grandlexuz:


My parents are okay. Live in a different city.. However I had expected some level of healing attention from my wife and not my parents.. I really could give my life to safe hers and so thought the least she could do was show me some attention.. Frankly I wouldn't wish my worst enemy to experience what I went through

grandlexuz:
As I look back at the last two years I acknowledge it's nothing short of a miracle to be alive. I got up on the morning of 2nd October 2017 feeling completely faint and light headed. Though I could get around I certainly could tell a whole lot was going inside me by the end of the day. Two days later when I couldn't take it any more I visited the hospital and behold my BP was 250/150. The terrified nurse in abit thought the BP monitor had malfunctioned..Lol With repeated readings revealing same numbers I was immediately placed on a Nicardipine iv drip..Whilst the Nicardipine drip was able to bring down my numbers, it bounced back to strastopheric levels as soon as it ran its course.. That was only the start of a long journey of consistently raised BP despite the best of treatments.

During hard times most folks would expect their spouse to be present lending emotional support and comfort. Quite frankly emotional support from loved ones during times of sickness is as good as the best medications. During my plight I hoped my wife and mother of our two sons will show me a tenth of the affection and attention I would readily give her had she fallen stead. How wrong I was!! I would describe my love for her in this way. If my wife had a kidney failure ( God forbid) and needed a transplant I would readily give of my one kidney without a second thought. If the operation wasn't successful and my second kidney was needed I would have given again. That is just how much I love(d) her.

To say I was abandoned by wife is an understatement. At the beginning of our relationship 11 years ago I knew she wasn't the most caring of women, but other things added up. Besides I wasn't looking for a Miss perfect and thus I indulged. One month after my health struggle I saw the true colours of the woman I had lived with for 10+ years... As I ran low on cash seeing different cardiologist so did my woman's attention diminish..Lol Infact her attention diminished faster than the cash.lol With a now restricted diet ( no salt, maggi, red oil, beef) I got up one morning to realise I had to go to the market buy food stuffs, cook them before I could eat. That was with Bp hovering around 220/130. As cash eventually dwindled I was now on my own. My life belonged to me alone and thus the responsibility to stay alive weighed heavily on my shoulders.. Shopping, cooking, doctor's visit alone, rushing to the emergency unit during points of heightened crisis etc.. I remember getting up at night with severe panic attacks, chest pain, shortness of breath to the attention of just my 5 years old son(God bless him mightily). Countless times I ferried my self to the emergency unit at odd hours unaccompanied..

By March 2018 my wife opted out of the relationship. I had taken 17 different medications over 6 months. Yet my wife didn't know the name of one..Medications that were scattered on the shelf of our room.. Fast forward to May 2019, my BP is now stable at 116/66.. That is after seeing 5 different cardiologist, 3 internists, 2 endocrinologists and 1 nephrologist.. I drink 5 medicines daily and its been a journey of extreme side effects getting to this point.. I now live with my two sons in a different town and despite the setbacks from the side effects life is still worth living and giving the best to my kids.. I still love my wife and is ready to take her back if there is a genuine repentance and willingness to make an effort in amending her ways.. Will I wait on her forever - No! If God brings a worthy woman into my life I will be willing to give love a try again..

P.S.. Blood pressure is measured in two separate figures.. The up known as the systolic ( pressure exerted on the artery walls when the heart beats) and the down known as the diastolic (Pressure exerted when the heart is resting between beats).. The systolic is expected to fall between 90-120 and the diastolic between 60-80. Thus the highest figure should be 120/80 now revised to 135/85.. Higher than that you are referred to as suffering from High Blood Pressure in different stages depending on your numbers.. High Blood Pressure is a silent killer and carries with it the risk of stroke, heart attacks, kidney diseases,coronary artery diseases, heart diseases etc.. So folks do well to check your BP regularly and get diet modification tips and or medications if appropriate..

Mizwisdom:


Forgive her for the sake of your kids

DeeMain:
And you are still planning to welcome her back into your life just like that?

Do you know if she was a risk factor for the High BP you developed?

Stress is responsible for 90% of all diseases -
WHO. Have you determined the stress behind what ailed you?

Marital pain and tension, spousal abuse, rejection and unrequited love, marital betrayal or disappointment or regrets, resentment, unforgiveness are all forms of stress. You must determine the problems or stresses that hassled your life before the illness and avoid those problems or people.

Many heart problems emanate from heart issues. Sometimes our hearts can't bear it any more and cries out with physical symptoms.

Resolving those painful issues and freeing your heart from the burdens and toxicity can aid your healing. This is the spiritual angle to your healing.

'Dis-eases' can lead to diseases. And yes, avoid toxic people for now.

My 2 kobo

Best wishes

kafulka:
bla bla bla..... People will just come online with one sub story some people without critical reasoning will just swallow it and start condemning the woman you have not heard her own side of the story

You fell sick and your wife showed no concern, a woman with whom you have two kids

It's said that in any action, there's equal and opposite reactions, some men had lost the trust and love from their wives do to infidelity and other bad behaviors, you won't understand how pained she is bcs she is still under your roof
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bukatyne:


Nice angle.

OP might have been a terrible husband who all his worth was hinged on money and as soon as that finished, there was no need to stay.

@OP: have you cheated or beaten her before? If yes, did you genuinely repent and stop?

Did you treat her like trash prior to now?

If yes, you have sown the wind and reaping the whirlwind.

However, if you have been a good husband to her, just note that she has sown the wind and will definitely reap the whirlwind elsewhere.

Get well soon.

Raalsalghul:

Provided the Op is the lowest of them scum.
Does it warrant the woman to leave her kids.
Don't think you've looked at it from that angle.

kafulka:
bla bla bla..... People just come online with one sub story some people without critical reasoning will just swallow it and start condemning the woman you have not heard her own side of the story

You fell sick and your wife showed no concern, a woman with whom you have two kids

It's said that in every action, there's equal and opposite reactions, some men had lost the trust and love from their wives do to infidelity and other bad behaviors, you won't understand how pained she is bcs she is still under your roof
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grandlexuzz:

Admin: I wonder why I can't post on my own thread.. As of 5:30pm yesterday I only have a quote and share button. When I click on quote I get pushed back to the login page with a " You can't do this tight now. Try again in a few hours" Admin please can that be rectified. I have now just created another profile so as to be able to reply to my post.. My original profile is grandlexuz.. I can log into it, and respond on other threads but cant on this.

grandlexuzz:

Admin: I wonder why I can't post on my own thread.. As of 5:30pm yesterday I only have a quote and share button. When I click on quote I get pushed back to the login page with a " You can't do this tight now. Try again in a few hours" Admin please can that be rectified. I have now just created another profile so as to be able to reply to my post.. My original profile is grandlexuz.. I can log into it, and respond on other threads but cant on this.

DeeMain:
And you are still planning to welcome her back into your life just like that?

Do you know if she was a risk factor for the High BP you developed?

Stress is responsible for 90% of all diseases -
WHO. Have you determined the stress behind what ailed you?

Marital pain and tension, spousal abuse, rejection and unrequited love, marital betrayal or disappointment or regrets, resentment, unforgiveness are all forms of stress. You must determine the problems or stresses that hassled your life before the illness and avoid those problems or people.

Many heart problems emanate from heart issues. Sometimes our hearts can't bear it any more and cries out with physical symptoms.

Resolving those painful issues and freeing your heart from the burdens and toxicity can aid your healing. This is the spiritual angle to your healing.

'Dis-eases' can lead to diseases. And yes, avoid toxic people for now.

My 2 kobo

Best wishes

FortifiedCity:
You got banned. That's why

grandlexuzz:


Thanks for your 2 kobo. You certainly very right about the damning effects of stress. However the sky-rocketing of my BP was guessingly tied to some hormonal disorders. That said a stress free environment would have helped with healing. Imagine being stressed while on a BP of 220 and about. Infact by her actions and utterances I developed severe anxiety. Had to be put on Melex for two months. Her slogan had become " I don't care what people say. Let them talk" Offcourse neighbours were grumbling, whispering and cursing!

grandlexuz:


Thank you Oyindidi.. I am meters away from the once vibrant fine boy I use to be..Lol However I remain extremely grateful to be alive without the major disabilities that come with extremely raised BP.. I know a bunch of young men who are down with stroke. Most of them never came close to the kind of BP I had. By the way I am 39.. The saga started at 37..

Octopusssy:
Grandlexus, you seem like a sweet person. I hope you meet another woman who will reciprocate your love and affection.

Logobenz:
Cameroonian women are fond of running away when things go bad.
That is why I only Bleep them and run!Nigerians hardly marry your women for that reason.
Is she ewondo,bassa,Douala abi bakweri?
Heard those women do that a lot and even kill their husbands for property.na true?

henmaris:

Ashia my brother from another mother. Ur wife huh mmmm, no comment. Quick recovery papa.

JoannaSedley:
A good woman will never leave a good man to suffer vice versa.
Enough of the sob story, go and find out what is going on with your wife if you really want her back.

We are all selfish animals. Most men will bundle a sick wife to her parents and abandon her there but a wife is expected to remember for better for worse....hian.

Lucky you. No aneurysm, organ failures and CVA. You've been given a second chance to make things right for your kids.

kafulka:
bla bla bla..... People just come online with one sub story some people without critical reasoning will just swallow it and start condemning the woman you have not heard her own side of the story

You fell sick and your wife showed no concern, a woman with whom you have two kids

It's said that in every action, there's equal and opposite reactions, some men had lost the trust and love from their wives do to infidelity and other bad behaviors, you won't understand how pained she is bcs she is still under your roof
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DukeofNZ:


So since dem born you no body don tell you say assumption na mother of all fuckups or dem tell you but you no agree because you no get sense even as pride no go allow you admit am.

People way get sense like many wey don comment dey always comment based on information wey de available. Na information wey dey available be fact. No make me vex because me I no dey pity or fear somebody.

grandlexuz:


Life is just so complex. Two good people have been known to give birth to criminals and vice versa. Six months after my wife abandoned me I got a call from her. Apparently for a couple of days she had been extremely dizzy with spells of vertigo. It was severely hampering her daily life. I got so worried about her situation and asked her to immediately go to the hospital. She couldn't walk with the risk of falling because of vertigo. Besides she had no money. I had very little myself and it was money for my medications. That not withstanding I had someone go pick her up ( I live in a different town) to the hospital. I sent all I had and called every now and then to get updates. The story is longer than this, but I only wanted to give you an idea of how far I can go for her. Despite my hurt and pain I will never abandon her if she needed my help especially in a time of bad health.

I certainly thank God for the chance of life and for me now it's really about my kids..

grandlexuz:


Thank You Octopussy.. I really had no plan B thus it feels strange having to start life all over again with another lady. However I trust the Lord has the best for a poor sinner like me.. His grace has been immense. How I have survived so far beats my imagination.

tommyken:

You be mumu I swear.....

You are supposed to be used for a sacrifice to your village ancestors.

MUMU

kafulka:

Oga ..takam easy nah!!..even in our village square everyone is entitled to their opinion.

I just said it the way I see the matter,
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JoannaSedley:
You see. You never visited nor cared for your wife while she was sick with such a debilitating ailment like vertigo but you are wailing because she did not wait on your arm and foot. You sent money while she needed you to be there or close to you.
Cunnyman die cunnywoman bury am. Who knows how the poor woman is now. I just hope it is not Menieres she is suffering from.