No big deal.

Your mates abroad haven't cooked for years. Yet, they birth inventors.

Is God not wonderful?

Ok

It's cheaper to cook your own meals.......

Not once did this woman mention marriage or relationship in her post, yet people on NL have already married her off, and decided she can't run a home because she hasn't gone to the market or cooked in months. In fact, some have even decided how many children she should have.
What's the desperation with this marriage matter that you want to start living a stranger's life for her?
Na wah o..

I don't like cooking abeg.. If I must cook, ac has to be Installed in the kitchen.

folake4u:
Nice arguments without necessarily bashing each other. This is how it should be.

Y'all should continue abeg, I'm learning some vital points.
AntiBrutus Poco babe, I want to be like you when I grow up! Your points are valid mehnnn!

lolz....antibrutus(pocohantas)...very Intelligent babe...but doesn't know how to ignore trolls
....well bashing will still happen from either gender..na their way

Show us proof u haven't cooked in DAT period. Wonder who asked her tho'.

AntiBrutus:
Anything that can be outsourced, I will gladly do that, so far there is money and I get good results.

I wonder how family women in Lagos cope. I thought I love cooking, Not in Lagos.

These women wake up early in the morning, prepare kids for school, package their lunchbox, rush off to work, do their best to be productive at work, starts rushing back home, struggles for bus, buys petty things for the home in traffic, gets home exhausted, probably fixes dinner again, serves Oga, serves children, enters room, Oga still expects her to position yansh like a single lady with no responsibility...next morning she is up again.
Yet you wonder why the wife looks older?

The ones at the office were always sleeping. You will hear, "my baby refused to sleep all through the night, I think he is teething". I asked them, why don't you take this stress off you? I can't be working, earning in 6digits and still suffer myself like this naw. Do, I want to die and have a man remarry before my casket sinks into the ground?

Surprisingly, they said NO!

It made me realize another thing, Naija women love accolades more than anything. They rather do these things, be stressed out, so that their husbands can call them superwoman. They also need it for emotional blackmail. They wouldn't want anyone (this includes their husband and kids) to think they have motherhood easy.

That is why paintings of a black woman most times looks like suffer. Kid at the back, another in the hand; basin on the head and they are trekking to God knows where . This is a Naija man's definition of wife material. This is what Naija women have perfected the act of pretending to be.

Anyway, not me. I outsourced almost every fcking thing. Sometimes I meet my buddy at Eko hotel roundabout. From there we go for dinner. He drops me home, I bathe and sleep!

I make money to make my life easier. I would only do these things if they are very convenient for me. No one should expect me to perform magic in same 24hrs he has, when we both do a 9-5.

If you go and kill yourself, he would remarry and she wouldn't even have to boil water. Look at Regina, getting customized cars weekly. After Ned's first wife spent all her productive years going to market and pounding akpu .

You talk am well. Especially the Regina part.

E go hard for her or She go spoil her children!!!!!!!

Well in all her doing, hope she does everything right

I would say that's her pot of soup, but...








[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font]she cant even cook it

When a lazy and uncultured lady is speaking , you will know. I am a bachelor, I work and I still cook once or twice a week. This is the type am sharing flat with that will eat and leave plate in the sink for two or days before is washed.
After they will say no husband while they don't worth having as a just maid .

eyinjuege:
Not once did this woman mention marriage or relationship in her post, yet people on NL have already married her off, and decided she can't run a home because she hasn't gone to the market or cooked in months. In fact, some have even decided how many children she should have.
What's the desperation with this marriage matter that you want to start living a stranger's life for her?
Na wah o..

Birds of the same feather , flocks together

Spygadgets19:
I don't like cooking abeg.. If I must cook, ac has to be Installed in the kitchen.

Install AC in your brain first before a man install ac for you in the kitchen to cook what no woman can cook.

Oluromantic:
At first, I agree with d "no one to cater for" ...since she's d only one, ordering food doesn't mean she can't cook when d necessity arises.

But then, "finding market run stressful" and staying off such an important aspect of womanhood for 8-10months, it obvious she won't find it easy when she marries. For some women, cooking is fun but this one is finding it stressful to cook for her own self, when there'll be about 4 mouths to feed in marriage

I always wonder how the most cherished things that makes a woman highly valued are their greatest challenges

- natural beauty is a problem for most of them
- good manners and attitude is also a problem
- faithfulness in relnshp/marriage is a major problem
- now cooking. Women used to be masters of d kitchen but not anymore.

No woman is perfect, but honestly if u remove these four things from a woman's life, its empty barrel that's left.

I'm so tired of this bullshít. Cooking is not part of womanhood. It's part of adulthood. Any adult should be able to get in the kitchen to cook for themselves because it's a vital life skill.

Valued by who? Women were not put on this earth to please men and model themselves to be what you consider to be pleasing.

If those the four things you listed are gone, there is no empty barrel left. Just a flawed human being is there. Just like everyone else. And people wonder why some women are obsessed with their looks, always stressed about being pleasant and nice to men who are basic strangers, having to be top chefs in the kitchen, and have to be faithful even when their spouse isn't. Smh.

AntiBrutus:
Anything that can be outsourced, I will gladly do that, so far there is money and I get good results.

I wonder how family women in Lagos cope. I thought I love cooking, Not in Lagos.

These women wake up early in the morning, prepare kids for school, package their lunchbox, rush off to work, do their best to be productive at work, starts rushing back home, struggles for bus, buys petty things for the home in traffic, gets home exhausted, probably fixes dinner again, serves Oga, serves children, enters room, Oga still expects her to position yansh like a single lady with no responsibility...next morning she is up again.
Yet you wonder why the wife looks older?

The ones at the office were always sleeping. You will hear, "my baby refused to sleep all through the night, I think he is teething". I asked them, why don't you take this stress off you? I can't be working, earning in 6digits and still suffer myself like this naw. Do, I want to die and have a man remarry before my casket sinks into the ground?

Surprisingly, they said NO!

It made me realize another thing, Naija women love accolades more than anything. They rather do these things, be stressed out, so that their husbands can call them superwoman. They also need it for emotional blackmail. They wouldn't want anyone (this includes their husband and kids) to think they have motherhood easy.

That is why paintings of a black woman most times looks like suffer. Kid at the back, another in the hand; basin on the head and they are trekking to God knows where . This is a Naija man's definition of wife material. This is what Naija women have perfected the act of pretending to be.

Anyway, not me. I outsourced almost every fcking thing. Sometimes I meet my buddy at Eko hotel roundabout. From there we go for dinner. He drops me home, I bathe and sleep!

I make money to make my life easier. I would only do these things if they are very convenient for me. No one should expect me to perform magic in same 24hrs he has, when we both do a 9-5.

If you go and kill yourself, he would remarry and she wouldn't even have to boil water. Look at Regina, getting customized cars weekly. After Ned's first wife spent all her productive years going to market and pounding akpu .

It's not as if the women like to stress themselves so much, but some have very unsupportive spouses who don't help at all. You'll be surprised these same women NEED to work( note: not want to work) . Their wages are needed to send the children to decent schools, contribute to the rent etc. Many cannot afford to outsource housework, and especially going to the market and cooking as every dime saved matters.
I'm very sure women who have very rich husbands, or who earn a lot to cater for all their responsibilities and still have more than enough left afterwards will have no problem outsourcing chores, cooking etc.. Such women usually have cooks, nannies, drivers etc anyway.
Until you have a family you're responsible for, you can't say for sure if you will outsource or not. It all depends on your finances and the total family income coming in.

BiafranBushBoy:
I rather marry a woman who sees cooking as fun.

Do we still have such women?

All we get are complaints about cooking up and down.

Smh

Yes bro.. luckily for me i have one of them

Jokkarm2:


Birds of the same feather , flocks together

Go and find work, lazy youth. Here's a woman who's money is working for her, and here you are looking for birds about.

Jokkarm2:


Install AC in your brain first before a man install ac for you in the kitchen to cook what no woman can cook.

Lazy thing.. Go and work, and make the life of the unfortunate being that will call you partner/husband better.

Apination:
Who's the idiot who created this thread? Of what benefit is her cooking to anyone?

Never did I imagine this would get to front-page when I passed on my comment but it's only a confirmation of how USELESS nairaland has become

I dey tell you.

Nairaland is now the dump site for all garbage from twitter and facebook.

Yes. I am one of them. There is no single day I will not cook twice. Cooking is fun for me.

BiafranBushBoy:
I rather marry a woman who sees cooking as fun.

Do we still have such women?

All we get are complaints about cooking up and down.

Smh

iRepNaija1:


I'm so tired of this bullshít. Cooking is not part of womanhood. It's part of adulthood. Any adult should be able to get in the kitchen to cook for themselves because it's a vital life skill.

Valued by who? Women were not put on this earth to please men and model themselves to be what you consider to be pleasing.

If those the four things you listed are gone, there is no empty barrel left. Just a flawed human being is there. Just like everyone else. And people wonder why some women are obsessed with their looks, always stressed about being pleasant and nice to men who are basic strangers, having to be top chefs in the kitchen, and have to be faithful even when their spouse isn't. Smh.

@bold

God created women for the pleasure of men.

1 Corinthians 11:9
Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.

Problem ti e niyen

alBHAGDADI:


@bold

God created women for the pleasure of men.

1 Corinthians 11:9
Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.

Don't quote the Bible at me. The Bible also says that men should honor women as Jesus Christ honors the church. But you're all up on here talking about all the ish women should do for you.

Great write-ups over there. The truth is that there is no crime in outsourcing things thereby affording ourselves the opportunity of channelling our energy to more productive activities.
Outsourcing provides job opportunity to that individual or organization handling such and I guess its a win win situation for everyone involved.
Not a crime if she hasn't cooked for months and I don't think that would make her loose her cooking skills or interests.

Please where do I plant kisses for you. I have existed enough to see my mom and older women generations to know that the joys of motherhood or womanhood is not death sentence but a woman gracious to herself and live long enough for her children. I am not for suffer head o If I am also bringing coin of the realm to the table my dear, we will share responsibilities.

AntiBrutus:
Anything that can be outsourced, I will gladly do that, so far there is money and I get good results.

I wonder how family women in Lagos cope. I thought I love cooking, Not in Lagos.

These women wake up early in the morning, prepare kids for school, package their lunchbox, rush off to work, do their best to be productive at work, starts rushing back home, struggles for bus, buys petty things for the home in traffic, gets home exhausted, probably fixes dinner again, serves Oga, serves children, enters room, Oga still expects her to position yansh like a single lady with no responsibility...next morning she is up again.
Yet you wonder why the wife looks older?

The ones at the office were always sleeping. You will hear, "my baby refused to sleep all through the night, I think he is teething". I asked them, why don't you take this stress off you? I can't be working, earning in 6digits and still suffer myself like this naw. Do, I want to die and have a man remarry before my casket sinks into the ground?

Surprisingly, they said NO!

It made me realize another thing, Naija women love accolades more than anything. They rather do these things, be stressed out, so that their husbands can call them superwoman. They also need it for emotional blackmail. They wouldn't want anyone (this includes their husband and kids) to think they have motherhood easy.

That is why paintings of a black woman most times looks like suffer. Kid at the back, another in the hand; basin on the head and they are trekking to God knows where . This is a Naija man's definition of wife material. This is what Naija women have perfected the act of pretending to be.

Anyway, not me. I outsourced almost every fcking thing. Sometimes I meet my buddy at Eko hotel roundabout. From there we go for dinner. He drops me home, I bathe and sleep!

I make money to make my life easier. I would only do these things if they are very convenient for me. No one should expect me to perform magic in same 24hrs he has, when we both do a 9-5.

If you go and kill yourself, he would remarry and she wouldn't even have to boil water. Look at Regina, getting customized cars weekly. After Ned's first wife spent all her productive years going to market and pounding akpu .

eyinjuege:


It's not as if the women like to stress themselves so much, but some have very unsupportive spouses who don't help at all. You'll be surprised these same women NEED to work( note: not want to work) . Their wages are needed to send the children to decent schools, contribute to the rent etc. Many cannot afford to outsource housework, and especially going to the market and cooking as every dime saved matters.
I'm very sure women who have very rich husbands, or who earn a lot to cater for all their responsibilities and still have more than enough left afterwards will have no problem outsourcing chores, cooking etc.. Such women usually have cooks, nannies, drivers etc anyway.
Until you have a family you're responsible for, you can't say for sure if you will outsource or not. It all depends on your finances and the total family income coming in.

I agree with your points. The most important thing here is for people to marry the person who values them, supports their aspirations and is willing to accept their disposition to marriage. It would be a type mismatch for the lady to marry someone who loves homemade meals. You need to understand the love language of the person you want to marry and ask yourself if you can meet up. There are men who do not care about these things. We need to understand that our disposition to these things are mostly influenced by how we are brought up, the environment we have lived in and the things we cherish. If someone prefers manual approach to taking care of the home rather than using machines, respect them for it. If they prefer otherwise understand with them. So far as they are not imposing the approach on you there should not be a problem. I see people bashing those who are stressed because of housework and using Regina as their model. This is how people set themselves up for failure.
What is the rate of success in model you have adopted for yourself?

How many people have a successful relationship and career using such model?

Are you sure of the outcome of your marriage if you follow that path in the next 10 to 15 years time?

unclesoyo:
A Nigerian lady has taken to twitter to express how stressful it is for her to enter into the kitchen to make a meal and she revealed that she has not cooked in 8 months.

The twitter user identified as @sally, is an entrepreneur and she also revealed that she has not stepped into a market place in 10 months as she has no one she is catering for.

She further stated that things have become easier as anyone could order for food over the internet without the stress of cooking

She wrote:

If I decide to go to the market today, it would be the first time in 10months. And if I cook today it will be the first time I’m cooking in 8months I find market run really stressful and since I can order food why do I actually need to cook when I don’t have anyone I cater for?

https://lailasnews.com/ive-not-cooked-in-8-months-nigerian-lady-writes/

her future is in the hands of baby mama's, her husband in their pockets

iRepNaija1:


I'm so tired of this bullshít. Cooking is not part of womanhood. It's part of adulthood. Any adult should be able to get in the kitchen to cook for themselves because it's a vital life skill.

Valued by who? [b]Women were not put on this earth to please men [/b]and model themselves to be what you consider to be pleasing.

If those the four things you listed are gone, there is no empty barrel left. Just a flawed human being is there. Just like everyone else. And people wonder why [b]some women are obsessed with their looks, [/b]always stressed about being pleasant and nice to men who are basic strangers, having to be top chefs in the kitchen, and have to be faithful even when their spouse isn't. Smh.

I am a bit confused about two bolded points being espoused in the same argument. Beauty can only take you so far in marriage.

AirstarKane:
Please where do I plant kisses for you. I have existed enough to see my mom and older women generations to know that the joys of motherhood or womanhood is not death sentence but a woman gracious to herself and live long enough for her children. I am not for suffer head o If I am also bringing coin of the realm to the table my dear, we will share responsibilities.

her comment no suggest competition like you make it seem with this your statement 'If I am also bringing coin of the realm to the table my dear, we will share responsibilities.' na so some of you de take rope her into battle and make her appear like say she is in battle with men.

Nawa o...see as the women just dey scream 'I can't kill myself for a man'....no one asked u to die na....just do ur part as the wife...besides,why twist the narrative?? The Geh never said she is married or stuff like that,she might not like cooking..no be everything be marriage based na

Funny enough,this category of NL ladies never marry o...

Nothing wrong in what she said, that's reality.

Dotng:

I am a bit confused about two bolded points being espoused in the same argument. Beauty can only take you so far in marriage.

N that's why some men here will quote her to abuse her? Cuz she got emotional and started jibing at men? Who ever said a woman is made to please a man? But like I said earlier,the married ones never comment...all those commenting are single women!!