Cool.

First of all, ignore all these guys and girls condemning you. Most of them are just leeches and parasites who are only after a guy's money. They're those girls who a after rich guys because they are too lazy to work for themselves.

This might seem like a tough position to take but there's lots of sense in it.

Any girl that can't learn to manage with the little you have doesn't deserve to be in your life. That's how you know a girl who's only interested in and impressed by your money, and not in you as a person. Even if you spend on her today, what happens if tomorrow for some reason you no longer have enough money to impress her, she will dump you for someone richer.

Dating shouldnt be all about spending money extravagantly. It's about two people trying to get to know each other better. You can even go on a date without having to spend money on heavy meals and drinks. You can go out with someone to an open place and just enjoy the scenery. Go to a field and watch a live football game. Or visit an interesting place in the city and enjoy the view.

The focus should be on the two individuals, not on the financial display. A responsible and modest girl will be more interested in you as a person not on what you spend on her.

ImaIma1:


Why not Google it and see what you come up with.

Maybe you shouldn't call it a date if it is not that. You can call it a meeting ,stroll or you describe what it is you are going for.

Keep beating about the bush aunty.
My question still stands. What's a date? A meet or an eat?

neyobills:


Your analysis holds no logic the probability of that happening is 50/50 worst case scenario,besides I won't be taking a a girl with tear tear slippers on a date anyway,however if it ever happens he would take her to a, supermarket to buy a low budget slippers and pay with my ATM,he never said the 2k was his last penny anyway,by your analogy the slippers could also have cut soon as you guys departed on her journey home,you would just tell her to stay at the bus stop then u disembark on your journey home to go buy her your bathroom slippers then take it to her isn't it.

Stop chatting carelessly. Its just one simple example among millions of other situations that could occur. You saying going to the ATM to get low budget slippers doesn't make sense.
The point has always been the fact that it was wrong to just carry only 2k which was his budget to spend without thinking of any other situation that could probably shake the budget a little. Are you trying to say the embarrassment he got is better because he kept to the budget he had in mind?

Who does a budget without adding miscellaneous to it? What do you think that word means when you see a well prepared budget from a sensible person.

When you plan to do something on a budget always plan in case of any unexpected. That is the most sensible thing to do so there is not justification for budgeting 2k on a date because that's a lifestyle of the person and still ended up being embarrassed only to start blaming the lady because of 2k date budget.

pansophist:


You are smart. You nailed it.

I've actually been on dates and spent nothing except water and a few chocolate that doesn't even cost up to 2k. It was in a park, an open bar where you can bring your stuff, or just meet somewhere and go for walk together while discussing on-the-go. That doesn't mean if I have to spend 50k at the spot, I can't. It simply means that date doesn't have to cost something. Date is not a spending spree, but an avenue for two people to know themselves on a deeper level.

Our generations have become so materialistic, that been financially handicapped is a knock-out to enjoying basic pleasures of life. Women on here telling him to remain single, while simultaneously refusing to be single while being broke themselves is an height of hypocrisy and double standard. And if women can start footing their own bills during dates, issues like this wont be a thing.

If I were you OP, and she decided not to call back because you're still a struggling dude with potentials, I'l wont bother. She doesn't worth it anyway. That's if you're looking for something long term.

GBAM!
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The essence of a date is to meet and not to supply balanced diet to a broke girl. Did you notice how all these silly feminist failed to mention splitting the bills?

Nnaabros:
Cool.

First of all, ignore all these guys and girls condemning you. Most of them are just leeches and parasites who are only after a guy's money. They're those girls who a after rich guys because they are too lazy to work for themselves.

This might seem like a tough position to take but there's lots of sense in it.

Any girl that can't learn to manage with the little you have doesn't deserve to be in your life. That's how you know a girl who's only interested in and impressed by your money, and not in you as a person. Even if you spend on her today, what happens if tomorrow for some reason you no longer have enough money to impress her, she will dump you for someone richer.

Dating shouldnt be all about spending money extravagantly. It's about two people trying to get to know each other better. You can even go on a date without having to spend money on heavy meals and drinks. You can go out with someone to an open place and just enjoy the scenery. Go to a field and watch a live football game. Or visit an interesting place in the city and enjoy the view.

The focus should be on the two individuals, not on the financial display. A responsible and modest girl will be more interested in you as a person not on what you spend on her.

You are wise sir. This your wisdom is not ordinary. It is divine.

IronPants:



What is all these subtle talk about worth and class? This obviously carries an undertone of materialism. The concept of class is birthed from materialism which is exactly what you are pushing subtly with all your comments.
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Are you saying some girls are bigger than water and doughnut on a date which is going to last an hour at max?
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For christ's sake I am going on a date with you and not dinner with you. The whole essence of a date is stomach pleasure from the angle of the average Nigerian girl. You have gone a long way to prove that point.
Date simply means to meet. To someone. From the definition, did you see "to meet someone and eat shawarma or pizza"?



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In reference to your last mention, I can bet my left balls that I am older than you.

Don't even bother. The end of all this talk is materialism which ends up in class. That I have said in the first thread. It isn't compulsory to continue with the guy after the first date if she feels he isn't her class .

IT'S ALL ABOUT CLASS HERE

IronPants:

Keep beating about the bush aunty.
My question still stands. What's a date? A meet or an eat?

Even of you don't believe it is for eating and she says she is hungry, what would you do?

neyobills:


Olomoge onisharwama the 1k isn't the problem but the mindset,if I ever go for a date with your likes that like to turn dates to food stamps,i will form a call and excuse myself for an emergency and let u enjoy your feast because that's all that matters to u anyway,and that would be that last date ever because I would rather waster my money than sit with you because time lost can never be regained and time wasters like to waste their time with others.

Next thing now you will start singing"olodo rabata" . And you are supposed to be a man o.

Calm down. Life is not that hard. I don't eat what i cannot pay for. If i order chicken and chips and it tears your pocket so much that you run away, i will happily pay for my food.

Your mindset is the issue here. You think 1k food is a feast and you are already singing insults like a market woman. Breathe!

Jayneek:


Stop chatting carelessly. Its just one simple example among millions of other situations that could occur. You saying going to the ATM to get low budget slippers doesn't make sense.
The point has always been the fact that it was wrong to just carry only 2k which was his budget to spend without thinking of any other situation that could probably shake the budget a little. Are you trying to say the embarrassment he got is better because he kept to the budget he had in mind?


Who does a budget without adding miscellaneous to it? What do you think that word means when you see a well prepared budget from a sensible person.

When you plan to do something on a budget always plan in case of any unexpected. That is the most sensible thing to do so there is not justification for budgeting 2k on a date because that's a lifestyle of the person and still ended up being embarrassed only to start blaming the lady because of 2k date budget.

I don't need to have a budget for something as, petty as going for a date,I only have an expenses threshold,its just about the same as going out to drink with a beer buddy which 2k should also be enough in an average bar or hotel,i only add miscellaneous expenses on projects, family expenses and investments not dates.

You dont go to dates with a sweet tooth expecting some form of gratification,its a date, it's it what it is.

It's about the same as going for a meeting and expecting to be welcome with fried rice and chicken,a date is to discuss and get to know each other if the chemistry is right.

If I ask to take u out for lunch or dinner then that's a different ball game, a date is a date.

ImaIma1:


Even of you don't believe it is for eating and she says she is hungry, what would you do?

What if he told her he is hungry what should she do?

ImaIma1:


Even of you don't believe it is for eating and she says she is hungry, what would you do?

I've been reading your comments since and notice you always bring up food. Haba!

ImaIma1:


Next thing now you will start singing"olodo rabata" . And you are supposed to be a man o.

Calm down. Life is not that hard. I don't eat what i cannot pay for. If i order chicken and chips and it tears your pocket so much that you run away, i will happily pay for my food.

Your mindset is the issue here. You think 1k food is a feast and you are already singing insults like a market woman. Breathe!

Olomoge onisharwama life is not that hard,if u order for chicken and chips then u should be ready to pay, that's the norm for any sane person, are u a baby or do u expect us to clap for u been responsible for your meals,which one is happily pay again,kukuma dont sadly pay na,nah body go tell u,however I can decide to be benevolent and decide to pay based on my discretion but it's not an entitlement only that your like take advantage of the benevolence of your dates to satisfy your cravings and stuff your tummy.

neyobills:


Olomoge onisharwama life is not that hard,if u order for chicken and chips then u should be ready to pay, that's the norm for any sane person, are u a baby or do u expect us to clap for u been responsible for your meals,which one is happily pay again,kukuma dont sadly pay na,nah body go tell u,however I can decide to be benevolent and decide to pay based on my discretion but it's not an entitlement only that your like take advantage of the benevolence of your dates to satisfy your cravings and stuff your tummy.

Ok then. As i said, you can go on your 1,400 date since that is what you can afford.

Enjoy the rest of your day

ImaIma1:


Even of you don't believe it is for eating and she says she is hungry, what would you do?

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Ohhhhhh, so it's now my responsibility to feed her? I see.
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Get her something within my planned budget then.

neyobills:


I don't need to have a budget for something as, petty as going for a date,I only have an expenses threshold,its just about the same as going out to drink with a beer buddy which 2k should also be enough in an average bar or hotel,i only add miscellaneous expenses on projects, family expenses and investments not dates.

You dont go to dates with a sweet tooth expecting some form of gratification,its a date, it's it what it is.

It's about the same as going for a meeting and expecting to be welcome with fried rice and chicken,a date is to discuss and get to know each other if the chemistry is right.

If I ask to take u out for lunch or dinner then that's a different ball game, a date is a date.

The point is curtsy. Large percentile of Nigerians(both guys and girls) lack that. They dont want to do anything for themselves, all they do is live off other pple(very disgusting). They only know how to take take take take even without saying thank you.
Why would sn invite you on a date, and you will see that as an opp to satisfy your irrational or rational cravings? If u re hungry then go get it for yourself but if you dont have the money, then ask nicely. Dont make it seem like the guy owes you sth.
Sometimes back i was hangin out with a friend, we were at this bar and this dude ordered for a wine of like 7k, immediately i told him i dont take wine. I prefer a beer instead. Atlast we spent 1.8k max.
Maybe 7k is no big deal to him but then i prefer we just chill, talk and just relax as oppossed to trying to impress eachother. And oops this is thesame dude i lent some money cuz he said he was broke

Evercurious:


Don't even bother. The end of all this talk is materialism which ends up in class. That I have said in the first thread. It isn't compulsory to continue with the guy after the first date if she feels he isn't her class .

IT'S ALL ABOUT CLASS HERE

Sadly, this is just the summary of the whole argument

pansophist:


What if he told her he is hungry what should she do?

Note that he was the one who invited her on a date.

If a guy takes me on a date and says he is hungry and doesn't have money, i will buy him food. But off course i would wonder what kind of guy takes a girl out with an empty pocket.

IronPants:



GBAM!
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The essence of a date is to meet and not to supply balanced diet to a broke girl. Did you notice how all these silly feminist failed to mention splitting the bills?

Yes I did. The fact remains that money (an integral component of class) is an important factor on how desirable a man will be to women. Its that simple.

IronPants:

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Ohhhhhh, so it's now my responsibility to feed her? I see.
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Get her something within my planned budget then.

Ok I see.

Enjoy the rest of your day

ImaIma1:


Note that he was the one who invited her on a date.

If a guy takes me on a date and says he is hungry and doesn't have money, i will buy him food. But off course i would wonder what kind of guy takes a girl out with an empty pocket.

Been reading your comments and then i sense a correlation btw ungratefulness and your views. This mentality of yours is the reason why Nigerians dont have nice things cuz they go after shining(on the surface) things of which the end there of its all destruction.

Gaspardd:

Been reading your comments and then i sense a correlation btw ungratefulness and your views. This mentality of yours is the reason why Nigerians dont have nice things cuz they go after shining(on the surface) things of which at the end there of its all destruction.

Sorry of that's how you see it. It still doesn't justify going on a date with 2k. So 5k will deprive you from having nice things? Keep consoling yourself with that

Raalsalghul:

I've been reading your comments since and notice you always bring up food. Haba!

What is a date?

Maybe you guys should define it well and use the right term..."we are going out for a drink", etc. A date and what is required on one should be looked up

ImaIma1:


Ok then. As i said, you can go on your 1,400 date since that is what you can afford.

Enjoy the rest of your day

I could have decided to take u to dinner at a 5 star hotel tonight however folks like u ain't worth my time, I could have decided to send u the equivalent so u can eat sharwama tonight and not have nightmares of sharwama but I got nothing to prove and nothing to lose to your likes.

I decided to check your profile to see the face of Olomoge but got nothing,however i saw your motto was All man for himself bla bla, bla

So you know how to do all man for himself when its your turn yet u want to use another man money eat sharwama,isnt God just wonderful

ImaIma1:


Sorry of that's how you see it. It still doesn't justify going on a date with 2k. So 5k will deprive you from having nice things? Keep consoling yourself with that

Going on a date with 2k doesnt need to be justified. This is Nigeria... wtf woman?

neyobills:


I could have decided to take u to dinner at a 5 star hotel tonight however folks like u ain't worth my time, I could have decided to send u the equivalent so u can eat sharwama tonight and not have nightmares of sharwama but I got nothing to prove and nothing to lose to your likes.

I decided to check your profile to see the face of Olomoge but got nothing,however i saw your motto was All man for himself bla bla, bla

So you know how to do all man for himself when its your turn yet u want to use another man money eat sharwama,isnt God just wonderful

I don't even eat shawarma.

Allow me spend my hubby's money. Is it your money? And hope you will spend when you find a good woman.

Gaspardd:

Going on a date with 2k doesnt need to be justified. This is Nigeria... wtf woman?

Hmmm

ImaIma1:


I don't even eat shawarma.

Allow me spend my hubby's money. Is it your money? And hope you will spend when you find a good woman.

Spend your hubby money on sharwama,do u ever want to be responsible for anything in your life,and your motto is All man for himself,when will u man up and do something for yourself,everything nah my husband go buy am,is that your relationship goals,thank God I'm already married,your likes go make life tire person.

Raalsalghul:

I've been reading your comments since and notice you always bring up food. Haba!

Oh that's the national anthem of ineverchop gals now, are u surprised?

neyobills:


Spend your hubby money on sharwama,do u ever want to be responsible for anything in your life,and your motto is All man for himself,when will u man up and do something for yourself,everything nah my husband go buy am,is that your relationship goals,thank God I'm already married,your likes go make life tire person.

You have no idea but you can keep running your mouth since it gives you pleasure to do so.

ImaIma1:


Note that he was the one who invited her on a date.

If a guy takes me on a date and says he is hungry and doesn't have money, i will buy him food. But off course i would wonder what kind of guy takes a girl out with an empty pocket.

Good response, and I agree with your strategy.

Conversely, I'm a proponent for equal distribution of spending, regardless of who does the invitation. This should be the ideal, to avoid embarrassing moment where the non-payer ordered something above the budget of the payer. Like the OP. It is also a known fact that women go on date with a guy they otherwise, will not go out with, just because they will get to eat whatever through their medium.

If I invite someone to my house, then, yes, the onus of hospitality rest on me. If each individuals start paying for dates themselves, sham dates and embarrassing scenario will disappear overnight.

ImaIma1:


You have no idea but you can keep running your mouth since it gives you pleasure to do so.

I'm giving you advice free of charge so u won't take your gluttonous instincts along on your next date and scare potential partners away hopefully you might get lucky,he that has ears let them hear

neyobills:


I'm giving you advice free of charge so u won't take your gluttonous instincts along on your next date and scare potential partners away hopefully you might get lucky,he that has ears let them hear

Food worth 1k is gluttonous in relation to your pocket. Don't generalize it.

You can keep your advice for someone who asks for it.