OUR GRANDPAS HAD 'SIDE CHICKS'. AND WILL REMAIN WITH HUMANITY.
(If you are a moralist, especially female, this post may not be for you)
In those days, mothers and grannies knew their hubbies' "ales" (concubines). Call them side chicks today. In fact, they knew the day the "ale" would be coming to farm to collect food stuffs. They would respect themselves and won't go to farm that day.

"I am going out o", baba would announce.

"Are you still coming back?" Mama would ask.

"No. You may lock your door."

Case closed. Mama knew where her hubby would spend the night. Before he came back following morning, his food was ready. And it won't be poisoned!

At times, you would bring home a lady or guy from your hometown and your mum would say never, you can't marry him or her and she would never tell you why. She would do everything to separate you guys.

She had her reasons. That lady or guy was sired by your father. Mother knew but won't tell you until much, much later!

Your uncle (daddy's elder brother) would die and daddy would simply "take over" his wife and mama would politely oblige!

I can hear many if you, especially, women saying: "THIS IS RUBBISH!" "ABSOLUTE NONSENSE!" "ORO RIRUN!" "I CAN NEVER TAKE THESE!" "GOD FORBID BAD THING!" "WE WILL ALL DIE THERE!"

NINE out of TEN of those our mothers knew what to do to make life miserable for both hubby and "ale". They could have easily killed them. They could have walked away and abandon their kids.

But they knew the implication of broken homes. It was the indignities they suffered and endured that made their children what they later became in life.

If they didn't suffer these "nonsenses", their kids would not even go to school.

While we are living in a DIFFERENT society from theirs, it was not by accident that many of them lived to be 80, 85, 95, 100.

Yet, those of us who now have access to the best life can offer hardly live to be 65!

Granny lived to be 98. But her granddaughter died at 50! Cause of death: high blood pressure! Mama's cause of death: old age-related diseases.

Peace of mind is optional.

Let the side chick versus wife debate continue:

AND IT IS AS OLD AS HUMANITY!

Even Sarah "organised" Haggai for Abraham. Until the latter take over-sabi spoil am...

Credit to Samuel O. Ajayi

What tosh! There're STDs in this day & age, so noone should have the luxury of juggling multiple women

@Op
your point please??

After some many paragraphs
u still didn't tell us the solution

GolDRoger:
@Op
your point please??

After some many paragraphs
u still didn't tell us the solution

According to Op, the solution is allow your spouse flirt, have a mind at peace for your sake and the sake of your children.

austyn0:

According to Op, the solution is allow your spouse flirt, have a mind at peace for your sake and the sake of your children.

will the man also allow his wife to flirt?

GolDRoger:


will the man also allow his wife to flirt?

According to Op,,, yes.

GolDRoger:


will the man also allow his wife to flirt?

is there a different between a man and woman, out of the two who marry each other. two wrong can never make a right, check how happy and the family system was in the days of our fathers compare it to now. has divorce solve any problem, no rather its adding to the already existing one. we now have children with lack of emotion, thanks to faulty home bring up. should we encourage the bringers of life to be corrupted, no. women are the bringers of life and so they have to be kept secret

Douglaufuoma:
OUR GRANDPAS HAD 'SIDE CHICKS'. AND WILL REMAIN WITH HUMANITY.
(If you are a moralist, especially female, this post may not be for you)
In those days, mothers and grannies knew their hubbies' "ales" (concubines). Call them side chicks today. In fact, they knew the day the "ale" would be coming to farm to collect food stuffs. They would respect themselves and won't go to farm that day.

"I am going out o", baba would announce.

"Are you still coming back?" Mama would ask.

"No. You may lock your door."

Case closed. Mama knew where her hubby would spend the night. Before he came back following morning, his food was ready. And it won't be poisoned!

At times, you would bring home a lady or guy from your hometown and your mum would say never, you can't marry him or her and she would never tell you why. She would do everything to separate you guys.

She had her reasons. That lady or guy was sired by your father. Mother knew but won't tell you until much, much later!

Your uncle (daddy's elder brother) would die and daddy would simply "take over" his wife and mama would politely oblige!

I can hear many if you, especially, women saying: "THIS IS RUBBISH!" "ABSOLUTE NONSENSE!" "ORO RIRUN!" "I CAN NEVER TAKE THESE!" "GOD FORBID BAD THING!" "WE WILL ALL DIE THERE!"

NINE out of TEN of those our mothers knew what to do to make life miserable for both hubby and "ale". They could have easily killed them. They could have walked away and abandon their kids.

But they knew the implication of broken homes. It was the indignities they suffered and endured that made their children what they later became in life.

If they didn't suffer these "nonsenses", their kids would not even go to school.

While we are living in a DIFFERENT society from theirs, it was not by accident that many of them lived to be 80, 85, 95, 100.

Yet, those of us who now have access to the best life can offer hardly live to be 65!

Granny lived to be 98. But her granddaughter died at 50! Cause of death: high blood pressure! Mama's cause of death: old age-related diseases.

Peace of mind is optional.

Let the side chick versus wife debate continue:

AND IT IS AS OLD AS HUMANITY!

Even Sarah "organised" Haggai for Abraham. Until the latter take over-sabi spoil am...

Credit to Samuel O. Ajayi

See what I bolded there? If the mothers you talk about knew the consequences of leaving (a.k.a. their children suffering), why would they go? If they are not financially capable of going out and making their own choices, why would they go? How could they go? We will never get away from this deference to men if women and men continue to perpetuate it. What are you saying? That because it happened before, we should continue it?That husbands behaving poorly should be accepted? That wives should be quiet and accept it? What are you really trying to say?

From my understanding of the Op, we should emulate our forefathers and grandmothers for the marriage they practiced because the Americans we are copying have broken marriages in 3 out of 5! Clearly we shouldn't copy the West cos they've failed as far as marriage is concern

DMerciful:
From my understanding of the Op, we should emulate our forefathers and grandmothers for the marriage they practiced because the Americans we are copying have broken marriages in 3 out of 5! Clearly we shouldn't copy the West cos they've failed as far as marriage is concern

Ok cool, since you are married with kids, kindly emulate our forefathers, tell your wife you are not coming home for the night, since you men don't have a mind of your own, y'all only know how to copy, you don't care whether it's good or bad, as far as it justifies the sick mentality y'all have, you're good to go right

I'm not saying men should cheat on their wives however we cannot wholeheartedly copy the West. We take the best of both worlds and leave the worst. From the days of Abraham men has been marrying more than one wives and it's natural but due to modernization, men is sticking to one wife but because it's natural, something has to give! Takes tremendous will to be very responsible and the ladies are not helping either, temptation abounds.Its not as easy as you think especially as you don't have testosterone in large quantities running through you!

Biglittlelois:



Ok cool, since you are married with kids, kindly emulate our forefathers, tell your wife you are not coming home for the night, since you men don't have a mind of your own, y'all only know how to copy, you don't care whether it's good or bad, as far as it justifies the sick mentality y'all have, you're good to go right

This post stinks of narrow-mindedness and ignorance. I can't vibrate on the same frequency as Op.

*walks out of thread*

DMerciful:
I'm not saying men should cheat on their wives however we cannot wholeheartedly copy the West. We take the best of both worlds and leave the worst. From the days of Abraham men has been marrying more than one wives and it's natural but due to modernization, men is sticking to one wife but because it's natural, something has to give! Takes tremendous will to be very responsible and the ladies are not helping either, temptation abounds.Its not as easy as you think especially as you don't have testosterone in large quantities running through you!

If you fvck the same pussy for the rest of your life will it kill you? Can't you kill yourselves with different styles on the bed and different places at home? Must you do the same thing to another woman? Cos I know all this talk boils down to sex, you guys can't see beyond that and have discipline and morality, go ahead nah, copy Adam and everyone in the Old testament, have concubines like King Solomon and see if you and skeleton won't be dragging weight

We will try our best, if there is a will there is a way. We can postpone it maybe around 60yrs when the woman can't cope with frequent action Just kidding

Biglittlelois:


If you fvck the same pussy for the rest of your life will it kill you? Can't you kill yourselves with different styles on the bed and different places at home? Must you do the same thing to another woman? Cos I know all this talk boils down to sex, you guys can't see beyond that and have discipline and morality, go ahead nah, copy Adam and everyone in the Old testament, have concubines like King Solomon and see if you and skeleton won't be dragging weight