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Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by dollyjoy(f): 8:45am On Mar 29, 2019 |
wristbangle:Yeah....... what up with you? |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by partnerbizz4: 8:46am On Mar 29, 2019 |
spyg1: So this is science or what? 2 Likes |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by coolk(m): 8:50am On Mar 29, 2019 |
buhariski: I'll tell you something that sounds like a cliché: You Need Jesus. I know—all dis holier-than-thou church boiz don come again.... You've never been more wrong! Having been in something very similar to your situation before, I can tell you this with absolute certainty: 'You Can Not Stop This On Your Own.' I tried to..., and failed repeatedly, and each time I went back, it got worse. As if the 'spirit' behind the sh*t was punishing me for daring to stop. Until I found 'the way'. I got fully connected to Jesus and filled myself with the Holy Spirit. Naaaw I've said bye-bye to gbati-gbati forever. I know some people will tell you it's a normal sumtin!... LIES FROM THE PIT OF HELL. I'm not here to preach to you, you can get that at your church. I'm just touched because you are currently going through something I struggled with, and have finally TRIUMPHED. Feel free to contact me if you want to talk bro-to-bro, no bullsh*ts. 4 Likes |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by lekkys: 8:50am On Mar 29, 2019 |
annford:This guy up here said it all,Stop watching porn get your mind and your time engaged with other things.Avoid staying and sleeping alone. I was once a victim,the damage is more than the enjoyment may God delivers you in Jesus mighty name. 4 Likes |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by Majid1990(m): 8:56am On Mar 29, 2019 |
Bro I experience same things but try to avoid be alone and be fasting or u marry if u can't get a wife mama will help u |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by NoContract(m): 9:05am On Mar 29, 2019 |
Jagaban880: There's really nothing wrong in asking his mama to help him find wives. Even foreign based Nigerians do it all the time. |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by Nobody: 9:08am On Mar 29, 2019 |
Masturbation is everything bad please run from it. It will change u as a person entirely. Just look at your life now and how it was before and thats enough reason that should make you run from it. If you're a strong person masturbation will make u weak, if u are smart it will make u dull infact u will lose ur memory to a greater extent. In my own case I use to be a very good looking guy but then I'm not into going after girls even though they are coming but I always keep a straight face and dont want distraction. I surfed internet alot one way or d other I bumped into porn sites and started watching and unconsciously begin to masturbate. Before I realized what's happening it's already taking effect on me. Someone that's good looking before a girl will now be saying guy why u come dey ugly like this? It affected a bit of my look and when I realized guy nobody beg me to stop oooo. For long now I have stopped it and recover my look back and girls now say again guy u looking good. Sharing this piece for you to do away with it bro. No benefits to masturbation whatsoever. It's dangerous and it will also affect ur relationship with God. Keep off masturbation! 5 Likes |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by Gkemz: 9:23am On Mar 29, 2019 |
Your case is something else and could lead paedophilia or rape if not controlled at this stage. The best way to deal with this is to marry. Surely the temptations and urges will continue to come and you can't suppress or resist it for long. 1 Like |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by Simpsonrocket(m): 9:25am On Mar 29, 2019 |
buhariski:I don't know why many people are telling you to use a problem to clear a problem. Who does that? I can relate to your problem and I can tell you that you are in bondage. I'm not here to scare you brother. Until I gave my life to Jesus I couldn't free myself from this bondage. Jesus Christ can help you brother. Instead of listening to those telling you to go and have sex to stop your problem. Let say the masturbation stops that way and you now get addicted to having sex. Then you will start searching for remedy to that one. Just like I said, I'm not here to scare you I just feel concern about your problem bro 3 Likes |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by Simpsonrocket(m): 9:30am On Mar 29, 2019 |
coolk:Jesus helped me too bro 4 Likes |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by MoneyBag500: 9:36am On Mar 29, 2019 |
rxgodwin:only Jesus Christ can save.,.... its not done intentionalwhich means is uncontrollable.. 2 Likes |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by MoneyBag500: 9:42am On Mar 29, 2019 |
ayz12:indeed bro....dat sh**t gives u 100% negative effect both spiritually and physically... I was once a victim too. 1 Like |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by Nobody: 9:43am On Mar 29, 2019 |
buhariski: Marriage is the safest solution. |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by pacificom: 9:47am On Mar 29, 2019 |
This sort of problem is caused by loneliness and sedentary lifestyle . Once you step up into active life, responsibilities and challenges of life will overshadow those uncontrollable sexual fantasy. Also there is tendency that level of your sexual hormone which frequently message the brain will drop through the following recommendations ; Concentrate on your daily job or studies, engage in positive things on the computer, engage in activites such as exercise, avoid or limit alcohol intake, and engage in a decent relationship not for sexual reasons but those that promotes brighter future with opposite sex. Good Luck ! 2 Likes |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by Nobody: 9:47am On Mar 29, 2019 |
Or better still...."go get married". |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by blazerzz: 9:49am On Mar 29, 2019 |
I made this post in 2017. https://www.nairaland.com/3726307/started-masturbating-4-after-seeing/4#55336157. I have gone thru this thread and I am quite surprised at the responses, especially the almost hysterical condemnation of the pastor and the boy. FACT. I started masturbating b4 primary school at age 5. FACT. I know I was influenced mostly by tv. FACT. Had my first sex b4 7yrs with 2 twin sisters my age who lured me to have sex with them. As I grew older I felt masturbation was not right but could nt stop it. I read books, used my will, made resolutions but got no where. BtW 2000 - 2002 no started looking for forums and discussions where i could get help. Funny enough the responses was that there was nothing wrong with masturbating. But i own my body and i new it was affecting me physically and mentally. It was a siege physically, mentally and spiritually. In 2011 i went for sunday service at the same church i had been attending And wen the altar call was made i responded and gave my life to Christ Jesus. And i did not pray Lord save me from masturbation during the altar call. I completely forgot about it, then about a mnth later it occurred to me i am no longer masturbating!!. i was afraid initially because i said ive made resolutions in the past and failed. but this time i made no resolution about it. FACT. 1st day to 1 week, 1 week to 1 month, one month to 1 yr, nd 1 yr to 8yrs nd counting.... The most amazing thing is i dont feel the slightest urge to indulge in it again. RECAP. Severally wen i was on my sickbed with no strength i still find my self masturbating then. Pls nairalanders not everything is a lie. Follow the link and do further research. As for me I alone new the bondage i was in And I cant just stop thanking Jesus Christ whose blood set me free!!!. There is power in the simplicity of the Gospel of Christ. Say the prayer of salvation through Faith. And see God takeover. Don't stress yourself trying to stay away from ponography and other triggers, just replace those with other activities. Make the bible your friend and see the scriptures purify you. There are so many motivational and inspirational videos online Take advantage of the tons of positive materials online. Jesus did it for me He will do it for you. https://www.babycenter.com/400_is-it-normal-for-a-3-1-2-year-old-to-masturbate-should-i-tal_1010297_679.bc http://www.stopitnow.org/advice-column-entry/is-my-3-year-olds-sexual-behavior-normal 6 Likes |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by olamy7(m): 9:54am On Mar 29, 2019 |
kingemzy5:lmao |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by Nobody: 10:00am On Mar 29, 2019 |
tayooluwole:Oga, I didn't tell him to do that. Even I can't do that. Read up properly between the lines before countering any info. Besides, when there was no smartphone and little internet access 'full grown educated men with inclination for up to date information' did not die off from ignorance or lack of information. 2 Likes |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by Nobody: 10:02am On Mar 29, 2019 |
Kfed4ril:Muslim - Singlemuslim. Christian - Christian_singles. You can follow them on instagram n DM them. |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by Nobody: 10:08am On Mar 29, 2019 |
chenzen:as funny as this sounds it's actually good advice. |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by Harvesttony(m): 10:11am On Mar 29, 2019 |
You feed the virus and intend destroying it? How is that even possible. You might still be enjoying it, since the flesh desires it but brother forget the fake life that the whites are deceiving many to believing and that the internet has caused many to hold on to. Forget the manner the modern world tries to make us feel the spiritual is non existent and start believing the devil is real and always at work looking for who to trap. I will give you three steps to the solution of the problem; 1. Stop watching pornography 2. When the desires for sex (which of cause is a normal feeling in humans) coming replace it with something else eg listening to a Godly message, meditating on the word of God, etc 3. Pray, Pray, Pray seeking for God mercy and grace with a sincere desire to change. with love 1 Like
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Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by felixomor: 10:23am On Mar 29, 2019 |
buhariski:4 things 1. Stop watching porn even if it means staying away from the net 2. If possible stop watching movies for a while, till u regain self control. 3. Get and read inspirational books on the mind I recommend Battlefield of the Mind by Joyce Meyer. 4. Study the Bible daily and Pray. Soon you will celebrate your victory. 3 Likes |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by 4FACEADELEKE(m): 10:48am On Mar 29, 2019 |
buhariski:read red pill books |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by Socrates05(m): 10:53am On Mar 29, 2019 |
You be Delta State guy, my brother we no dey carry last. Oyo state that have cheap ladies full every where looking for a good guy that has job to mingle with. Those ladies are not after your money but Food. Search for responsible lady over there. You can even go to UI on Sunday to go and catch fun. You will see good looking babes full like sardines everywhere even your tribal are there. Your problems is not maybe, you are too religious, unsociable and too much of ego from to communicate with ladies. Where do you stay in IB, Ibadan na full of enjoyment. Is it Agodi, Molete, Okeibadan, gbotija. Where are you from in Delta state sef. You be Delta Igbo or Isoko right |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by muhdfaruq(m): 10:53am On Mar 29, 2019 |
The best thing you should do is to go and marry.You should also abstain from watching porn,because most people who masturbate watch porn. 2 Likes |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by Nobody: 10:59am On Mar 29, 2019 |
My dear, think back, before the masturbation, you must had sex with a lady that has such spirit in their generation.... There's a spirit that exchange during sex outside marriage. |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by UdemeJoshua(m): 11:15am On Mar 29, 2019 |
anytime the huge come, smoke weed, 2 rap, add combine as step down, your thinking will av a difference dimensions, you will not ever remember you thought of masturbation. |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by asfrankasf(m): 11:18am On Mar 29, 2019 |
NOt being holier than thou bro but I feel you need help First thing first is your realization of the fact that you are an addict already and often breaking an addiction requires another addiction, you might want to figure out what you would enjoy more than the sex sensation and strain yourself to give that more time, let it compete against your urge and you intentionally give it more edge to win. 2. Trick your mind There are healthy games you can trick your mind into playing and one strong one is that you picture how ugly you normally look after your thing and see how many girls would reject you afterwards, so trick your mind into thinking that excess sex and masturbation will make you uglier, leaner, more useless and gets you old faster, so get in front of a mirror, admire yourself and see how good you look each without having to masturbate and how good you will look if you would not for a good period of time. Your mind will be used to this and you will find out that each time you think about your thing what pops in your mind is the end result so little by little you will drive yourself to a zero level of your ridicule. 3. Grow beard or muscles If you have little or no beards already and this is not the case in your entire family, this might be the case behind it cos each time you release you lose protein which is necessary for good hair and nail growth. So take your time to stay off masturbation in a quest to grow (more) beards which is a means to achieving good confidence by achieving a better you first, in a skydive you are breaking from your addiction. 4. Listen to good music and messages from someone you admire (Put it in constant repeat) 5. Do away, from any stimulant that reminds you of some attention to your daily duty. stupid to say but if a cream, an oil jar, a soap bar or anything reminds you of it diligently do away from these especially when you are alone. 6. Spend less time in solitude or idle. Get busy amidst others, locate the people you feel the best with and whiles away your day with you when you are less busy in some addictive and immersive activities like gaming, movies etc and spend more time with them. Idleness is a great killer and solitude is a greater manipulator. 7. WYSIWYG What you see is what you get so so you might want to work on what you see in the quest to becoming a better man. 8. Get you a girl you admire the most Set yourself on a mission to getting you just one good girl, one you would like to be with the most. If she's some real value she will likely take you a good time so while you on getting her for yourself and keeping up something real with her, her thoughts alone could help you rid yourself of getting dirty if she's not dirty herself tho. 9. IF you don't have a God yet accept Jesus into your life as your personal Lord and Saviour, this is the best remedy bro. I'm not a SU I'm probably the guy passing by you with some designer shades, Zanotti footwear and some dope ass haircut but I have the J-ingredient bro and nothing gives me a better feeling. What a docile and complacent idea that you can't break the habit! I live a few blocks away from a brothel yet I don't do shit It's the mind that is faulty bro, not the entire you. If all these wouldn't work for you OG you should know what to do before that your stick turns you into an invaluable log or gets you behind bars for some sort of sexual harassment READER'S DISCRETION IS ADVISED BTW I'm at work and really busy but I think I should do this 6 Likes |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by Omudia11: 11:18am On Mar 29, 2019 |
Chop knuckle. PotatoSalad: |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by david290(m): 11:20am On Mar 29, 2019 |
Lifeless:Really worriesome and quite unfortunate. That's because these folks post with 100% disregard for the belief of other forum members. Very insensitive lots. Needless to mention that I am a member of other forum like Reddit and hardly ever will anyone hint at or suffocate others with their belief, rather they are sharing relevant experiences and helping members find solutions to their problems. |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by mechanics(m): 11:40am On Mar 29, 2019 |
lathrowinger:Amen. |
Re: Masturbation Has Ruined My Life by varyo: 11:43am On Mar 29, 2019 |
you genuinely need God in your life |
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