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Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by DAramis: 5:03pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
Martinez39:Update**I am commenting from the point of view of a bachelor ![]() ![]() The point of view of being married is a complicated one especially if all family members are married. But that not withstanding, if money is not a problem, please do try and render help even if it is once in your life. *A situation where someone happens to be the first issue while his or her younger ones are still growing or coming up, the situation you painted above may not actually workout. Nothing stops someone from contributing school fees money etc to his family members. The worst form of guys that irritates me are those that spends thousands of naira on one imaginary girlfriend of theirs while their mother or younger siblings are passing serious challenges ![]() ![]() Like I said, not helping for once is never the right path to thread especially if money has never been the problem but at the same time, there should be a limit to it. The one of using your finance to marry and do owambe ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by Martinez39(m): 5:08pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
DAramis:The first born doesn't owe his struggling siblings a dime. They are not his responsibility. The siblings are the responsibilities of the parents that gave birth to them. Every first born needs to realise this. Did the first born ask mama and papa to fvck and produce children(his siblings) that they cannot take care of? When the struggling siblings come to the first born, the response should be "go and meet your father." Nothing stops someone from contributing school fees money etc to his family members.That one is a choice that no one is obliged to make. You cannot give birth and push your responsibilities to your first son or family relations ---- how irresponsible. Let people take on their responsibilities. The worst form of guys that irritates me are those that spends thousands of naira on one imaginary girlfriend of theirs while their mother or younger siblings are passing serious challengesI don't support this but sadly, one can do with one's money as they like. As I have said, your younger siblings are your parents responsibilities. Like I said, not helping for once is never the right path to thread especially if money has never been the problem but at the same time, there should be a limit to it.if you want to help people, make them take responsibilities for their actions. If in a community, everyone makes it clear that no matter what, every man must take care of his child, they no go born any jupiter to born pickin wey he no fit train. 10 Likes |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by DAramis: 5:10pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
Preetti:It is well sis. You will pull through. Don't see it as a bad thing which you did. What you did is part of the reasons why the world is still revolving and when some things pull through for you, you won't even remember these bad moments in your life. 2 Likes |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by Martinez39(m): 5:13pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
DAramis:You never see something. They might not tell you that they want to do wedding or owambe instead they might say they want to do one business or that they are sick. They know how to come up with one touching story. 4 Likes |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by Nobody: 5:18pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
I'm very proud to be my family's ATM. And by family I mean, the main the main family (children, mum and dad, and siblings, and wife). I hope to be an inexhaustible ATM that never has insufficient funds for this category of people. Working night and day to reach that point. Let them wreck me if they can. With all pleasure, would be my refrain. As for any so-called relatives or extended family members, those ones can starve to death or even burn to ashes for all I care. Habitually ungrateful and malicious lot. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by Pavore9: 5:20pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
Ugosample: Very Igbo!. Some of us seek "validation" from it at the expense of our nuclear family well-being but ironically we tend to "respect from afar" relatives who don't give a hoot about carrying the weight of their extended family members and when these type of people drop something once in a blue moon, these ungrateful relatives tend to appreciate it more than you that have been offering it regularly! ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by Thunday1005(m): 5:20pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
Always check ur spending meter everyday |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by boiz2men(m): 5:25pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
I'm happy I'm my family ATM |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by Elmuktari(m): 5:29pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
I always see this kind of post a way to become stingy but this very one makes difference. thanks OP. |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by agarawu23(m): 5:35pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
That doesn't mean you will become stingy. Nobody dey carry money go anywhere. We die here and leave all the money we are saving. Help people, help your families but be wise. |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by boiz2men(m): 5:44pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
chibuzorAbia:don't be hard fisted to family guy |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by chibuzorAbia: 5:51pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
boiz2men: I dey my house for Ajah, come and arrest me. Bring my extended family along and see if "Bingo" will not tear you all into pieces. Nonsense!!! 3 Likes |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by chigo5(m): 5:51pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
Pavore9:this write up jst reminds me of my pman, help trained his niece and nephews Buh couldn't train his wen he got his, the man late now Buh the pips he trained no ask hwfa wen he Dey sick Dey go meet ancestor na to show off for im burial dem do for am. |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by Darevofpeace(m): 5:57pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
BoboDodo:Have a life assurance for your family and be prepared for occasional emotional outburst. When you give out to people a whole lots and they do not reciprocate. It tends to open a 'deep wound' unnoticed on your mind.Before You get caught with 'Mother Theresa bug' Put great caution in your giving. |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by Ugosample(m): 5:57pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
Pavore9: nwanne o gwuru ike ![]() |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by Rubbiish(m): 6:02pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
Preetti:Yes that is the right thing for them to do & they appreciate all u have done for them 1 Like |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by boiz2men(m): 6:08pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
chibuzorAbia:lol talking about immediate family |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by LesbianBoy(m): 6:13pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
Hedonini: So you are married with kids? O ga o! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by capitalzero: 6:16pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
toluxa1: very. I have buget for charity and extended family. I stick to it. the truth you cannot solve financial problems of other people. you can only assist them in solving them. |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by JOMAX: 6:18pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
DAramis:Abeg na wu b family? |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by capitalzero: 6:21pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
Hedonini: yes oh. most extended family members are ungrateful. 1 Like |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by Icon79(m): 6:24pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
Wow. Nigerians are a special breed indeed! O pari FruitCakes: |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by Nobody: 6:28pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
LesbianBoy:E be like say you no do present future tense for school. Lol. Fill in the gap. Family members, current and 'in view'. |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by Nobody: 6:31pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
capitalzero: Ungrateful na Understatement. I don't even mind an ungrateful sibling or child, they would come around. We're bound together anyway. It's deep. And my love for these people is completely selfless. But you see some stupid, wicked relatives ba? Na Ogun go punish them. Talking from very very very bitter family experience. |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by capitalzero: 6:38pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
Hedonini: yes oh. crazy relatives. I avoid them like plaque. |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by eyinjuege: 7:16pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
grafixdon: This your story is strong o. Why not look for a psychologist so he can get some counselling? I hope he's seeing a psychiatrist already |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by IprintMONEY: 7:20pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
Bleep your father, if i am not my family atm, na olosho atm i go be? i swear if you where close to me i for woze u better slap. any month my sis, fiancee and my mom and other siblings dont withdraw or demand at least 1.5 m from me, i get pissed with all of them who am i getting the money for ![]() |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by IprintMONEY: 7:24pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
DAramis:na only u make sense here. i hate people that attach too much importance to money. u deserve an account boost |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by LesbianBoy(m): 7:52pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
Hedonini: As I see "I am proud to be my family's ATM".....I was just too shocked seeing you write that I didn't bother to read everything! Na now I just calm down read am! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by Martinez39(m): 8:03pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
IprintMONEY:Beggi Beggi, go and hustle. Stop the defense mechanism. This thread won't stop your maga from giving you money so calm down. Nothing spoil. 1 Like |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by Nobody: 8:31pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
LesbianBoy: Marriage no fit stop jaiye jaiye. Man must sabi how to indoctrinate and orientate woman. She must understand her position, accept reality, and align happily. |
Re: Don't Become The Family ATM by myself13: 9:12pm On Apr 18, 2019 |
pansophist: 1 Like |
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