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A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by jamillion: 9:12pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
Goodevening everyone! Ur opinion's needed here; I have being dating this girl for quiet sometime now with intention to make her my bride when the right time eventually comes been that I wasn't ready so, few days ago we agreed to meet with her parents which we agreed on today for a formal visit which we did but here's the problem, on meeting my girl's parent today, I found that I have met her mum somewhere before in an unpleasant environment (relating to adultry) and at the same time, on getting to my girl's area I met an old school friend which from indications seems to know my girl very well so I had to ask for his company which he obliged....to make story short, we left after talks exchanging contact with my old time school friend. my friend later called and was given me hints about my girl that she's not different from her mum that infact she was born out of wedlock that i should ask her wether if the person they introduced as her dad was her real dad, he said story has it that her supposed dad denied his mummy's pregnancy due to her promiscuous attitude. Dear people am confused, do u think she still worth a wife? |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by wike54(m): 9:26pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
What the 4 Likes
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Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by banjicom(m): 9:28pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
Na wa oooo, Nothing much to say. It is left for you to decide, the handwriting is written boldly on the wall for you to see. |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by Nobody: 9:33pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
jamillion:Answer this first... What were u doing in that unpleasant environment? 12 Likes |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by lilianofentse(f): 9:37pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
Op the guy above just asked you a question . 1 Like |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by Nobody: 9:43pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
There's no past mistakes that can't be correct. 1 Like |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by Nobody: 9:43pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
Guy forget all these bullshit friend story, if the girl na good girl do your thing if not free am. Her mama life differ from hers and that your old friend sef. beware of him. 6 Likes |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by ERORR404(m): 9:47pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
The signs are clear on this one and i don't think going ahead with marrying her will be a wise decision. And by "unpleasant environment" I'm guessing you mean brothel? 4 Likes
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Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by Nobody: 9:48pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
Answer the question Op ![]()
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Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by ojun50(m): 9:56pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
If you truly love her seat her down nd discuss yr findings with her nd make her open up about her family befor you take yr final discussion, bt one thing you should knw is that no family or human is born perfect 6 Likes |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by QueenSekxy(f): 10:20pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
Answer the question, what were you doing in an unpleasant environment? |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by anthonyuncle(m): 11:06pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
ask her one on one, get her own reply. as a guy, do some other research & findings about her on ur own 1 Like |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by Diamond23(f): 11:14pm On Apr 26, 2019 |
sherylbakky:Op..... Answer d question first den we tell u wot we tink
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Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by Nobody: 12:06am On Apr 27, 2019 |
fuckerstard:The bolded is not true. A girl especially first daughter takes 65%-80% traits of her mother whether good or bad so before you marry, take time time to study your intending mum in law. Do your own investigation but don't entirely disregard your friend's advice. 1 Like |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by deanoffaculty: 12:43am On Apr 27, 2019 |
jamillion:Chairman!!! You don't judge a book by it's cover. For the fact that a pot is black doesn't mean that the soup is black. If you keep digging into past or immediate life of ladies, you may not likely get married again in this life. We all have our silent chapters in life that we keep secret till death. The lady might have made some mistakes at a point but that doesn't make her devil. If you love the lady with all your heart, kindly wave odds aside and ride along with her. Afterall you are not a saint either. You love the lady and not her mother, please agree with her and ignore 3rd party influence. Wife materials are very rare but you have to prayerfully make concrete decision when you want to grab one. There are many secrets that our parents will never tell us, so when you hear about other parents' secret, don't take it against them cos your parents has secrets as well. Even if her mom is an italian olosho, please face your business. If you are not comfortable with what is on the table, gbe body e but don't condem the lady's family........ Remember this: Rahab a prostitute was named as one of the ancestors of Jesus christ. God will grant you grace and wisdom to go about it IJN. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by MissRaine69(f): 5:30am On Apr 27, 2019 |
jamillion:OP change parth to path |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by MissRaine69(f): 5:36am On Apr 27, 2019 |
jamillion:Careful of the counsel you seek. The man who raised her is her father albeit not biological. Has she given you any reasons to doubt her character? Besides what your “friend” says, can you verify this information with someone else ?Enemies also look like friends. 1 Like |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by MissRaine69(f): 5:45am On Apr 27, 2019 |
MajorJeffery: We inherit 50% genetic from each parent. Our environment might influence certain behaviour but there is also the element of choice. Do you want your mother’s legacy to shape your destiny or do you choose your own path in life? Interestingly enough if a woman had posted this with the same questions and her intended husband was in exactly the same situation would you write what you wrote about first children? Or does that slight misogynistic view apply because it’s a woman? 1 Like |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by Westsida: 5:49am On Apr 27, 2019 |
Maybe ur friend is sincere or not. Can you tell? Well just be smart. Use your girl to fetch the necessary info that you wanna know. Get into talks with her, but please not in a childish way.. tell her where you once meet her mum, I’m sure she’s gonna have 1 or 2 things to tell you about her mum even if the mama nah Ashana. If she loves you, she’s going to tell you what you don’t know. Whatever your friend had told you, don’t act as if you know, instead ask her just like your asking about what you don’t know. Sometimes it does tell on pikin wey dia mama ways get as e be. Sometimes, it doesn’t! |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by Westsida: 5:51am On Apr 27, 2019 |
MajorJeffery: It’s 50% each from both parent. 1 Like |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by Nobody: 6:40am On Apr 27, 2019 |
MissRaine69:If you're the first daughter of your mum, tell me about your mum and I'll tell you very much about you. To your question, yes I will say that about first sons and dads. Problem about first sons is that most times, their dads aren't their biological dads. |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by Nobody: 8:46am On Apr 27, 2019 |
Westsida:You're talking about inheriting but I'm talking about getting. A good woman that hardship pushed into temporary prostitution, there are chances that her first daughter would likely know about it and might get influenced while her younger daughter who never knew or was too young to notice might not. |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by Westsida: 10:05am On Apr 27, 2019 |
MajorJeffery: Your very right. Talking from experience. Most of those Ashana women, their first born dey get as e be! ![]() |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by MissRaine69(f): 10:30am On Apr 27, 2019 |
MajorJeffery:You have statistical evidence regarding the last statement? Or is that an extension of your misogyny? I am not the first daughter, I am the only daughter My mother is a Neuroscientist still works in that field Very supportive Does not like fish is blasé regarding organised religion What else? |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by chinchonglee(m): 10:36am On Apr 27, 2019 |
Bro...one thing I knw abt guys is dat dey can't lie in dis case... I trust it guy is real. |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by IamPlato(m): 10:43am On Apr 27, 2019 |
sherylbakky:What Else? If Not For Unpleasant Pleasures |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by IamPlato(m): 10:45am On Apr 27, 2019 |
And How Do You Know If That Your old Friend Has Not Fvcked her Or Is Even Begging to Fvck her, hence The Reason He Told You Such |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by Deepfeel(m): 10:52am On Apr 27, 2019 |
Don't judge a child for the sins of her parents |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by UniQue84: 11:16am On Apr 27, 2019 |
Yes I quite agree that people change but don't also forget that people also pretend to change..I am of the opinion that before marriage make sure you do an investigation on your potential wife/husband, I don't care if you are marrying a pastor's daughter or a former nun. Marriage is a life time committment not a bf or gf thing, so one has to be on the look out for signs, things that are hidden and leave the remaining to God in prayers cos one cannot know everything about an individual. Op pause everything for the now and dig more, God may have just saved you through that your friend but dig yourself unknown to her, spend some resources, if you are very bouyant hire three private investigator so that you have a pool of info to access from that are drawn by 3 individuals ( all of the investigators shd have no relationship whatsoever ), if after digging and you are comfortable then go ahead if not discard her. But make sure you can carry the info you will receive cos things are about to change for you once you decide to dig..for example, certain families are plagued with madness, some prostitution, some stealing, some a certain sickness that travel from generation to generation e.t.c but if it's an attitude problem watch her closely off camera if she has change for good not only when she is with you cos a woman with a useless attitude is a No no for me dunno about you. NB: if she had a very bad past but she has changed completely and the signs are visible and you can actually carry/absolved what was dug about her past, then put it in prayers and marry her. |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by Joekaynews(m): 11:19am On Apr 27, 2019 |
deanoffaculty: On all this your epistle, I have simple question for you. Why must she lie to an extent of introducing another man as her biological father just because this is the man that husband her mom at present? Mind you, honestly and faithfulness are key to a blissful home. I don't think it is healthy to marry someone who could lie about her father, etc. Mehen, we are talking about a life contract and not a mere relationship. If she can be dishonest at this stage, trust me you, the young man will have to contend with dishonesty in her life for a lifetime if he eventually take her as wife. It is better to open up before your partner uncover it outside and come to ask you questions. Nothing is hidden forever. Ase pamon lowa ase gbe o si! |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by Nobody: 4:18pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
MissRaine69:I'm not a mysogynist dear, we are just chatting. The day married men do DNAs for their kids will be the day marriage will cease to exist and will only be read about in history books. Of course wives will bear all the blame even when nurses are major culprits. No need to argue, you know you are like a twin sister to your mum. |
Re: A Nairalander May Av Set On Wrong Parth Choosing A Life Partner by deanoffaculty: 7:02pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
Joekaynews:I wouldn't know why she lied about her biological father but I want to believe that there are family issues beyond her and fear of something i don't really know.....fear of loosing the guy , fear of her mom, fear of something sha. But I believe she would eventually open up when her fear is addressed. This is complicated!! |
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