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Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by Trust2001(m): 4:01pm On Apr 10, 2019 |
Pls guys it's long but pls take time to read all through Hi everyone, I'm a boy of 18yrs and I'm suffering from the sin of masturbation! I started viewing porn since I was 11yrs old and started masturbating since I was 13, I've tried several times to quit it but the highest I can go is 3weeks. I've never had sex before and I've never had a girlfriend before. Fast forward to 2018 during the ASUU strike I gave my life to Jesus Christ and regretted committing all the sins I've committed in the past and reconciled with my cousin whom I haven't spoken to for a year. I read my Bible and prayed day and night then ASUU called off the strike and the devil used it as an opportunity to trap me then I began staring at girls backsides in school and saying in my mind that its not a sin if u don't lust after them, people around me were saying all sort of bad stuffs, and the school itself was loading me with work and I stopped praying and reading my Bible daily ( but I do it 3-4 times a week) and concentrated on studying my school books and started viewing sex related front page threads on nairaland, then one night I wanted to pray and sleep but I was too weak to pray so I said the Lords prayer and slept then I had a dream that I was in a room with some boys and girls my age and we were talking then the others left me alone with 1 girl and she started touching me and started touching her and just as we were about to have sex I woke from my dream then a demon was present with me attaching itself to me from my back and holds me tight , all I could see were its hands and legs it never let's me see it's face (it's not the first time, it usually does this to me at night whenever I masturbate in the day time) then I prayed in my heart and it left 3 days after that event I viewed a sex related FP thread and boom I masturbated for the first time after 3months and I felt bad and forsaken. Then I asked for forgiveness and went back to it again and finally asked for forgiveness again last night I cried seriously because I knew I wasn't worthy but believed I could be forgiven then after the prayer (about 20minute which was my usual for praying) then I read my bible and slept then woke up at 4:00 and wasn't feeling sleepy so I prayed and read my bible then I began to feel sleepy so I slept, then I had a dream were I held chicken in my hands then I put it in my mouth and realizing I was dreaming, I knew it wasn't right to eat in a dream so I removed it from my mouth and woke up,, Boom I saw the scariest thing I've ever seen my life a spirit wearing a red shirt and a blue jeans trouser staring at me beside my bed but I couldn't move or speak but I wasn't afraid and I was praying in my mind, I don't know if it was a demon or a spirit but it was as short as a 12yrs old boy very dark and skinny but the face wasted clear enough for me know whether it was human or demon, then it left and I regained my self so I got up and prayed then went back to bed and took my phone and starting browsing football news because I wasn't scared of it and the time was 5something then. I've never told anyone this my problem before, I really never want backslide again. Pls if there is any advice u have for me pls say it really love u guys so much! @jesusjnr @CharlyG1 1 Like |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by Nobody: 5:38pm On Apr 10, 2019 |
Hey bro! You made a comment with respect to being too weak to pray at some point. You are not the first believer that happened to, for it even happened to Jesus' top three disciples at some point, so i'm going to first leave you with the entails of what transpired on that occasion for you to meditate on, and then I would get back to you on the matter: Matthew 26:36-46 (KJV) Then cometh Jesus with them unto a place called Gethsemane, and saith unto the disciples, Sit ye here, while I go and pray yonder. And he took with him Peter and the two sons of Zebedee, and began to be sorrowful and very heavy. Then saith he unto them, My soul is exceeding sorrowful, even unto death: tarry ye here, and watch with me. And he went a little further, and fell on his face, and prayed, saying, O my Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me: nevertheless not as I will, but as thou wilt. And he cometh unto the disciples, and findeth them asleep, and saith unto Peter, What, could ye not watch with me one hour? Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak. He went away again the second time, and prayed, saying, O my Father, if this cup may not pass away from me, except I drink it, thy will be done. And he came and found them asleep again: for their eyes were heavy. And he left them, and went away again, and prayed the third time, saying the same words. Then cometh he to his disciples, and saith unto them, Sleep on now, and take your rest: behold, the hour is at hand, and the Son of man is betrayed into the hands of sinners. Rise, let us be going: behold, he is at hand that doth betray me. So I'd be back to share more concerning this. God be with us. |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by Trust2001(m): 6:00pm On Apr 10, 2019 |
jesusjnr:Amen |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by Image123(m): 7:30pm On Apr 10, 2019 |
MuttleyLaff candidate. |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by NPComplete: 7:46pm On Apr 10, 2019 |
Trust me. The day u get smart and realise your religion is horseshit, the day u will truly become free. Just wait and watch how all the Christians here that are committing many so-called sins of their own come here and start falling over one another to teach u how not to back slide anymore. Lol They are all fake clowns. Write this down anywhere. No matter what they tell u today, u will still backslide. The only difference is that u may not care anymore and still be claiming u are a holy radical for Jesus. The best thing u can do for ur peace of mind is rid it of religion and start using your brain that God gave u. 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by ThothHermes: 7:49pm On Apr 10, 2019 |
Image123:Hahaha... I don't understand. Is Muttley an authority on w@nking or something? I'm intrigued. |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by Image123(m): 8:21pm On Apr 10, 2019 |
ThothHermes:Lol, he presumes to be. Well, he'll speak better for himself soon. |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by Image123(m): 8:22pm On Apr 10, 2019 |
NPComplete:Fail, Failure, Failsworth. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by Ihedinobi3: 8:52pm On Apr 10, 2019 |
NPComplete:I'm keeping this post in mind for when you ever deny again that you believe that being a Christian makes anybody dumb. |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by MuttleyLaff: 9:17pm On Apr 10, 2019 |
Image123:Nwanne I know, a candidate indeed, no doubt. ThothHermes:By the mercy and grace of God, I just find myself being a blessing to many and/or blessing many too because ThothHermes, as you become a blessing to others, you set yourself up to be blessed. Blessed are they, who see the beauty in all manner of people, when and where others, see them not worthy. Image123:Right on cue. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by Nobody: 9:42pm On Apr 10, 2019 |
God help you brother, There is more to the statement *looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith*. Don't look at your wickness but unto Jesus. Pray and subdued unguided curiosity, Holiness in you soul and spirit, Total purging from unholy taught and imagination. God bless all faith, but let his judgment be on deceivers 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by Ihedinobi3: 9:43pm On Apr 10, 2019 |
Trust2001:Hello there. I'm sorry to hear this trouble that you have. However, it is not nearly as uncommon as it may seem to you. Every single Christian stumbles no matter how great or mature they are. Of course, the more mature a Christian gets, the less they stumble into gross sin like the one you are complaining about here. This is why it is very important for Christians to make it a point of duty to grow up spiritually. It is a joy to hear that you take your Bible-reading and prayer seriously. Not many Christians today take it as seriously as you do, and it is tremendously important. However, Bible reading and prayer are only one part of the equation. Spiritual growth comes from taking pains to learn the Bible in-depth from a gifted and prepared Bible teacher. Reading your Bible is important both so that you can see for yourself what it is that God says, and so that you can be sure that what the teacher is telling you is actually true. But growing spiritually will simply not happen unless you commit to learning the Bible under one teaching ministry that feeds you substantive and correct Bible teaching. As you grow, like I said, you will find it easier to give up sinful habits and adopt godly ones. If you don't grow, it remains a very daunting daily battle that will constantly rob you of your joy and peace. To be clear, it will never cease to be a daily battle, but spiritual growth and maturity does make it easier to win more often. None of us will ever be perfect in this sinful body, but we can reach a very high level of sanctification, if we are willing to fight for it with spiritual growth. I really hope that this gives you hope and that it stirs your zeal to follow after the Lord. If it does, I very highly recommend https://ichthys.com where I learned and continue to learn. There are several Bible studies written up there in a systematic and exhaustive way that will open the Bible up to you. You can start small with the Peter series and work your way up. There is also a systematic theology there that captures the main doctrines of the Bible so that you can appreciate how the Bible works. Besides Ichthys, which is very heavy on text with only audio versions of the text as the multimedia available there, there is also www.bibleacademyonline.com. This one is also highly recommended, and is a video ministry. If you prefer that media, you can use it instead. The important thing is not whether it is video or text or audio or even who the teacher is. It is that you get the Truth straight. These two teachers are people that I highly recommend. But the choice is up to you whether it is one of them or it is somebody else entirely outside of the two of them. Whoever you choose from wherever, never lose sight of your Bible. Keep it close to make sure that your teacher is telling you the Truth about what God says. I will say a prayer here for you. I would also be very happy to help in any further way you need me to. Grace be with you. PS.: In the meantime, when you fall into sin, just confess your failure to the Lord, and get up and keep running. Don't allow a false sense of guilt to cripple you and cost you your zeal for God. We ought never to sin, but the Lord is always ready and willing to forgive us when we confess our sins. He will still discipline us so that we grow in our fear of Him, which guards us from sinning foolishly against Him in the future. But everything I said in the foregoing is the only way to actually deal with this decisively. 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by UceeGod: 9:57pm On Apr 10, 2019 |
You need to acknowledge that you can't help yourself from falling back into what you don't want to do. The fact that your conscience still convicts you is an evidence that the Holy Spirit is in you and hasn't left you. The Holy Spirit is the only One who can help you, so stop trying to descipline yourSELF and seek His help. Your main problem isn't the sin of masturbation but SIN and SELF. Masturbation or any other sin is only a symptom of dominion of of SIN over your soul(mind and emotion). Every believer in Christ has had one or more struggles against SIN at one point or the other, the struggle is necessary so we'll know you can't overcome them by yourSELF but by the finished work of Jesus Christ on the cross through the power of the Holy Spirit. You only need to start yielding to the prompting of the Holy Spirit EVERY MOMENT to reckon yourSELF dead to SIN by denying your personal desires for God's desires. You'll need to read spiritual books apart from the Bible to help you on how to yield your whole being to the control of the Holy Spirit EVERYDAY so you can be free from the dominion of SIN and be under the dominion of the SPIRIT. Make Romans 6:11,14. & 8:2 your everyday memory verses and contact me on whatsapp for spiritual books to read on pdf if you care |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by Trust2001(m): 6:29am On Apr 11, 2019 |
Ihedinobi3:Thanks bro I really appreciate,, God be with us |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by Trust2001(m): 6:31am On Apr 11, 2019 |
UceeGod:Thank you sir,, here is my WhatsApp no for the PDFs 08188326278 |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by Nobody: 6:55am On Apr 11, 2019 |
Trust2001:Hi bro! I hope you have meditated on the passage I provided for you, because it contains Jesus, the Master's answer concerning what you intend to achieve, which is not to continue to fall into temptations and sin against God. For someone who never fell into temptations or sinned was Jesus, being perfect in all His ways, so In my own opinion the best way to be able replicate that feat is to learn from the perfect One Himself. And on that particular occasion He was giving an tip to His own disciples, even those who were going to take over the barton from Him, how He was able to achieve that unprecedented feat. And it was via prayer, for as He said the flesh is weak but the spirit is willing. Now here's the catch, those are two factors that determine your every action, your flesh or your spirit, for the two combined made you a living soul. Now while your flesh proceeded from the earth, and hence tends towards the things of the earth and consequently towards sin which is what happens when one falls into temptations, your spirit proceeded from God, and therefore tends towards the things that be of God, and consequently the obedience of His words which means the same thing as not sinning or falling into temptations. Hence Jesus saying that one prays so that he would not fall into temptation, since prayer is a means via which man relates with his Creator from whom his spirit came, for that is a way for man to grow the influence of his spirit over his actions, and hence make him not fall into temptation or sin against God because the spirit of man is willing and inclined towards obedience of God's Word. And fasting is also meant to achieve the same purpose, as you should already know the saying, "man shall not live by bread alone, but by every Word that comes out of the mouth of God", for while bread feeds your flesh, fasting feeds your spirit and enable it grow and hence have more influence over your actions. Now why these two are so important is because of how important it is that you are obedient to God's Word and do not fall into temptations and sin against God, for that's the most important thing with respect to man's existence on Earth. For from your experiences, you should already be able to see the relationship/connection that exists between your falling into temptation/ sinning, and Satan and the demons etc. having power over you, for the only power that Satan could have over man is that which man's disobedience of God's Word has accorded him. So otherwise Satan is powerless, and you should also be able to see the connection between Satan being powerless in Jesus' respect, and the fact that Jesus was perfect and never sinned or fell into temptation. I would say more to you concerning this, but i advice that you start applying this knowledge already provided to your situation, and I know since it's the Truth, the Truth shall set you free. I must commend you for the extent of remorse you've shown concerning issue of masturbation, for that's a necessary ingredient for you be able to gain freedom from it. So well done bro! And don't worry all those demons consequently troubling you, have an end. God be with us. 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by OpenYourEyes1: 7:34am On Apr 11, 2019 |
Trust2001, do not give up my friend. Your soberly attitude pleases GOD alot. What GOD hates is hardened sinners. The devil has lost control of you. he will keep trying to destroy your relationship with God until he reclaims you. Make sure to pray every single time you sin or about to sin. This will help keep GOD close to you all the time. Do more things that please GOD and he will stay close to guide you. Anger, lying, stealing, deceit, hate, pride, self centeredness, lawlessness, and other sins must be avoided too Bible reading helps alot. Wish you all the best 1 Like |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by MuttleyLaff: 7:59am On Apr 11, 2019 |
NPComplete:"And if your It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell." - Matthew 5:30 I couldnt have agreed more to the entire statement coming from a Nairaland world famous atheist. SMH very profound and tough bullshits, just as how and/or the way, I serve mine too 1 Like |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by Abcruz(m): 6:57pm On Apr 11, 2019 |
Hear the word of the Sovereign LORD O simple one: Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you?--1 Corinthians 3:16 It was for this freedom that Christ set us free [completely liberating us]; therefore keep standing firm and do not be subject again to a yoke of slavery [which you once removed].--Galatians 5:1 How can a young man keep his behavior pure? By guarding it in accordance with your word.--psalm119:9 Now flee from youthful lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, with those who call on the LORD from a pure heart.--2 Timothy 2:22 1 Like |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by Abcruz(m): 6:58pm On Apr 11, 2019 |
Hear the word of the Sovereign LORD O simple one: Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you?--1 Corinthians 3:16 It was for this freedom that Christ set us free [completely liberating us]; therefore keep standing firm and do not be subject again to a yoke of slavery [which you once removed].--Galatians 5:1 How can a young man keep his behavior pure? By guarding it in accordance with your word.--psalm119:9 Now flee from youthful lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, with those who call on the LORD from a pure heart.--2 Timothy 2:22 The ear that listens to the reproofs of life abides among the wise!!! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by Funaki: 7:10pm On Apr 11, 2019 |
NPComplete: everyone will be forming pastor on top your matter until you realize they are doing worse things 1 Like |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by oitnb: 4:44pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
Hey, Firstly, millions of believers struggle with sexual desire. Sexual desire is mostly emotional and physical and you can't always easily switch it off with thoughts. You will grow to be able to, but, it never really goes away. The body that God has given you is working as it should, and your body is telling you that. It's nothing to be worried or even ashamed of. There is a difference between letting your body do what it needs to, and using imagery in your mind or using porn. Don't use imagery. The Bible discusses 'defiling the body', but, if you think rationally about it - would God want you to be equally ashamed of feeling hungry or thirsty? Try to detach your feelings from what you will no doubt have to do (as little as possible hopefully). Don't even think about any girl when you do it. That is unacceptable. It's disrespectful, and can lead to reliance on mental images and pervert the natural reason for sex within a relationship - love and babies. It isn't 'sexual perversion' to just let your body do what it needs to do. It is perversion if you start to take pleasure in it outside of a relationship, and let it control you. If it happens so often that you feel that it is making you feel shame, do it less often. Persecuting your mind at your age should not be happening. Respect your mind and take care of it. You will serve God with it in the future. If you are too young to get married, and don't want to make your life a crazy misery, forgive yourself, but get tougher on yourself with prayer. God is compassionate. He made you. The more you think and worry about these things, the more the evil one is laughing. I'm not sure who is visiting you at night, but, one single prayer to Jesus before bed time, to protect you whilst you sleep, will stop it. If Satan tempts you, say "the Lord rebuke you" and know that Jesus has (because He definitely does). That is Biblical. Satan's minions will return to you, as they do to us all. Let Jesus rebuke them. They hate it and flee immediately. If you disagree with anything that I have said, I respect that. I'm trying to help. I've been (and still am sometimes) in your situation and I'm not going to deny it. I'll pray for you. God bless, take care. |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by shadeyinka(m): 5:18pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
Trust2001:Please check your mail and let's talk privately. I PMed you 1 Like |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by Trust2001(m): 5:22pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
shadeyinka:I just replied thanks |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by shadeyinka(m): 10:53pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
Trust2001: Check you email please |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by Zoroaster: 10:55pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
Nothing wrong with playing with your dick.. Enjoy yourself ![]() |
Re: Please Help I'm Tired Of Backsliding by Image123(m): 2:21am On Jun 05, 2019 |
Zoroaster: The pleasure of sin is nothing compared to the pain of hell. 1 Like |
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