse behind for events, not being able to watch a movie together (while one wants Africa magic Yoruba, the other wants Comedy Central).

Don't get me wrong...the marriage could last forever but many things that could foster bonding will be absent. You might think what i said is vain and childish but it is the sad reality.

jezuzboi:

It seems you didn't quite get the point in the write-up. If Lalasticlacla were to push this to front-page, you'd see that many women would be in agreement. Bro, things change. People change. It's better for a woman to develop herself and stand secure than just hope that the man will be a "REAL MAN" and do those things you mentioned. Life is too short for trials and errors.

ANGELMARVE:
Absolute Nonsense.

A lady stuck by you when you were broke, now that you are Rich, you left the lady because in your words, "She has now become a liability"
So tell me why Goodluck Jonathan is still with patience Jonathan?

Are you more richer and educated than Goodluck Jonathan?

Yes!!! i know a woman must develop her own self, mentally, educationally or resourcefully but that do not mean that if she fails to meet the requirement guaranteed for your financial level, that you should dump her.

A real man will use his wealth to uplift his woman financially, educationally and transform her to your standard.

lefulefu:
oh ok i get u now. Women who were not that resourceful intellectually while playing romantic juliet while he was broke. Ok lets imagine a situation a vulcaniser after a hard days job comes home and his wife welcomes him with a smile and prepares a plate of pounded yam and bitterleaf soup with snail and always asking how was his job etc. Do u think such a man will dump such a lady when he blows overnight? Even if such a lady isnt an Einstein intellectually or is not dat business savvy he will still hold her tight when he makes it.

YOLO18:
Thanks a lot for this piece.

Modarun:


come and build castles witb me dear.

jezuzboi:

Let me reply you with this comment on this thread. It should serve.

jezuzboi:

This is no blame game bro. It's self explanatory enough. Shouldn't be so hard to get the drift

lefulefu:
oh ok i get u now. Women who were not that resourceful intellectually while playing romantic juliet while he was broke. Ok lets imagine a situation a vulcaniser after a hard days job comes home and his wife welcomes him with a smile and prepares a plate of pounded yam and bitterleaf soup with snail and always asking how was his job etc. Do u think such a man will dump such a lady when he blows overnight? Even if such a lady isnt an Einstein intellectually or is not dat business savvy he will still hold her tight when he makes it.

ImaIma1:


He might not abandon her but she may not be so visible. Did you always see OJB(God bless his soul) with his first wife attending events? There are some men that would rather go out alone than take their wives. And before you know it, there is a distance between them.

lefulefu:
i thought obasanjo and his first wife had a sort of marital misunderstanding.sumptin to do wit infidelity.or am i wrong?

ImaIma1:


OJB Jezreel, the late singer and producer, not OBJ.