please everyone, now that this awesome story has ended,who can recommend another story here or elsewhere for me to read,something as powerful as this

gentlegenius:

I was once in Ken's shoes... I dated a young girl about 2 years ago and I was very sure she loved me. But her attitude towards me was very inconsistent. Today she will act like I mean everything to her and she can't live without me. Tomorrow she'll act like I don't mean anything to her or I'm not even part of her life. This got me thinking and wondering what is it that she really wants. Sometimes, she'll behave like we are quarreling when actually nothing gone wrong between us. I used to ask her why she's behaving so warm and cold towards me but she wouldn't have any answer to that. I finally resorted to playing by her rules: Any day she acted warm and loving towards me, I will also act warm and loving towards her. Any day she acted cold and unfriendly towards me, I will simply pay her back with her own coin. With this development, I stopped complaining about her attitude. But I noticed that she, on her own side, wasn't happy to be displaying such attitude towards me, and yet she couldn't stop it. I began to see it as a psychological problem, and I decided to help her overcome it. But unfortunately, she was doing everything possible to prevent me from helping her, and that includes avoiding me sometimes. When her avoidance became too much and too obvious, I resorted back to the rules of the game: paying her back in her own coins. But this time, I went too far... She noticed that I have gone extra miles to show her that I can also avoid her. Sometimes, she'll come to my house with a look of remorse on her face - behaving as if she feels deeply sorry and want to apologize to me, but I will ignore her and continue with the avoiding game. This whole thing baffles me so much because I loved her and I was very sure she loved me. I was always wondering what could make her behave this way towards someone she loved. It was difficult to either continue dating her or let her go.
One day, I read Gary Chapman's book 'Things I wished I had known before marriage'.
This book opened my eyes and I saw the exact reason why she was behaving that way and why changing her was almost impossible. I learned a great lesson that before a man considers a lady for a serious relationship or marriage, he should first of all find out about her mother's attitude especially towards her father... Just like what happened in this story, I discovered that my girlfriend's mother had a very bad attitude and she was constantly fighting and quarreling with her father until they finally seperated.
So, the constant fights, quarrel and sometimes warm, sometimes cold relationship between her parents did not only affect the girls character, but it molded her and shaped her thoughts and emotions to resemble that of her mother; and because it affected her entire being, it was almost impossible for another person apart from her parents to influence or change her.
Back to our story, Ken wouldn't have been able to change Grace no matter how hard he tried, but now that her mother is beginning to talk sense into her, and show her regrets for treating her late husband so coldly, it is possible for her to influence Grace and change her. For it is only the same people that impacted us negatively with their character flaws that can easily influence us to correct those flaws and change.

This to me was an important lesson, that's why I took time to write this.

In case you see this as a useless distraction from the story... I humbly apologize.

Thanks for this

Thank you for this beautiful story

This is some deep stuffz bro.....to get serious with a lady?guy is to stop saying love is blind but gat to open up to the real things that matter....was a good read

gentlegenius:

I was once in Ken's shoes... I dated a young girl about 2 years ago and I was very sure she loved me. But her attitude towards me was very inconsistent. Today she will act like I mean everything to her and she can't live without me. Tomorrow she'll act like I don't mean anything to her or I'm not even part of her life. This got me thinking and wondering what is it that she really wants. Sometimes, she'll behave like we are quarreling when actually nothing gone wrong between us. I used to ask her why she's behaving so warm and cold towards me but she wouldn't have any answer to that. I finally resorted to playing by her rules: Any day she acted warm and loving towards me, I will also act warm and loving towards her. Any day she acted cold and unfriendly towards me, I will simply pay her back with her own coin. With this development, I stopped complaining about her attitude. But I noticed that she, on her own side, wasn't happy to be displaying such attitude towards me, and yet she couldn't stop it. I began to see it as a psychological problem, and I decided to help her overcome it. But unfortunately, she was doing everything possible to prevent me from helping her, and that includes avoiding me sometimes. When her avoidance became too much and too obvious, I resorted back to the rules of the game: paying her back in her own coins. But this time, I went too far... She noticed that I have gone extra miles to show her that I can also avoid her. Sometimes, she'll come to my house with a look of remorse on her face - behaving as if she feels deeply sorry and want to apologize to me, but I will ignore her and continue with the avoiding game. This whole thing baffles me so much because I loved her and I was very sure she loved me. I was always wondering what could make her behave this way towards someone she loved. It was difficult to either continue dating her or let her go.
One day, I read Gary Chapman's book 'Things I wished I had known before marriage'.
This book opened my eyes and I saw the exact reason why she was behaving that way and why changing her was almost impossible. I learned a great lesson that before a man considers a lady for a serious relationship or marriage, he should first of all find out about her mother's attitude especially towards her father... Just like what happened in this story, I discovered that my girlfriend's mother had a very bad attitude and she was constantly fighting and quarreling with her father until they finally seperated.
So, the constant fights, quarrel and sometimes warm, sometimes cold relationship between her parents did not only affect the girls character, but it molded her and shaped her thoughts and emotions to resemble that of her mother; and because it affected her entire being, it was almost impossible for another person apart from her parents to influence or change her.
Back to our story, Ken wouldn't have been able to change Grace no matter how hard he tried, but now that her mother is beginning to talk sense into her, and show her regrets for treating her late husband so coldly, it is possible for her to influence Grace and change her. For it is only the same people that impacted us negatively with their character flaws that can easily influence us to correct those flaws and change.

This to me was an important lesson, that's why I took time to write this.

In case you see this as a useless distraction from the story... I humbly apologize.

Hi baby, you doing a great doing here, you are healing so many soul, you raising women with substance, you are strengthen the weak with your story. so many scene in your story is everyday life of a Nigerian girl. I pray we get it right with the right person.


I can't help appreciating you. I would like to keep in touch outside here, hope you don't mind?
ps, you didn't add disclaimers and copyright at the beginning of your story.
Rosemary33

Rosemary33:
I am torn between starting the "Victims" series now and starting it next week. I will be traveling tomorrow and network will be a huge problem where I am going to, so I may not be consistent with the posting till I get back on Sunday.

What do you guys think??

Start the "Victims", we can adapt to d network issue till u re back

Thank u Rosemary33

May your rose continue to flourish.

paulohgirlie:




Start the "Victims", we can adapt to d network issue till u re back

Thank u Rosemary33

May your rose continue to flourish.

I agree with you.

Rosemary33:
I am torn between starting the "Victims" series now and starting it next week. I will be traveling tomorrow and network will be a huge problem where I am going to, so I may not be consistent with the posting till I get back on Sunday.

What do you guys think??

Well.It Depends On The Number Of Days You Will Spend Where You Are going.If You Won't Stay long I Prefer You Start Now

What a wonderful story. God bless your ink and empower you more with his wisdom richly. Kudos

An interesting story, more ink to your pen, you are going places, you write so well being your first time.

If you enjoyed this story, please vote for Rosemary33 for the October award, she deserve the award, as a first timer she nailed this story.

I have vote for her please let's all do, let it be her payment for this wonderful story she fed us with.

I have started "The Victims" o. I don't know how to tag people on it Any idea?

Eberechi24:
Hi baby, you doing a great doing here, you are healing so many soul, you raising women with substance, you are strengthen the weak with your story. so many scene in your story is everyday life of a Nigerian girl. I pray we get it right with the right person.


I can't help appreciating you. I would like to keep in touch outside here, hope you don't mind?
ps, you didn't add disclaimers and copyright at the beginning of your story. Thank you so much, I am glad and grateful
Rosemary33

Thank you so much, I am glad that this story is making impact on people. And I am grateful to you and every other person for reading.

As for copyright, I am working on getting one, this work was fresh and in progress as I was posting, meaning that I was writing and posting, but I have applied for copyright certificate for it and other works too.

I have started another series "the victims"

Please click on the link to follow the new series "the victims " https://www.nairaland.com/4766281/victims-fiction#71730311

While we are at it, I am also dropping a series of short finished stories, you might want to check it out "THE MASK AND OTHER STORIES"https://www.nairaland.com/4767058/mask-other-short-story#71741967

I am running both"the victims" and "the mask and other stories" concurrently

Wow.I'm In

I am back to update my two stories.

Check out new updates on "the mask and other stories" and "the victims".

I spent almost half of my night reading dis story.indeed u r talented.may ur pen never run dry.

ROSEMARY33.......
wia Rosemary33, so nah you be same rosemary for young C.c.com

chaiii you don buy marker ooo, me and you don enter one chance

Nwiboko26:
I spent almost half of my night reading dis story.indeed u r talented.may ur pen never run dry.

thank you so much

do4luv14:
ROSEMARY33.......
wia Rosemary33, so nah you be same rosemary for young C.c.com

chaiii you don buy marker ooo, me and you don enter one chance

ah egbami, please don't kill me o

wow what a lovely story, thanks so much op for seeing it to the end

Rosemary33:
ah egbami, please don't kill me o

This is a cool job from u keep it
. but why no tell us how Ahmad latter go with im life nah

I like rosy because of this her story.wish u the best of luck.

The story is awesome

Hello Op - how can I get this story. Checked for it on okadabooks but no luck.

hi, this story is undergoing editing and publishing. it will finally be out in paperback and ebook on different platforms by October this year. please have patience. thank you so much

Gloriagee:
Hello Op - how can I get this story. Checked for it on okadabooks but no luck.

Please Mrs Rose I would like to read this story. I started it and discovered it was no longer on nairaland how do I get the story

What is happening?I was not able to almost all the updates,is there something am not doing?