R2bees:
Who else get carried away with wild thoughts even when in church or during social gatherings?

I thought I was the only one

finally there is a space for people like me. good day guys hope am welcome here

DonOms:


Firstly, if you're an introvert, there can not be a "stop being introvert" phase. What may happen - and it does happen as you grow - is that you get to be more sociable and manage being in crowded places better. But you will always get drained when being overstimulated such as being in loud places or having to be around plenty people in a social gathering.

I'm an introvert. I'm not shy. And I am not doing bad career-wise. Does my introversion affect my career? NO. There is a high chance you are a shy person and you mistake characteristics of shyness for introversion. I think you first need to assess yourself and discover who you are. Then you will need to know where you thrive, what your interests are and what kind of skills drive you. When you know all these, you will understand yourself better and you can then choose your career wisely.

Here I am always confused being an introvert or shy person.
I can't hold unto a topic of discuss and get tired easily.
Sleeps constantly even when with my friends and in classroom.
I get fatigued and my head aches me when lecture is on and then I sleep while the lecture goes on.
I feel sleepy the moment I open a book to read.

GreyBlood:

@ the bolded


I know that feeling; you have plenty thoughts - intelligent, imaginative or weird thoughts in your mind...but means of letting them out na d wahala . You then enjoy all of them on your head when you r alone.
Sometimes you might even start smiling after sharing some thoughts alone.

men ive been reading this thread from page one , i nodded head to a few comments here,but i couldnt resist quoting this one, sometimes i will lie down on the floor and start imagining how i did something amazing,and everybody was applauding me,then i will involuntarily laugh or smile,my family has gotten used to it, though theyve succeeded in changing some of my introvert traits...

FKBZ:
Am a confirmed introvert,no friends,can't start a conversation not to talk for keeping it.
I hate arguments with a passion and I hardly get angry cos I have better things to he thinking abt.
I[b]f anyone vexs me and ask me wat they did I would say I forgot even when I was with my former gf I had to write down wat she did wrongly so I could remember for future reference[/b]
When am with someone I prefer if the person is a talkative so I would have liitle to say and I would just be nodding or far away in my thot's.
I really love to have a friend but meeting one is hard of me.
I doubt if their is anyone who truly knows me even a little.
Sometimes I think how would I get my briadal train when the time comes.
I hate fake people and I easily detect lies.

in my secondary school days i also had to write down people who have wronged me,so i can remember what they did,because i easily forgot somebody did something to me,it made my first girlfriend take me for granted,i have really worked hard on my self sha

herald9:



Got a handful of gurlz asking me for a date...
But oboy... can't bring myself to meet em face to face...
I always fear i'll stutter while tryna pickup conversations

70% of the gurlz have dated actually came to me or showed signs...
The rest am still wondering how i got the nerves to approach...

Its not funny at all

girls always ask me out ,

mployer:
lol, what a thread

I was an extreme introvert while growing untill after 2 years in the uni.

Mehn, those days where terrible. People form an opinion about you which you know is not true but cannot defend it just because you cannot talk.

Remembering how you failed in your last attempt to talk gets you more afraid of meeting new people and things get even more complicated. Then knowing you can't relate well with others erodes your self confidence and you take a plunge into inferiority complex.

Though I am still introverted but the extreme side of it is no more.

My change started when I started building my self esteem. I started loving me. I started forgiving myself when I fail in an attempt to relate with people while believing I will do better next time. I understood there is more to life than talking and the pressure to talk better gave way. I discovered my personal way of conversation and stuck to it and stopped wishing I did it like the other person. My confidence kept rising until I almost became borderline proud.

Though I still keep to myself most times but making and keeping friends is just easy to me except I don't want to associate with the person. I still don't talk much but I've got no problems saying whatever I want to say. People who are not close to me say I am quiet but those close say I am nowhere near quiet. Don't even know which one to believe.

Its cool being an introvert if you've got your self esteem intact. A lot of extroverts will be intimidated around you, trust me

mehn this is the carbon copy of my personality

Gaggi:
Some people are mistaken being an introvert for being timid. I don't think an introvert is one who is afraid of meeting people or scared of leaving the house. An introvert does not necessarily fear dealing with the opposite sex. From what I know, an introvert is one who enjoys his or her company MORE than the company of others. An introvert can and should be able to socialise when necessary but just generally prefers being alone.
Some people are very unsocial and are more or less timid. Such people need therapy.

seconded

chinnyness122:
as an introvert, its not really been easy dealing with people who don't understand me.

people say am proud, snobbish and unfriendly. dat I always feel too big to associate with them. while some odas think am a good n homely girl,.....hahaha but dey don't know me

I am a 100% indoor person, I prefer to read novels, play music, and surf d net. I am easily irritated by people and as such, I don't have many friends. once someone starts irritating me, i stop picking his/her calls. I hardly make new friends, d ones I make, maintaining d friendship becomes a problem. dey complain dat I don't call, I don't visit bla bla bla ........am working on it shaa.

party? hahaha! not my thing buh wen I attend one, I jes sit n observe.


I find it difficult engaging in a conversation with people esp d elderly ones. I find myself tongue-tied weneva I wan to spaek to dem.. I hardly call dem by dia names, I prefer going near dem n whispering in dia ears.

stage fright I something av not bin able to deal with........I think my own "introvercy" is d worst.
I really nid help!

im picking those traits i have lets see where it goes is this thread still live

mstik:
Ummmm, am an introvert and I HATE crowds.....and meeting new people, of course

me i like meeting new people, but i dont like keeping in touch , i can make you laugh your ribs out, but after that day, even if you keep calling me , i just cant pick your,but whenever we jam face to face, i will still make you, most people get surprised , they always ask if they did something wrong to me, i will just find one flimsy excuse. and let things be. there are crazy things i do too, like going to a club alone,i mean who does that ,

Guys i have an interview coming up soon, this is going to be my second ever interview. The first one was pure mess, I kept on stuttering, jeez. Guys help me, i need this job. Would alcohol help?

R2bees:
Guys i have an interview coming up soon, this is going to be my second ever interview. The first one was pure mess, I kept on stuttering, jeez. Guys help me, i need this job. Would alcohol help?

hmmmm! bro what I can deduct from ur comment is that you are shy. alcohol won't help you, rather you would be seen as an alcoholic and an unserious person even if you have the best qualification. what you need right now is a clear head

I prefer you write down possible question u do be asked.then face the mirror ask the question to the person in the mirror looking eye ball to eye ball. later you do look for someone closer to you,in this case let the person be the interviewer without breaking eye contact answer the person. it has worked for me I think u should try it

Ultimategeneral:

hmmmm! bro what I can deduct from ur comment is that you are shy. alcohol won't help you, rather you would be seen as an alcoholic and an unserious person even if you have the best qualification. what you need right now is a clear head

Thanks bro. But I don't even take alcohol as u think. I meant taking a moderate alcohol like half can of black bullet just to clear off pressure and all that. and how are they gonna find out i took alcohol in order to tag me an unserious fellow?

Ultimategeneral:
I prefer you write down possible question u do be asked.then face the mirror ask the question to the person in the mirror looking eye ball to eye ball. later you do look for someone closer to you,in this case let the person be the interviewer without breaking eye contact answer the person. it has worked for me I think u should try it

I think i would try this

superboiz:


Here I am always confused being an introvert or shy person.
I can't hold unto a topic of discuss and get tired easily.
Sleeps constantly even when with my friends and in classroom.
I get fatigued and my head aches me when lecture is on and then I sleep while the lecture goes on.
I feel sleepy the moment I open a book to read.

Hi. All these have nothing to do with introversion or shyness.
As for sleeping during lectures, while it is biological to feel fatigue when learning something new, I think you may need to check your lifestyle and health as it is not so normal in your case.

If you have the habit of sleeping late, check it! Sleep early and try to wake up early. Exercise regularly too to keep fit. Eat healthy foods. If there are health concerns, see a doctor.

I don't know if am an introvert or just plain shy

When I was in sec school I didn't really care about making friends, I loved to do things my own way and I loved being alone, I was quite popular and talked alot when in the midst of people but gradually I started becoming very quiet I rarely talked to strangers or people am not very familiar with. I enjoy my own company now more than ever but I still long for a good social life and making friends have become very for me especially with same sex

Hintona:
I don't know if am an introvert or just plain shy

When I was in sec school I didn't really care about making friends, I loved to do things my own way and I loved being alone, I was quite popular and talked alot when in the midst of people but gradually I started becoming very quiet I rarely talked to strangers or people am not very familiar with. I enjoy my own company now more than ever but I still long for a good social life and making friends have become very for me especially with same sex

same thing happened to me. very popular but later got withdrawn little by little.that's the trait of an introvert. sometimes we get to notice when we are very young or when we have gotten to adolescence. lastly it's not shyness its just being you (introvert)

Hintona:
I don't know if am an introvert or just plain shy

When I was in sec school I didn't really care about making friends, I loved to do things my own way and I loved being alone, I was quite popular and talked alot when in the midst of people but gradually I started becoming very quiet I rarely talked to strangers or people am not very familiar with. I enjoy my own company now more than ever but I still long for a good social life and making friends have become very for me especially with same sex

I too
Most times i tend to avoid people
I'm always tensed up whenever I see familiar faces
I'd rather be among strangers where I won't be obliged to communicate with them
Would like to be closer to the opposite sex than I am now

Ultimategeneral:

same thing happened to me. very popular but later got withdrawn little by little.that's the trait of an introvert. sometimes we get to notice when we are very young or when we have gotten to adolescence. lastly it's not shyness its just being you (introvert)

Wow
Thanks

STRENGTHesq:

I too
Most times i tend to avoid people
I'm always tensed up whenever I see familiar faces
I'd rather be among strangers where I won't be obliged to communicate with them
Would like to be closer to the opposite sex than I am now

If you were female I don't think it would be hard to be close to the opposite sex
And from my experience it's harder to make friends with girls

Hintona:

If you were female I don't think it would be hard to be close to the opposite sex
And from my experience it's harder to make friends with girls

That's just it
And it sucks

Hintona:

If you were female I don't think it would be hard to be close to the opposite sex
And from my experience it's harder to make friends with girls

LOL
Well, in this side of the word...
Girl to girl, yeah quite hard.
Boy to boy, very easy, no big deal.
Boy to girl, easy.

superboiz:


Here I am always confused being an introvert or shy person.
I can't hold unto a topic of discuss and get tired easily.
Sleeps constantly even when with my friends and in classroom.
I get fatigued and my head aches me when lecture is on and then I sleep while the lecture goes on.
I feel sleepy the moment I open a book to read.

bro, this sounds like hypersomnia and has nothing to do with introversion.

I envy people that know love. That have someone who takes them as they are. Introverts are great inventors.
I love being a introvert except the anti-social part

who amongst you noticed that when reading or watching movies hate being disturbed?

Who else love turning off the light The only light you leave on is your phone lol.

Ultimategeneral:
who amongst you noticed that when reading or watching movies hate being disturbed?

True..

I don't know whether I m an extreme introvert or I have a disorder.
I find it hard to talk to people even my family members. In my 22 years on Earth I have not talk to a girl for more than 5mins. I m always sad and angry with everybody.

Who else can't lead a prayer in religious gatherings??

Hintona:
I don't know if am an introvert or just plain shy

When I was in sec school I didn't really care about making friends, I loved to do things my own way and I loved being alone, I was quite popular and talked alot when in the midst of people but gradually I started becoming very quiet I rarely talked to strangers or people am not very familiar with. I enjoy my own company now more than ever but I still long for a good social life and making friends have become very for me especially with same sex

you look pretty.. can I have your contact?

R2bees:
Who else can't lead a prayer in religious gatherings??

me even read properly