| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by loswhite(m): 11:51am On May 19, 2019 |
Candiesramah:
You better learn how to cheat. You'll regret staying faithful to these bastards. so bitter she has values unlike you |
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| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by b68Ikemba3b0: 11:53am On May 19, 2019 |
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| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by Melancho: 12:27pm On May 19, 2019 |
ezenna191:
My first problem is the huge grammatical flaws for someone already a post graduate. Second there is suspicion and insincerity in the relationship. It will be dangerous to go into marriage. Use a comma sometimes, it's free. Don't let your 'second' go out of control. Mr Grammatical Flaws. |
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| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by Melancho: 12:34pm On May 19, 2019 |
Stillthebest:
Maybe Those people she cheated on you with, could write avoidable-blunders-free English, even when they didn't travel abroad to study!!! I just wonder what we learn in schools these days! While you are correcting his grammar, kindly add a comma after 'maybe' and use this comma wisely in your comment. Comma is free and very useful. |
| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by Yankiss(m): 12:51pm On May 19, 2019 |
timmybabyface:
Dear friends
Greetings to you and please pardon my manners if my ways of writing isn’t that perfect!
I met my Gf about 3years ago after my youth service in Nigeria l! she was in law school at that time and things was going on well till I finally found out that she has cheated on me when she traveled back to continue her law school in Abuja, she told me that she thought I wasn’t too serious at that time and that she’s truly sorry.
I forgive her because I love her and because of the good behavior of her parents towards me.
To cut the long story short, I have to travel outside Nigeria about one year and 8month ago to further my studies and things was really going on well between us both before I left, I always try to creat time for her out of my busy academic schedule and I still send her money according to my pocket.
When I traveled down to Nigeria to celebrate Christmas with family&friends I ask her if she has ever cheated on me when I was away. She started lying till I have to force her to talk and give her the only bible to swear but she could not do that , she was scared so she told me that she has cheated on me twice, she said the first one was when she visited her friend in Ibadan for her sister wedding and a friend of her came in without her knowledge, that she was drunk and they have sex.
She said the second one happened when she went for a job interview in Edo. according to her she said when the the interview was over that she could not go back to Lagos so her male friend log her in an hotel which both of them sleep till morning but nothing happened between them! I don’t believe a man and woman would sleep in an hotel room till morning and nothing happened! I’m a street wise and well oriented so such story is not a welcome story to me .
I’m a Nigerian I study and live in the Netherlands.
Please my dear friends kindly advise me on what to do, she has been begging me with her mom who is asking me to forgive her and that such would never happen again
Matured advice please! That I will appreciate You are looking for matured advice and here it is. The Verdict is: FORGET that girl. I know that in matured advice all you wanted to hear is how to make up with her and control the situation. You still love her, right, but truth is bitter. You can only go ahead if you want to content with a cheating spouse. She CANNOT change and the little she admitted to you is just a tip of the iceberg. Her real body count will shock you. If she can cheat within only one and half years of your absence, she can also even in your presence. You and she cannot make a happy couple. You can never trust her again. Nosing around her will only deepen the distrust. There are thousands of girls there with the same quality as she. Unfaithful wife is disaster waiting to happen. Such can kill you, beware. 1 Like 1 Share |
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| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by Mylife89(m): 1:05pm On May 19, 2019 |
This story reminds me of what happened to me.
I had a girlfriend who I dated for three years ,we had alot of good memories together, I tried my best to provide almost everything she wanted, the sex was great and all that I was close to her family cause I planned a future with her.
She had this guy who she always claim he is just her friend . Unknown to me each time she will go to his house and spend time with him, cooking together, and having sex, she got pregnant and pinned it on me I refused cos I suspected she was cheating the signs were faint but I noticed and I on my part made sure she always took the pills each time after sex
I was right she had been fucking this guy and cos the guy is poor and still a student she wanted me to take the responsibility
I felt sad cos this is a girl I wanted to marry and all but she could be so wicked to cheat on me and still have the guts to pin the pregnancy on me
I don't think I can love again, I fear women now and I have learnt my lessons the hard way 1 Like |
| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by TruthHurts100: 1:06pm On May 19, 2019 |
timmybabyface:
Dear friends
Greetings to you and please pardon my manners if my ways of writing isn’t that perfect!
I met my Gf about 3years ago after my youth service in Nigeria l! she was in law school at that time and things was going on well till I finally found out that she has cheated on me when she traveled back to continue her law school in Abuja, she told me that she thought I wasn’t too serious at that time and that she’s truly sorry.
I forgive her because I love her and because of the good behavior of her parents towards me.
To cut the long story short, I have to travel outside Nigeria about one year and 8month ago to further my studies and things was really going on well between us both before I left, I always try to creat time for her out of my busy academic schedule and I still send her money according to my pocket.
When I traveled down to Nigeria to celebrate Christmas with family&friends I ask her if she has ever cheated on me when I was away. She started lying till I have to force her to talk and give her the only bible to swear but she could not do that , she was scared so she told me that she has cheated on me twice, she said the first one was when she visited her friend in Ibadan for her sister wedding and a friend of her came in without her knowledge, that she was drunk and they have sex.
She said the second one happened when she went for a job interview in Edo. according to her she said when the the interview was over that she could not go back to Lagos so her male friend log her in an hotel which both of them sleep till morning but nothing happened between them! I don’t believe a man and woman would sleep in an hotel room till morning and nothing happened! I’m a street wise and well oriented so such story is not a welcome story to me .
I’m a Nigerian I study and live in the Netherlands.
Please my dear friends kindly advise me on what to do, she has been begging me with her mom who is asking me to forgive her and that such would never happen again
Matured advice please! That I will appreciate Marry her. |
| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by heilige(m): 1:10pm On May 19, 2019 |
Dutch Woman don finish for Nederland ? |
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| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by virago(f): 1:12pm On May 19, 2019 |
timmybabyface:
Dear friends
Greetings to you and please pardon my manners if my ways of writing isn’t that perfect!
I met my Gf about 3years ago after my youth service in Nigeria l! she was in law school at that time and things was going on well till I finally found out that she has cheated on me when she traveled back to continue her law school in Abuja, she told me that she thought I wasn’t too serious at that time and that she’s truly sorry.
I forgive her because I love her and because of the good behavior of her parents towards me.
To cut the long story short, I have to travel outside Nigeria about one year and 8month ago to further my studies and things was really going on well between us both before I left, I always try to creat time for her out of my busy academic schedule and I still send her money according to my pocket.
When I traveled down to Nigeria to celebrate Christmas with family&friends I ask her if she has ever cheated on me when I was away. She started lying till I have to force her to talk and give her the only bible to swear but she could not do that , she was scared so she told me that she has cheated on me twice, she said the first one was when she visited her friend in Ibadan for her sister wedding and a friend of her came in without her knowledge, that she was drunk and they have sex.
She said the second one happened when she went for a job interview in Edo. according to her she said when the the interview was over that she could not go back to Lagos so her male friend log her in an hotel which both of them sleep till morning but nothing happened between them! I don’t believe a man and woman would sleep in an hotel room till morning and nothing happened! I’m a street wise and well oriented so such story is not a welcome story to me .
I’m a Nigerian I study and live in the Netherlands.
Please my dear friends kindly advise me on what to do, she has been begging me with her mom who is asking me to forgive her and that such would never happen again
Matured advice please! That I will appreciate Have you also been 100% faithful to her ? |
| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by david22uu(m): 1:13pm On May 19, 2019 |
jaxxy:
He’s insecure yes bt people are different and relationships are different. Cheating is not even the main issue bt how and why u cheat. Those reasons if genuine will determine if it will continue afterwards. If u just ignore it all as say u ain’t married u might be setting ur self up for more pain. Like i said a casual gf I don’t care bt a fiancée with parents already involved cheating 2ce with different mean? Hell naw. Me sha cant trust anybody even if d parent are involved esp abroad o... my friend guy did v big intro and traveled to school since 2010... the guy is hapily married there with 2 kids and d girl just married after almost killing herself |
| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by CrystalMax: 1:16pm On May 19, 2019 |
AntiBrutus:
I don't find her cheating as annoying as the fact that she is senseless and careless.
Who does this?
Someone in a serious relationship?
Someone with a working brain? Nah, she dumb. When a woman is dumb, the vagina suffers.
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| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by jaxxy(m): 1:19pm On May 19, 2019 |
david22uu:
Me sha cant trust anybody even if d parent are involved esp abroad o... my friend guy did v big intro and traveled to school since 2010... the guy is hapily married there with 2 kids and d girl just married after almost killing herself U must always face the reality and address it for what it is only then can u actually find the possible solution or alternative. Trust is tricky and delicate, don’t trust anyhow. When distance come into it u have to know that changes a lot of things sm people can hold on to their commitments in such situation bt the other person may not be like u and may fall out. So u have to recognize this facts and play it as safe as possible or do what works for u. |
| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by Sage7(m): 1:27pm On May 19, 2019 |
loswhite:
wrong advice.... What’s your take?? Have you ever been in a distant relationship??...or perhaps your present woman gets a juicy job offer in another country, you really think you both can stand the test of time?? Share your thoughts! |
| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by babyfaceafrica: 1:31pm On May 19, 2019 |
ogunsbanjul:
My own advise. Firstly, please point of correction you did not catch her cheating on you rather she intentionally narrated her weaknesses(cheating) probably because she loves you, because she was not 100% sure if you will still come back to marry her, because she was tempted by nature which can happen to anyone, because she believed that your coming to Nigeria is for a real relationship business rather than making a mobile phone calls and social media love vhats or messages, because she knew her parent will be disappointed and be mad at her if they eventually been told she was cheating on you and because there is need for her to learn a lesson. My question to you is, have you ever cheated on her too since you started the relationship with her? If yes please pray,confess to her too,promise her not to try it again, talk to her, counsel her ,beg her ,advise her and tell her the implication of wife or husband cheating on each other. Summarily, the 2 of you should endeavour to forgive each other, ask God for forgiveness. Then try get a matured and experienced with happy home elder in the church or spiritual father for spiritual intervention like MFM or RCCG or as the holy spirit directs. Happy Sunday what if he has never cheated. before? |
| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by b84Jaiyesimi3: 1:32pm On May 19, 2019 |
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| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by ssogundele(m): 2:49pm On May 19, 2019 |
SageMK:
SMH.
I don't know where this breed of men keep coming from.
To think your fiance, cheated on you twice with random modafúckers without a second thought but yet, here you are asking for directions on what to do?? Oh No.
Lol. I'll consider the fact that you are still in shock and just maybe that's why you can't decide on what to do.
Okay. Here's what you should do brother
1. Come back to Nigeria and call for a family meeting. Tell them you've forgive her and you'll like to marry her in the coming weeks.
2. Tell them their family house will be the venue of the grand reception you'll be holding for the wedding. And you need to fix their roof and a little renovation here and there.
3. Pay contractors to remove the roof and windows of their house. Then delete and block her contacts. Pack your bags and fly back to Netherlands.
Werey sombori! Wakanda advice is this for Buhari sake? Just tell him to his face that he's a bloody fo:ooool for asking for what to do after God had revealed to him in flesh and blood what kind of a lady she is and wife she'll be. These set of class of men are why you're seeing poos all over the place. |
| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by baaEnyinnaya: 3:08pm On May 19, 2019 |
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| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by mapist(m): 3:30pm On May 19, 2019 |
babyfaceafrica:
me ke?...I don't have such time for epistle...you cheat you leave!!,..simple...I have never cheated and will never do so.. if I have problems with my fiancess/wife....we call it quits if it can t be settled... to be jumping up and down with another lady is not my thing ..one woman self na struggle I dey take cope..not to talk of adding extra..God bless us all A real KING. |
| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by lonelygem(m): 4:16pm On May 19, 2019 |
poseidon12:
You gave her the Holy Bible to swear on and that made her to confess her infidelity. It shows she has the fear of God. Some Nigerians will swear and still lie (except if they are swearing at a shrine). It may be that she still doesn't think you are serious.
Have you been faithful to her? To prove to her that you have been faithful, you should also swear by the Holy Bible. What is good for the goose is also good for the gander. Oh no! This is where we always get it wrong as Africans. "Equal rights" Topic for some other time anyways.. |
| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by ChristineC: 4:22pm On May 19, 2019 |
Find a lady in Netherlands where you are and start a relationship that could lead to marriage. Easyyy  1 Like |
| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by ghettochild4u(m): 4:35pm On May 19, 2019 |
timmybabyface:
Dear friends
Greetings to you and please pardon my manners if my ways of writing isn’t that perfect!
I met my Gf about 3years ago after my youth service in Nigeria l! she was in law school at that time and things was going on well till I finally found out that she has cheated on me when she traveled back to continue her law school in Abuja, she told me that she thought I wasn’t too serious at that time and that she’s truly sorry.
I forgive her because I love her and because of the good behavior of her parents towards me.
To cut the long story short, I have to travel outside Nigeria about one year and 8month ago to further my studies and things was really going on well between us both before I left, I always try to creat time for her out of my busy academic schedule and I still send her money according to my pocket.
When I traveled down to Nigeria to celebrate Christmas with family&friends I ask her if she has ever cheated on me when I was away. She started lying till I have to force her to talk and give her the only bible to swear but she could not do that , she was scared so she told me that she has cheated on me twice, she said the first one was when she visited her friend in Ibadan for her sister wedding and a friend of her came in without her knowledge, that she was drunk and they have sex.
She said the second one happened when she went for a job interview in Edo. according to her she said when the the interview was over that she could not go back to Lagos so her male friend log her in an hotel which both of them sleep till morning but nothing happened between them! I don’t believe a man and woman would sleep in an hotel room till morning and nothing happened! I’m a street wise and well oriented so such story is not a welcome story to me .
I’m a Nigerian I study and live in the Netherlands.
Please my dear friends kindly advise me on what to do, she has been begging me with her mom who is asking me to forgive her and that such would never happen again
Matured advice please! That I will appreciate Uncle Amsterdam..... Please dontmarry a part time olosho oooo.... If she can cheat in ur absence she will cheat under ur nose..... That a sign she just showed u... U better move on.. Find nigerian girl that side o n start relationship |
| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by 1759ademola(m): 4:36pm On May 19, 2019 |
You're creating problems for yourself. Why did you have to force her into confession and hurt yourself. It's not that you caught her in the act.
In fact, the Nigeria babe I know will aggressive turn you down for such request. Ladies have many things to confess and you might just hang yourself the day you hear that her father just had the apple.
Be matured and move on to ignore. |
| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by lonelygem(m): 4:43pm On May 19, 2019 |
At some point in time in life, men are free and are not necessarily have to be under a watch. But at anytime in life, women are not free.. I stand to be quoted.
When she is growing, the parents takes responsibility of keeping watch and guide till she attains the stage of marriage. Please lets get something clear hear, 'stage of marriage' not stage of convocation or call to bar.
This simply tells us that even a woman with PhD can still be under a close watch and adequate monitoring of her parents till that stage of marriage. It is at this stage that the guide and monitoring so to say is transfered to the husband.
I feel so agitated when our supposed African ladies lay so much emphasis on 'whatever she does, let him do too..
Some of us even assumes western practice without prove. I have friends who are from Western part of the World, the supposed Oyinbo we claim to copy don't live a frustrated life like us. They value and uphold each others right to the core. They will never give a room to be suspected, and they equally frown at someone suspecting them.
My 'Oyinbo' friend from Florida will be busy with his phone playing games till the wife does the cooking, the washing and cleaning. He would come to the kitchen only to get a glass of juice and prawn, then sit on the deep freezer with a plate of prawn and a glass of juice beside him and continue playing his games.
And some of our sisters would go and start building their homes on what they see on Zeeworld and Telemudo..
We've lost it long ago.. May God help us.. |
| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by Cadec007(m): 5:06pm On May 19, 2019 |
timmybabyface:
Dear friends
Greetings to you and please pardon my manners if my ways of writing isn’t that perfect!
I met my Gf about 3years ago after my youth service in Nigeria l! she was in law school at that time and things was going on well till I finally found out that she has cheated on me when she traveled back to continue her law school in Abuja, she told me that she thought I wasn’t too serious at that time and that she’s truly sorry.
I forgive her because I love her and because of the good behavior of her parents towards me.
To cut the long story short, I have to travel outside Nigeria about one year and 8month ago to further my studies and things was really going on well between us both before I left, I always try to creat time for her out of my busy academic schedule and I still send her money according to my pocket.
When I traveled down to Nigeria to celebrate Christmas with family&friends I ask her if she has ever cheated on me when I was away. She started lying till I have to force her to talk and give her the only bible to swear but she could not do that , she was scared so she told me that she has cheated on me twice, she said the first one was when she visited her friend in Ibadan for her sister wedding and a friend of her came in without her knowledge, that she was drunk and they have sex.
She said the second one happened when she went for a job interview in Edo. according to her she said when the the interview was over that she could not go back to Lagos so her male friend log her in an hotel which both of them sleep till morning but nothing happened between them! I don’t believe a man and woman would sleep in an hotel room till morning and nothing happened! I’m a street wise and well oriented so such story is not a welcome story to me .
I’m a Nigerian I study and live in the Netherlands.
Please my dear friends kindly advise me on what to do, she has been begging me with her mom who is asking me to forgive her and that such would never happen again
Matured advice please! That I will appreciate bro i just have a pictorial advice for you... I hope you see it.... 1 Like 
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| Re: I Caught My Fiancée Cheating by annford: 5:16pm On May 19, 2019 |
saasala:
I respect your decision to avoid having sex with her considering that the three points I previously highlighted are not to go with.
But do you know that sex is a great tool to make someone fall completely for you? Sometimes when the two parties try to play holy and cultured and miss the sex part, everything they try to build scatters in a flash. I believe you should have tried to nyansh the bill board model, you would be surprised that she too might have been longing for your touch. I sometimes don't have sex for the enjoyment, I do because I want to make her crazy about me. Good sex has kept people together forever.
So how is the relationship now?
The relationship didn't work, not because of sex but because of individual differences. She wanted a particular celebrity that was her friend to date and marry so I had to bounce and I can I assure you, till date, she's still single. |
