highcollide:
Compound fool. You no suppose dey where men dey talk. You dey insult your fellow men because of woman. Na your kain men dey fit put woman pant for inside bread chop. Respect yourself if you no get anything to contribute.

U don finish? Oya locate bridge, jump. Otherwise continue feeling like King Kong.

ubunja:
Jojo thats the truth I tell you. They have not grasped the full equation of relationships: being bad gets you women AT THE BEGINNING WHEN THEY ARE FRESH AND SWEET.
Being good gets you women AT THE END WHEN THEY ARE DAMAGED TRASH.

Ubunja has finished everything. Let us share the grace in fellowship and close this thread.


If you're a man, read it and read again. Being a nice guy will fetch you nothing but refurbished hoes....

Good one. But I won’t compete with other people to give an ungrateful girl any attention whether she knows or not. I love myself too much...

Acidosis:
Truth is if you enjoy the kind of attention the average woman enjoys on a daily basis, you wouldn't give a flying fck about who calls you or not.

If you want to understand the trick, try and date at least 4 women at the same time. It would take you around 2-3 days to realize you haven't heard from one of the four women. Why should you care or remember when 3 have gotten you overwhelmed with calls and chats?

Bottom line is many of you guys are nothing but mere OPTIONS. That you make them your priority changes nothing.


[NB: This analogy is not applicable to those in serious and committed relationships though]

Not until you start to see ladies as human being.... you will continue to be miserable with your relationship with different ladies in life..

From been shy around them to having a shaky voice while speaking to them.....and so on... that will continue!

ubunja:
problem is guys think being "nice" is the dictionary meaning of "nice". The Nice of Nice Guy is not the Nice of the dictionary.

The Nice women hate is when you're AGREEABLE. When EVERYTHING is OK and right just because it's from a girl.

e.g You tell a girl you like coffee more than tea. The girl says she likes Tea. Then suddenly you no longer like coffee, you now like tea. All because you want to appear AGREEABLE.

Women HATE that shît forever.
A girl asks you a question and because you want to make her happy your answer is always YES. It's so wrong on so any levels. No-one can grow as a person with a nice guy around.

Well now,something we both agree on.... Who would have thought

To any woman reading do not give a man a dime. Not one penny , until he has spent at least 100k+ on you. Then you can just reciprocate with something small on his bday or vday just to be nice. You are not his wife, he is the one chasing you and asking you out, not the other way round,he is begging YOU to get in your pants. You are the prize not him.


I’m out.

tee59:
The girl is not into you, that's the fact.

Most Nigerian girls are not really into guys they date or marry. Fact.

Some just manage the most eligible who cares to approach them. Or the one that appears financially comfortable enough. Of course the "comfortable" one might just be a poser, lives above his means or she overestimated his finances.

Therefore only very FEW women marry out of love and romance.

It easily shows in their overall attitude already during courtship. From attitude to sex, showing little care, etc. But a guy might be too smithen to see it. People generally see what they want to see.

I know some ladies who hurriedly married the first guy who showed genuine interest and proposed. In general chat with them it's scary what they say about their hubby just under 2 to 5 years of marriage. 95% over economic difficulties. I find myself encouraging them to be patient. That things will improve.

I keep wondering where is the love that made them marry in the first place? But then I realise they never even mentioned love as a reason for marriage at all. Only "I needed to settle down, my parents were worrying me to marry, all my mates were already married, my mum wanted grandchildren', etc.

Women should try to marry more for love.

i so much agree with op ,ubunja and the rest with their reverse psychology thing ..


but one thing ya'll dont understand is for guys like us to work, the simps (in ubunja's word) has to exist

Bros, her type is rare but they exist.

davidadenrele:
Hello OP,


You made quite a touching salient point here that's very most peculiar about most of Nigerian ladies, without generalizing it can be painful and disappointing why our ladies form hard to get only to fall cheap at the end, your point are undeniable fact but if you ask me your thought and expectation from this babes are foreign and and not localize, its only the first world you asked a babe out on date with simple courtesy and she said yes!!! no big deal and if the friendship would eventually lead to something serious she already see you as her boyfriend and she will endlessly get to know if you aint serious anymore about the relationship cos she will observe you are not the same guy she used to know, thats not to say all our Nigerian babes are terrible personal experience are involved sometimes, i have seen a situation where a babe i asked out once surprised me without any serious motive give me call and asked that we should go out to watch a movie, i didnt want to act as if i wasn't man enough neither do i know whats this babe is up to, cos i know what our typical naija babes can do sometimes, to i agreed and we meet at ozone, before i said hey, she has paid for the movie, bought 2 soda drinks and 2 pop corn, trust me she was damn pretty i was so scared and i was feeling very... very uneasy throughout while the movie lasted i kept wondering is this babe for real guess what i chickened out at last cos the babe didnt see any of this nice moves as any big deal she would call me most times, and would always want us to hang out together she was damn too independent in cause of dating her i found out that was her personality, she wasn't in anyway desperate or trying to be with me or impress it the moral lesson of this not all our Nigerian babes are all that bad, just pray you meet the right one that would appreciate you and you would appreciate her back, i lost out cos i was naive and i was not experience enough to handle the said babe trust me there are very good babe out here.

ubunja:
to get a girl act like you don't want her.

It's that simple. Chase her she runs. Don't chase her she chases you. When you ignore a girl she thinks you have many girls ready to do your will. So she wants you more.

If you toast a girl NEVER say you're single. Never.

The type of girl this one is referring to are Gold-diggers..

Get yourself a good woman...she will respect you and treat your child very well with good education both formal and informal ... Please take heed!!!!

Beware!!!

Saffi:
To any woman reading do not give a man a dime. Not one penny , until he has spent at least 100k+ on you. Then you can just reciprocate with something small on his bday or vday just to be nice. You are not his wife, he is the one chasing you and asking you out, not the other way round,he is begging YOU to get in your pants. You are the prize not him.


I’m out.

if this is coming from a feminist then You need to sue your headmaster for teaching you the wrongest meaning of EQUALITY.

Saffi:
I’m glad not too many women have commented on this thread. Let them fight, bicker and have panic attack’s over something so senseless. Deceiving themselves with motivational speeches to boost their zero confidence. At the end of the day, you log off nl and the reality sets in again

I only pity the newbies in the game...

Beware!!!

Point of correction,not all women love being mistreated or clinging to brutal men. Therefore, quit the generalization. Women who tilt towards brutes may have a dysfunctional orientation that the best demonstration of love is through beatings or physical assault.

Imoh555:



I am very blunt and plain with women especially when criticizing them and telling them they look terrible or they ain't shiit and the good thing is that women love it when you actually don't worship or idolize them,....treat her good and she takes you for granted, treat her like a piece of rag and watch her never wants to depart from you... (boys don't get this logic) it doesn't mean you guys should be women beaters... Thanks for your educations ubunja I hope there are some new stuffs to read from you soon.... I'm starved

DONADAMS:
yes, you're very right..reminds me of a girl I met sometime in October..liked her, and we dated. now since that October this gal never called me. whether she was broke I don't know(she's a student tho) buh I found it disgusting. now she liked me very much, even much more than I liked her buh she doesn't call , buh she flashes more than thrice everyday and expects me to call all times she flashed. I later stopped calling buh she kept flashing, she continued for days buh I didn't call so she stopped it. she confronted me on WhatsApp that I do not like her again..I asked why, she said cos I don't call again, I asked her if she had a conscience cos since we met she has never called me(though she has buh put together all the calls it hasn't been up 5mins). and she shouldn't make excuse about being broke cos she can't tell me she has gotten #100 for the past 6month..her reply was fvcking annoying.. she said she was sorry that it was my responsibility to call..I was like 'what is then your responsibily'? I no blame her sha..she's from the north and girls from the north are hardwired that way. the r/ship just died a natural death. after all I don't believe in long distance relationships,I met her during my finals days in school , I insisted we don't start any relationship cos it may not work, buh she insisted we did. it bothered me cos if a gal cannot reciprocate something as trivial as phonecalls , of what good s she? and na she go dey shout marriage, marriage..you 1 come turn liability for my house abi?

Do you now know she will become a good woman for your children and your family if you eventually marry her?

oshaosha2014:
Everything is not about money. You should see signs she’s willing to give to you even if she doesn’t have money. That alone shows she’s a keeper. Not the other ones that believe it is their birthright to receive and not give little back at least.

Cogent points you raised, some are like that and are keepers, I no for sure the lady I'm with can give me her last penny and wouldn't bat an eyelid, but majority of the rest see it has a birthright, the minute they sense you don't have enough or reluctant to foot all there bills, ..... relationship over

highcollide:
Ubunja has finished everything. Let us share the grace in fellowship and close this thread.


If you're a man, read it and read again. Being a nice guy will fetch you nothing but refurbished hoes....

It's never a dull moment reading ubunja's posts. That very post alone should make all these sissy men get wise

Saffi:
To any woman reading do not give a man a dime. Not one penny , until he has spent at least 100k+ on you. Then you can just reciprocate with something small on his bday or vday just to be nice. You are not his wife, he is the one chasing you and asking you out, not the other way round,he is begging YOU to get in your pants. You are the prize not him.


I’m out.

I laugh in China ... ...Baby mama things loading...

If the “real world” you are talking about is one where the men have sense and not be pushed around the fingers of a lady because of the fading emotions that erupt inside them, I am all for your comment. Love you.

Saffi:
I’m glad not too many women have commented on this thread. Let them fight, bicker and have panic attack’s over something so senseless. Deceiving themselves with motivational speeches to boost their zero confidence. At the end of the day, you log off nl and the reality sets in again

No beautiful young girl with many options, is going to chase you. Especially if you don’t have money, or some kind of noticeable status in society. You will be forgotten as they're richer and more reasonable guys willing to get her. please stop being delusional. This method can only work on ugly women who are unwanted anyways and will do anything to have the bare minimum of attention from any guy, or women with extremely low self esteem. Wake up from your dreams please.

It can only work if you have moneeyyyy, and most of you don’t have it. Sorryyyy lol

ubunja:
to get a girl act like you don't want her.

It's that simple. Chase her she runs. Don't chase her she chases you. When you ignore a girl she thinks you have many girls ready to do your will. So she wants you more.

If you toast a girl NEVER say you're single. Never.

joyousever:
Point of correction,not all women love being mistreated or clinging to brutal men. Therefore, quit the generalization. Women who tilt towards brutes may have a dysfunctional orientation that the best demonstration of love is through beatings or physical assault.

joyo if 80% of women are into Bad Boys then we say ALL WOMEN LOVE BAD BOYS. we can't afford not to generalize

Guys who don't generalize are the same guys who end up killing themselves when they find their women, whom they thought were good angels, have been into orgies and gangbangs in their teens.

No lady is the prize. You expire in looks and everything too quickly and you call yourselves the prize Some useless guys have really messed your heads up oooooooh! Men!!!!

Saffi:
To any woman reading do not give a man a dime. Not one penny , until he has spent at least 100k+ on you. Then you can just reciprocate with something small on his bday or vday just to be nice. You are not his wife, he is the one chasing you and asking you out, not the other way round,he is begging YOU to get in your pants. You are the prize not him.


I’m out.

No be our fault na the mentality we take grow, u dey die for a woman, she dey die for another man

Saffi:
No beautiful young girl with many options, is going to chase you. Especially if you don’t have money, or some kind of noticeable status in society. You will be forgotten as they're richer and more reasonable guys willing to get her. please stop being delusional. This method can only work on ugly women who are unwanted anyways and will do anything to have the bare minimum of attention from any guy, or women with extremely low self esteem. Wake up from your dreams please.

you don't see how you're playing yourself.

If a girl don't chase you then she never really loved you in the first place. She wanted your attention only.

My babymama chased me. And to this day continues to. If a girl follows you no matter what you do then she is yours. If she doesn't, she was never yours

Athena4:
That's it?.You wouldn't recognize a good woman even if she had "Good woman" carved on her head. U come here they form psychologist. Well You are Boooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooring. Go cry to your baby brained mother and sisters.

Athena4 sorry. Like I said I knew your pains and have all the necessary therapeutic tools to put u to order.
I can see u are really a victim .

Saffi:
To any woman reading do not give a man a dime. Not one penny , until he has spent at least 100k+ on you. Then you can just reciprocate with something small on his bday or vday just to be nice. You are not his wife, he is the one chasing you and asking you out, not the other way round,he is begging YOU to get in your pants. You are the prize not him.


I’m out.

This is hilarious. Simps have truly enabled female narcissism now more than ever, and have made many young women very shortsighted. That is why someone can believe that a vagina makes her a prize. Perhaps a short term prize for Chads who are ever ready to pump and dump. The thread is intended to promote the idea of mutual respect/regard by both parties in a relationship. But you managed to reduce it all to males spending to get into "prized" female pants. You must be very young. Remember this post in the next 10-15 years when you realize that a woman's physical appeal diminishes rather quickly with time, and that decency and maturity are what make a person of long term value.

Go and say that to men that like women’s pictures on Instagram/fb 24 hours a day
Go and say that to the men that spend 50% of their income patronising ashawos
Go and say that to the men that beg women just to put the ‘tip’ in like dogs
Go and say that to the men that kneel down and beg for the woman’s hand in marriage
Go and say that to the men who chase women on the street just to ask for their numbers
Go and say that to men who borrow money just to pay a woman’s bride price
And they will tell you who the real prizes are.

oshaosha2014:
No lady is the prize. You expire in looks and everything too quickly and you call yourselves the prize Some useless guys have really messed your heads up oooooooh! Men!!!!

Masionreay:



Athena4 sorry. Like I said I knew your pains and have all the necessary therapeutic tools to put u to order.
I can see u are really a victim .

Haha. Failed psychiatrist like you. Go and grab a bottle and wonder why you fail with women.

What does your baby mama look like? Is she a 10/10 or even an 8 ?what does her self esteem look like? Of course she is chasing you, she has a child by you so her value has drastically decreased, she has no choice. No high quality woman is going to chase you if you are an average guy. If she has fallen in love with you, that’s a completely different story. But as for the intial stage the man must chase and nothing can modify that. Sorry,

ubunja:
you don't see how you're playing yourself.

If a girl don't chase you then she never really loved you in the first place. She wanted your attention only.

My babymama chased me. And to this day continues to. If a girl follows you no matter what you do then she is yours. If she doesn't, she was never yours

Thank you for mentioning the useless guys, save for the one paying bride price, that’s tradition. God bless you.

Saffi:
Go and say that to men that like women’s pictures on Instagram/fb 24 hours a day
Go and say that to the men that spend 50% of their income patronising ashawos
Go and say that to the men that beg women just to put the ‘tip’ in like dogs
Go and say that to the men that kneel down and beg for the woman’s hand in marriage
Go and say that to the men who chase women on the street just to ask for their numbers
Go and say that to men who borrow money just to pay a woman’s bride price
And they will tell you who the real prizes are.

Tundexxy:


Do you now know she will become a good woman for your children and your family if you eventually marry her?

no, I don't think so. but prophet, will she be?

Lol...

NL funny die

Saffi:
What does your baby mama look like? Is she a 10/10 or even an 8 ?what does her self esteem look like? Of course she is chasing you, she has a child by you so her value has drastically decreased, she has no choice. No high quality woman is going to chase you if you are an average guy. If she has fallen in love with you, that’s a completely different story. But as for the intial stage the man must chase and nothing can modify that. Sorry,

well she started chasing me when she was a virgin. So I know what I'm talking about.
About her looks don't worry. Get my WhatsApp details on my profile and one of these days you'll see my daughter. I usually put her as my profile pic. Judging by her looks you'll estimate her mother's looks.