ImaIma1:


Your assumption at the bolded sounds shallow especially as you don't even know the faceless people on this blog.

Hamburger of 400 naira is bound to give someone a runny stomach but if that is your standard, it's fine.

If 5k is not luxury or extravagant, why would you prefer to take 2k and pinch it? Because girls don't spend that much? If you have that mindset, then why ask out in the first place?

I am going to create a new thread with a new moniker and pretend all I have to go on a date is 5k. You will be surprised at the bashing I will get. A lot of people would come and say I am stingy and broke and shouldn't even talk to ladies.

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This has nothing to do with mentality. It's about not letting others set a standard for you knowing well how materialistic these same people are.
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Your claim of food poisoning here is rather subjective, not objective.
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Ironically, I won't be going on dates ever again. Thanks to my ogas, it has to be on my bed now or no where.

Preshy561:

Tueh.
Totally shameless.


Please, desist from quoting me.

Walksouttastupidthread.

Lol

ImaIma1:


You don't know the person well and don't know what she would want. It's a time to know if you will proceed further

It's okay. We may all continue and flow with our different opinions of life. Cheers

Jayneek:


Thank you so so so very much my dear. You just hit the nail on the head. Many of them been talking shit since. At the end you got the answer. Why didn't he just carry only 2k in his pocket.
No one is asking you spend heaven and earth on the date, but hold some good cash because anything can happen. Let's say after everything her slippers cut or something and no shoe maker around, at least you can buy bathroom slippers for her to go home with abi they will prefer use ordinary leg back home. Na wa ooo

It's a mentality for them basically. It is in the mind

Laurene:
pls tell them ooo....date is not a money spending spree..

My dear, materialism has really done alot of harm

Jayneek:


Okay after this your estimate baba, let assume before you guys leave rains starts falling so you guys had to chill for rain to subside, then the place is a little flooded now she can use her leather slippers in the flooded water. Is it a crime to at least buy her a bathroom slippers if they sell one around? Now all the money in your pocket has finished so you won't be bothered abi because you have reached your budget for the date.

The main point I have been trying to make from the start is not about going to spend heaven on earth or your life savings on a date. It has always been that its wrong to carry just 2k because anything can happen.

You can have 5k or 10k and still not spend more than 2k yes. But not to just carry only 2k for pocket on a date haba. If actually he had like 5k in his pocket he would not have had such embarrassment and still not spend more than the 2k.

It's always good to have a back up plan. Now, the extra cash is your back up plan and not your actual budget plan. The plan is to work within your budget and when things go south, you call for back up.
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Even if I am going to the market to get food stuffs, I go with extra cash so it's not new here. But I try as much as I can not to deep into that extra cash. So it's nothing new.

IronPants:



I am going to create a new thread with a new moniker and pretend all I have to go on a date is 5k. You will be surprised at the bashing I will get. A lot of people would come and say I am stingy and broke and shouldn't even talk to ladies.

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This has nothing to do with mentality. It's about not letting others set a standard for you knowing well how materialistic these same people are.
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Your claim of food poisoning here is rather subjective, not objective.
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Ironically, I won't be going on dates ever again. Thanks to my ogas, it has to be on my bed now or no where.

Whatever makes you sleep at night.

I never went out on a date where a guy picked what i would drink or eat. What i am used to is a guy asking "what would you have?" And not him deciding for me. And i would usually ask his budget and how much he is willing to spend.

I guess these younger guys have a different orientation. And i guess it is ok especially with the standard of girls they usually take out.

ImaIma1:


A date, especially a first one is a time to know a person and if you will see the person again depending on how it plays out.

Secondly, 2k cannot even buy something basic to eat for two people. And the 2k included 500naira for her transport and 100naira for his.

Forget spending recklessly or being prudent, would YOU invite a girl you like on a date and go with just 1,400 to spend? Please answer sincerely

Of course #1400 would still buy 2 doughnuts and two bottles of water in any average eatery in Nigeria so that should do, it's about bonding and getting to know each other and not a banquet at the ballroom of a Chateau,i can however decide to spend way more depending on the connection,if the, connection is right then we can then proceed to go for a banquet if I'm willing and able.

IronPants:


It's always good to have a back up plan. Now, the extra cash is your back up plan and not your actual budget plan. The plan is to work within your budget and when things go south, you call for back up.
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Even if I am going to the market to get food stuffs, I go with extra cash so it's not new here. But I try as much as I can not to deep into that extra cash. So it's nothing new.

So now do you get the whole point of why I said going on a date with just only a budget of 2k was totally wrong?

Laurene:
ras lol..what are you doing here.. how film thread

Babe I dey. I just dey watch you since in James Bond mode. Honestly, you are too rational and I agree with many of your opinions. Therefore...take this one bottle.

Laurene:
i will advise you like my younger brother, learn proper drafting and management assessment evaluation before embarking on a date...as a younger brother to me

Supu.

Jayneek:


Okay after this your estimate baba, let assume before you guys leave rains starts falling so you guys had to chill for rain to subside, then the place is a little flooded now she can use her leather slippers in the flooded water. Is it a crime to at least buy her a bathroom slippers if they sell one around? Now all the money in your pocket has finished so you won't be bothered abi because you have reached your budget for the date.

The main point I have been trying to make from the start is not about going to spend heaven on earth or your life savings on a date. It has always been that its wrong to carry just 2k because anything can happen.

You can have 5k or 10k and still not spend more than 2k yes. But not to just carry only 2k for pocket on a date haba. If actually he had like 5k in his pocket he would not have had such embarrassment and still not spend more than the 2k.

Your analysis holds no logic the probability of that happening is 50/50 worst case scenario,besides I won't be taking a a girl with tear tear slippers on a date anyway,however if it ever happens he would take her to a, supermarket to buy a low budget slippers and pay with my ATM,he never said the 2k was his last penny anyway,by your analogy the slippers could also have cut soon as you guys departed on her journey home,you would just tell her to stay at the bus stop then u disembark on your journey home to go buy her your bathroom slippers then take it to her isn't it.

neyobills:


Of course #1400 would still buy 2 doughnuts and two bottles of water in any average eatery in Nigeria so that should do, it's about bonding and getting to know each other and not a banquet at the ballroom of a Chateau,i can however decide to spend way more depending on the connection,if the, connection is right then we can then proceed to go for a banquet if I'm willing and able.

What if she says she wants juice and shwarma and she is the classy type that can buy it herself? Or are you saying you only take out babes that are worth doughnuts and water?

The point is not if you would spend 2k or less. Would you leave your house with only 2k and not plan for eventualities?

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ImaIma1:


Whatever makes you sleep at night.

I never went out on a date where a guy picked what i would drink or eat. What i am used to is a guy asking "what would you have?" And not him deciding for me. And i would usually ask his budget and how much he is willing to spend.

I guess these younger guys have a different orientation. And i guess it is ok especially with the standard of girls they usually take out.

ImaIma1:


What if she says she wants juice and shwarma and she is the classy type that can buy it herself? Or are you saying you only take out babes that are worth doughnuts and water?

The point is not if you would spend 2k or less. Would you leave your house with only 2k and not plan for eventualities?

Of course if she has any cravings then she had better be able to afford it and not turn a date into a banquet after all no be only tissue paper they una bag,if the lady thinks she is worth more than, that then she should be ready to spend her worth,my dear bottle water is good enough for a date until your gluttonous instincts kick in I guess.

Of course I can leave home with 2k and my ATM handy and with money transfer on my phone I'm sure I can never go wrong,is there a dating rule that u must eat something on a date,if u are classy an ant to do some grandstanding do it with your funds not mine,a date isn't an avenue to massage your vain ego.

neyobills:


Of course if she has any cravings then she had better be able to afford it and not turn a date into a banquet after all no be only tissue paper they una bag,if the lady thinks she is worth more than, that then she should be ready to spend her worth,my dear bottle water is good enough for a date until your gluttonous instincts kick in I guess.

Of course I can leave home with 2k and my ATM handy and with money transfer on my phone I'm sure I can never go wrong,is there a dating rule that u must eat something on a date,if u are classy an ant to do some grandstanding do it with your funds not mine,a date isn't an avenue to massage your vain ego.

So shawarma and juice is a banquet? I think it has to be the upcoming men thinking this way. That water is enough and she can buy whatever she feels like eating .

Why not just leave her to drink her water at home? Or must you go out on a date?

Your response of having your atm handy just proved my point and nolified all the claims of you and the op. You might end up spending 2k or less but that is not all you leave the house with. Case closed!

ImaIma1:


So shawarma and juice is a banquet? I think it has to be the upcoming men thinking this way. That water is enough and she can buy whatever she feels like eating .

Why not just leave her to drink her water at home? Or must you go out on a date?

Your response of having your atm handy just proved my point and nolified all the claims of you and the op. You might end up spending 2k or less but that is not all you leave the house with. Case closed!

Why must you eat sharwama and juice on the date, why not buy it on your way home after the date if u are craving for it,cant u afford it, oh I guess it's one of the seven wonders of the world to you so anything just to have a bite goes right and any fool that buys u a, sharwama has already won your heart I guess,it's like going for a meeting and expecting to be welcomed by the smell of jollof rice and chicken,you could be served with just bottled water or nachos with cheese enchiladas but u are entitled to nothing at all,get it?

ImaIma1:


What if she says she wants juice and shwarma and she is the classy type that can buy it herself? Or are you saying you only take out babes that are worth doughnuts and water?

The point is not if you would spend 2k or less. Would you leave your house with only 2k and not plan for eventualities?

What is all these subtle talk about worth and class? This obviously carries an undertone of materialism. The concept of class is birthed from materialism which is exactly what you are pushing subtly with all your comments.
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Are you saying some girls are bigger than water and doughnut on a date which is going to last an hour at max?
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For christ's sake I am going on a date with you and not dinner with you. The whole essence of a date is stomach pleasure from the angle of the average Nigerian girl. You have gone a long way to prove that point.
Date simply means to meet. To someone. From the definition, did you see "to meet someone and eat shawarma or pizza"?



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In reference to your last mention, I can bet my left balls that I am older than you.

neyobills:


Why must you eat sharwama and juice on the date, why not buy it on your way home after the date if u are craving for it,cant u afford it, oh I guess it's one of the seven wonders of the world to you so anything just to have a bite goes right and any fool that buys u a, sharwama has already won your heart I guess,it's like going for a meeting and expecting to be welcomed by the smell of jollof rice and chicken,you could be served with just bottled water or nachos with cheese enchiladas but u are entitled to nothing at all,get it?

My point exactly. Refer to my post above.

neyobills:


Why must you eat sharwama and juice on the date, why not buy it on your way home after the date if u are craving for it,cant u afford it, oh I guess it's one of the seven wonders of the world to you so anything just to have a bite goes right and any fool that buys u a, sharwama has already won your heart I guess,it's like going for a meeting and expecting to be welcomed by the smell of jollof rice and chicken,you could be served with just bottled water or nachos with cheese enchiladas but u are entitled to nothing at all,get it?

I see that shawarma and juice is luxury to you as you liken it to one of the wonders of the world. And spending is an issue. You can go on your date with 1,400 as long as that is what you can afford.

IronPants:


It's always good to have a back up plan. Now, the extra cash is your back up plan and not your actual budget plan. The plan is to work within your budget and when things go south, you call for back up.
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Even if I am going to the market to get food stuffs, I go with extra cash so it's not new here. But I try as much as I can not to deep into that extra cash. So it's nothing new.

You have said it all here.

YOU DON'T LEAVE THE HOUSE WITH 2K EVEN IF YOU PLAN TO SPEND JUST THAT.

This has been the point all along and you have been beating about the bush since

ImaIma1:


I see that shawarma and juice is luxury to you as you liken it to one of the wonders of the world. And spending is an issue. You can go on your date with 1,400 as long as that is what you can afford.

You were the one that kept ranting about sharwama and juice as if your life depended on it and not the other way round,wobia olojukokoro!!!

IronPants:



What is all these subtle talk about worth and class? This obviously carries an undertone of materialism. The concept of class is birthed from materialism which is exactly what you are pushing subtly with all your comments.
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Are you saying some girls are bigger than water and doughnut on a date which is going to last an hour at max?
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For christ's sake I am going on a date with you and not dinner with you. The whole essence of a date is stomach pleasure from the angle of the average Nigerian girl. You have gone a long way to prove that point.
Date simply means to meet. To someone. From the definition, did you see "to meet someone and eat shawarma or pizza"?



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In reference to your last mention, I can bet my left balls that I am older than you.

Are you saying that you get there and say "it is doughnuts and water we are taking o" or you call the attendant and say "please give her doughnut and water" without asking what she would take?

Where does materialism start and stop? If i go out on a date and i eat chicken and chips with a bottle of soft drink, am i materialistic? How much is that? You are looking at it in relation to your pocket?

The funny thing is that i hardly eat out because i love to cook and i can be too critical of the food outside. But i would feel offended if a guy took me out and just ordered for me without asking.

IronPants:



What is all these subtle talk about worth and class? This obviously carries an undertone of materialism. The concept of class is birthed from materialism which is exactly what you are pushing subtly with all your comments.
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Are you saying some girls are bigger than water and doughnut on a date which is going to last an hour at max?
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For christ's sake I am going on a date with you and not dinner with you. The whole essence of a date is stomach pleasure from the angle of the average Nigerian girl. You have gone a long way to prove that point.
Date simply means to meet. To someone. From the definition, did you see "to meet someone and eat shawarma or pizza"?



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In reference to your last mention, I can bet my left balls that I am older than you.

Are you saying that you get there and say "it is doughnuts and water we are taking o" or you call the attendant and say "please give her doughnut and water" without asking what she would take?

Where does materialism start and stop? If i go out on a date and i eat chicken and chips with a bottle of soft drink, am i materialistic? How much is that? You are looking at it in relation to your pocket?

neyobills:


You were the one that kept ranting about sharwama and juice as if your life depended on it and not the other way round,wobia olojukokoro!!!

Why expose yourself this way now? So i have been talking to a kid? You can't even disagree objectively and with maturity. You are already ranting like a distressed child.

How is shawarma giving you high blood pressure like this? On top 1k. Well done

ImaIma1:


Are you saying that you get there and say "it is doughnuts and water we are taking o" or you call the attendant and say "please give her doughnut and water" without asking what she would take?

Where does materialism start and stop? If i go out on a date and i eat chicken and chips with a bottle of soft drink, am i materialistic? How much is that? You are looking at it in relation to your pocket?

The funny thing is that i hardly eat out because i love to cook and i can be too critical of the food outside. But i would feel offended if a guy took me out and just ordered for me without asking.

Madam, what's the essence of a date? To meet or to eat?

IronPants:



Madam, what's the essence of a date? To meet or to eat?

Why not Google it and see what you come up with.

Maybe you shouldn't call it a date if it is not that. You can call it a meeting ,stroll or you describe what it is you are going for.

ImaIma1:


Why not Google it and see what you come up with.

Maybe you shouldn't call it a date if it is not that. You can call it a meeting ,stroll or you describe what it is you are going for.

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ImaIma1:


A date, especially a first one is a time to know a person and if you will see the person again depending on how it plays out.

Secondly, 2k cannot even buy something basic to eat for two people. And the 2k included 500naira for her transport and 100naira for his.

Forget spending recklessly or being prudent, would YOU invite a girl you like on a date and go with just 1,400 to spend? Please answer sincerely

How much be bottle water and coke? Abi e should go and buy live cow? I don't understand

ImaIma1:


Why expose yourself this way now? So i have been talking to a kid? You can't even disagree objectively and with maturity. You are already ranting like a distressed child.

How is shawarma giving you high blood pressure like this? On top 1k. Well done

Olomoge onisharwama the 1k isn't the problem but the mindset,if I ever go for a date with your likes that like to turn dates to food stamps,i will form a call and excuse myself for an emergency and let u enjoy your feast because that's all that matters to u anyway,and that would be that last date ever because I would rather waster my money than sit with you because time lost can never be regained and time wasters like to waste their time with others.

It's not by force to go on a date. If you don't have money, stay at home, work harder so as not to go outside and disgrace yourself as a man in front of a lady. What is worth doing, is worth doing well. Don't allow poverty affect your thinking lads.

IronPants:

I do not know why you are trying hard to justify the path you have chosen to these folks here. Most of them have never gone on a date before.
Baby come my house na, baby come my house na is all they do.
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So they prefer you take a girl out and spend 30k on her in the name of "date"? Some of these girls have nothing meaningful to contribute to your life, these same girls would go home and start telling their friends about a maga they met once you start spending recklessly on them.
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You don't owe anybody anything, not even an explanation. What a world, filled with materialistic people and bunch of people with unhealthy sense of entitlement.
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You are smart and you should be proud.

You are smart. You nailed it.

I've actually been on dates and spent nothing except water and a few chocolate that doesn't even cost up to 2k. It was in a park, an open bar where you can bring your stuff, or just meet somewhere and go for walk together while discussing on-the-go. That doesn't mean if I have to spend 50k at the spot, I can't. It simply means that date doesn't have to cost something. Date is not a spending spree, but an avenue for two people to know themselves on a deeper level.

Our generations have become so materialistic, that been financially handicapped is a knock-out to enjoying basic pleasures of life. Women on here telling him to remain single, while simultaneously refusing to be single while being broke themselves is an height of hypocrisy and double standard. And if women can start footing their own bills during dates, issues like this wont be a thing.

If I were you OP, and she decided not to call back because you're still a struggling dude with potentials, I'l wont bother. She doesn't worth it anyway. That's if you're looking for something long term.