Damieadeh:
Yes. I am one of them. There is no single day I will not cook twice. Cooking is fun for me.

Yo married?

Dotng:

I am a bit confused about two bolded points being espoused in the same argument. Beauty can only take you so far in marriage.

Every day, women are constantly judged for their looks and their value is determined by their looks. Hence, some women obsess about looking pretty by wearing a lot of making, using filters on their pictures, wearing weave, altering their bodies, wearing waist trainers and etc. But women were not put on this Earth for the sole purpose of pleasing men with their looks. Do you understand how belittling that is? To have your value as living, breathing person be determined by how "good" you look?

AntiBrutus:


Why did you introduce yourself naw?
I am very excited at your return, I can't find words to reply your post...


Let me get myself together
*breathes in and out*

I think they love the emotional blackmail. You know that feeling of, if I am not home, this home wouldn't function up to 40%. The worst thing is, they won't stop complaining about how they are doing it all alone. They will complain indoors and outdoors.

In the process, they make their husbands look like demons. Whereas, some men are really progressives. I know someone who said he would never get the concept of a woman spending 10hrs in a Saturday that should be used for bonding to do house chores . I also have a friend whose ex complained she didn't feel like they were in a relationship because she never got to cook in his house.

So, men are not always the problem. Some of these women need to be validated, feel like they are doing something you can't do. That is why some would never date a very tidy man, who is also good in the kitchen.

Propose getting a help, they would kick against it. Get modern equipments for the home, they would make it dormant. I don't just get my people.

I can relate to this. I always tell people that I don’t really need a girlfriend. Most “Nigerian girls” just feel apart from the sex, washing and cooking is another major thing they can offer. Take away that from them and they feel worthless. I don’t even cook, I just go to a restaurant and have my meal. I can’t even allow a girl to visit me just to cook for me and my place can be so tidied to a fault. I don’t want a situation when I break up with a girl she will be like “after I washed, cleaned and cooked for you...”. It’s funny when I see people complain about their wife not cooking for them or a wife starving her husband to get back at him. Me? I will just enter kitchen and prepare something for myself or get food at a restaurant.

Nigerians should understand that life can be so much easier if we want it to be. You will see rich people that can afford the best washing machine but will still prefer to go with the traditional hand wash so they won’t make their kids “lazy”.

It’s all about working smart.

If I hear say I no cook, I go to food market virtual 3times a week. Nothing as lovely as cooking what you will eat all by urself.

AirstarKane:
Please where do I plant kisses for you. I have existed enough to see my mom and older women generations to know that the joys of motherhood or womanhood is not death sentence but a woman gracious to herself and live long enough for her children. I am not for suffer head o If I am also bringing coin of the realm to the table my dear, we will share responsibilities.

Well said.

I saw the nonsense one put up as things that makes a woman of value and I wonder which cave he commented from. Minus the fidelity part, I couldn't understand how a man can reason like that in 2019.

If I am too stressed, I won't cook. If you like food too much as a man and you can't cook, then something is wrong with your head. Same way a woman who really values the good life should be able to get up and work for it. Women were not born with spatulas and salt in their hands. It is a fcking skill, acquire it!

Solution? Don't marry a glutton

Yewandequeen:
If I hear say I no cook, I go to food market virtual 3times a week. Nothing as lovely as cooking what you will eat all by urself.

Lol,I trust you!!!

eyinjuege:


It's not as if the women like to stress themselves so much, but some have very unsupportive spouses who don't help at all. You'll be surprised these same women NEED to work( note: not want to work) . Their wages are needed to send the children to decent schools, contribute to the rent etc. Many cannot afford to outsource housework, and especially going to the market and cooking as every dime saved matters.
I'm very sure women who have very rich husbands, or who earn a lot to cater for all their responsibilities and still have more than enough left afterwards will have no problem outsourcing chores, cooking etc.. Such women usually have cooks, nannies, drivers etc anyway.
Until you have a family you're responsible for, you can't say for sure if you will outsource or not. It all depends on your finances and the total family income coming in.

May your source of wisdom never run dry.
Women who wears the shoes knows what side of the foot pinches?
There is no award in afterlife for the woman who suffer most on earth.
Why would a woman like suffering for the fun of it. Due to sparse finance in the home front and in a bid to economise the little money available from their combined income, she can't outsource and has to do everything herself to worsen it all add a husband who sees no reason to help the wife with domestic chores. whatever inconveniences women go through is all for things to run smoothly in their home, not for emotional blackmail.

Abeg who like suffer?

BiafranBushBoy:


Yo married?

Leave her alone,she is mine

eyinjuege:


It's not as if the women like to stress themselves so much, but some have very unsupportive spouses who don't help at all. You'll be surprised these same women NEED to work( note: not want to work) . Their wages are needed to send the children to decent schools, contribute to the rent etc. Many cannot afford to outsource housework, and especially going to the market and cooking as every dime saved matters.
I'm very sure women who have very rich husbands, or who earn a lot to cater for all their responsibilities and still have more than enough left afterwards will have no problem outsourcing chores, cooking etc.. Such women usually have cooks, nannies, drivers etc anyway.
Until you have a family you're responsible for, you can't say for sure if you will outsource or not. It all depends on your finances and the total family income coming in.

I very well get your point and the category of women you are concerned with. They are however not the ones my post was targeted at.

When I do have a family, I will outsource. At least I know the kinda man I plan to have it with and our earning power.

koyyes:


You talk am well. Especially the Regina part.

Lol, chick is living the good life and broke morafuckers are online listing qualities of a wife material. You think Ned gat time for that?

eyinjuege:
Not once did this woman mention marriage or relationship in her post, yet people on NL have already married her off, and decided she can't run a home because she hasn't gone to the market or cooked in months. In fact, some have even decided how many children she should have.
What's the desperation with this marriage matter that you want to start living a stranger's life for her?
Na wah o..

As in ehh, it irritates me when a successful young woman is doing well for herself and people bring up the marriage shit. Like people should understand that marriage is not for everyone. I just wish people like Linda Ikeji can ignore people and live her life to the fullest.

Like sey the ones wey enter the marriage never divorce finish.

Omo if you are earning enough money to eat everyday at a restaurant, then eat everyday at a restaurant. This life no get part 2. The money you are making is for you to spend.

I juz cooked beans today
With enuf plantain
Fried fish
Meat
I turned down all calls today
I wan chop alone abeg

luminouz:

Lol,I trust you!!!

but I go get maid oooo once baby is involved at least to arrange house and buy foodstuff, I cannot comman die mbok. Person go breastfeed and hardly sleep in the night, in the morning go to work, come back arrange house and still go to market, cook ah kuku kill me. Can still do my cooking myself but make the maid arrange house and get the stuff I need to use for cooking. Chikena

Sethzenon:


I can relate to this. I always tell people that I don’t really need a girlfriend. Most “Nigerian girls” just feel apart from the sex, washing and cooking is another major thing they can offer. Take away that from them and they feel worthless. I don’t even cook, I just go to a restaurant and have my meal. I can’t even allow a girl to visit me just to cook for me and my place can be so tidied to a fault. I don’t want a situation when I break up with a girl she will be like “after I washed, cleaned and cooked for you...”. It’s funny when I see people complain about their wife not cooking for them or a wife starving her husband to get back at him. Me? I will just enter kitchen and prepare something for myself or get food at a restaurant.

Nigerians should understand that life can be so much easier if we want it to be. You will see rich people that can afford the best washing machine but will still prefer to go with the traditional hand wash so they won’t make their kids “lazy”.

It’s all about working smart.

Very true. I said it sometime ago, all a Naija guy thinks of offering is money and maybe his big prick. The women on their part na "wifely duties". Ask for something more and they start running around in circles.

Like why would you want anything more?
Are you a feminist or just an insatiable man?

They start telling you how you are single and not married, like say you told them you want to marry. Lots of them are just overgrown babies looking for who to dump their inadequacies on.

thelastorca:

Lol. Me that secretly hired a woman to be cleaning my house and washing on my off days when Oga go work cos he was against it. In his defence, he lives washing clothes but he can't mop and clean how I want it and since I work shift, I'm almost always tired.
One day i got tired of the secrecy and told him someone is coming to wash and clean the house. He murmur taya! Promised to help me do it, I said no.

Would you believe he came home, saw everywhere spick and span! Only to tell me ' baby, you forgot to give her this bedsheet to wash'
I was like ' I thought you didn't like her?'
Men, I no come die on top marriage o. Do the one you can, outsource the one you can't.

And let the church say? Amen!!

Some people are missing the point here,

1.she is a good cook,it is important and necessary for a woman in this part of the country to know how to cook.meetings will be hosted,mothers and father in-law (or to be ) will visit,travels will be made to the village . It is sacrosanct if you want to get married,especially to Igbo men.

2.she is busy and her busyness is bringing in reasonable money to take care of all her needs.

3.she is single and alone,it’s cheaper that way if u want to eat quality meal and not student food.

I can’t imagine my father,mother and siblings visiting my fiancé and me only for me to rush to kfc to buy chicken and rice for them,na that day my mama go pity for me.


Even if u don’t like cooking know how to do it if u want to remain together.

BiafranBushBoy:
I rather marry a woman who sees cooking as fun.

Do we still have such women?

All we get are complaints about cooking up and down.

Smh

My first wedding gift from hubby was a gas cooker and deep freezer. I love to cook. ( I hate washing clothes and dressing bed sha )
I cook soup and stew to last at least 2 weeks and refrigerate. What remains na boil yam, pasta, rice.... I even cook a mudu of beans and freeze too. There are ways to make this life easy.

Bomgirl:


My first wedding gift from hubby was a gas cooker and deep freezer. I love to cook. ( I hate washing clothes and dressing bed sha )
I cook soup and stew to last at least 2 weeks and refrigerate. What remains na boil yam, pasta, rice.... I even cook a mudu of beans and freeze too. There are ways to make this life easy.

Don't let the older singles hear this... They will question your sanity

AntiBrutus:


Very true. I said it sometime ago, all a Naija guy thinks of offering is money and maybe his big prick. The women on their part na "wifely duties". Ask for something more and they start running around in circles.

Like why would you want anything more?
Are you a feminist or just an insatiable man?

They start telling you how you are single and not married, like say you told them you want to marry. Lots of them are just overgrown babies looking for who to dump their inadequacies on.

As in ehh, like marriage is an achievement. I know a friend that got married and after some months things got bad for him and he lost everything. One day I was trying to encourage and motivate him and this dude was like “well all hope is not lost, atleast I rush marry before this thing happen”.

See ehh! the thing just off me.

This is where you will find them spread mat...

Ur cup of Twa.

Bomgirl:


Lol. Me that secretly hired a woman to be cleaning my house and washing on my off days when Oga go work cos he was against it. In his defence, he lives washing clothes but he can't mop and clean how I want it and since I work shift, I'm almost always tired.
One day i got tired of the secrecy and told him someone is coming to wash and clean the house. He murmur taya! Promised to help me do it, I said no.

Would you believe he came home, saw everywhere spick and span! Only to tell me ' baby, you forgot to give her this bedsheet to wash'
I was like ' I thought you didn't like her?'
Men, I no come die on top marriage o. Do the one you can, outsource the one you can't.

And let the church say? Amen!!

Why not just buy a washing machine?

Yewandequeen:
but I go get maid oooo once baby is involved at least to arrange house and buy foodstuff, I cannot comman die mbok. Person go breastfeed and hardly sleep in the night, in the morning go to work, come back arrange house and still go to market, cook ah kuku kill me. Can still do my cooking myself but make the maid arrange house and get the stuff I need to use for cooking. Chikena

That's very cool...its even advisable sef,the maid part I mean!!

Westsida:
I can order food why do I actually need to cook when I don’t have anyone I cater for?

Only reason I cook is because it's cheaper, I realize I'm blowing too much on ordering fast food.

pcguru1:


Only reason I cook is because it's cheaper, I realize I'm blowing too much on ordering fast food.

Fresh Pcguru, I will gladly cook for you.

What is that your favourite food again?

This girl most be from South western part of Nigeria. They are always at eateries but Igbo and Akwa ibom ladies like to cook. [/font][font=Lucida Sans Unicode]

Bomgirl:


My first wedding gift from hubby was a gas cooker and deep freezer. I love to cook. ( I hate washing clothes and dressing bed sha )
I cook soup and stew to last at least 2 weeks and refrigerate. What remains na boil yam, pasta, rice.... I even cook a mudu of beans and freeze too. There are ways to make this life easy.

You were well raised
I wonder whether most of these ladies commenting were raised by mothers.
Because if they were, they won't be complaining.
My mum ensured all my sisters could cook excellently.

Men love good food
So how will a man marry and you tell him you don't cook. Nonsense
Anyway it may be for other cultures but for we Igbo's and also Akwaibom/Calabar it is a taboo for a woman not to know how to cook delicious healthy meals for her home.

People will always look down on women who don't cook, as if cooking in this modern age is an achievement. Personally, I enjoy cooking, and I would expect that of my partner, but there have been times in our lives when we're intensely working and building our businesses that you get more accomplished per hour of productive work, than on shopping and cooking.

If one is an entrepreneur and chooses to spend her time and passion building something that brings value to many people, why should she waste energy going to market and cooking? She's making enough money on her business, enough to pay for the services of other business who specialize in cooking. That's efficiency, don't you think?

Economies don't boom because women can cook, they boom when women (and men) apply their talents the best way they can.

djon78:

Anyway it may be for other cultures but for we Igbo's and also Akwaibom/Calabar it is a taboo for a woman not to know how to cook delicious healthy meals for her home.

ensamy:
This girl most be from South western part of Nigeria. They are always at eateries but Igbo and Akwa ibom ladies like to cook. [/font][font=Lucida Sans Unicode]

Perhaps because people spend their time being efficient (on their talents, rather than on cooking because of some traditional notions of domestication), we have much more economic activity in Western Nigeria than in the East.

I'm from Asaba BTW, so that your replies may be better informed before you flame me.

hmmm

Sethzenon:


As in ehh, like marriage is an achievement. I know a friend that got married and after some months things got bad for him and he lost everything. One day I was trying to encourage and motivate him and this dude was like “well all hope is not lost, atleast I rush marry before this thing happen”.

See ehh! the thing just off me.

Yes he is right
Things will definitely turn around
My cousin and I were discussing some weeks ago, he was telling me that God saved him, that he married before he suffered serious misfortune, almost lost everything he had.
In fact he closed down his business, couldn't afford rent.
But he was married with a kid then
His wife was supportive


Things began to turn around
Kids were coming
Today he has 4 kids
A factory with over 50 workers he pay monthly
A state of the art mansion in Abuja, several investments
Doing very well in this Buhari periid

so no family members even visit her.