anochuko01:
well, i already did...she was taken to a specialist hospital for checkup and councelling. The last thing anyone wants is a child born out of rape.

I still DONT BELIEVE the story anyways.

Prognose:


Does she look like she wants to give the child up for adoption? If she refuses to give the baby up would that be the best time for him to leave her?

oduademonest:
Really, really shit situation.

2 months ago, my GF was raped. It was done in a park. She didn't want to report it and went into a full breakdown, wouldn't speak to police, go to hospital etc. I couldn't force her, so I just stayed with her.

She was, obviously, in a really shit state since, and I've been with her, by her side, listening to her, helping her. We went to therapy, and she knows I'm there for her. She has a history of depression, and I've been really worried.

Last week, we found out she was pregnant. I was abroad for 2 months before the rape on work, and can back early to care for her. So the baby definitely isn't mine. She is 100% sure it's the rapist's.

So we had a discussion. She is a devout Catholic. We initially decided on a abortion, but after she speak to her Mother, she has decided to keep the baby, saying that isn't the baby's fault.

I flat out told her that I would not help raise a baby of a guy who raped her. She cried and begged me not to leave. I told she is the one making the choice - either she keeps the baby and I leave, or she aborts the baby and I stay. I would not let this go.

She didn't want either of those things to happen, so I told her we were done...

I feel shit. Was i wrong?

Apination:
This is terrible, she should have gone to the hospital but as it stands, that baby has committed no sin to be given the death sentence. You say you love her but this is the time to prove it and you are chickening out, you don't have to be a father to the child if you don't want to but don't force her into a decision she doesn't want to make. When the child comes, she can leave him or her with her parents and you continue with your lives. Don't forsake her at this time when she needs you the most

Deepfeel:

His not a real man and the love he has for that lady is a fake one, a real man who loves his woman will not leave her cause she was raped and refused to abort, his a coward a weak man

Next2Bezee:


So, her old parent's should raise her child while she goes about her normal life? Are you well?

There's nothing wrong with refusing to care for a child borne from rape -- and that's if she really was raped.

Love does not mean one should discard their happiness and choose to live the rest of their life in mental torment.

funmisticqueen:
well her mother is the one talkingher into it so yes, let them raise the child.

Next2Bezee:


So, her old parent's should raise her child while she goes about her normal life? Are you well?

There's nothing wrong with refusing to care for a child borne from rape -- and that's if she really was raped.

Love does not mean one should discard their happiness and choose to live the rest of their life in mental torment.

Prognose:


Lol

Seriously?

This thing u said can u do it?

Apination:

It was simply a suggestion, you don't have to be stupid in responding to it

funmisticqueen:
have you raised a child that isn't yours before?
try and understand his point of view

Deepfeel:

No I haven't raised a child who's not mine before, but I have been raised by a man who isn't my father and he raised me well, this man is a coward he might use the child as an excuse now but even if the lady abort the child and develop complication with her womb the coward will still leave , I hate people who use thier love ones predicament to abandon them, fake people

Apination:

You are obviously mentally incapacitated. Since common sense did not dictate to you that it was a mere opinion and doesn't define what will be, stop quoting me like a moronn

Deepfeel:
Selfish decision by you, upon all the help you claim to help her heal from the rape trauma you made it worse by this single act, you didn't if consider the health risk in abortion

funmisticqueen:
hmm

Deepfeel:

No I haven't raised a child who's not mine before, but I have been raised by a man who isn't my father and he raised me well, this man is a coward he might use the child as an excuse now but even if the lady abort the child and develop complication with her womb the coward will still leave , I hate people who use thier love ones predicament to abandon them, fake people

Electdbahdguy:
YOU'RE JUST A STUPID AKPA AMU!

*SPITS ON YOU AND YOUR IDEOLOGY!!!!

Deepfeel:

You get the point?

Next2Bezee:


Throw the word 'coward' around as much as you want, there is still nothing wrong with not wanting to father a child that belongs to someone else. The man who raised you was not your father, but he did it anyway; good for him and you. That's where it ends. Don't expect everyone to be willing to take on what he did.

Deepfeel:

I know that's why I called him selfish and weak, end of story.

oduademonest:
Really, really shit situation.

2 months ago, my GF was raped. It was done in a park. She didn't want to report it and went into a full breakdown, wouldn't speak to police, go to hospital etc. I couldn't force her, so I just stayed with her.

She was, obviously, in a really shit state since, and I've been with her, by her side, listening to her, helping her. We went to therapy, and she knows I'm there for her. She has a history of depression, and I've been really worried.

Last week, we found out she was pregnant. I was abroad for 2 months before the rape on work, and can back early to care for her. So the baby definitely isn't mine. She is 100% sure it's the rapist's.

So we had a discussion. She is a devout Catholic. We initially decided on a abortion, but after she speak to her Mother, she has decided to keep the baby, saying that isn't the baby's fault.

I flat out told her that I would not help raise a baby of a guy who raped her. She cried and begged me not to leave. I told she is the one making the choice - either she keeps the baby and I leave, or she aborts the baby and I stay. I would not let this go.

She didn't want either of those things to happen, so I told her we were done...

I feel shit. Was i wrong?

Next2Bezee:


He is neither, bruh. You just have issues.

Deepfeel:

Lol typical Nigerian enslaved by tradition

Next2Bezee:


Haha. Please, where did get tradition from? You're just grasping at straws now. It looks like your feelings were hurt bad.