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Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by crackhaus: 4:35am On Apr 27, 2019 |
merahki:This has definitely become a habit, a bad one no less. 1 Like |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Nobody: 8:04am On Apr 27, 2019 |
LordKO: Maybe you are just an evil being, why propose when there is no love. Do you know the embarrassment you caused her in the midst of her friends or how many suitors you chased away from her life, she could have missed the opportunity of getting close to someone that adores her just because of your useless proposal. It's just about you, isn't it? 8 Likes |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Nobody: 8:12am On Apr 27, 2019 |
Touching Stories LordKO's is scary though, .Why are guys that way? Read a story here some days ago related to this. Why be with someone you aren't emotionally connected to for so long? I don't get it. How do guys do it? |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by LordKO(m): 8:22am On Apr 27, 2019 |
candlewax: Bumpkin. I don't need your validation to substantiate my actions and inactions, not when the woman involved in the relationship understands better. We've remained in each others good book. A sane woman like her will always choose an unassuming me than a pretentious you any day and anywhere, that's the difference. Loving someone is different from falling in love with the same person, so also staying in love forever is different from the aforementioned. Vamoose now and look for your small-minded ilk elsewhere or better still direct your further mentions to your lunatic parents. 14 Likes |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Nobody: 8:26am On Apr 27, 2019 |
LordKO:Jeezzzzzz Someone woke on the wrong side of the bed. |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by srclark: 8:37am On Apr 27, 2019 |
leonard002:not enough reason ,why is it that we humans always form we know too much .We have other medical conditions that are much more serious than this ss thingy better wake up |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Nobody: 8:45am On Apr 27, 2019 |
LordKO: If you meet a deranged person, he or she is usually the first to call you mad. Why? The fella has been deranged for a long time that madness becomes a language. I understand you plight better now. I understand why you have to dump someone after proposing, you are not just evil, you come from a family with history of Mad Men, from your forebears down to your miserable father, let me point out that you embrassing the girl isn't ordinary, what befell your ancestors has finally caught up with you. You'd call off everything in your life and think you have a noble reason till you find yourself walking aimlessly in the markets as your ancestors and father did. I could have helped but it's in the gene.. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by MisterMan123456: 8:59am On Apr 27, 2019 |
Travelled down meet my ex's parents during a Christmas break, spent 3 days in their home, told em I wanted to marry their daughter, they were happy and accepted me, she took me round her uncles and aunts to get me introduced as her fiance, didn't give her a ring though. But in January I realized she wasn't the one for me. She wasn't ambitious, she had no plan set out for herself for the future, nothing! She wasn't just a wife material, but good girlfriend material, the sex was da bomb! she never complained about my excesses, I was free to live a reckless life and she never complained. At that point I realized we will just end up in a wrecked marriage. So I ran........ I just tuned out, told her though, but she couldn't understand me, she felt I was happy living my life always high, late nights, clubbing, drugging etc. Been married for over a decade, sadly she isnt. My wife controls my excesses 100%. I'm a more focused human being now. 12 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by LordKO(m): 9:12am On Apr 27, 2019 |
MariaLavina: Elegant lady. She understands me better. Both of us thought that I'd develop emotional connection with her after taking it to the next level, but I tried it without success. And till eternity is too long, especially when you won't like to wittingly be a source of agony to such a beautiful soul. So, it's better to be late than to be late. Unconditionality of love doesn't invalidate conditionality of falling in love and staying in love. . . One can only be assumed evil/opportunistic if the conditionalities are material based. Emotional connection is very important, unfortunately, personally it's not something I can wittingly develop for everyone. It must be present before I say I do, because only it can make me to leave wherever I'm to come home at any point in time. By the way, I didn't state duration of the courtship, so it could have been a short or long one - dating period doesn't count in a scenario like this. 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Nobody: 9:44am On Apr 27, 2019 |
LordKO:I'm not trying to play the judge just want to understand things better. I get there may be some misunderstanding here due to the fact that we are of opposite gender discussing a sensitive topic but I will try to my best. Now heres the deal : Do guys ask ladies out base on attraction or true feelings? When do guys get connected with their partners in a relationship, is it before the relationship kicks off, or after it does? I really want to know because with what I read , hear and see these days. I'm beginning to contemplate a ' Don't give it your all' movement . Yes, like 'Hey ladies, hold back, pause that lovey-dovey thing till you are certain he is EMOTIONALLY CONNECTED. The emboldened, that's not completely true, people start relationships (the girl-boy thing) for different reasons.Some do that for material things, some for sexual intimacy, some as a source of vengeance, some for fame, some for recognition, some for games and yes for love. Maybe yours wasn't any of the stated but like I typed earlier, I'm not here to play the jury. But if you look closely you will see that all reasons are evil/opportunistic except the one based on genuine feelings. Alright, I get that. |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by LordKO(m): 10:44am On Apr 27, 2019 |
MariaLavina: Personally, attraction (fancy/lust/the small love) - quite different from the main true feeling/emotional connection - is just less than 20 percent of the compound quotient that can make me say I do forever. It alone can't sustain a healthy union forever for me. True feeling/emotional connection is something one develops in the cause of the relationship, irrelevant of the duration. Some selected good attributes plus fancy plus maybe one external factor are the main sources of emotional connection for me - a singular bad attribute, whenever it manifests, can equally squash the built-up emotional connection. So, the earlier one shows her true color the better. Meanwhile, the idea of "don't give it your all" is rather a bad one. One should always give his/her all to any cause he believes in - the most important thing is to make sure you do so altruistically and conscientiously. The intention of asking a lady out will always depend on one's level in life at a particular time. Like in this scenario in my OP, it's for convenience - yes, it's mutually so at the inception - and it's spontaneous. Once more, unconditionality of love doesn't invalidate conditionality of falling in love and staying in love - once the conditions are immaterial/attribute base then it's genuine love. 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Nobody: 9:21pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
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Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Nobody: 9:28pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
MariaLavina: i can relate to lordko position some men have personality that can make a woman additive to them .when they come into your life you as a woman will do every thing to make them to remain in your life. even ordinary word from them will make you additive. i was thinking before that you are his woman? |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Nobody: 9:33pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
[quote author=pandv post=77911122][/quote]I get that, even though these men don't really feel the way the women feel. LordK.O's woman? Now that's new. Why would you have such thought? |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Nobody: 9:35pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
MariaLavina: no vex for me a beg but two of you get some chemistry together |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Nobody: 9:42pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
Yes I have. Should b like 7 years ago. Well village people talk Say we dey related o as the relation never pass fourth abi na sixth generation. Naso I Waka leave everything, kukuma throway d ring inside bush. Second one, well he wanted to take the fast route but sincerely I didn't see that future with him but the D wasn't what I wanna eat for the rest of my life unfortunately. Had to escape. |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Nobody: 9:42pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
pandv:Ahhhhhhh... And how long have you been watching us to come to this conclusion? BTW I'm not his woman. |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Nobody: 9:46pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
MisterMan123456:So u needed someone to control you? OK I've picked something from this ur comment 5 Likes |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Nobody: 9:46pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
MariaLavina: no vex for me observation no be cuss but the chemistry is there |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Nobody: 9:47pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
MariaLavina: no vex for me observation no be cuss but the chemistry is there 2 Likes |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Nobody: 9:52pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
pandv:I'm not vexed Alright thanks for the observation, we will work on it. 5 Likes |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Poanan: 9:56pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
LordKO: You are just a devil incarnate. You had known this before proposing. What I do i know maybe u broke someone's heart and she swore that u will not get married until you go on your knees to beg her. I hope you are married now. |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Nobody: 9:57pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
LordKO: I'm shocked at the double standards . I 'waisted' a guy's time for nearly a decade, and you get called evil but I'm not because he is a man and he has a decade to 'waist' 2 Likes |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 9:58pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
LordKO: Now tell me, why couldn't you just love her?
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Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 10:02pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
Guest007: Doesn't sound like fun. |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Nobody: 10:04pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
Jeez... Sugar Rush Damn! I just made a man ADDICTIVE!
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Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Nobody: 10:11pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl: Go buy more letters... nonsense 1liner |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by CosmicJames(m): 10:12pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti:Exactly. What women generally looks for. |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Nobody: 10:13pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
MariaLavina: no i said him has addictive personality so him make you additive to him |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Nobody: 10:15pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
pandv:You don't get it do you? Read the thread slowly, focus more on the invisible words. |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Nobody: 10:17pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
MariaLavina: no vex but me i am good in matchmaking |
Re: Have you Ever Been Engaged And Never Got Married To The Person by Nobody: 10:18pm On Apr 27, 2019 |
pandv:k |
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