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Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by nosigho: 11:46pm On May 13, 2019 |
Closed case, 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by samuel900(m): 11:55pm On May 13, 2019 |
Thanks to NAN'S, many Nigerians including Senators, Reps and others were not even thinking of the masses. Oloyede making life hard for the parent that are yet to receive 30,000 minimum wages. N50 per SMS is strange even if u are sending international..... extorting the masses to buy urself FG recognition 1 Like |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by nosigho: 11:57pm On May 13, 2019 |
please someone reply me... i need help |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by ifyalways(f): 12:28am On May 14, 2019 |
Send me the Ten thousand naira and i will go talk to your in laws and get them off your back for good. Your BILS marriage is not your concern or problem. The only thing you owe them is your presence and gift, cash or in kind and what you can comfortably afford. Even if you married their sister/ daughter on credit , not enough reason to send you such ridiculous bills unless perharps you a leading a double life by giving them the impression that you are wealthy and willing to spend it on them and their needs. Long story short, send them what you can afford. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by Amanee(f): 12:33am On May 14, 2019 |
First time I'm hearing of a younger sibling's partner being billed for the older one's wedding even as their daughter is not contributing financially to her family's upkeep. Some African families don't have shame finally... 11 Likes |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by mankettle(m): 12:36am On May 14, 2019 |
give them what you can afford. some people sha, why levy an in-law? forgetting that you will still buy aso ebi for your wife and kids 1 Like |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by bigl: 12:39am On May 14, 2019 |
nosigho: Send them the 10k and politely let them know that you wish to do more (even though i won't advise you to na) but due to family commitments here and there, you can't afford more than that 10k. And let them know that infact its part of your kids' school fees which wasn't complete in the first place but you will have to refund and also complete before they resume. Hope you get my point? I am also married and i don't take such bullshits! The husband to be should sort his own problems and not enburden you! 4 Likes |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by nosigho: 1:02am On May 14, 2019 |
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Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by LilMissFavvy(f): 5:25am On May 14, 2019 |
Nothing to worry about. Send them what you have, the earlier the better, so that they can go find the balance of 30k, they maybe truly in need of financial help. People get married once in life, and need support as much as possible. |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by mankettle(m): 6:51am On May 14, 2019 |
nosigho:if you can afford to, make it 10k. don't let them use it as an issue in future 1 Like |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by Acidosis(m): 8:22am On May 14, 2019 |
What a shameless and dysfunctional family. A family that sends bills to in-laws has no shame. You married from an extremely shameless family. As far as I'm concerned, you owe them nothing but goodwill. Whatever you give at any point in time must be based on your discretion, conviction and convenience. There is no better time to make your position known than NOW. 4 Likes |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by egojeny1(f): 8:25am On May 14, 2019 |
I advise you send them half of what you were billed that's 20k don't think is that much, afterall it's your in-law u never can tell if you will need his help 2mrw. Marriage is deep o and life is full of uncertainties. |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by Acidosis(m): 8:27am On May 14, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy: People get married once in a lifetime but the stupid decision they make about that once in a lifetime event can put them in a state of perpetual poverty forever. Btw, there's everything to worry about over a family that bills a BIL because of their brother's marriage (an older man fa!). What a shame. If the man can't afford his bills, he should stay single or get married from a different family with lower bills. Shameless people everywhere. 4 Likes |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by Acidosis(m): 8:34am On May 14, 2019 |
egojeny1: you're wicked. 7 Likes |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by egojeny1(f): 8:44am On May 14, 2019 |
Acidosis:How i'm i wicked? I am not supporting the family that billed him what i'm saying is from his innermost mind let him give them 20k if he can afford it afterall it's just an advice. I am a married woman so i know what's up with this kind of things. If he can't afford 20k then let him give them what he can afford but let it be reasonable at least. This is just an advice @acidosis is that why u termed me wicked? Nawa o! |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by nosigho: 8:51am On May 14, 2019 |
mankettle: i am thinking of giving them 5k |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by egojeny1(f): 8:57am On May 14, 2019 |
nosigho:5k is too small he's your in-law let's be frank pls. 1 Like |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by nosigho: 8:58am On May 14, 2019 |
Old case 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by Acidosis(m): 9:03am On May 14, 2019 |
nosigho: Even if it's burial or ritual, it's still irresponsible to send bills to in-laws. As per burial, only direct and immediate children of the deceased get the bills. Anything the grandchildren, in-laws or friends decide to do is nothing but a mere privilege. 1 Like |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by Acidosis(m): 9:06am On May 14, 2019 |
egojeny1: I'm sorry |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by Somzee(f): 9:12am On May 14, 2019 |
This is really bad, haba! Let him sow his clothes according to his materials. I believe you have been the one taking care of their daughters schooling expenses before she graduated? You haven't been bugging them with anything. Let them work with the cash they have at hand,wedding is just a day o, they can cut down on some things. they shouldn't involve you in this bullshit. They should have just told you, to assist in whatever way you can. If it's burial that one is understandable. Send what you can afford and tell them that's all you have,you have more pressing issues to handle. 1 Like |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by egojeny1(f): 9:13am On May 14, 2019 |
Acidosis: No wahala |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by Nikkol: 9:59am On May 14, 2019 |
That BIL of yours is shameless, must you support, let him carry his cross. You can only give what you can on your own very accord. |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by babyfaceafrica: 10:02am On May 14, 2019 |
nosigho:just overlook those things...some families are funny..give them what you can afford..5k/10k......if they complain...na their problem..we all have our problems Sir |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by babyfaceafrica: 10:05am On May 14, 2019 |
instead of people to plan how their marriages will be successful... they emphasize on wedding on one day.... ur brother in law should cut their cloth according to their size...who wedding help? |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by mankettle(m): 10:32am On May 14, 2019 |
nosigho:this family na I never chop.. so shameless. after not contributing to his wedding, probably giving him tough time u now want him to partake in yours. in fact 10k is too much, buy better cloth, fast and go and eat. you have fully paid your dues |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by nosigho: 1:32pm On May 14, 2019 |
... 1 Like |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by Esthered: 1:36pm On May 14, 2019 |
Why do we support absurdities in Africa? He's billed for the wedding, get ready to be billed for naming, child dedication..... Some women advising him to pay as much as half are funny to me. Coming into a family doesn't mean I should be taken advantage of. The groom to be could have pleaded for support through the wife and not DEMAND as if they're doing him a favour because he married their daughter that brings nothing to the table currently. I'll be a wife tomorrow but should my parents try that with my hubby.... I hope this will not be passed to generations and we term it normal in the name of one family. The groom to be should cut his coat according to his CLOTHE as na so e dey take start. I'm struggling not to be tribalistic here but I can't help it as I know the family would likely be from the south **** likewise the supporters club. |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by Esthered: 1:39pm On May 14, 2019 |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by Unionised(m): 1:39pm On May 14, 2019 |
nosigho: I am positive they did not bill you per se. They billed your wife. So send her back to them. She knows your situation, let her tell them nothing dey. Don't give her a dime Don't tell them directly. Respect yourself, even if they have no shame. |
Re: Brother In-law Marriage Wahala by Richy4(m): 8:09pm On May 14, 2019 |
After all is said and done... what will the couple eat.. I mean after spending money that they don't have on weddings or wedding? I can't comprehend certain behaviour that human exhibits in this world sometimes... |
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