ojuwura:
Some comments here make me feel like barfing. When will this Nairaland Gender War (so to speak) end? Nothing is as enthralling as having both sexes rub minds together like matured people.

True, some ladies succumb when you use reverse psychology on them but one bitter truth y'all should know is no matter how much you bash the entire women folk, men will continue to chase after them till the moon is no more.

I beseech you guys to tune down your vulgar and degrading words. Everyone has had one or two bitter experiences, it doesnt have to make you a demon. In all you say, remember you've all got mothers and sisters. Let's be guided nitori Olorun.

NB: I neither insulted nor quoted anybody to lash out at him/her. Saw scaled viper will not bite you o

ubunja:
there you go validating...

Obianifer:
But when you are validated it's alright?

tintingz:
Lol, you're an illiterate. Are you not taught types of "fallacies" in school? It is more ridiculous that those that like your post are illiterate just like you.

> Correction: Not "All Nigerians" love Buhari, it's "Majority Nigerians" love Buhari.

This the definition of generalizations which is a form of fallacy called Hasty generalization .

- A hasty generalization is a fallacy in which a conclusion is not logically justified by sufficient or unbiased evidence. It's also called an insufficient sample, a converse accident, a faulty generalization, a biased generalization, jumping to a conclusion, secundum quid, and a neglect of qualifications.

You don't elect a democratic leader by generalizations, you elect by voting which comes with statistics, results (evidence) by then the "majority" vote takes the lead.

The problem with generalizing is, e.g All women or women are whorè, by this you're also saying you're a whorè, your sisters, your mother, aunt, female friends are all whorè.
To save yourself from this, just use "majority" or "most"!

You didn't leave a room for those that are not, you just generalize everybody.

You need to educate yourself better, stop displaying your illiteracy.

engrelvis:
Bad boy behavior only work for upcoming teens .when a girl begins to mature she begins to reason differently .don't go n make money. By d time u r old with out money let c how yr bad boy behavior will help u

highcollide:
ubunja has gotten a name....

aytuns:


you've said the truth.
coming from my past relationships till my current one, I've seen that when a woman loves her guy, all the talk of alpha or beta male won't exist. she will bring 'herself' into the relationship, and as the guy you'll know it's not just you doing all the work.


Anyway, I know now that there's a difference between how you treat ladies who are only sex materials and how you treat ladies who are wife materials.

aytuns:


Depends on the lady... A sex material or wife material. I don't have to always be the best actor with the best line, perfect hairstyle, everyday, every time.. I'm going to rather be myself, and if she's mine, she'll respect and appreciate that.

Lordknowz:



I dey feel you bro.. I hardly chat with girls wey i dey Straffff. Even like 2 days ago, one girl was crying all because i didnt give her my whatsapp number ever since we got hooked. She said i didnt take her Special bla bla bla. Bro she cried for real, but mih no still Foh for her cry.. But i hate seeing people cry, i just had to pet her & sort things out with her. Zero attention dey work for me wella.

ubunja:
act like she is one of 5 girls you're dealing with. Let her know she's disposable. If only by attitude.

Put yourself first ALWAYS when dealing with her.

Now here is the catch: be really prepared for her to walk out. That's how you play the Game.


Which means: never deal with 1 woman at a time. It weakens your game because it makes you desperate. Which lowers your value.

theoptimist298:


Makes sense!

Also, i find that whenever i initiate sex chat with women, often times i never actually get to sleep with them. I think its a turn off for them if discussed before the act for the first time?

ubunja:
any sex chat that goes on for more than atleast 3 days without you meeting up and having sex will usually get you either friendzoned blocked or ignored.

In my 2go days(7 or so years ago), I could "add" a girl in the morning and fvck her in the evening same day. I was a razor on chat.
Never chat too long. The magic evaporates.
Girls love to fvck strangers. The more you talk the more she knows you and the more she sees you as a friend.
Which is a disaster.

elonize:
dnt let a girl cry for u bro,its not right,I like d part u pet her,if n.a. some goats,dem go dey form 1 kind tin,n.a. dis kind tin na dey make some guys dey get problems for life

ubunja:
when women say 'All Men Are Dogs' do they mean ALL MEN ARE DOGS? or the majority?

tintingz:
Using that "word" is wrong!

That word is a generalizing term, don't be hasty to generalize your conclusion, what takes you to say "majority or minority"?

I can't assume your thoughts you're saying majority, I will take it that you're referring all men as dogs.

ubunja:
see how out of touch you're with spoken english?

Spoken English is not written English. You'll confuse yourself.

tintingz:
What's the difference?

ubunja:
get it through your head. ALL WOMEN ARE THE SAME. it's a matter of Levels. Some are more whorish than others. Some are at the imagination stage of whoring.eg virgins.

Phinity318:

None whatsoever. Prioblem is, women sometimes are confused about what they want. and its difficult to get a complete package in man. Women Want it all though.

Awe4luv:

u saying something but my dear, it doesn't work that way, I mean u are not a man, that guy up there just told you what works and that's it....lol...women, I still can't forget a girl I dated from June to august last year...#spits.....I played so nice, spend money on her but what do I get, she comes back to call me stingy, saying I was been a fool and in love, those comments hurts me till today....

paulnewplay:

i've noticed this phenomenom too. Even dirty local illiterate women will b shunning u and u'll b wondering what's blowing their heads up.

soul95:


But that's what ladies like. By nature, I'm an altruist, I believe in doing good not for any hidden motive,but because that's my nature. My major observation with the ladies is that women mostly disrespect you if you are good to them (and no I'm not asking them out or intending to sleep with them, I'm just being me, sincere, principled and honest), and funny enough some of the girls are not even my level (no pride, as a rule I don't discriminate, I feel very much comfortable taking with a homeless man as talking with some corporate big shot), but the girls just start being deliberately disrespectful. So most times it just ends there.

Then there was a time I went through serious depression (when I'm depressed I don't cry, but I get easily upset and have this mean cold Machiavellian face), guest what: the ladies were flashing the green light left right centre, surprise breakfasts from neighbours in night gowns with nothing under, the winks, the bosom pressing against the arm, the flirty texts. Funny thing was I did not even respond to any, I was hurting deep inside to care about stuff like that (and no I don't use sex or any thing to drown my sorrows, except maybe music).

I've had a very pretty girlfriend that used to mess up big time, once I got tired of her matter (na school my papa send me, make i focus on studies), I just completely fash her matter, this girl just got my keys, started so much attention, she would spend 3 days and 5 nights out of the week in my house, cook food with her money (I didn't tell her to), sometimes I would go on field trips to facilities only to come back and see a well prepared meal and sexy lingerie, man got tired. But anytime I truly showed this girl that I love her, if you see the kind of way she will misbehave eh...(you would think she is in partnership with my village people to destroy my soul). Last last, I just ended the matter, got serious with God,no sexual relationships for a while till marriage. But I've seen that behavioral pattern especially amongst pretty girls(highly educated by the way).

Women hold the rules of engagement in relationships. Once upon a time, to get the girl you had to be the best gentleman and her father must approve, so then all boys wanted to be gentleman, you know suits,hats, ball dances and all that. Nowadays, you have to be the bad boy, so boys lie, dress irresponsibly in the name of swag and even join cult to form rugged to impress women (me sef e dey baffle me). So you girls made the call, don't complain.

Contumely:


So women start egg production at 0 age?

What type of study was that?

ubunja:
call it what you want.

All I know is that it makes women drop their panties and open those legs.

ubunja:
lmfao. You have to ask

I will tell you later.

lefulefu:
if she doesnt call u back to know why she aint hearing from u again then it means she doesnt and never cared abt u.she has someone dat is keeping her occupied.

AreaFada2:

Most Nigerian girls are not really into guys they date or marry. Fact.

Some just manage the most eligible who cares to approach them. Or the one that appears financially comfortable enough. Of course the "comfortable" one might just be a poser, lives above his means or she overestimated his finances.

Therefore only very FEW women marry out of love and romance.

It easily shows in their overall attitude already during courtship. From attitude to sex, showing little care, etc. But a guy might be too smithen to see it. People generally see what they want to see.

I know some ladies who hurriedly married the first guy who showed genuine interest and proposed. In general chat with them it's scary what they say about their hubby just under 2 to 5 years of marriage. 95% over economic difficulties. I find myself encouraging them to be patient. That things will improve.

I keep wondering where is the love that made them marry? But then I realise they never even mentioned love as a reason for marriage. Only "I need to settle down, my parents are worrying me too marry', etc.

Women should try to marry more for love.

ubunja:
joyo if 80% of women are into Bad Boys then we say ALL WOMEN LOVE BAD BOYS. we can't afford not to generalize

Guys who don't generalize are the same guys who end up killing themselves when they find their women, whom they thought were good angels, have been into orgies and gangbangs in their teens.

elonize:
u r a guy,change it to a guy ,no dey use girl profile

jackals:


As a female, I testify to it that you're right. I don't know why I tend to long for guys that see me as shit and has no regards for me, than the ones showering me with attention and care. Ubunja,why is this so