NwanyiAwkaetiti:
That's not always the case. Some refrain from sex cos of that fear of being sexed and dumped. So if d the affairs breaks without sex, it's less painful. That ain't giving it to you doesn't mean she giving to another.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
That's not always the case. Some refrain from sex cos of that fear of being sexed and dumped. So if d the affairs breaks without sex, it's less painful. That ain't giving it to you doesn't mean she giving to another.

franchasng:
you can't date a married man in a commited relationship for 2 months without knowing unless u are careless, not attentive and not smart.

Unless he is rich enough to have two different homes; one for himself alone and one for his family, still u ought to know if u are smart and attentive to details.

passionberry:
is not being married issue,why lie to the lady just cos of you want to sleep with her ? If you are married or not tell her if she still want to be with you or not is left for her..back in my university days I met this guy cool,calm,gentleman,he swept me off my feet I was happy I met him he treated me like a queen I was comfortable with him I never lacked anythng ..along the way I I find out he was married and evn had a kid whn i asked him again he still look into my eyes my lied..gosh! He was he did not want loose me u told him but you have loose me already ..evn whn i went to his place no sign of him being married at al .it God that expose him ,I was doing house chores I stumble on an envelope were he hid it i opened it low and behold ,his wedding pix and a 1year old baby pix.my God! Most men Sha! He cried and begged as for me that was it ,I ended it .. I'm 30+ I have experience a lots no be now were one useless or small boy go come wan say he wan dey use me...if you love me ,I love you ..if no value me ,likewise me I won't value you ,if you respect me ,me too go respect you ..

highcollide:
Men and women should continue deceiving and duping themselves. You shouldn't speak up because it has to do with marriage. Speak up when women are degrading themselves. When they deceive men and take their money. It is at their youthful age they plant the seeds of what they'll reap.

SBL28:


Lol, please take it to Kasali down the road. He's sure going to do a better job.

franchasng:
this is a common experience to so many guys, not new.

It is unfortunate that our society turned our ladies to money mongers, even the ladies from rich family backgrounds are all the same money mongers flocking around successful guys who use and dump them cos they are many in their hands, and even the so called ladies working and earning good income are also money mongers desperately waiting for rich guys while ignoring the average guys and the struggling guys they can team up with and build a home together.

Somehow somehow, ladies are their own problem.

Take Linda Ikeji for instance, take it or leave it, there must have been normal guys earning good income coming for her before she became a babymama but she will be looking down on them and hoping to meet a moneybag and reason once she met that Jeremy of a guy who she noticed lived affluent life of a billionaire, she forgot her nonsense rules and laws and let her guards down and messed up, and got pregnant out of wedlock for the guy in the hope that she met a billionaire to marry.

This is the challenges today ladies face; too much love for money and material things, ignoring promising guys, giving unnecessary rules to guys they feel are not rich enough, flocking around successful guys with so many girlfriends hoping to win him, and not being patient with guys still work in progress.

So as guys notice that ladies are for the highest bidder, when they acquire the money later in life, they turn to chronic womanizers breaking women's heart up and down the world; it turns to a cycle of doom, sadly

passionberry:
is not being married issue,why lie to the lady just cos of you want to sleep with her ? If you are married or not tell her if she still want to be with you or not is left for her..back in my university days I met this guy cool,calm,gentleman,he swept me off my feet I was happy I met him he treated me like a queen I was comfortable with him I never lacked anythng ..along the way I I find out he was married and evn had a kid whn i asked him again he still look into my eyes my lied..gosh! He was he did not want loose me u told him but you have loose me already ..evn whn i went to his place no sign of him being married at al .it God that expose him ,I was doing house chores I stumble on an envelope were he hid it i opened it low and behold ,his wedding pix and a 1year old baby pix.my God! Most men Sha! He cried and begged as for me that was it ,I ended it .. I'm 30+ I have experience a lots no be now were one useless or small boy go come wan say he wan dey use me...if you love me ,I love you ..if no value me ,likewise me I won't value you ,if you respect me ,me too go respect you ..

VeeVeeMyLuv:
the money and care he give blind you to acknowledge the obvious fact that he was married with kids.

Women when a man buy something for you people, is like you people feel peak climax org***

passionberry:
is not being married issue,why lie to the lady just cos of you want to sleep with her ? If you are married or not tell her if she still want to be with you or not is left for her..back in my university days I met this guy cool,calm,gentleman,he swept me off my feet I was happy I met him he treated me like a queen I was comfortable with him I never lacked anythng ..along the way I I find out he was married and evn had a kid whn i asked him again he still look into my eyes my lied..gosh! He was he did not want loose me u told him but you have loose me already ..evn whn i went to his place no sign of him being married at al .it God that expose him ,I was doing house chores I stumble on an envelope were he hid it i opened it low and behold ,his wedding pix and a 1year old baby pix.my God! Most men Sha! He cried and begged as for me that was it ,I ended it .. I'm 30+ I have experience a lots no be now were one useless or small boy go come wan say he wan dey use me...if you love me ,I love you ..if no value me ,likewise me I won't value you ,if you respect me ,me too go respect you ..

VeeVeeMyLuv:
the money and care he give blind you to acknowledge the obvious fact that he was married with kids.

Women when a man buy something for you people, is like you people feel peak climax org***

franchasng:
it is well

emmaodet:


Why won't there be fake loves, you all want true love but don't want to be like our mothers too. Only true love to rich guys, abeg.

Let me share a little story with you, 15-18yrs ago when i had nothing, still struggling with life and staying with my parents, no lady wanted to date me and of course the average nairaland girl will say what am i looking for in a relationship, that am a broke guy, i don't even need to think about it not to even woo a lady but when things become better i should approach a lady. That speaks volume about the type of ladies roaming around the face of the earth now and what happens again if no more money? Back to square one, so what we are operating on is called Scam Love.
I wooed a lady people taught i was dating then due to our closeness and she said and i quote " i can't date a man with 2 legs becuase my last break up is with a man with 4 legs( a car)" 15 yrs down the lane, i worked harder with the help of God, family (mostly my Mum), i became a better person, a sailor and things started becoming better, presently earning 7 figures per month.
Funny enough, one day the lady i talked about saw me in sagamu driving a convertible Volvo C70, never sighted her but she saw me and somehow, somewhere collected my number and called me, said i just forgot about her and abandoned her (can you imaging that?)
It's really bad the calibers of ladies the society is churning out now, most are nothing to write home about, ladies who can't stand the test of time.
It's very very sad how we got to this situation as humans

emmaodet:


My brother, you have said it all. It is well

passionberry:
[quote. no is not true there are still some nice ladies that will stand by a man when he has nothing but most of those men when God changes their story they forget that lady..I had a friend this guy had nothng ,back then he had only one pair of shoes..I was there for him i never gave up on him ,but this guy stil cheat and lie ,there was a time I handed over my brother car to him cos my bro traveled that moment ,and I can't drive this guy wil be using the car to carry different ladies until one day I caught him I saw lady earings inside the car I asked him he lied to me that there are mine when I know all my jewelries.so there are still some nice ladies out there ..I even prefer to start life withn an average man financially not a man that is already rich like E.money ..

SBL28:
TOP CRUISE, be thyz and phenomenal morgan thanks for the mature and sensible answers.

passionberry:
hmmmm...shit happens . Sorry about your story too tho is past now and you have learned ..but wat is the meaning of that word ,that yoruba language you type on the line you wrote after the wedding .cos I'm not yoruba and I don't understand yoruba .it s well oh..but the lady no try at all ,she get mind Sha ..

passionberry:
is she the same woman you got married to ?

passionberry:
is she the same woman you got married to ?

emmaodet:


Men are really suffering silently, alot of them and they can't just come out because of shame. And this is in/out of relationship.
I have a colleague, a 3rd engineer, yoruba guy based in lag. Do you know that the 3 children he had with is wife is not his? The woman was pestered, threatened before opening up that it is for her side guy. Since then my friend as been demoralized psychologically, to him women are nothing, he is a walking dead man, a hazard to fellow workers. I do tell co-workers to keep an eye on him so that he won't pour lube oil were he is suppose to pour diesel and vice versa.
Whenever we get to a network area in ph or lag and people are calling there families up and down, he is always sober and isolated, to me that is hell on earth.
Am on duty presently, we talk better when i close by 12noon.
Out.

emmaodet:


Men are really suffering silently, alot of them and they can't just come out because of shame. And this is in/out of relationship.
I have a colleague, a 3rd engineer, yoruba guy based in lag. Do you know that the 3 children he had with is wife is not his? The woman was pestered, threatened before opening up that it is for her side guy. Since then my friend as been demoralized psychologically, to him women are nothing, he is a walking dead man, a hazard to fellow workers. I do tell co-workers to keep an eye on him so that he won't pour lube oil were he is suppose to pour diesel and vice versa.
Whenever we get to a network area in ph or lag and people are calling there families up and down, he is always sober and isolated, to me that is hell on earth.
Am on duty presently, we talk better when i close by 12noon.
Out.

emmaodet:


Men are really suffering silently, alot of them and they can't just come out because of shame. And this is in/out of relationship.
I have a colleague, a 3rd engineer, yoruba guy based in lag. Do you know that the 3 children he had with is wife is not his? The woman was pestered, threatened before opening up that it is for her side guy. Since then my friend as been demoralized psychologically, to him women are nothing, he is a walking dead man, a hazard to fellow workers. I do tell co-workers to keep an eye on him so that he won't pour lube oil were he is suppose to pour diesel and vice versa.
Whenever we get to a network area in ph or lag and people are calling there families up and down, he is always sober and isolated, to me that is hell on earth.
Am on duty presently, we talk better when i close by 12noon.
Out.

victorian:








I know character is top key but a firm wet tight Vagina is like an icing on the cake for my husband, he deserves it.

Have not really used my pussy much over the past years. And I like the way it's in a calm state. And I'm not really a multiple partner sex kind of lady. Dating one guy at a time does it for me.
I hate cheating, and I expect my partner to be loyal as well.
Also I like peace and quiet. If the guy is a drama king, I will withdraw. I hate noise, and yells.

Anyways it's all good. May God help us all. Amen

emmaodet:


Yep, to be frank and honest, she is a good woman because i can say part of what happended was caused by me.

That was then sha.

You are a lady so you won't understand what guys do pass through in relationships. You may not believe me but i can tell you that we have more responsible and ready to date/serious guys than ladies because for a guy, it takes atleast little/small money to run and maintain a good relationship why a lady can go into relationship without anything (very very easy for them to kick-start any relationship).
In my extended family, i have a gpod number of boys who haven't dated before including my 2 brothers with age range 18-28 just simply because they are still students and don't have much but the average lady in that age bracket would have had probably not less than 5 guys experience, imagining my brothers still been virgins and naive about women and relationships at that age, to me that is bad

SBL28:
Have you guys considered the fact that maybe the woman is truly after God's heart.

I have only been in one relationship and with a body count of one, so its not about tasting all sorts and then pretending just to trap a guy. I'm still in my 20s and I have been celibate since my marriage ended for few reasons;

1) I'm not a Bible-clutching Christian but I'm closer to my God now and I like how I can go to church and raise my hands in praises without feeling like a fraud. I'm not messing with my peace of mind biko. I used to feel guilty about fornication before I got married.

2) I have not tried it before but I am not sure I can have sex with someone I'm not in love with. I personally don't think it's something to be casual about.

3) Ladies in their 30s and single mothers are easy targets for lecherous men who think they are desperate. They are only interested in 'hit and run', so don't blame the women for not 'putting out', they have learnt the hard way. My yeye married neighbor wanted to try it with me, I shut the shit down and blocked the he-goat on every platform.

In conclusion, ladies say 'no sex' for so many reasons. It is not a do or die affair, if you are not comfortable with it, simply move on!!!


Lastly, I don't intend to end up with anyone eventually without testing the engine (Lord forgive me ) even if na only once before marriage, I should know exactly the type of instrument I'm 'acquiring'. Man pikin cannot go and enter one chance.

emmaodet:


Men are really suffering silently, alot of them and they can't just come out because of shame. And this is in/out of relationship.
I have a colleague, a 3rd engineer, yoruba guy based in lag. Do you know that the 3 children he had with is wife is not his? The woman was pestered, threatened before opening up that it is for her side guy. Since then my friend as been demoralized psychologically, to him women are nothing, he is a walking dead man, a hazard to fellow workers. I do tell co-workers to keep an eye on him so that he won't pour lube oil were he is suppose to pour diesel and vice versa.
Whenever we get to a network area in ph or lag and people are calling there families up and down, he is always sober and isolated, to me that is hell on earth.
Am on duty presently, we talk better when i close by 12noon.
Out.

passionberry:
good evening ,sorry me too I have been busy at work,hope your day went well ? Oh my God i feel so sad for your friend most women are beast ,they can kill how can she keep such thing away from the man she claim she loves ,were did he go wrong ? You know wat ? Pls let be more private cos we need to talk more ..lolz @ your friend can pour lube oil in place of diesel ..I can't stop laughing ..I'm sorry that caught me .Lolz....your friend needs help ..do you know I was once depress I almost ended my life 2016 whn my guy then engaged me was about going to see my family for my introduction ,i woke up one morning with a mssg dat he is so sorry his family want him marry senators daughter bla bla bla.that I'm a nice lady with good heart he will do anythng to mek me happy he s so sorry ,..I cried my heart out ,I was walking empty ,depress , isolated.my friends and family stood by me .till I get over it and move on .thank God i did not do anythng stupid ..but do u knoe until today the guy has not married .haha Sha.i saw him one day I was trying to dodge from me I quickly walk to him I laugh eh ,I kpt laughing followed him ,he look so unkpt ,tattered like a mad man he could not stand the shame he quickly jump into a bike .that is life for you ..

emmaodet:


Men are really suffering silently, alot of them and they can't just come out because of shame. And this is in/out of relationship.
I have a colleague, a 3rd engineer, yoruba guy based in lag. Do you know that the 3 children he had with is wife is not his? The woman was pestered, threatened before opening up that it is for her side guy. Since then my friend as been demoralized psychologically, to him women are nothing, he is a walking dead man, a hazard to fellow workers. I do tell co-workers to keep an eye on him so that he won't pour lube oil were he is suppose to pour diesel and vice versa.
Whenever we get to a network area in ph or lag and people are calling there families up and down, he is always sober and isolated, to me that is hell on earth.
Am on duty presently, we talk better when i close by 12noon.
Out.