Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / New
Stats: 3,209,838 members, 8,007,301 topics. Date: Tuesday, 19 November 2024 at 07:21 PM

Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich - Romance (5) - Nairaland

Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Romance / Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich (67198 Views)

Do Rich Ladies Still Marry Poor Guys? / Reason Why Guys Leave Their Girl Friend After Making It In Life / Lady Advises Girls Not To Marry Poor Guys. See Why (2) (3) (4)

(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) ... (11) (Reply) (Go Down)

Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by FRANKOSKI(m): 12:18am On Apr 18, 2019
HI MODAFUCKERS, HOES AIN'T LOYAL .that's the fucking problem.
Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by Nobody: 12:19am On Apr 18, 2019
VcStunner:
well, I would say you are partly right and partly wrong too. Let's define Love yeah?
Love is patient, kind, humble, slow to anger... and above all in summary, love is Sacrifice yeah? Now let's define sacrifice: "an act of offering something of value for a greater good without expectation of rewards".
So yes truly Money changes people, but to say that's the persons true self is ambiguous. If u were a sales boy, u will have sales boys as friends and hangout with them. When u are promoted to a manager (big money), ur circle changes and so does behaviour and itinerary because that's where the cake is coming from. Now I expect my gf to be able to understand why the changes and how she can help but if she lacks financial intel, how can she help. She will definitely pull me down with emotional blackmail. But if she is willing to upgrade, then why not... after all she did it for me when I was WILLING to.

I think it’s down to mentality in my opinion when you stay with a struggling guy 9 times out of 10 it’s because you see his potential he can’t now complain that you haven’t elevated because you have and that’s why you can stretch your hand and assist. That patience and time is an investment into his life and many people won’t just do it because of ungratefulness

Love is patient and kind and slow to anger but what we see nowadays is deliberate ways of making people angry so you deflect from the true problem which is you have let the status get to your head

Heavy is the crown but bare in mind support is something we can all give no matter our status in life

And that support is what inspired him to achieve much and you spit in their face

4 Likes

Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by bossrillboss: 12:21am On Apr 18, 2019
ANGELMARVE:
Absolute Nonsense.

A lady stuck by you when you were broke, now that you are Rich, you left the lady because in your words, "She has now become a liability"
So tell me why Goodluck Jonathan is still with patience Jonathan?

Are you more richer and educated than Goodluck Jonathan?


Yes!!! i know a woman must develop her own self, mentally, educationally or resourcefully but that do not mean that if she fails to meet the requirement guaranteed for your financial level, that you should dump her.

A real man will use his wealth to uplift his woman financially, educationally and transform her to your standard.
..Walahi if to say I hold side wella,I for dash smthng.u too make sense joor.twale sir/ma.respect.

9 Likes

Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by optimusprime2(m): 12:21am On Apr 18, 2019
Bollocks!
Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by Juniorangel(m): 12:22am On Apr 18, 2019
Reason why there is so many baby mama...
Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by Evercurious(f): 12:23am On Apr 18, 2019
bolafez:


you point is too theoretical to be relied on.
the Op said nothing but absolute truth. It's happening and would continue happening.

And that it keeps happening doesn't make it right? Does it?

5 Likes

Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by Nobody: 12:24am On Apr 18, 2019
Pointguardusa:
Pls what is the minimum age required to get a National identification number?

Your age doesn't matter.

It is your tribe that matters!
Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by blackslayer: 12:30am On Apr 18, 2019
ANGELMARVE:
Absolute Nonsense.

A lady stuck by you when you were broke, now that you are Rich, you left the lady because in your words, "She has now become a liability"
So tell me why Goodluck Jonathan is still with patience Jonathan?

Are you more richer and educated than Goodluck Jonathan?


Yes!!! i know a woman must develop her own self, mentally, educationally or resourcefully but that do not mean that if she fails to meet the requirement guaranteed for your financial level, that you should dump her.

A real man will use his wealth to uplift his woman financially, educationally and transform her to your standard.

I AIN'T SAYING SHE A GOLD DIGGER.....BUT SHE AINT MESSING WITH A BROKE NIGGAH......DO I LOOK LIKE YOUR FATHER? ABEG FACE FRONT!!!!
Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by Evercurious(f): 12:31am On Apr 18, 2019
Martinez39:
If you feel disgraced about your spouse whom you claim to love then you are not the right person for your spouse since people's validation are more important to you than your spouse. Sincerely, this is a vain and childish thing to say. You must not act like everyone.

No mind dem. So suddenly the person that has stood by them all through their life has become a disgrace. Imagine the CHILDISH TALK. Materialism and class has destroyed a lot. Always wanting to be like others. FAKE FAKE LIFE.

people like that are those that can deny even their parents in the mist of their friends. After all I have seen a lot of them while in school

10 Likes

Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by Nobody: 12:33am On Apr 18, 2019
ANGELMARVE:
Absolute Nonsense.

A lady stuck by you when you were broke, now that you are Rich, you left the lady because in your words, "She has now become a liability"
So tell me why Goodluck Jonathan is still with patience Jonathan?

Are you more richer and educated than Goodluck Jonathan?


Yes!!! i know a woman must develop her own self, mentally, educationally or resourcefully but that do not mean that if she fails to meet the requirement guaranteed for your financial level, that you should dump her.

A real man will use his wealth to uplift his woman financially, educationally and transform her to your standard.
Dude forgot he was once liability to her. She left rich guys to be Bleep him

4 Likes

Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by Nobody: 12:36am On Apr 18, 2019
Saffi:
That’s why I always tell women to stop dating broke men, they don’t value you because you don’t even value yourself. They will only use and suck you dry emotionally until they can stand on their two feet and run away.

WOMEN BE SMART!

Tell that to Lilian Esoro whose rich husband impregnated a member of his staff!

It is not being with a rich man or broke man...

If you have a smelly personality, a man whether rich or broke will definitely kick your a*se to the curb when he feels your time is up!

3 Likes

Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by Nobody: 12:40am On Apr 18, 2019
CruellaDeVil:
Smoldering pile of bullshit. See why I am anti-broke men in the first place? It's never worth it to be with them.

You would rather be with a man like Ubi Franklin who realized a member of his staff was more appealing than his wife right?

1 Like

Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by Nobody: 12:47am On Apr 18, 2019
ImaIma1:


Easy tiger!

The point i am making is that one party should not be redundant while the other keeps getting upgraded. Whether you agree or not, they cannot relate effectively well as spouses. There will be a lot of leaving the spouse behind for events, not being able to watch a movie together (while one wants Africa magic Yoruba, the other wants Comedy Central)

Don't get me wrong...the marriage could last forever but many things that could foster bonding will be absent. You might think what i said is vain and childish but it is the sad reality.

Let me bet my left tit that the bolded is what the "disgraceful spouse" would enjoy to watch?
And the sophisticated spouse will watch comedy central?

Damn! It's all shi TV, it rots your mind and the body reacts to it. Movies? Damn... I hate sifi movie's but that doesn't mean I won't marry someone who enjoys it. I hate football as much what do I do? Date women?

The point I am making is the person never changed 4×4 isn't a valid enough reason to sever ties with the love of "your life" eh, you must die, as per the agreement cry

What if a family was built through his broke ass times, the children never add to his "growth" by inspiring him? He now abandons all?

Relationshipscan end but "financial intelligence" is a poor excuse for disloyalty.

2 Likes

Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by oyatz(m): 12:55am On Apr 18, 2019
Of course, some G/friends eventually become wives but some are just not wife material (may be at certain periods of their lives)







Evercurious:



Then why can't the girlfriend be made a wife?
Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by Nobody: 1:02am On Apr 18, 2019
VcStunner:
you need to step away from your phone screen for a while after reading this. Have a full thought before responding.
For your info. While Jonathan was been lifted graciously through ranks in POLITICS, Mama Peace was building a formidable political fortress around her husband. She is the reason Jonathan is still alive. Ask Aoandokaa former AGF, ask Wike and Amaechi. A lot will testify, so as Gej grew, she also was growing into exactly what Jonathan felt he needed her to be. Today they are still cool.
Don't rush topics like this, just calmly read and digest and if it is worth it then u respond. Cheers smiley
so dat means mama peace is an asset to oga jonathan rather than a liability.i think any reasonable man would want a wife like dat and not an empty headed slayqueen/slaymama.

1 Like

Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by Nobody: 1:08am On Apr 18, 2019
Elder0001:



Your perceptions on everything posted on this site makes me believe you live in a village and have never travelled out of Nigeria to experience what life really is . You’re quite overly traditional and primitive /archaic in thoughts .
wats wrong in being traditional? i am a very traditional african man who believes in custom and tradition . why must i behave like an oyibo man when iyam not oyibo.

7 Likes 2 Shares

Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by ejyk375: 1:09am On Apr 18, 2019
this write up is applicable to igbos only.
Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by ejyk375: 1:10am On Apr 18, 2019
This write up is for Igbos only.
Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by Nobody: 1:10am On Apr 18, 2019
grin
na2016:


I need to buy beer for this man/woman. You head is there!!!
ehn iyam a guy oo angry
na2016:


I need to buy beer for this man/woman. You head is there!!!
ehn iyam a guy oo

1 Like

Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by ykalhaji(m): 1:25am On Apr 18, 2019
ANGELMARVE:
Absolute Nonsense.

A lady stuck by you when you were broke, now that you are Rich, you left the lady because in your words, "She has now become a liability"
So tell me why Goodluck Jonathan is still with patience Jonathan?

Are you more richer and educated than Goodluck Jonathan?


Yes!!! i know a woman must develop her own self, mentally, educationally or resourcefully but that do not mean that if she fails to meet the requirement guaranteed for your financial level, that you should dump her.

A real man will use his wealth to uplift his woman financially, educationally and transform her to your standard.

Bros, Patience Jonathan is not a financial liability in any shape or form, Madam Patience is the real political power behind GEJ in the South-South, GEJ got his appointment and deputy Governor position because Patience was a woman, so instead of her they gave it to her Husband. Who do you think stood her ground for Wike or who Ameachi is really fighting ?

See it is the law of life, everyone grows and in the rich people world, spouses are the biggest asset, so if your value isn't worth the cost, no matter how the husband or wife loves you, someone who is a more valuable asset will always replace you, either more sophisticated, skillful, attractive, wealthier or with more valuable network, better parenting skills, once you taste money you want to keep making more, so your life will weed out things that subtract and grow things that only helps you make more money.

2 Likes

Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by Kenturkey048(m): 1:29am On Apr 18, 2019
lefulefu:
As AngelMarve rightly said if broke men who become rich are dumping ladies who started with them then why is oga Goodluck still with Mama Peace? Abi u know goodluck met his wife wen he was dead broke. And wat of E money nko? E money started dating his wife when he had nothing. All those guys u see doing away with ladies wen they make it there must be a reason to it. Understand some of these guys when they were ppor such ladies probably disrespected them and flaunted their cheating ways in his face. Its very common to see some ladies bash their own men as useless cos he couldnt buy her muranocheesy. Some will have different sugar daddies while in a relationship with their guy and u expect d guy not to leave her when he makes itcheesy. Who wants a nemesis in his lifecheesy.
this is what I keep telling her...av tried as much as possible to proof this same point yo her.but she no wan hear...
Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by grandstar(m): 1:30am On Apr 18, 2019
"He hat repays good with bad, bad will never leave his house"king Solomon said.

All these Grammer is baseless. She or he is suddenly worth discarding when you blow? You didn't feel so when you were chopping gari without groundnut? Why don't you upgrade her or him instead of discarding?

It smacks of wickedness. Better to tell her to go if you see no future together than to get get hopes risen for nothing. What if things collapse when he's married to that new chick. How will she treat him especially if she knows how he treated his previous babe?

No condition is permanent. Fear the true God and keep living

9 Likes 1 Share

Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by sexuential: 1:34am On Apr 18, 2019
ANGELMARVE:
Absolute Nonsense.

So tell me why Goodluck Jonathan is still with patience Jonathan?

Are you more richer and educated than Goodluck Jonathan?

This eg u cited, do u really know who Mrs Patience Jonathan is? Becos if u did, u would know she doesn't fit to be referenced in this ur response.

She complimented her husbands quite nature. A couple can or should not all be the same kind so that they can give the family a balance.
So pls find anoda eg u know in xter ha suits the title .

Thank you
Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by ykalhaji(m): 1:37am On Apr 18, 2019
lefulefu:
do u know Denzel washington? The black american hollywood star that featured in a number of hollywood blackbusters. The guy won an oscar in the mid 2000s for his act in dat movie Training Day. He won it alongside Halle Berry dat year.He's an elite actor of the highest echelon bracket. Have u seen his wife? If u see his wife u will be shocked.she looks like average looking housewife than a slayqueen. Denzel met his wife b4 he became a hollywood star and till today they still together. This is d same hollywood dat stars divorce on a routine basis oo. Because of his love for his wife it is said dat denzel refuses to have sex scene in a movie set. So u see money cannot change a man's mindset about u when im don hammer. For jezreel case it might he wasnt really dat into his wife even though d woman might hv loved him. There are some men who marry a girl just for marrying sake or cos their parents forced dem into marrying her or like i said b4 d girl was probably givin dem issues when they were broke.

Dude Denzel's wife is a serious asset, she is calm cool, collected and co-manager of their finances, so talk another one.
Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by InvertedHammer: 2:03am On Apr 18, 2019
/
Most often than not...

A lady goes for the richest guy she can attract while a man goes for the most beautiful lady he can afford.

A made man can afford better just as a lady with upgraded looks will go for a richer man. That's all.

/

2 Likes

Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by mxgfranco(m): 3:02am On Apr 18, 2019
jezuzboi:
Women who stick to struggling men until the men grow their financial IQs and become financially stable are usually praised and approved by almost everyone.

While that may be a testament to a woman's praiseworthy character, I am of the opinion that such women still fall short, in the sense that they only stick to a man while he grows his financial IQ, without them growing theirs too.

A poorly resourceful but endearing woman may mean the world to a struggling man. But the moment he mounts financial heights, his once endearing but financially uneducated partner may become a liability.

Mounting financial heights is a function of FINANCIAL EDUCATION, and financial education promotes ASSETS but frowns at LIABILITIES. As you know, assets put money in your pocket while liabilities take money out of your pocket.

A poorly resourceful woman may be an asset to a struggling man because she supplies his emotional needs despite his low financial state. But when he grows his IQ and gets rich, he'll most likely require more than emotional satisfaction from her.

If she had failed to grow her financial IQ along with him, she will depend on him to supply her financial/material needs just as she supplied and still supplies his emotional needs. At this point, the woman may become less attractive to the man.

Any woman can supply emotional needs. And when it comes to supplying emotional needs, it's a two-way traffic. But if she had grown her financial IQ along with him, she would easily flow in the same frequency with him, both emotionally and financially.

That way, their attraction to each other endures and their love blossoms. Between a financially educated partner and a financially uneducated partner, there will be arguments and fights over money, and most of the time, if not all the time, the root of the problem can be traced to the partner with low or no financial education.

That is why one partner eventually walks away. Even the Bible says; "Can two work together except they be agreed?" In most cases, the partner who walks away is the one with more financial education, which in the context of the write-up, is the man.

We may call him a monster, an ingrate, or Lucifer, as the case may be. But if you take a quick run through history, you'll find that many financially educated women had to dump their financially uneducated male partners when they could no longer agree on certain money-related matters. It is not a GENDER THING. It is a GROWTH THING.

The 21st century ladies have asserted that sticking to a struggling man is one of the most uncalculated risks to take because the man dumps them for another woman the moment he gets rich. But how many men of substance walk away from women of real WORTH and VALUE?

If you supply emotional needs alone, what happens when other needs arise? It takes more than the emotions of love to keep an affair going. And I am not in any way talking down on women who see beyond a man's pocket. As a matter of fact, I ADORE them.

That is why I am writing this piece: to give them heads up on how to keep the RICH VERSION of their partner glued to them, thereby making the years they spent with his POOR VERSION count. Don't just service his emotions while he grows his financial IQ. Grow yours too. That's one important thing that will earn you his affection and respect in the long run.

Emotion and finance have been the key focus of this piece. But they are not the only areas that require growth to keep you BALANCED. Others include spiritual, mental, academic, etc. Whatever the growth, the bottom line is: GROW ALONG WITH YOUR PARTNER TO AVOID STORIES THAT TOUCH.

Jezuzboi©

Truth is truth Bro. You've said it all...

1 Like

Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by Originalsly: 3:06am On Apr 18, 2019
jezuzboi:


But how many men of substance walk away from women of real WORTH and VALUE?


Are we talking about solid business partners?... or solid relationships? If it's business partners I agree with you. If it's having a solid relationship I disagree. It helps if the woman is financially educated...but that's not a priority if the man moves up financially. Doesn't Labron James have his same girlfriend from high school? He has become financially educated and a multi millionaire.... ...are you suggesting he should dump her and find someone that's closer to his status? On the quote above... how long Oprah Winphrey has been a billionaire?... trying to capture poor Steadman as her husband....but he is not having it...almost the same as walking away.
Money ... finances is not everything. There are many wealthy men whose wives are uneducated period... but they remain happily married for yearsssss. Too many guys ... when they ehmmm...get rich... dump their babes because of other reasons.....as in why must I continue to be with hard hair black face Chioma when wavy hair honey skin Susan from Switzerland is in love with me? .... but their mouth be saying Chioma is not financially educated enough to make this relationship grow.

8 Likes

Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by Rotimi47: 3:06am On Apr 18, 2019
Wayne4uall:
Most of the the long time gf once or more than twice cheated on the poor dude, the guy was only managing her because he was broke....
Word; Tell them.

1 Like

(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) ... (11) (Reply)

Lady Shows Up At Ex-boyfriend’s Traditional Wedding Dressed Like His Bride / Which Countries Have The Most Beautiful Girls In Africa Per Ratio? / She Said She's Not Interested But Gets Angry When She Sees Me With A Girl.

(Go Up)

Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health
religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket

Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10)

Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 68
Disclaimer: Every Nairaland member is solely responsible for anything that he/she posts or uploads on Nairaland.