horlique:
you mean you..not all men.. not me sha

wirinet:


Happy Sunday my friend
Hope the business climate is kind to you.

Amatarasha:
Wateva , I love hating men on my own terms

PhenomenalMorgan:
@Checked86
Maybe due to experiences in previous relationships where they were less restrictive about sexual interaction...
Maybe things didn't work out with the guys they gave sex to, and after all they feel used and dumped...
Just maybe...

lilmax:
the elastic limit don pass

JustBeing:


Thanks for your concern and you raise a strong point. For me it was all encompassing, not just about having sex.

The key is intention...I was having sex with him because I wanted to and I wanted to have my man satisfied but on his part it was just a means to an end. The major thing is I didn't appreciate being used at the end of the relationship.

What i regretted mostly was the time and emotions, the sex was just a fraction of the issues.

We're not all built similar and if a woman can easily move on from a failed relationship because she withheld sex, then isn't that better for her? I think it is. Only people who have had a mental breakdown from such experiences will totally understand the need to build up defences which may come as ' no sex before marriage'.

victorian:









Take lefulefu advice at your own peril.

I'm just saying.

Cos if u take to his advice? Such man will never get married or if he mistakenly marries, he will divorce and end up single for life. Is that really life?

Not all women are bad and oloshos, there are still some good women out there. Where he sees all those bad women and the experiences he has accumulated all these years, baffles me.

Oh oh I forget, he stays in Edo. Sorry I forget

But inbetween how old are u nw?

victorian:









Take lefulefu advice at your own peril.

I'm just saying.

Cos if u take to his advice? Such man will never get married or if he mistakenly marries, he will divorce and end up single for life. Is that really life?

Not all women are bad and oloshos, there are still some good women out there. Where he sees all those bad women and the experiences he has accumulated all these years, baffles me.

Oh oh I forget, he stays in Edo. Sorry I forget

But inbetween how old are u nw?

victorian:












My pussy is tight! I fear not.
He will even do thanksgiving on our behalf self and pay the bride price all over again with interest join.

Have been preserving my pussy for my destined lucky husband, not just any man. But that lucky blessed man destined for me.


I know I get mouth before ! But for this one, I'm not Mouthed! I'm Confirmed!

JustBeing:


Funny that the bulk of the responses are coming from male trolls in their late teens or early 20s.

Maybe you should have asked these women to be open and actually tell you why they took such decisions.

Well, I'm a woman in my 30s and I have recently detached from a relationship that broke me up in the worst way possible. One of the ways I used to go about relationships was giving my all; time, attention, money, love, care and sex. But after this last episode where i was with someone who was timing his exit would it be wise to go about relationships using that same MO? I think not.

I don't know if I'll get into another relationship or if i do get into one, will I have sex? I can't say. But all I know is there will be holds barred. I can't allow myself be put through such wringer and if 'no-sex' ensures that happens, then so be it. Understand that it has nothing to do with how I'm trying to project myself, I'm no saint. . .I'm only limiting the chances of being someone's fool. And in the event it ends for other reasons beyond our control, I won't go insane counting my losses and regrets. Men always want a woman who gives all but they never do that's why it's easy for them to have multiple partners and when it's time to settle down they start doing the 'choosing analysis' like you did.

I like how you chose to marry the one you slept with, it's only fair you did since it was one of your prioritised goals in a partner. Other men have married women they didn't get to sleep with. Yes, no sex can't force a man to marry you same as giving sex at whim won't increase the chances that a man marries you.

Afterall you almost married the one you didn't sleep with but your conscience forced your hand, which is good in my opinion.

MiddleDimension:


i really like your being frank.

if you are ok with it, please tell me: do you think when you have sex with your man before marriage, you are sinning against god? i know alot of those who believe in god but live together and are sexually active. infact, they go to church together and it is possible that the morning they get up from their bed to go to church they had sex, and possibly, after coming back, they had sex.

i am not judging here, but only stating my observation and wondering if some believers in god do not believe sex before marriage is a sin. ofcourse i was to embarrased to those people this question. and also, i do not know how they will feel. they may think i am trying ti judge them

so do you think when you have sex, your god is angry? how do you combine being a christian or muslim with sex before marriage?

VeeVeeMyLuv:
because libido is coming down , has reduced drastically

the highest libido is usually attained in the age range of 16 - 26 when hormones is running them wild.

victorian:






Attitude? As in how?

deltateam:


Op from my understanding of your post. You want girls to sleep with whoever they are dating before marriage. This is dangerous and I hate the idea already. Later your kind will say that girls are hoes.

From your perspective, if she's not a born again or a virgin, she has no right over her body. That's another bull crap.

So going by your writeup, if every girl were to sleep with guys they are dating. It simply means they would have slept with at least 50 men before marriage. What will that make her? The idea is sickening in itself.

Squirrel01:


Anyways forget it. bless up.

JustBeing:


Funny that the bulk of the responses are coming from male trolls in their late teens or early 20s.

Maybe you should have asked these women to be open and actually tell you why they took such decisions.

Well, I'm a woman in my 30s and I have recently detached from a relationship that broke me up in the worst way possible. One of the ways I used to go about relationships was giving my all; time, attention, money, love, care and sex. But after this last episode where i was with someone who was timing his exit would it be wise to go about relationships using that same MO? I think not.

I don't know if I'll get into another relationship or if i do get into one, will I have sex? I can't say. But all I know is there will be holds barred. I can't allow myself be put through such wringer and if 'no-sex' ensures that happens, then so be it. Understand that it has nothing to do with how I'm trying to project myself, I'm no saint. . .I'm only limiting the chances of being someone's fool. And in the event it ends for other reasons beyond our control, I won't go insane counting my losses and regrets. Men always want a woman who gives all but they never do that's why it's easy for them to have multiple partners and when it's time to settle down they start doing the 'choosing analysis' like you did.

I like how you chose to marry the one you slept with, it's only fair you did since it was one of your prioritised goals in a partner. Other men have married women they didn't get to sleep with. Yes, no sex can't force a man to marry you same as giving sex at whim won't increase the chances that a man marries you.

Afterall you almost married the one you didn't sleep with but your conscience forced your hand, which is good in my opinion.

JustBeing:


Thanks for your concern and you raise a strong point. For me it was all encompassing, not just about having sex.

The key is intention...I was having sex with him because I wanted to and I wanted to have my man satisfied but on his part it was just a means to an end. The major thing is I didn't appreciate being used at the end of the relationship.

What i regretted mostly was the time and emotions, the sex was just a fraction of the issues.

We're not all built similar and if a woman can easily move on from a failed relationship because she withheld sex, then isn't that better for her? I think it is. Only people who have had a mental breakdown from such experiences will totally understand the need to build up defences which may come as ' no sex before marriage'.

horlique:
good talk these days I de always announced my financial situation immediately you tell me "no sex" .like I have just N2000 home n abroad

So you know that is either u are in or not

TOPCRUISE:
Very simple. Because the ones they had sex with in their 20's jilted them and thereafter went after other women. So that experience have made them wiser. They are aware that men are so adventurous. Once they have sex with them they move to the other person

Mustsucceed:
This your post is full of immoralitues.shame on the mod that pushed this to FP ..are you aware that we have kids reading this ? And you are here practically encouraging sex before marriage? Let me tell you any one that can sleep with his partner before marriage will sleep with people outside even after marriage .quote me even on judgement day before God

horlique:
you mean you..not all men.. not me sha

lefulefu:
thats not true. some of those ladies who use d no sex b4 marriage gimmick do so to give the guy d impression dat they are very decent but then they have another guy in secret that will be regularly oiling their engine while the mugu they have as fiancee wil be waiting for wedding night.na d normal racket.

Squirrel01:


you see all these epistles you wrote, is nothing, if it's to Garner sympathy from the occupant of this forum, the words of sympathy won't exceed the walls of advise only visible to the eyes,
you have had your fair share of life, you had a broken Relationship and things went south, so why shifting the blame to the other partner forgetting that he who must come to equity must come with clean hands, I have seen a five year old relationship crashed, where the woman was at the receiving end, the dude paid her off irrespective of the fact, she gave birth to a child and the kid died before seeing the face of the two parties that cohabited to form him. the guy rendered this woman useless, saying his family and friends no longer wants her service, they paid this said lady off, she asked me, whether to collect the money, I told yes, collect it and forge ahead, she is now doing well for herself, travels to Turkey, import human hairs and cloths, deals in animal skin, she didn't allow what happened to draw her back. I'm with the said lady currently, now men are rushing to wife her up even though she is 30+,I told her to give marriage a shot again, perhaps she is not getting younger anymore.
as for sex, sex is bullshit, you enjoyed it, the other partner enjoyed it too, so what's with the he used me and dumped me, for that, it's total lockup till marriage, see sex cannot keep a man, Emotional maturity will. physical beauty fades away. what stand the test of time is who you are and what defines you as a woman(character and compatibility)

Raalsalghul:

And mothers too

Raalsalghul:

Don't misconstrue my words

victorian:







My dear, u can't expect ladies in our 30s to feel and behave like its the end of world for us
Infact life is just beginning for us. At our age we are very sure of what we want out of life. We are strong mentally and otherwise, we are good managers and we have gotten to a certain level in our career or business. So any man coming to us, has to see and treat us with respect, and not behave as if we are at their mercy cos we are single and kind of older. And he has to be intelligent too

If u feel the attitude means she's not allowing u walk all over her? Then my dear, thats one thing about us. We don't allow men walk all Over us, especially ladies like me who was once weak and indecisive but grew to be strong , self reliant, and emotionally balanced. I won't allow such anymore.

victorian:







My dear, u can't expect ladies in our 30s to feel and behave like its the end of world for us
Infact life is just beginning for us. At our age we are very sure of what we want out of life. We are strong mentally and otherwise, we are good managers and we have gotten to a certain level in our career or business. So any man coming to us, has to see and treat us with respect, and not behave as if we are at their mercy cos we are single and kind of older. And he has to be intelligent too

If u feel the attitude means she's not allowing u walk all over her? Then my dear, thats one thing about us. We don't allow men walk all Over us, especially ladies like me who was once weak and indecisive but grew to be strong , self reliant, and emotionally balanced. I won't allow such anymore.

OSUigboKiller:

Bullshìt!
Yes, she has no right to give such conditions.
If she wants to form condition, let her remain a virgin until marriage.

Squirrel01:

as for sex, sex is bullshit, you enjoyed it, the other partner enjoyed it too, so what's with the he used me and dumped me, for that, it's total lockup till marriage, see sex cannot keep a man, Emotional maturity will. physical beauty fades away. what stand the test of time is who you are and what defines you as a woman(character and compatibility)