pansophist:


Good response, and I agree with your strategy.

Conversely, I'm a proponent for equal distribution of spending, regardless of who does the invitation. This should be the ideal, to avoid embarrassing moment where the non-payer ordered something above the budget of the payer. Like the OP. It is also a known fact that women go on date with a guy they otherwise, will not go out with, just because they will get to eat whatever through their medium.

If I invite someone to my house, then, yes, the onus of hospitality rest on me. If each individuals start paying for dates themselves, sham dates and embarrassing scenario will disappear overnight.

I enjoy objective and reasonable disagreements as this. People need to learn to air their differences in opinion without abusive words.

This issue, i have realized has to do with a lot of factors like mindset and background. I can't expect a guy that is not exposed to understand that you don't invite a girl out on a date and take just 2k even if that is what you intend to spend.

truthsayer009:


It depends though, I believe with faith you can move mountains, He could just tell the waiter to fill his Cups with water then lift it up & praise da Lord. Wozzoah! It turns to wine.

Truth is, no amount is too small or too big 4 a date, what matters is your earnings and the party involved. My problem with the op is the fact that he sees that amount as the best and anything apart from that is Rubbish, now that is a very childish mentality. My first date with my current boyfriend wasnt up to 2k but it was fun. Doesnt mean we Dont spend more than that now

neyobills:


I don't need to have a budget for something as, petty as going for a date,I only have an expenses threshold,its just about the same as going out to drink with a beer buddy which 2k should also be enough in an average bar or hotel,i only add miscellaneous expenses on projects, family expenses and investments not dates.

You dont go to dates with a sweet tooth expecting some form of gratification,its a date, it's it what it is.

It's about the same as going for a meeting and expecting to be welcome with fried rice and chicken,a date is to discuss and get to know each other if the chemistry is right.

If I ask to take u out for lunch or dinner then that's a different ball game, a date is a date.

I love you bro!!!!!

Raalsalghul:

I've been reading your comments since and notice you always bring up food. Haba!

The thing tire m ooh! Lmao

IronPants:
. Ohhhhhh, so it's now my responsibility to feed her? I see. . Get her something within my planned budget then.

Wow! Smart response

gloria34:
Truth is, no amount is too small or too big 4 a date, what matters is your earnings and the party involved. My problem with the op is the fact that he sees that amount as the best and anything apart from that is Rubbish, now that is a very childish mentality. My first date with my current boyfriend wasnt up to 2k but it was fun. Doesnt mean we Dont spend more than that now

You again? Another one loading

IronPants:

Sadly, this is just the summary of the whole argument

My first comment in the first thread summarized this cos I knew the under tone of the lady's action as well as their comments here. Forget all these long epistles here all in the name of 'the guy is stingy'. The summary is all about CLASS. Funny enough that is the way they measure 'class'...FAKE FAKE LIFE

Oga Op abeg leave the babe make she go find her 'level'. SIMPLE

Raalsalghul:

I've been reading your comments since and notice you always bring up food. Haba!

My dear help me ask...Very embarrassing

ImaIma1:


Food worth 1k is gluttonous in relation to your pocket. Don't generalize it.

You can keep your advice for someone who asks for it.

Gluttony is not about the amount but the action

Gaspardd:

Meet me in 5yrs and lets see who you wud prefer to date.

Saving 2k every year for 5 years gives you 10k. What are you going to do with that?

Stop all these saving shitt you are feeding yourself, when you have money your taste will always change! Whatever method you think you are applying is just poor mentality with no cause for it. Stay true to yourself and live your life.

There is no Manual to be rich!!

Evercurious:


Gluttony is not about the amount but the action

So what is the action here?

Evercurious:


My dear help me ask...Very embarrassing

I don't know why you guys make a mountain out of a molehill.

Food is now luxury or something abominable to be eaten on a date? It is basic but somehow it is being blown out of proportion

Laurene:
see you ugly girl that was exposed the other day is talking..
nairaland has given some mouth. I can bet in reality you haven't gone out on an expensive date before, you might even be dating a man that earns less than 30k. I won't allow my brother to date you tufiakwa

who is this one? Waste of time.

I wouldn't even look twice at your brother

Gaspardd:

So if a millionaire sits facing north picking is hairy nose, then i shld act like him cus he's a millionaire and i am suppossed to act like one?

I will add lack of understanding to your list of qualities. Only a higher power can help your case, I am done with you

ImaIma1:


I don't know why you guys make a mountain out of a molehill.

Food is now luxury or something abominable to be eaten on a date? It is basic but somehow it is being blown out of proportion

Then how basic is it?

IronPants:





And what's the difference? Between you and the village girls?
Have you taken a guy on a date before and footed the bills?




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as friends, countless times. But a guy I view romantically, only once long after we were official.

funmisticqueen:
if someone plans to take me on a date with 2k, he should tell me in advance so that I will give him a 2k first impression. I will come in a hairnet, no makeup, my old t-shirt and bathroom slippers. I cannot make a loss abeg.

Let gaspardd and his supporters kukuma marry a village girl. It is not by force to date Lagos babe. Shoe get size,okirika get quality

NYSC hasn't given this gold digger sense

Nobodyperson:

NYSC hasn't given this gold digger sense

your hustle hasn't gotten you to the stage where a gold-digger will consider you. Hustle harder!!

Evercurious:



Then how basic is it?

*Yawns*

There is no point. We can't agree on this issue. You believe it is ok for a guy to budget 1,400 for a date, i don't.

You feel the girl is proud and gluttonous for eating something alongside the drink, i don't.

We have our different views and it is ok

Chai, I've never seen this kind of stinginess in my life.

Tufia!

ImaIma1:


That is what he is saying. In 5years, yes. But now, no. So that you won't be buying buns and fish roll when your girl comes to visit.

And wetin dey pain pass be sey na the op type dey Sabi hang leg for burglary. After buying the puff puff and doughnut 100 naira, they will expect you to open wide the 'folded gates' so they can enter.

Ishilove:

And wetin dey pain pass be sey na the op type dey Sabi hang leg for burglary. After buying the puff puff and doughnut 100 naira, they will expect you to open wide the 'folded gates' so they can enter.

Ohhhhhh, food in exchange for sex? I see.

Ishilove:

And wetin dey pain pass be sey na the op type dey Sabi hang leg for burglary. After buying the puff puff and doughnut 100 naira, they will expect you to open wide the 'folded gates' so they can enter.

Lol... i can't laugh

Ishilove:
Chai, I've never seen this kind of stinginess in my life.

Tufia!

Don't let his "voltrons" catch you o.

They are part of the 2k gang.

IronPants:

Ohhhhhh, food in exchange for sex? I see.

Thats all they can offer bro.

virgoquin:
you call spending 2k on a date as something useless lol.

You don't even need a girlfriend now sef just stick to Vaseline and soap it will be better for you.

@ Bolden, is this now the purpose of girlfriends?

Ishilove:

And wetin dey pain pass be sey na the op type dey Sabi hang leg for burglary. After buying the puff puff and doughnut 100 naira, they will expect you to open wide the 'folded gates' so they can enter.

Ishi so u naughty reach this?

SouthSouth1914:


Saving 2k every year for 5 years gives you 10k. What are you going to do with that?

Stop all these saving shitt you are feeding yourself, when you have money your taste will always change! Whatever method you think you are applying is just poor mentality with no cause for it. Stay true to yourself and live your life.

There is no Manual to be rich!!

Well i invest 2/3 of my salary, Been buying crypto and stuff and i am happy whenever i check my bags everyday. Still bought more this morning sef. U see, these re the things i prefer to do with my money. Maybe all will go to zero but i am damn sure that if the prices go back to d all time high? I will be having 6figures of money in usd. That might take me 5yrs or sth but i am very patient. And maybe they will all go to zero idk but what i am sure of is that their prices will never be what they re now.
All in all, i am very greatful and happy with my lifestyle.

ImaIma1:


Don't let his "voltrons" catch you o.

They are part of the 2k gang.

This made me bray laughter

Gaspardd:


Well i invest 2/3 of my salary, Been buying crypto and stuff and i am happy whenever i check my bags everyday. Still bought more this morning sef. U see, these re the things i prefer to do with my money. Maybe all will go to zero but i am damn sure that if the prices go back to d all time high? I will be having 6figures of money in usd. That might take me 5yrs or sth but i am very patient. And maybe they will all go to zero idk but what i am sure of is that their prices will never be what they re now.
All in all, i am very greatful and happy with my lifestyle.

So after making all the crypto billions, you will still settle for 2k dates? Some people had already achieved your 5 year targets, and they have chosen to raise their game. You cannot force a 2k date on everyone. With 2k, you won't even get a plate of food in some restaurants. Life is in classes, so is our pockets. Like I said in your previous thread, how much you spend on your date isn't so much of an issue for me, but seeing how you sat to calculate a 2k expense with no room for contingencies shows an innate issue. You need to fight it.

ImaIma1:


Lol... i can't laugh

The day I was involved in a road accident was the day my mentality about money changed. I'm a very frugal person myself, and although I still am, that day, with blood seeping out my nose, made me realize that life is very fragile and can disappear in an instant, like a puff of smoke. When this happens, everything you have worked for is gone and will not go with you where you're headed.

I'm not a reckless spender and I keep a tight rein on my finances, but when I need to spend, I don't without looking back. I don't deny myself life's little pleasures, and I sure as heck don't put a cap of 2,000 naira on ANYTHING. What is 2,000 naira in Nigeria today? How much fuel can it buy for your car? How much is that for tfare alone? How can that impact on a date, no matter how casual it is?

The OP thinks he is being wise but the scriptures said a fool and his money soon parted ways.

This kind of stinginess is mind boggling.

Acidosis:


So after making all the crypto billions, you will still settle for 2k dates? Some people had already achieved your 5 year targets, and they have chosen to raise their game. You cannot force a 2k date on everyone. With 2k, you won't even get a plate of food in some restaurants. Life is in classes, so is our pockets. Like I said in your previous thread, how much you spend on your date isn't so much of an issue for me, but seeing how you sat to calculate a 2k expense with no room for contingencies shows an innate issue. You need to fight it.

O ma ya mi l'enu ke. No contingencies whatsoever