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I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by lilmaydee(m): 5:33pm On Mar 28, 2019
I am 29 years old but if you see me, you wouldn't believe me, because I look like a 13 year old boy.

People naturally disrespect me because of this. There was a time I and my nephew were living together, he is well built and as such dates ladies older than he is.

So one day, a lady came to visit him, she met me at home and asked of him which I told her he wasn't around. Then she called him on the phone. But what pained me most was that she said " hello baby, I'm in your place now but I met one small boy who said you weren't around. My nephew had to call me back to apologized and also told her that that's his uncle oo, but the silly Lady just said how come he looks so small.

I can't approach mature ladies, for fear of being embarrassed. All these small girls, that I decided to ask out, after one week will begin to disrespect and cheat on me. Even employers do exploit me. I remember, one employer like that that said what does a small boy like me wants to do with money, just because I told her I can't accept the amount she offered to pay me.

Please how can I put on more weight and look more mature, that is, look my age, because people don't respect me a bit.

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by EFULEFU1(m): 5:38pm On Mar 28, 2019
Stature is nothing. Look at Akin and Pawpaw

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by decatalyst(m): 5:38pm On Mar 28, 2019
Look beyond the physical shortcomings.

Equip yourself...read a lot, when you talk it would be filled with substance and people would be amazed and respect you.

Lastly, surround yourself with people of substance and like minds.

Peace.

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by izzou(m): 5:40pm On Mar 28, 2019
I suspect you're an introvert, or let me say a shy guy. Don't be scared of approaching ladies. They don't bite

An concerning your physique, you don't know what God is doing for you grin

When you'll turn 55, but look 35, you'll remember this day you complained

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by Nobody: 5:41pm On Mar 28, 2019
Post your pictures...

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by Valleys(m): 5:41pm On Mar 28, 2019
Bros just go and hustle, make good money, respect go pursue you for this life
In addendum, try go gym, it will help a lot.

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by Jcole1985(m): 5:42pm On Mar 28, 2019
Ask your parents to go pick any Ada from the village,she will feed you till you look like Uzoho then get married to a city girl of your choice as second wife.It is that easy

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by czarina(f): 5:42pm On Mar 28, 2019
Gym. Go to the gym and even you no go believe yourself after just a few months of serious workout with correct diet.

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by lilmaydee(m): 5:43pm On Mar 28, 2019
EFULEFU1:
Stature is nothing. Look at Akin and Pawpaw
I thought so too until a female friend I asked out told me that if she goes out with me and we meet her friends, how would she introduce me, as her bro or man?

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by Emotionss: 5:45pm On Mar 28, 2019
Op I can give you a Natural remedies that can make you Add some real flesh and get the respect you deserve.

100% natural
No Fat.

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by falcon01: 5:46pm On Mar 28, 2019
grin cheesy small boy

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by lilmaydee(m): 5:51pm On Mar 28, 2019
czarina:
Gym. Go to the gym and even you no go believe yourself after just a few months of serious workout with correct diet.
I went to gym for a while but I stopped due to low self esteem. I had to wait for all the big guys to finish their workout, so that I can unload all the irons to the weight I can carry. but that usually take a lot of time before they finish.

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by czarina(f): 5:58pm On Mar 28, 2019
lilmaydee:

I went to gym for a while but I stopped due to low self esteem. I had to wait for all the big guys to finish their workout, so that I can unload all the irons to the weight I can carry. but that usually take a lot of time before they finish.
Naah...you're wrong.

They may even be eager to help you once you let them in on your struggles. Some can be that matured. I've worked at a gym house so I know. Most are all too eager to play "instructor" the minute they get the chance.

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by czarina(f): 5:59pm On Mar 28, 2019
Dothraki:
Bro, go and commit suicide
I am sure no one will miss you
Keep quiet if you no get beta thing for mouth.

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by Nobody: 6:02pm On Mar 28, 2019
You need to build your self-esteem kiss

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by GolDRoger: 6:18pm On Mar 28, 2019
Your real problem is LOW SELF ESTEEm

when u have a low self esteem what will u expect others to do??

They will look down on you ofcourse

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by lilmaydee(m): 6:35pm On Mar 28, 2019
how do I overcome the low self esteem? I have read a lot of self-help books ( it only gave me temporary boost), I tried to grow beards ( the thing no gree come out), used a lot of things like ( wate-on, casilan 90, complan, dexamethasone, etc,), e no work. started wearing shirt and trouser, before I know them don begin call me pastor, changed to native, so I could look more mature, people started saying I lacked fashion sense, that why would be putting on native attire Monday through Sunday. I don taya.

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by generationz(f): 6:56pm On Mar 28, 2019
lilmaydee:
I am 29 years old but if you see me, you wouldn't believe me, because I look like a 13 year old boy. People naturally disrespect me because of this. There was a time I and my nephew were living together, he is well built and as such dates ladies older than he is. So one day, a lady came to visit him, she met me at home and asked of him which I told her he wasn't around. Then she called him on the phone. But what pained me most was that she said " hello baby, I'm in your place now but I met one small boy who said you weren't around. My nephew had to call me back to apologized and also told her that that's his uncle oo, but the silly Lady just said how come he looks so small.
I can't approach mature ladies, for fear of being embarrassed. All these small girls, that I decided to ask out, after one week will begin to disrespect and cheat on me. Even employers do exploit me. I remember, one employer like that that said what does a small boy like me wants to do with money, just because I told her I can't accept the amount she offered to pay me. please how can I put on more weight and look more mature, that is, look my age, because people don't respect me a bit.

sorry dear

There's a guy on nairaland who went through the same thing you went through but now has the keys to unlock many ladies hearts
ilegend or iclef ( his two monickers)

He can mentor you on how to build your confidence and how to pick girls up. Just don't become a player when you learn everything.

for your weight gain use apetamin. It works.

it won't make you fat it would increase your appetite ×5

You must take if twice daily and eat up to 5- 6 times daily.

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by NiggasInParis: 6:57pm On Mar 28, 2019
grin grin grin grin

I dun laugh tire...

OP we belong to the same FAM o, but it seems i better pass you to an enviable extent.. Plus my self esteem alone can bring down Sky scrapers..

My advice:

1. Build your self esteem. I don't know how I will explain this but this goes beyond just reading self help books. For example, using the incident in your post...

There is a kind of demeanor your gestures will depict that girl would have given you full reps no matter your size. Haba now.. Gestures, appearance, composure and how you speak exudes your self esteem.


2. Make money I repeat Make money. This is not to impress but for yourself. Just make the money first , you will understand later.


3. Read books wildly. I believe you watched Game of Thrones? You saw that imp(my favorite actor in the series grin). That guy had different women all over him with a dedicated lover for that matter.. He was a dwarf, but his intelligence is taller and well built like Karl drogo. His esteem, humour and doings says it all. He said, he may not know how to handle sword, arrows and fight wars but he has knowledge and intelligence that commands attention and directs victory. And where does knowledge comes from? Reading!

4. Hit the Gym. Adding some more flesh and growth Starts with physique and to do this you need physical exertion. Plus you will love it..


5. Kill Fashion. Mehn! Let your neighbour know you as that uncle that can dresssss!


Cheer up bro and follow my tips. I have been petite since my sec school days about 15years ago but i have never been disrespected and looked down on..
Today when I go out with my clique, all my friends be looking like machos and old men, I will be that Cheerleader guy with small body , but my carriage, composure and looks omoh no be here. Prince Charles things

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by nicepoker101(m): 6:58pm On Mar 28, 2019
Ladies embark on azz enlargement. You can try height and weight surgery.

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by IjebuWarrior: 7:00pm On Mar 28, 2019
grin

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by kollinzgee(m): 7:06pm On Mar 28, 2019
Dothraki:
Bro, go and commit suicide
I am sure no one will miss you

kids on nairaland..goan read for jamb..

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by kollinzgee(m): 7:08pm On Mar 28, 2019
lilmaydee:
I am 29 years old but if you see me, you wouldn't believe me, because I look like a 13 year old boy. People naturally disrespect me because of this. There was a time I and my nephew were living together, he is well built and as such dates ladies older than he is. So one day, a lady came to visit him, she met me at home and asked of him which I told her he wasn't around. Then she called him on the phone. But what pained me most was that she said " hello baby, I'm in your place now but I met one small boy who said you weren't around. My nephew had to call me back to apologized and also told her that that's his uncle oo, but the silly Lady just said how come he looks so small.
I can't approach mature ladies, for fear of being embarrassed. All these small girls, that I decided to ask out, after one week will begin to disrespect and cheat on me. Even employers do exploit me. I remember, one employer like that that said what does a small boy like me wants to do with money, just because I told her I can't accept the amount she offered to pay me. please how can I put on more weight and look more mature, that is, look my age, because people don't respect me a bit.

if you dont have a great stature have a great mind .read great books.

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by tolanibae(f): 7:15pm On Mar 28, 2019
I know a person who is currently depressed because he thinks he looks older than his age. He wants to look younger.

You are who you are, not what you look like, its easier to say though because appearance is everything especially in a place like Nigeria where people are judged right there on the spot.

People will say you should build your self esteem but its not as easy as that, this is something you have been battling with for a very long time so its not very easy to correct your thinking in a jiffy.

However , there is a trick if you can stay true to it.

Every morning when you wake up, look into the mirror and start telling yourself good things, tell yourself reasons why you are special, why you are loved, say good things about yourself.

This might sound crazy (talking to yourself) but the trick is loving yourself, you currently dont love yourself and it will be very difficult for people to love you,respect you or take you serious.

trust me, looks dont matter as much as we think, what matters is what we project.

If you still feel bad , remember obasanjo, taye taiwo, oshiomole, these people have very gorgeous women in their lives.

Read about Tyrion Lanister in Game of thrones, a dwarf that is highly respected.

Lastly, dont forget to make money.

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by dreamwords: 7:15pm On Mar 28, 2019
lilmaydee:
I am 29 years old but if you see me, you wouldn't believe me, because I look like a 13 year old boy. People naturally disrespect me because of this. There was a time I and my nephew were living together, he is well built and as such dates ladies older than he is. So one day, a lady came to visit him, she met me at home and asked of him which I told her he wasn't around. Then she called him on the phone. But what pained me most was that she said " hello baby, I'm in your place now but I met one small boy who said you weren't around. My nephew had to call me back to apologized and also told her that that's his uncle oo, but the silly Lady just said how come he looks so small.
I can't approach mature ladies, for fear of being embarrassed. All these small girls, that I decided to ask out, after one week will begin to disrespect and cheat on me. Even employers do exploit me. I remember, one employer like that that said what does a small boy like me wants to do with money, just because I told her I can't accept the amount she offered to pay me. please how can I put on more weight and look more mature, that is, look my age, because people don't respect me a bit.
, accept what God gave u bro, i.e small stature

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by MrNipplesLover(m): 7:22pm On Mar 28, 2019
tolanibae:
I know a person who is currently depressed because he thinks he looks older than his age. He wants to look younger.

You are who you are, not what you look like, its easier to say though because appearance is everything especially in a place like Nigeria where people are judged right there on the spot.

People will say you should build your self esteem but its not as easy as that, this is something you have been battling with for a very long time so its not very easy to correct your thinking in a jiffy.

However , there is a trick if you can stay true to it.

Every morning when you wake up, look into the mirror and start telling yourself good things, tell yourself reasons why you are special, why you are loved, say good things about yourself.

This might sound crazy (talking to yourself) but the trick is loving yourself, you currently dont love yourself and it will be very difficult for people to love you,respect you or take you serious.

trust me, looks dont matter as much as we think, what matters is what we project.

If you still feel bad , remember obasanjo, taye taiwo, oshiomole, these people have very gorgeous women in their lives.

Read about Tyrion Lanister in Game of thrones, a dwarf that is highly respected.

Lastly, dont forget to make money.



hmnnnn. nice one, dear.

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by tolanibae(f): 7:25pm On Mar 28, 2019
MrNipplesLover:




hmnnnn. nice one, dear.

Thanks my friend with the silly moniker tongue

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by MrMann1(m): 7:49pm On Mar 28, 2019
Make money and become rich, then come back to tell us how ladies are chasing you around. Moreover, are you that small like Aki and PawPaw? Even if you are smaller than them, get better money, have a good sense of humor, approach the lady you like and make friends. If you kill yourself because ladies are disrespecting you, wetin you gain?

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by KingOfAllIgbos: 8:19pm On Mar 28, 2019
I think you have low self esteem and most of people around you can pick it.

Set targets for yourself not necessarily money and try to achieve them. It would elevate your self worth and this would radiate outsidex trust me!

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by luvyaself95(m): 8:37pm On Mar 28, 2019
lilmaydee:

I went to gym for a while but I stopped due to low self esteem. I had to wait for all the big guys to finish their workout, so that I can unload all the irons to the weight I can carry. but that usually take a lot of time before they finish.
This dude Ehn grin grin grin

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Re: I'm 29 But Look 13, I'm Depressed, The Disrespect Is Too Much! Please Help Me by ThothHermes: 8:40pm On Mar 28, 2019
Dothraki:
Bro, go and commit suicide I am sure no one will miss you
Seconded.

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