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I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by timmybabyface: 7:59pm On May 18, 2019 |
Dear friends Greetings to you and please pardon my manners if my ways of writing isn’t that perfect! I met my Gf about 3years ago after my youth service in Nigeria l! she was in law school at that time and things was going on well till I finally found out that she has cheated on me when she traveled back to continue her law school in Abuja, she told me that she thought I wasn’t too serious at that time and that she’s truly sorry. I forgive her because I love her and because of the good behavior of her parents towards me. To cut the long story short, I have to travel outside Nigeria about one year and 8month ago to further my studies and things was really going on well between us both before I left, I always try to creat time for her out of my busy academic schedule and I still send her money according to my pocket. When I traveled down to Nigeria to celebrate Christmas with family&friends I ask her if she has ever cheated on me when I was away. She started lying till I have to force her to talk and give her the only bible to swear but she could not do that , she was scared so she told me that she has cheated on me twice, she said the first one was when she visited her friend in Ibadan for her sister wedding and a friend of her came in without her knowledge, that she was drunk and they have sex. She said the second one happened when she went for a job interview in Edo. according to her she said when the the interview was over that she could not go back to Lagos so her male friend log her in an hotel which both of them sleep till morning but nothing happened between them! I don’t believe a man and woman would sleep in an hotel room till morning and nothing happened! I’m a street wise and well oriented so such story is not a welcome story to me . I’m a Nigerian I study and live in the Netherlands. Please my dear friends kindly advise me on what to do, she has been begging me with her mom who is asking me to forgive her and that such would never happen again Matured advice please! That I will appreciate 32 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by Omihanifa: 8:04pm On May 18, 2019 |
You better remember okafor's law and move on 363 Likes 20 Shares |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by Donald7610: 8:06pm On May 18, 2019 |
What loyalty do you expect, when you're far away Hide your face bro She be human Not yet married 444 Likes 24 Shares |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by timmybabyface: 8:06pm On May 18, 2019 |
timmybabyface:he good behavior of her parents towards me. To cut the long story short, I have to travel outside Nigeria about one year and 8month ago to further my studies and things was really going on well between us both before I left, I always try to creat time for her out of my busy academic schedule and I still send her money according to my pocket. When I traveled down to Nigeria to celebrate Christmas with family&friends I ask her if she has ever cheated on me when I was away. She started lying till I have to force her to talk and give her the only bible to swear but she could not do that , she was scared so she told me that she has cheated on me twice, she said the first one was when she visited her friend in Ibadan for her sister wedding and a friend of her came in without her knowledge, that she was drunk and they have sex. She said the second one happened when she went for a job interview in Edo. according to her she said when the the interview was over that she could not go back to Lagos so her male friend log her in an hotel which both of them sleep till morning but nothing happened between them! I don’t believe a man and woman would sleep in an hotel room till morning and nothing happened! I’m a street wise and well oriented so such story is not a welcome story to me . I’m a Nigerian I study and live in the Germany Please my dear friends kindly advise me on what to do, she has been begging me with her mom who is asking me to forgive her and that such would never happen again Matured advice please! That I will appreciate |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by Nobody: 8:12pm On May 18, 2019 |
I don't find her cheating as annoying as the fact that she is senseless and careless. a friend in Ibadan for her sister wedding and a friend of her came in without her knowledge, that she was drunk and they have sex. She said the second one happened when she went for a job interview in Edo. according to her she said when the the interview was over that she could not go back to Lagos so her male friend log her in an hotel which both of them sleep till morning but nothing happened between them! I don’t believe a man and woman would Who does this? Someone in a serious relationship? Someone with a working brain? Nah, she dumb. When a woman is dumb, the vagina suffers. 368 Likes 23 Shares |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by tosyne2much(m): 8:13pm On May 18, 2019 |
The council of elders should handle this 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by annford: 8:14pm On May 18, 2019 |
My brother, from what you've written, I could easily deduce that you want to marry her. Can you marry someone who cheated on you in the past? Can you stay married and never have to worry about being cheated in again by your wife? Can you stay married to her without ever having to remind her of her dirty past? Would you go in with the relationship just because her mom is begging or because you still love her? The above questions are questions you should ask yourself and answer as well. Relationships are not for the weak and you need to be ready for whatever results you might get. Secondly, I've spent 5days with a woman In a Hotel in Uyo, Akwa Ibom State and nothing happened between us! About her spending the night in a hotel with another again and nothing happened, she might just be saying the truth. Don't be in a relationship with someone out of pity or reward for what ever reason but because you love the person and want to get your life improved and equally improve the other party. You seem to even be in the relationship because of her parents and not because you love her. Find out what you love about her and if that drives you, stay but if negative, then take your leave. Don't force it. 298 Likes 14 Shares |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by SageMK: 8:15pm On May 18, 2019 |
SMH. I don't know where this breed of men keep coming from. To think your fiance, cheated on you twice with random modafúckers without a second thought but yet, here you are asking for directions on what to do?? Oh No. Lol. I'll consider the fact that you are still in shock and just maybe that's why you can't decide on what to do. Okay. Here's what you should do brother 1. Come back to Nigeria and call for a family meeting. Tell them you've forgive her and you'll like to marry her in the coming weeks. 2. Tell them their family house will be the venue of the grand reception you'll be holding for the wedding. And you need to fix their roof and a little renovation here and there. 3. Pay contractors to remove the roof and windows of their house. Then delete and block her contacts. Pack your bags and fly back to Netherlands. 268 Likes 20 Shares |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by Nobody: 8:32pm On May 18, 2019 |
Bros broooooosss brosky. Please answer these questions. -Did you put a ring on it? -Can you comfortably tell us that you did not cheat in all your years of traveling? -What kind of girl is she? Your circumstances of meeting her? Her past? As long as you guys are not married, take it that she has all the freedom that she feels she has. And when it comes to relationships, the saying that “what you don’t know will not kill you” seriously applies. Stop looking for confessions or going through her phone if you want to live a long life. If you can’t do that then find someone else. All in all, you suppose dey sharp when e enter woman matter. 78 Likes 12 Shares |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by daddytime(m): 8:33pm On May 18, 2019 |
You went to further your studies abroad and still believe in swearing with a bible? Wetin be the name of your school for Netherlands and which city make I come give you brain resetting konk for head.. Ben je gek of zo jongen? Continue to mumu follow woman when dem yakpa everywhere according to the latest report wey dey front page. 111 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by united442(m): 8:34pm On May 18, 2019 |
you need advise? just forgive her and forget... tell her the shit shouldn't repeat itself again and please marry her mumu! okafor's law is a bitch 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by Abfinest007(m): 8:35pm On May 18, 2019 |
a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. if u love her that much that u won*t judge her with past. marry her but don marry her out of pity 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by Nobody: 8:36pm On May 18, 2019 |
I thought I was gonna see ‘to read more’ 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by ednut1(m): 8:38pm On May 18, 2019 |
Some men have been destined to be unfortunate in life just like the op. Mumu 36 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by united442(m): 8:43pm On May 18, 2019 |
daddytime:space booker |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by SpecialAdviser(m): 8:46pm On May 18, 2019 |
The fact that she cheated when you have not married her doesn't make her worse. Is common among women. Marry her if she is good in every other aspect. 26 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by Nobody: 8:54pm On May 18, 2019 |
Body no be firewood na....you left her for a year without a ring in her finger she is still free like a bird Chief. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by Jamestown123: 8:54pm On May 18, 2019 |
timmybabyface:You self talk true say u are not choping white gal hoe. If u like no move on, long distance relationship don't always work out. Choping must happen when u are far. 14 Likes |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by iTearHerToto: 8:57pm On May 18, 2019 |
ednut1: You didn't mean to say that. But if you did then you seriously need to get your mouth fixed ASAP. Talking loose everywhere Pukes 14 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by Nobody: 9:07pm On May 18, 2019 |
In my perspective, faithfulness should be a personal thing. I can swear with anything that I've never cheated while in a relationship. It's something I consciously and unconsciously do. One for myself, and another, that I respect whom I'm dating. Anyone can cheat on me. I don't know their values, but don't let me see you cheating. Ask yourself: what would you tolerate in a relationship? But don't forget that "He who comes to equity must come with clean hands". 88 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by Nobody: 9:09pm On May 18, 2019 |
SageMK:Childishness! 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by drmikeadams(m): 9:14pm On May 18, 2019 |
[quote author=timmybabyface post=78508058] Dear friends Greetings to you and please pardon my manners if my ways of writing isn’t that perfect! I met my Gf about 3years ago after my youth service in Nigeria l! she was in law school at that time and things was going on well till I finally found out that she has cheated on me when she traveled back to continue her law school in Abuja, she told me that she thought I wasn’t too serious at that time and that she’s truly sorry I forgive her because I love her and because of the good behavior of her parents towards me. To cut the long story short, I have to travel outside Nigeria about one year and 8month ago to further my studies and things was really going on well between us both before I left, I always try to creat time for her out of my busy academic schedule and I still send her money according to my pocket. When I traveled down to Nigeria to celebrate Christmas with family&friends I ask her if she has ever cheated on me when I was away. She started lying till I have to force her to talk and give her the only bible to swear but she could not do that , she was scared so she told me that she has cheated on me twice, she said the first one was when she visited her friend in Ibadan for her sister wedding and a friend of her came in without her knowledge, that she was drunk and they have sex. She said the second one happened when she went for a job interview in Edo. according to her she said when the the interview was over that she could not go back to Lagos so her male friend log her in an hotel which both of them sleep till morning but nothing happened between them! I don’t believe a man and woman would sleep in an hotel room till morning and nothing happened! I’m a street wise and well oriented so such story is not a welcome story to me . I’m a Nigerian I study and live in the Netherlands Please my dear friends kindly advise me on what to do, she has been begging me with her mom who is asking me to forgive her and that such would never happen again Matured advice please! That I will appreciate. [/quote ] no waste ur emotions and mental strength 99% of our women RE fockaholics and keziah s 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by Nobody: 9:17pm On May 18, 2019 |
SageMK:why go through all these stress and drama to dismiss a cheating partner Foolishness, that's what it is 8 Likes |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by Amuocha: 9:21pm On May 18, 2019 |
But where is lalasticlala now sef |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by General2COAS(m): 9:33pm On May 18, 2019 |
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Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by Next2Bezee(m): 9:36pm On May 18, 2019 |
timmybabyface: Don't be fooled. The same mother that is begging you is the same woman that turned a blind eye when her daughter was cheating. If you believe that the girl only cheated on you twice, then your name is 'Sorry'. She likes your money and gifts, but sharing nudes and having fone-zex is not enough to keep most Nigerian girls happy; their body no be firewood. So, bro, if you like yourself, run! Run as fast as you can, without looking back. You live and work in the Netherlands, so have some self-esteem. Don't allow one small 9ja olosho to play with your heart like this. Work on yourself and shoot for white babes. Remember what I said: run! If not, one day you will move back to Nigeria because of this girl, and when your money finishes, she will vamoose. To be forewarned is to be forearmed. 58 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by AfonjaBoston: 10:34pm On May 18, 2019 |
Lucky man she still be fiancee no be wife. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by Erolow(f): 10:35pm On May 18, 2019 |
Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by PennywysCares(m): 10:36pm On May 18, 2019 |
well, OP you are on your own 2 Likes |
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