grafixdon:


Receive sense brother. Don't be too quick to call someone weak when you don't know the story. I have a aged mother. She has lost many of her children in the past (my siblings) I don't want to cause her more grief. That my brother can do it, he has drank bleach before and have attempted many suicides.

He's very handsome but find it difficult to steak with one woman, he doesn't have a good job, he stays in one room self contained. He's not doing well as such, sometimes he thinks the best is to end it.

grafixdon:
This's so true. Infact I'm fed up. I've a brother who is always threatening suicide whenever I refused to give him money a 39years old brother. The last time he called me, he said this's going to be our last conversation, that he'll be gone in the next 2hrs..why? Because I asked him to account for the 120k I gave him some months ago.

He blackmail me all the time with suicide, he knows I care so much for the family, they think I've money.

sevo:


Hello, that 2b... Which app are you talking about that can help one save without touching it??

sethtsadopp:
This is very true. Some family people will milk you dry and then taunt you when you go broke.

OkaNaUbe:
True! But don't be stingy,


The point is that you shouldn't be taken for granted.

HEYWAYA:
In the part of Igboland where I come from, being the "family's ATM" is a time-tested way of lifting the whole family into wealth and prosperity.

grafixdon:


Receive sense brother. Don't be too quick to call someone weak when you don't know the story. I have a aged mother. She has lost many of her children in the past (my siblings) I don't want to cause her more grief. That my brother can do it, he has drank bleach before and have attempted many suicides.

He's very handsome but find it difficult to steak with one woman, he doesn't have a good job, he stays in one room self contained. He's not doing well as such, sometimes he thinks the best is to end it.

Yakzo:
I used to be one not until one of my cousins who pesters me from time to time bought a plot of land while I did'nt have one!

Pavore9:


Men who still spend on their siblings and nephews/nieces, hoping they would cater for his children should he be no more are surely living in a fool's paradise.

Set up trust funds for your children, no matter how little, so that your children' education would not suffer in the event of the man's demise as am so tired of stories of " daddy died....dropped out of school...all those daddy helped ignored us"!

chibuzorAbia:


Apologies. That your brother needs to face the harsh real world he is born into. So you will continue with this into your old age?
Goodluck bro! We live in a harsh world bro, if care is not taken that bro with his problem will bring you down! wait until you hit your 50s.
All the same good luck! The mad man is even going from woman to woman?

sethtsadopp:
This is very true. Some family people will milk you dry and then taunt you when you go broke.

BruncleZuma:
Black Tax ...nah wah ooo

Ugosample:


it's our curse as igbo men

wanting to carry ungrateful relatives along at our expense


it's terrible

NobleAngell:
This is very good advice O. I just recently discovered that you can never exhaust all your responsibilities. They keep growing and giving birth to more. The only option is to pick the ones within your capacity. Don't overwhelm yourself trying to be the hero of your family.

sevo:


Hello, that 2b... Which app are you talking about that can help one save without touching it??

grafixdon:
This's so true. Infact I'm fed up. I've a brother who is always threatening suicide whenever I refused to give him money a 39years old brother. The last time he called me, he said this's going to be our last conversation, that he'll be gone in the next 2hrs..why? Because I asked him to account for the 120k I gave him some months ago.

He blackmail me all the time with suicide, he knows I care so much for the family, they think I've money.

FruitCakes:
My uncle came back from abroad rich,, everyone surrounded him.
Now that he's broke they are nowhere to be found
That taught me a valid lesson

DAramis:
Your opinion is really biased. It is good to help but must be at a limit. Most times, it is even better to empty your account if the case is extreme.

Like my father once said, it makes no sense that you have money on your account while the family goes hungry.

Some people will never bring out money to help someone but once such person dies, the will bring enough money for his or her burial. May God never allow us to have such people in our lives

DAramis:
Your opinion is really biased. It is good to help but must be at a limit. Most times, it is even better to empty your account if the case is extreme.

Like my father once said, it makes no sense that you have money on your account while the family goes hungry.

Some people will never bring out money to help someone but once such person dies, the will bring enough money for his or her burial. May God never allow us to have such people in our lives

tboks:

I know of Went Bank Alat. You can create your account online and do fixed savings that would be untouchable within the period you define.

DAramis:
Your opinion is really biased. It is good to help but must be at a limit. Most times, it is even better to empty your account if the case is extreme.

Like my father once said, it makes no sense that you have money on your account while the family goes hungry.

Some people will never bring out money to help someone but once such person dies, the will bring enough money for his or her burial. May God never allow us to have such people in our lives

Ozkar:
Piggybank and Cowrywise are two of the most popular. Alat (by Wema) also has a customizable saving/stash feature.

wonder233:
A family leech spotted

Martinez39:
Not everyone is your responsibility. Let everyone go and work. It's better to bring out money for someone's burial than to have him leeching off you all the rest of your life. The former is once and for all unlike the latter. No food for a lazy man, the world is harsh.

The same people that will leech you will abandon you during your down time. If your family member is hungry, let them go and work.

DAramis:
Your opinion is really biased. It is good to help but must be at a limit. Most times, it is even better to empty your account if the case is extreme.

Like my father once said, it makes no sense that you have money on your account while the family goes hungry.

Some people will never bring out money to help someone but once such person dies, the will bring enough money for his or her burial. May God never allow us to have such people in our lives

BoboDodo:
That is my goal in life, exactly to become the family ATM.
I would love to be able to help everybody as many times as I can. Nothing gives me more joy

ediko5:

You are out of point.
You are also confused. Read carefully before you comment.

DAramis:

Bro, I understand your point but the part of bringing out money for someone's burial is the part I cannot share with you.

For example, if someone has never rendered help to someone that seeks it previously, I see no reason why you should contribute to his burial on the long run.

Martinez39:
Not everyone is your responsibility. Let everyone go and work. It's better to bring out money for someone's burial than to have him leeching off you all the rest of your life. The former is once and for all unlike the latter. No food for a lazy man, the world is harsh.

The same people that will leech you will abandon you during your down time. If your family member is hungry, let them go and work. You have your own household, others have theirs and you must work for yours as they work for theirs.