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Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by lilbabe79: 2:59pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
Hi I have this male friend I’ve known for almost 20 years. He courted me back in the days but I was not available so we remained friends so far. Life keeps pulling us apart and bringing us closer (geographically). He now lives on the other side of the world but we cal each other all the time. He’s my best friend, support and confident. He knows everything about me and I about him. We talk a lot, laugh to the same things etc. We stayed at each other’s place multiple times over the years, even sharing a bed now and there but he never tried anything Now we are both 40 with a few failed relationships under our belt. He keeps telling me how he wants to settle and start a family. We talk a lot about the fact that the best way to go is marry your best friend, someone you really know and so on. I have this odd feeling that he’s trying to test the waters with me but he never says anything definitive I’m really wondering if I should make the first move and tell him we should give it a try. I’ve never done such thing in my life and I’m afraid he would say no. If he does, our friendship would probably take a hit. What do you suggest ? 51 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by Nobody: 3:03pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
lilbabe79: do anything you like it is up to you guys, you guys are 40 years old already. what is stopping you from making a move. una don old already. use your opportunity while it last to grab the 40 years old nice man. 248 Likes 16 Shares |
Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by Nobody: 3:08pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
Ha!!!, that nigga friend zoning is on another level. You mean he’s never mistakenly pressed your bubby?? 299 Likes 18 Shares |
Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by Jayslicky: 3:29pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
You are old enough to make up your mind if you feel he is the right man for you, a man that didn't take advantage of you while you both slept on the same bed many times is a good guy who has control over his sexual urges, I think he really needs someone to bond and share his feelings with and that person is you, you guys have passed the stage of thinking about heartbreaks, you just have to try your best to see if the relationship would work and forget about any interior intentions from the man. I think you two have been in love for long but you both are afraid of the unknown, life is not in a straight part, what happened in your past relationships should not be a yardstick for a new one. About you telling him your feelings, I think you should tell him to avoid future regrets, there is no harm in trying, all the explanation you gave here shows the man is in love with you but he is also afraid of the same thing as you are, apply the proverb "if Mohammed doesn't go the mountain the mountain would go to Mohammed" 172 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by Hollysaint: 4:58pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
You are in love with each other. 45 Likes |
Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by derrydinny: 5:23pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
don't go and toast him o, be asking us question he decided not to woo you again after it didn't work out years back because of you, make amends grandma 73 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by catwalq(f): 5:24pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
One word 54 Likes
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Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by flokii: 5:29pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
Hmmn.. this one is quite dicey You want to settle with the poor guy now after exhausting all options with other guys that failed. The fact that you're best friends now doesn't mean you'd still be best friends in marriage tho.. shoot your shot if you want, best of luck! 42 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by extremelygolden: 5:45pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
Go about it in a playful manner. In the middle of a conversation when he says something that thrills you, just chip in a sentence like, O!Jay I love you more each passing day. You make me happy always by your perception about life. If you were around now I would have said, what have you given me to eat? I am just loving you too much these days. Then you quickly change the topic. You will see that after some time he will call to confirm if what you said about loving him is true? That's when you will tell him Yes in a bold letter. Best of luck, dear. 241 Likes 26 Shares |
Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by IvarTheHorrible: 10:45pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
![]() If after 20 years, he hasn't made a move, he's 1. A gay or 2. Impotent or 3. Just not into you. 4. ALL of the above. 20 years in Friendzone is a lifetime! 93 Likes 3 Shares
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Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by eben1marketer: 10:45pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
I'm coming |
Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by Rubbiish(m): 10:45pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
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Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by WilliamsChelster(m): 10:47pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
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Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by Annibel(f): 10:47pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
Op y didn't you bring up this topic on April fools day? That way when you ask them out and they refused you can just say April fool ![]() 89 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by tunjilee003: 10:47pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
you can give it a try, atimes it is better to marry one Best friend... 1 Like |
Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by Rosarie(f): 10:48pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
He is not into you. He knows ur flaws and good sides. He has choosen it'ss best he remains friends cos he can not marry you. If not he would have long made the move. If u date him;u will not be happy cos it will be a one sided thing. Some relationship are best left the way they are 26 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by Nobody: 10:48pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
Do what feels right to you |
Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by omojesu202(m): 10:48pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
odikwa risky 1 Like |
Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by IvarTheHorrible: 10:49pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
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Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by Nobody: 10:50pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
yes.. you are old enough.. stop acting like a baby.. go for what you want you are 40 year old not 20 years 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by Chinny024(f): 10:50pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
Make Una go sleepeeeeeeee... Haba!!!! |
Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by highdon(m): 10:50pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
extremelygolden: did u study dis in school 63 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by Nobody: 10:50pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
You said you still love your baby daddy on this thread https://www.nairaland.com/4872820/baby-daddy-new-guy Get over your baby daddy first. As for this man let him be the one to initiate a relationship with you. If he wanted a relationship with you he would've. Give him hints but let him be the one to make a move. 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by BlackPantherCri: 10:50pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
lilbabe79: There is nothing wrong in making the first move. Apparently you guys are made for each other, you are just too shy or proud to admit it 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by Chinashopping84: 10:51pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
yes |
Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by willexyaho(m): 10:51pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
Ok extremelygolden:Teacher 4 Likes |
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Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by omojesu202(m): 10:52pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
OYO... please stop disturbing me... 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by koor01: 10:52pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
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Re: Should I Make A Move On My Best Friend ? by mystiquerebirth(m): 10:54pm On Apr 05, 2019 |
It's sad knowing that premature persons with zero empathy are here. A fool is known when he opens his mouth. derrydinny: 12 Likes |
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